Ever felt like she's out of your league?

I've been meaning to post this for a few days, but the holidays have given me temporary A.D.D.

I'm sure a bunch of you guys have had girls in your life that you liked, but felt like she was a bit out of your league, correct? I've kind of got this going on with me right now. I've got a date with this GORGEOUS girl the weekend after New Year's, now it's not so much that I feel like she's out of my league, its just I'm wanting this one so bad, its really important to me that I make a good first impression. I guess you could say I'm a bit intimidated and nervous, but being the confident guy I am, I'm really anxious about it too. The kind of vibe I'm getting from her is that she likes me, but it doesn't seem she likes me enough to get more serious yet, keyword being yet. I plan on taking her out to Galveston Beach (only decent beach close to me here in Texas), where, weather permitting, I plan on just enjoying some Ben & Jerry's ice cream while chillin on the big storm wall they have out there and just enjoying the waves and talking (sunny beach + ice cream = :biggrin: ). Then we're gonna go do some putt-putt afterwards, got some evil plans for that one, lol. ANYWAYSSSSSSS, its not so much I'm asking for advice, because like I stated, I feel very confident about myself, but I was just wondering what kind of experience you guys have had with this kind of thing

Well, I'm not a guy but my guy I've just started seeing, I feel like he's way out of my league. he's just so super hot, we're really similar in personalities. My first impression must've been great, the first thing i said was "where's my drink?" and he's still around.

I'm told that there is no such thing as someone being "out of your league"; you just need to say the right things to him/her. But at 23 dated one whore in my entire life i probably shouldn't be posting.

The first time I met my lady that I'm "with" now, I thought she was way out of my league... and she probably is. But had it not been for our mutual friends I probably never would have ended up talking to her. Like you said confidence is key. Once the conversation/flirtation was started I was in my element and whatever bit of charm I posess won her over. That was 4 years ago and despite many many roadblocks and often a few states distance, I've managed to hold on to her.

Score for the underdogs :thumbsup:

Yessir, I've got some little hidden "charm" tricks that I thought up just for her. For instance, I called her on Xmas, and after some small talk I asked her if she opened her presents yet. She told didn't have any presents, her parents just gave her money basically and that was it. I felt kinda bad for her, nothing to open on Xmas has gotta suck. So I bought her a Simpson's Season 5 DVD that I'm gonna wrap up and put in my glovebox, then once I pick her up, I'll ask if she can get something out of my glovebox, all non-chalant like and viola! Brownie points.

Like I said though, I'm just extremely anxious to get it goin, I just pray to god the weather won't suck ass and rain the whole time, but even if it does, I know I can figure out some ways to make that a fun experience too.

Sounds like a good plan to me. Not too flashy/expensive, good "awww" factor, shows creativity. Golden... as long as she likes the Simpsons :p Gotta love a hot girl that likes the shows you like. My lady hates Aqua Teen, but has declared herself a Bears fan which is so extremely sexy to me.

I'm somewhat sure she likes the Simpsons, it was on her myspace, haha. She's into the Cowboys a bit too, but I couldn't care less sense them fools are probally gonna be one and done in the playoffs.

everybody likes the simpsons.

Be yourself, seriously, as gay as that sounded;
If you don't act like you really are, then the relationship won't last even a day (well maybe, but just one);
Don't be up, all over her... women don't like that;
On the date, ask her what is she interested in, hobbies perhaps, this will allow you to find a topic that both of you will enjoy.
Do not talk about your car, unless she likes cars, maybe make some jokes about it, but don't go all technical and shit.
Drive smoothly! Don't be driving like an idiot, that is the last thing you want to do on a date. Don't take her to a super romantic place either before you get to know her, she might not like it (ex. my girl).

This is all from personal experience, do the following things at your own risk. I just found out the hard way that all of these a true.

Thanks for the advice Pablo, so far I've done a good job in past dates on not doing any of that stuff, although I have gotten requests to haul ass on the highway. Some chicks dig that.

my girl hauls ass on the highway :sunglasse

but she also gets a kick out of speeding in heavy rain because she has an suv... but its a rav-4. Thats when she scares me :frown:

I've been meaning to post this for a few days, but the holidays have given me temporary A.D.D.

I'm sure a bunch of you guys have had girls in your life that you liked, but felt like she was a bit out of your league, correct? I've kind of got this going on with me right now. I've got a date with this GORGEOUS girl the weekend after New Year's, now it's not so much that I feel like she's out of my league, its just I'm wanting this one so bad, its really important to me that I make a good first impression. I guess you could say I'm a bit intimidated and nervous, but being the confident guy I am, I'm really anxious about it too. The kind of vibe I'm getting from her is that she likes me, but it doesn't seem she likes me enough to get more serious yet, keyword being yet. I plan on taking her out to Galveston Beach (only decent beach close to me here in Texas), where, weather permitting, I plan on just enjoying some Ben & Jerry's ice cream while chillin on the big storm wall they have out there and just enjoying the waves and talking (sunny beach + ice cream = :biggrin: ). Then we're gonna go do some putt-putt afterwards, got some evil plans for that one, lol. ANYWAYSSSSSSS, its not so much I'm asking for advice, because like I stated, I feel very confident about myself, but I was just wondering what kind of experience you guys have had with this kind of thing

It sounds like you're just putting too much pressure on yourself. Like someone mentioned earlier, just be yourself and don't worry about it. She may be hot, but there are other fish in the sea. And don't get too anxious or you'll overthink everything and get ahead of yourself.

try not to seem needy also, ive noticed girls like a guy thats independant. a few hints that you like her is good, but too much affection on a first date could send her flying home in the rain on the highway in a rav 4.....lol

but too much affection on a first date could send her flying home in the rain on the highway in a rav 4.....lol

:grinno:

Yup I definitely know better than smothering a girl. I usually just try to keep the level of affection at the the same level she's showing me. Or in some cases I'll up the flirtation, but not to where its too much. Its susposed to rain on the day of our date and I'm trying to figure out what we could do. Any suggestions?

sounds gay, but bowling could be fun...

Yea, I've heard thats a good one. I fuckin reek at bowling though, and I'm sure she does too, which oddly enough would work out pretty damn good.

Bowling owns! Some girls dont like to do it cause of their nails though... which I sometimes understand.

If thats the case, then it'll be the last date I have with her. I can't stand girls that are too prissy,

bring some nail clippers, that'll win her over......hahaha

If thats the case, then it'll be the last date I have with her. I can't stand girls that are too prissy,
I used to think the same way, but then a girl broke it down to me in terms I could relate to. She said asking a girl to go bowling after she gets her nails done is like asking you to drive down a dirty dusty road right after you wash your car. Its not the end of the world, but it would certainly bum you out.

But I definitely appreciate a girl willing to chip a nail in the name of fun

Damn that was a good metaphor, lol.

Well ofcourse I can respect that, but I just mean if that became I real problem, i.e., she NEVER wants to go boiling, regardless if he nails are jacked up or not, or she doesn't want to go to the beach because she doesn't want to get sand under her nails, or doesn't want to go the lake because it "icky", she's gotta go.

I'm a sucker for beautiful tomboys. And I'd sell my soul for mechanic chick (a very good looking one ofcourse).

I'm a sucker for beautiful tomboys. And I'd sell my soul for mechanic chick (a very good looking one ofcourse).
:1:

Shit, I kick ass at bowling. That's pretty much the only thing to do around here. Movies are expesive as hell and, well, I'm not 21 yet, so bars and most clubs are out of the question. Actually, some friends and I are going bowling tonight. Last summer, we went bowling on average, twice a week. But I also bowl on 2 leagues now, which are still fun. And its not a draining sport, except your arm gets tired after awhile. By we all do activities where our arms get tired...:naughty:

I'm goin bowling tonight too... I own

But I'm bowling with a bunch of guys so I guess in reality I don't own

i'm decent at bowling but i go at most once a year. i went three times this year but before that i think it had been 3 or 4 years since i had been.

5 pin or 10 pin?

edit: and a comment about the topic, well there was a point where i though a girl was out of my league, i really didn't have much self confidence at that point. turned out she liked me, but i didn't have the confidence to ask her out and pretty much kicked myself in the ass after that. on the bright side it gave me a good boost in confidence knowing that i could raise my standards a bit. i was pretty chubby for a while and it wasn't until then that i had lost weight and put on a good ammount of muscle, so i guess the change helped.

Off Topic: I bowled 174 and 168 tonight

sorry, back on topic :)

Off Topic: I bowled 174 and 168 tonight

sorry, back on topic :)

I'm assuming thats good :confused:



The only reason I have the feeling she's not into me is when I text or talk to her on the internet, most of the time its like talking to a brick wall or I get alot of short answers. But when I call her, she's usually really talkative. I just get alot of mixed signs from her.

I'm assuming thats good :confused:
Its pretty decent. 300 is a perfect game btw

The ...when I text or talk to her on the internet, most of the time its like talking to a brick wall, I get alot of short answers. But when I call her, she's usually really talkative...
Whenever I talk to my lady on AIM or in texting, I get sporadic answers. She may take 10 minutes to respond to a message or w/e. But on the phone she's supremely attentive. You know why??? She's just plain absentminded from time to time. (the pretty ones are always a lil dumb right :grinno: ) So I say don't worry too much about it. Especially if she's just a forgetful person by nature, which you'll be able to tell when you go out.

Somewhere in the back of mind where I store useless information I knew 300 was a perfect score, lol.


One thing I forgot to mention, she wants to bring her friend along with her. I'm tryin to set it up where one day, it'll be just me and her, and the next day, her friend can come along. Either way its "shit!", situation.

Unless ofcourse I'm one luuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucky s.o.b. and get a threesome, HAHA!

A wee little update.

She hadn't been returning my myspace messages for about a week, and I know she was getting them. So I called her once during the last week, left a message. She never called back. Then I called her again today when I was supposed to drive to her city. She didn't pick up.

So I'm like fuuuuuuuck eeeeeeet. Save me some money and mileage. Plus I got typsy, worked on some cars, went to a party and played with air soft guns, so its whatever, still had fun.

Girls suck sometimes.

Idk man, sounds more elaborate than anything I'd ever attempt. If I were you, I would just not pick her up. Standing up a girl=sex.

Ive heard from numerous chics that confidence is definitly the key , if ur comfortable with urself than u got it . Galveston is my closest beach as well i stay in The Woodlands , i just wish we had some clear water around here .

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Ive heard from numerous chics that confidence is definitly the key , if ur comfortable with urself than u got it . Galveston is my closest beach as well i stay in The Woodlands , i just wish we had some clear water around here .



Definitely. Confidence is essential, especially quiet confidence.