My Decision for Life...

I need to blog it up a little here. I usually don't do this, but I need some guidance or something. I'ma try to open up a little here. :eek7:


Anywho, I graduate in May from college with a Bachelors in Digital Media Tech, basically computer stuff and graphics and all. I've been trying to figure out what I've been wanting to do in life after school. I work at Cingular Wireless right now. I've already posted interest in moving to the I.T. department, but I have to wait until one year from employment in order to move there, and my numbers have to be good. When I graduate, I'll be there for 8 months, so I still have time before I even get looked at for that. I won't be full time bc they don't need anymore full time in the store. I know it's going to be very very hard for me to get a job in copmuters considering my school (Columbia College Chicago) doesn't specialize in a specific area, so I know alot, but not in one specific area.

I've always wanted to join the military since I was in 4th grade. Was thinking about the Army, Navy, AF, and National Guard. Always wanted to because of the respect, discipline, and good stuff like that. Actually signed up in 2001, but ended up never completing the apps and all after 9/11. Never went back though. I've talked with Defiancy a couple months back about everything, and that pushed me even more. It just sounds like with I need.


So, I'm thinking, why not join the National Guard as a reservest in the computer field? Get a nice enlistment bonus because of my education and knowledge, get boot camp which will put in the shape I want to be in, and then work one weekend a month, 2 weeks a year. I get to travel occasionally and get paid pretty good and some nice benefits. All the while, I keep my job at Cingular, either as sales or move up to I.T. while doing this. Then I can do a lot more, get more out of life, and enjoy myself.


The downsides: My girl will leave me right away. She won't stay with someone that's in the military. If we did stay together, she would cheat on me anyways. So that would end. Next, there's always the possibility of war. I'm not afraid to go, but it's always a possibility. And lastly, I have a good grip on everything and love a challenge, but what if I can't handle it? I think I can, but maybe I'm not as mentally tough as I think I am.

I don't know what to do. Is this a good plan? What do you think?

And just a quick update already. Me and my girl got in our daily fight and it slipped out about the military thing. She flipped and said I need to decide what I want more, her or the military. She said I promised her I wasn't going to go, and I named her all the benefits of being there and everything and she refuses to do it. Told her that that shows how much she loves me by not supporting me in what I want to do.

I hate to say it but if she won't stay with you in your life choices and you think she would cheat on you she isn't worth your time.

As for the military if you already have schooling done thats a good thing. If it's really what you want then go. It should be an excellent experience. I have alot of friends in the navy and a few in the army and they needed it. It gave them a good base. IF you have a 4 year degree and shop around and don't mind moving i'm sure you can find a job with your current degree.

I plan on joining the Air Force sometime towards the first half of next year. I'm basically doing it because I just want to start a new life and also travel around. If your girl can't be understanding of what your life goal is, then she's gotta go man. I think it'd be better to be single once you get into the service so you won't be paranoid if she's doing things behind your back, or the dreaded bullshit excuse of "My feelings for you have changed". Ultimately its your life man, you can't let others make your decisions.

Sounds like a hell of a predicament. If joining the military and working at the wireless place is really what you want to do, then I say go for it. However, I would throw out a good 10-12 applications to see what you can get you know?

Also, I hate to say it, but I think you need to get yourself a new girl. If she is that unwilling to stick with you, I think its time to find someone that will. On top of that, the argueing is something you shouldnt have to put up with. I dont know man, thats just my take on it.

Throw that girl away and get on with your life . Im not try to be mean or any thing, I saw that kinda girl alot and at the end, it not good. some thing to keep in mind.

If you think the military is going to be a good thing for you then you might want to go. A lot of people that go into the military become fairly successful people after they get out. You get taught a lot of dicipline and self control. But I would also see what kind of money you could make if you dont go. You might surprise yourself.

As for the girl. Its going to be hard to let your girl go man...we have all been there it seems. But you should argue with your girl daily. And if you think she would cheat on you while you go to war then you should definatly let her go. There is no trust between the 2 of you and without trust in a relationship you aint got much. Good luck on the 2 decisions. Like someone said though its your life and dont let other people control what you do.

that's a big decision... be sure a/b it...

and make sure you do research on everything that is said/promised...

My ex joined the National Guard and got yanked all around... now she's pregnant, and getting discharged... too much bullshit with her recruiter to keep a family going and doing that...

When I finished school in 2002 I was in a simular situation. I was in a bad relationship, and had very little dirrection. We ended up deciding to move to Spokane, wa so she could finish up school ad Gonzaga law, but shortly after I realised I didn't need her bull shit any longer, kicked her ass to the curb, wich was the hardest breakup I've had to go through. It took about a year of back-and-forth to finaly stop retuning her calls... I considerd very strongly about going into the Airforce and signing up for OTS and even took the placement exam. My (current) Wife's father was a Major in the Airforce, so she was allready use to it. I just eventually got caught up in day-to-day life events and stoped planning for my future. I got caught up in the euphoria of not needing to have a dirrection, put myself on cruse controle making great money at my job, bought some things I've allways wanted and put the millitary, and everything else that was a long term goal in the back of my mind becasue I was tired of the consistant planning and structure from kindergarden up to college graduation.

I never went into OTS, but their is no other place I would rather be.. With a batcherls degree, if your smart enough, tought enough, you will have a very, very good life. Officers pay and incentives are crazy.

You need to make this decision on your own man, do not let us make it for you. Think really hard on what you want in life and what your heart feels.

But i will tell you this long distance relationships never work!!! Someone in the relationship will cheat eventually. <---that would always be on your mind.

Sit her down and see how she really feels about you, is this the one you want to marry, spend the rest of your life with? have kids with?

Final note SACRIFICES is what life is about!!!

ok my 2 cents,well first the IT field is great i am currently going to school for computer networking there is very good money in it,the military thing is up to you,i have had many friend go into the army marines and shit and some liked it and some didnt,now for the girls thing.Well what people are forgeting is LOVE,if she really loved you man she would wait forever if she really loved you she would want a better life for both of you,if you love her it will be hard but i think its best to take a step back and look at your relationship from a outside standpoint.dont waste your time on a girl that doesnt love you i did for years and wish i could get that time back but i cant.but you obviosly smart just by knowing you need a change and want more out of life,i did the same which is why i went back to school.But woman suck sometimes its hard to find a "good one" i know very well,there like porto-pottys all the good ones are taken and the rest are full of shit.my 2 cents ~joe

Talk things over with your girl 1st of all just about how she truly feels and if she loves you. If she does, she def wouldnt leave you. but most importantly, you worked too hard in college to not get a job you really want. I would keep military as an option but I'd give yourself at least a few months to get a job dealing with your major. Apply everywhere you can and want to. If you can't find nothing(which im sure something will come up), then you could always decide whats right for you, military, youyr current job or w/e it may be. Like everyone else said though, in the end, its all up to you.