More 00accord44 whining...

Yeah its me again. I got more woman woes... kind of

I just got back from florida (went to see my lil cousin in her first sorority step show) and I was able to meet up with Dani, the greatest woman on earth. She drove up from Daytona, FL to meet me in Tallahassee this weekend.

Anyways, she and I were bf/gf a couple years ago during college and ran into a shitty situation and broke up. But we mended ways since then, she graduated and is now in grad school in Daytona while I'll soon be graduating. This weekend, we had a heart to heart and I told her basically that I want to be with her again and she told me she doesn't have time for a relationship with school (which I completely understand). This is her first semester in grad school (physical therapy major) and I know she has way more work to do than I ever had. But I still wanna give it a shot. She said she feels the same way about me as I do for her, but adding a boyfriend to her life just isn't possible.

So I guess I should just lay off asking her about it? We talk on AIM and email during the week and on the phone on weekends. I would like to explain to her that I don't wanna take any time away from what she's already got going on, I just feel like we're at a point where it can work. And unlike many of my friends I like the idea of being in a committed relationship.

And also, my natural relationship paranoia leads me to think that maybe she isn't as into me as she once was and doesn't want to lock herself down to me. :frown: This girl is makin me emo

ut oh, dont go f'ing emo on me! sounds like a ruff one. isn't daytona and tallahassee kinda far apart? if u lived close, im sure she'd b able to fit ya in here and there... id say just lay low, u expressed her feelings, now wait for her to figure out hers..

Never heard of a Masters degree in Physical Therapy. I know there is one school in LA that has a PhD in Sex Therapy...

Just give the situation time and be patient. If she's busy, she's busy. Just try not to drive yourself nuts over. As long are keeping in touch with her I wouldn't go all emo over it.

Just give the situation time and be patient. If she's busy, she's busy. Just try not to drive yourself nuts over. As long are keeping in touch with her I wouldn't go all emo over it.
w3rd.

I think the best thing you can do right now is be happy for her where she is in life and let her know that. Let her know that even though she has said no, that you're ok with it and be sure to stay a part of her life. The future is as of yet, undetermined so don't rule anything out yet, just be patient and roll with the punches.

almost forgot to ask, did she take the bus to see ya?

ut oh, dont go f'ing emo on me! sounds like a ruff one. isn't daytona and tallahassee kinda far apart?
If any girl could turn me emo, its her. Daytona and Tallahassee are about 4 hours apart. But I've been in chicago for 8 months on internship and before that, I was in Tallahasseee while she was back home in New York, so we haven't lived close to each other for over a year now.

Never heard of a Masters degree in Physical Therapy...
I'm not sure of exactly what her major is, but I know physical therapy is a related field. She said whatever it is, there are only like 5 graduate programs in the country for it. She has 4 years of whatever it is. I'm glad she's in grad school because now I have ample time to get my life together after graduation.

I know there is one school in LA that has a PhD in Sex Therapy...
:uhoh: or :boink: ... :dunno:

almost forgot to ask, did she take the bus to see ya?
:lol: Wrong chick! Thats the girl I deal with in Chicago. Nice girl, but she can't hold a candle to Dani. If Dani told me we were gonna be together, the other girl (Dee) would definitely be out of the picture.

i knew it was the wrong chick, just checkin if u have a pattern developing.....haha
hey, what ever happened to the stripper?

:p Dani definitely is able to transport herself. She actually let me use her car Saturday night when me and my cousin were gonna be stuck riding around with our female cousins all night. As my cuz Brian put it "This girl drives for 4 hours to meet you at homecoming, sees you for an hour, then lets you take her car to go out tonight??? She's a keeper."

And the stripper (Dee) is still around. Not stripping anymore, looking for a "real" job and trying to get back in school. She knows about Dani and is none too plaesed about it. But I told her about Dani forever ago so meh...

She said she feels the same way about me as I do for her, but adding a boyfriend to her life just isn't possible.




:shakehead

That doesn't sound good...

ya, anythings possible....

Stick with it dude. Some things in life are worth waiting for. I've been in you exact situation before, yet I just kept being myself and acted how I felt and soon enough we were involved. Thing is, dont get too involved too quit otherwise things will grow apart because she will her mind will overpower her heart.

Good luck mate.

I say keep in touch with her, but don't get pushy or pressure her into some sort of a relationship. She might feel too pressured and forget the idea entirely. Keep in touch, but don't wait up for her. Have fun and if its suppose to happen, it'll happen. And if it doesn't, at least you did hold yourself out for her.

Its wierd now cause I don't wanna seem like I'm pushing up on her, but at the same time I know I have to keep in contact with her or it won't happen. Especially since I won't see her again til at least January. So I end up second guessing mself when I'm about to send an email or text message. Gotta find that fine line between caring and bothersome. When I do communicate with her I never mention the whole relationship thing though, but at the same time I don't want it to seem like some stupid idea I came up with and we never talked about it again.

Overall I think I just worry too much, especially about her. Like you said, if its meant to be then it will be.

To quote from a great movie of our time, "Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere," - Van Wilder.

Just act like a good friend. Keep in touch, remember what she says and what's important to her. Don't get too distant, or she'll think you don't care, but don't get too close and freak her out. You're right, there is a fine line. But it would be more difficult to maintain that line if you guys saw each other a lot. Listen to your heart and not your head on this one. Go on instinct and not desire. Who knows, maybe you'll forget about it in a few days/months and realize the feelings you had were just because you saw her and you missed the past.

I agree with everything you said except
Who knows, maybe you'll forget about it in a few days/months and realize the feelings you had were just because you saw her and you missed the past.
That's the one thing I do know for sure. I felt this way for a long time, but when I saw her I knew I had to tell her or I'd never forgive myself. A few years ago when we first started dating, she told me she thought we should just be friends and it effed me up pretty bad. Then I found out she said that because my nonchalant, emotionless nature led her to believe that I didn't really care much about her and she thought that she liked me a lot more than I liked her. I wasn't about to let that happen again. Even though we are just very close friends now, I didn't want to leaver her with her thinking that I had moved on and didn't want to be with her anymore.

This time around, don't hide your emotions. This girl sounds like she doesn't like to play games. Just stand on the sidelines and wait your turn. There's not much else I could constructively say on the subject. Good luck to ya'.