Call me a jerk but...

I refuse to become a woman's bitch. The girl I am currently drilling (I have made it very clear that we are NOT boyfirend/girlfirend) has been pushing the boundaries of my niceness for a while now. And tonight I think may have been the last straw. Consider the following:

I have to drive 24 miles one way to get her when we are gonna hang out since she no longer has a car. I am a poor college student and filling up once a week is not something I enjoy. Especially since the bulk of the gas is used on trips to get her and take her back. 24 miles may not seem like much, but its really about 100 miles per visit. I go get her and take her back to my house then the next day I drop her back off at home again. No we can't stay at her house, she's staying with her crazy aunt right now.

She has all kinds of crap going on right now that I have to hear about, counsel her on, and hear about some more. Not to say that I don't care at all, but the situations are under none of my control, have little to do with me, and are pretty much unrelatable to my life. But still she constantly insists that I have an opinion and advice to give her... advice she NEVER follows.

She also runs on her own schedule. I say I'll be at her house at 6, she's not ready til 6:20 and sees no problem with it. Its not like I pop up on her, she knows it takes me 35 minutes to get to her house if I'm lucky so she has ample time. Then she fully expects me to jump at her every beck and call... which leads me to the current situation

Tonight she calls me, and after beating around the bush she asks if I'll come pick her up from a suburb about 50 miles away. Then she's shocked when I say hell no. Apparently her aunt droped her and her cousin off at her cousins friend's house or whatever and later decided she won't pick them back up. So she now figures that makes it my responsibility to make sure she gets home tonight. To this I say "fuck you". She then hits me with the "So you don't care that I'm stranded? You're just gonna leave me like that?" YES I AM!!!

So now apparently I'm some kind of asshole cuz I won't travel an hour one way to get her and her cousin from some spot they probably have no busines being in because they were stupid enough to get out there without a way back. I don't think so. We're not little kids anymore. She's 26 years old, she should know better. If my 21 year old sister or cousins did the same thing I would only get them because they're blood and I AM responsible for their well being in general. True I spend a lot of time with this girl and am fond of her (most of the time) but doing shit like this is inexcusable.

So do I seem unreasonable in my stance? Giving in in this situation only sets precedent for her to try and abuse my kindness like this in the future.

you jerk. lol


you do what you feel is right. you keep what you can tolerate. if you feel no intimate connection w/ her, you really don't need to feel bad about leaving this bs.

Cliff notes or get it published.

Well... I'm a bitch. She called me a little while ago wondering why I never called her back last night. I said it was because I knew I wasn't coming to get her so there was no point in calling. She proceeded to lay the "So you care enough to get me when you wanna f**k, but not when I reall need your help" line on me. Next was the "I wouldn't ask if it wasn't important" line.

So I caved and I'll be travelling an hour one-way because she got herself stranded in suburbia. But I do take some solice in the fact that I didn't go the first day, and since she's still there I'm gonna assume she really is stranded so I guess I can justify this ridiculous trip.

*EDIT* saw this after I posted
Cliff notes or get it published.
Basically this chick wants me to get her from some far ass suburb because she got herself stranded out there for some dumb ass reason. I have no desire or gas to make that trip. Plus she has been pushing the boundaries of our non-bf/gf relationship lately. But now I'm going cuz I'm a bitch.

I refuse to become a woman's bitch. To this I say "fuck you". She then hits me with the "So you don't care that I'm stranded? You're just gonna leave me like that?" YES I AM!!!
So I'll be travelling a hour one-way because she got herself stranded in suburbia.

:owned:



Ok I'm sorry but I just had to accord.

Anyway, if she is nothing more than a friend with a benifit, why are you going out of your way? Is it possible that even though you dislike all of this crap, you may actually start liking her a little?

I mean it seems to me she wants to be more than a "friend with a benifit" and is trying to push things. You don't like it but seem to be slowly allowing it to happen. Why?

Of course this is my take on the situation and I may have no clue what I'm talking about so...

:owned:

I was completely owned, but about an hour ago as I was finally getting ready to leave (I decided to go to the gym before making the trek) I get a call and she says she now has a ride home. Score one for the home team :bigthumb:

Anyway, if she is nothing more than a friend with a benifit, why are you going out of your way? Is it possible that even though you dislike all of this crap, you may actually start liking her a little?
Its not like I have no feelings whatsoever, but I know there is no way she will ever be my "official" lady. That being said, I was starting to feel a little guilty about not going to get her because I know if it was one of my boys I would go. I'd be pissed to death, but I'd go. So why should I put her below them?

Now it is also true that they would more than likely never be in a situation like that and if they were they'd realize what a BS position they were putting me in. She doesn't seem to realize that her request was so unreasonable. She just thinks because she's in a bind, I should be happy to get her out of it. And I guess that was why I refused to get her at first.

haha, i could relate, i was seeing/bangin this girl from vernon that was the same distance(24) miles each way. she also had no car, and we couldnt chill at her place! other problem was she had a son, so she couldnt even spent the night! so it was 2 hours driving for bout 2-3 hours of chilling......
anyway, shes gone now, and soon will ur girl. its not fair game. question, why doesnt she have a car? and she stays at peoples houses for days? must have no job right? id say go get another girl, but i also know its not that easy...... goodluck with that..

You're lucky. You almost got played. Anyway you look at it. Like ghost said she must have no car, no job or whatever. And if it was one of your boys, then sure you'd do it... maybe a little inconvenient but you'd still go get them right? But when a girl asks for a ride after you've been going to see her and pick her up, bring her to your place, bang her, then bring her back to her place she thinks she has this I-Can-Get-A-Ride-Whenever-I-Need-It card or something. That used to be an issue when I was a teenager. That didn't last long... especially living where I do where everybody lives 24 miles away... LOL

u should set up a meter and collect cab fare....

She must be pretty good in bed, or you wouldn't put up with it. I think you are more than just f*** friends. Like it or not, ALL sex has a price.

To paraphrase Shakespeare: thou doth protest too much, methinks. :grinyes:

question, why doesnt she have a car? and she stays at peoples houses for days? must have no job right? ...
She had a car til about 2 months ago a semi completely smashed the side of her car on the highway and drove off (you should've sen the damage) and nobody in her car got the plate:shakehead And she is jobless ever since she moved from minneapolis to chicago. So the money she had saved wouldn't cover the repairs AND her lease so she paid for neither and it got repoed :disappoin She's a mess. And now her efforts to get a job are stymied by the fact that her aunt won't take her everywhere and she doesn't really know how to get around chicago with public trans.

...she thinks she has this I-Can-Get-A-Ride-Whenever-I-Need-It card or something... LOL
Thats exactly the mentality I want to avoid.

She must be pretty good in bed, or you wouldn't put up with it.
Yesir, that definitely has somethin to do with it

ok, back at ya:useless:
i show, u show......haha

wanna explain this pic?

wanna explain this pic?

i'm not sure, but maybe he's suggesting that she uses public transport...

i'm not sure, but maybe he's suggesting that she uses public transport...
Thanks for getting it. I thought all Chrises thought alike... I'm loking at you ghost:sly:

haha, i wanted to joke, but thought i he might b in the pic and didnt want to offend. but now its funny as shit....lol and ya, im a little slow, i saw the pic on my lunchbreak which was short..... and i didnt know u know my name either......lol

haha, i wanted to joke, but thought i she might b in the pic and didnt want to offend.
fixed... before 2.2 can use it against me


.... and i didnt know u know my name either....
I know EVERYTHING :uhoh:

Actually I found out your name was Chris when I referred to myself in the third person in another thread and you responded

hahaha, jedimind tricks ey?

Don't fall for the guilt trip. I am amazed at how anyone can get where ever they want to go, but once there are somehow stranded. I eventually told one girl (34 yrs old, but acted like 15) that she was only a blow job away from where ever she wanted to go, so don't call me!

hahaha, most girls are...

sounds like things went from eh to worse for her. i say leave her since her life is a mess now and you can't really even afford to keep buying all that gas. if she doesn't know the public transit system and thats her only way of getting to interviews and a job, i say she should learn.fast. especially if she's 26, time to grow up and be a little more responsible instead of just mooch off people for rides and nicer places to sleep. you can do it, don't be any girl's bitch! many girls, when they find out that they can get stuff out of guys, will stick around just to keep getting those benefits so be wary of that.

I guess I should update this. Since her stranded incident, she decided it was high time she learn to use the CTA (Chicago Transit Authority) and today she called me sounding extremely proud of herself that she was on the train and had taken the bus earlier. Of course in principle I could care less that she's on the train, big fat hairy deal... I've been doing it since I was 13. But of course I feigned some interest so reinforce the positive step toward city-life independence she took.

The next trick is getting her to take the bus/train to and from here. Maybe one day I'll just pull up to the train station and wait for her to get out.

haha, does she make u pay the fair? just messin. id definately use that shit if we had it hear. i remember the best times in boston riding the last train cocked off my ass.... no dui to worry about..

...i remember the best times in boston riding the last train cocked off my ass...
:eek7: My brain is hurting from all the jokes I wanna throw at you right now

I have to let some out!!!

So the train is the only place your ass is off of cock?

Saying "last train" as code for penis doesn't work when you say "cock" right after it

Riding... cock... ass... please explain yourself

So you were cocked on your ass for the first couple trains?


Whew... I feel better