I feel I must bid you a fine farewell my friends

Well, I have run in to some life altering events. It seems that my modelling has taken too much time away from the things that mean to much in this life. I have in the past 4 days lost my girlfriend of 19 months, whose hand I was about to ask for in marriage. I feel that the amount of time I would spend on my hobby, took too much time away from what mattered most. My love for her. So with that, I must bid all of my fine friends here a farewell. I will be selling a good portion of my kits. Look for a thread in the classifieds soon. As for projects that I have in progress, I will finish them eventually. When they are complete, I will post them here for you to see. I shall stop in from time to time and see how your skills are progressing, and the masterpieces being churned out. And it is with a teary eye that I must say. AF I bid you a fine farewell

Damn all I can say is good luck with everything.

thank you. I will shed a tear. As it hurts. But not as much as loosing other things.

that sucks to hear... I was in a similar boat, but I've just slowed down the hobby a lot and am still in it. Good luck with everything!

Wow Russell sorry to hear about this. I hope that you find you place and get your girlfriend back. It has been great meeting you and I appriciate how much youve helped me over the years.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned for model making :banghead: :shakehead

Damn, one of the good guys.:( Don't be a stranger, man:sunglasse

thank you guys. it was not only my relationship but my school work it is taking time away from. you have my solemn promise that i will build again, Also that i will check in and keep you guys in line. lol. i'm always just a pm away. those magical things ring the e-mail inbox.

All I can do is wishing you good luck! One day you'll again have the time for modelling, even if this might be a few years down the road.

All the best,
Sebastian

tell you what, from personal experience, it isn't worth giving up something that means so much to you for something that means as much, or more. if one can't live with the other, then it isn't meant to be. DON'T CHANGE FOR A GIRL!!!! now if you are older (as I am) then yes, stay with the woman, and lay off, BUT DON'T GIVE UP your hobby. if you sell off all of your stuff you WILL regret it. if she can't deal with your automotive obsession, then that's her problem. no woman that loves you would demand that you give up your passion in life.

besides, if she left you, then chances are, she found someone else, and from this point on, things will never be the same.

I agree exactly with Rsxse. I once had a "real" job and started to dabble with art and painting. The girlfriend I had at the time thought it was kinda funny and said it was nice I had something to "play" with in my spare time. She and another ex later on thought it was silly to collect comics and build models and constantly said I should grow up. That relationship didnt last long once I quit my job and went airbrushing full time, which I now make my living at and have been since '89. Like Rsxse said, dont change for anyone, it prob wasnt meant to be. I cant always make time for my hobby with house renovations and work but if I have to put everything away for a few weeks, thats ok. My wife now, pushes me to paint and come up with new ideas and even has bought a few models for herself. So, these things have a way of working out for the best. Hang in there buddy, will miss your nascar and drag build ups.
Les

All I can say is good luck to you. I've always like to look at your drag cars and Nascar build-up thread. Do keep visiting here from time to time.

Car Modelers aren't meant to have girlfriends. It's just the way of the world.

;) j/k

Do what you gotta to get your life sorted. We'll still be here when you dig your kits back out. :)

Don't sell your kits, unless any of them are 1:12 NSXs, in which case, sell them to me.

It's reasonable to lay off building for a while, especially in regards to your schooling, but there's no need to give it up completely. A hobby is supposed to be a spare time thing, and as your spare time shifts, your hobby will too. Remember to look out for #1 first. If your girl won't let you invest in your passions, then in my opinion, she's not all that worth having around. But then, some girls are just that awesome. So do what you need to do. But don't forget that your kits will forgive you for spending more time with the girl than them, so if it has to be that way, don't forsake them completely.

Sorry to hear. Hope things turn around for you You seem like a genuinely nice guy, Any ways take care of yourself and get everything turned around. i wouldnt seel the kits off. Put them aside til things get better and then learn to compromise between your life and your hobby.

take care

Good luck dude! I think Willmo took the words right of my mouth....even the NSX part.

Russ C.

thank you for the kind words. One reason I love this forum so. She was ok with it. It just got to the point where I did it too much. It also doesn't gratify me the way that it used to. But I will be back at it again. I just cannot say when.

I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. Here's my advice.

Does she demand her own time, like does she have any hobby?

My wife is an artist, and once she starts a certain project, she's glued to her computer desk. She even gets pissed off if I don't work on model kits that I've purchased, so things work between us.

You may be able to date for a while with someone who doesn't quite understand what you truly enjoy doing, but when it comes to marriage, you definitely need to find someone who's compatible with you, and that includes your hobby.

There're many women who demand their own time on a certain hobby or sport, and that's the kind of person you want for your wife. Otherwise, either one or both have to compromise constantly, and the stress will build up, and eventually the relationship will fall apart.

I might not know u well ... nor i doubt u seen me around here before but .. Its always sad to see someone give up or stop doing something that they really love to do. I hope one day u could return to modelling! Good luck with everything !

my two cents from a guy who's been divorced ... if she's threatening to leave, there's a deeper problem than your modeling going on.

Good luck with everything, and hopefully youll return!!

dont worry it will eventually get alot better for u on down the road because i know how hard it is to lose somebody you loved for a long time since i lost my grandmother on my fathers side and my stepfather <who was more of a real father to me than my real father> within a day of each other and my grandmother on my mothers side a year later!:frown:

I'd rather be hated for Who I Am than be loved for Who I Am Not

Also, just thought you oughta read your sig right quick.

Willimo's last post says it all, if you say you are still of school age then I assume she is similar and girls are very possesive at that age, my advice is to sit down and talk it through, if she loves you as much as you seem to love her then she should be able to meet you half way. If she wont compromise then you are best to bite the bullet and move on. I was 32 before it dawned on me :shakehead There were other reasons also but her unreasonableness was a big factor.
If a split does happen then you will find someone else who will allow you to be you glue and all. DONT GIVE UP YOUR HOBBY!
Hope it turns out ok.

hate to see someone go through this...good luck.

Sorry to hear this. Like most everyone else here has said. Don't give up your hobby. You can change hobbies but most likely this will happen again.
I suggest a good heart to heart before you decide anything. And DON'T hold ANYTHING back. Sometimes hurting each other with the truth makes the recovery and 'ever after' a whole lot better.
I work 8-5:30, spend 3-5 hours in front of the computer/model during weekdays. This doesn't affect my relationship with my 8yr gf.

Good Luck!
Steve

awwww snap. :(

but hey, schooling's a fine reason to lay low for a while. a girl...depends on how your status is with her but seeing how you're saddened, she sure really means a lot then.

seeya around!

That really sucks, because you were the only
person who answered my questions instead
of telling me to search all the time, and you
gave me long explanations, too.

You will be missed sorely.:shakehead

-Matt

Sorry to see you go Russ, hope you're back soon. I didn't get the indication from your post, whether or not your g/f had a PROBLEM with your hobby, or if you simply determined that was getting in the way. Because honestly, if she was pulling the whole "this is childish" thing, then she's not good enough for you.

But if you genuinely believe it took too much time of your life away, then by all means do what you have to do. We'll still be here.

I wish you the best of luck with everything you are doing,let things settle down a while,cu in the future.

hey guys. Havn't been here in some time. Thank you for all of the comments.

John, no she never said it was childish, she has even partaken in the act, lol. I wa simply spending more time with them and the computer than her. She is now gone for good. Too many little problems along the way that stayed stubbornly unaddressed. I hope to get everything back on track here in the next couple of weeks, get my work bench cleaned up and hopefully get back to work. All of the money that I had set aside for the things that I needed to finish up some projects is gone. So I hope to churn out some box stock customs...who knows. You guys don't know how much all of the kind comments and words of wisdom have helped me through this time of need. It is with great honor that I call each and every one of you my friends.

I thought we lost you there...

Welcome back?

hey Russel, this is a bummer, your one of the few people on this forum that have not struck me a bad way at any point. You needto keep in mind that this is a hobby. you do it when you have time and put it aside when you dont. i go months at a time without touching a kit but then there are times that its all i do. Ive had problems in my relationship as well due to modelling and it always works out. I agree with Willimo, i think you need to read your sig real quick and remember why your involved in this hobby. i find the real problems happen when i spend all my time "building models" online so i have taken a serious hiatus from online activity and surprisingly enough have found more time for my girl and my modelling. Just take a break and reconsider your thought of leaving the hobby later when things are less tense. We need even keeled people like you in the hobby, its what makes it fun! I wish you the best!

Chad

Hey sorry to hear it Rus. Myabe it wasn't meant to be? Welcome back and get to work! lol

Sorry to hear this. Hope that everything ends out ok. Welcome back!

As a response to my sig. I was not trying to change who I was. merely trying to make a compromise where I thought it needed to be made. but that is neither here nor there. I've got some important tests coming up that I've got to buckle down and take care of. Hopefully I'll be back soon

fwiw, I think it'd still be a good idea to hang out on the forum and keep in touch, comment on projects, as you usually do. That way you don't get totally disconnected from the hobby. I found that help when I took a "break" to go to college.