What do u think or make of this

I got this friend thats a girl. We used to talk to eachother all the time til she got this "boyfriend" Ever since shes gone out with him shes not allowed to talk to any guys other than his friends. We hardly ever talk anymore. She blocked my s/n, got rid of pics of me hanging on her wall, deleted my phone number out of her cell phone all because if he found out that she was talkin to me the shit would hit the fan. Lately ive been always thinking about her and its just bull shit i cant talk to her cause of dumb F*@#$!. She said he hates all of her exs too. What a dumb jake off.

What do u guys think?

I got this friend thats a girl. We used to talk to eachother all the time til she got this "boyfriend" Ever since shes gone out with him shes not allowed to talk to any guys other than his friends. We hardly ever talk anymore. She blocked my s/n, got rid of pics of me hanging on her wall, deleted my phone number out of her cell phone all because if he found out that she was talkin to me the shit would hit the fan. Lately ive been always thinking about her and its just bull shit i cant talk to her cause of dumb F*@#$!. She said he hates all of her exs too. What a dumb jake off.

What do u guys think?

Dude, I've had experience with crazies, and I can tell you from all the way on this side of the internet that it is time to drop this one because she is nuts.

I dont think shes crazy. Its her stupid ass boyfriend. I dont get him. Not allowing her to talk to guys he doesnt know. Me and her met at the mall for a 1/2 hr one night just to talk and he flipped out about it. I think hes really insecure. To me i think its a bunch of crap that shes not allowed to talk to any guys but this guys always talking to other girls. Idk bout this guy.

yeah he's insecure, but its her call as to whether she's gonna deal with that or not. I have a friend who is in a similar situation, and bascially when the chick who is his 'friend' comes crawling back from her over controlling boyfriend, he's gonna kick her to the curb. Bitches gotta learn.

I wouldn't get into that dude. Stay away. Girls can get pretty crazy with stuff like that. Pissed off boyfriends can be even worse. And I doubt you wanna deal with him, no matter how much he sucks. Do you still have her number? Call her and talk to her if you REALLY feel you need to.

The only thing you can do is get over the discomfort of loosing your relationship with her and decide how you will act when she returns. This guy will teach her plenty of difficult to learn lessons. You can bet that there is much more going on than you are aware. I recently experieced a similar situation with my daughter. Her guy tried to separate her from all her friends and family by replacing them with his choices. No thing or situation will ever allow these type people to feel secure, yet they keep trying.

What do you think of this logic? Just to share the top of the long list of uncontrolled temper, This guy says just give me what I want and I am happy and enjoyable to be around, if you love or care about me you will let me have what I want. If you don't let me have my way you must hate me and want to kill me, so he pressed his gun into her hands (never date a cop) and told her to pull the triger. Since you didn't pull the triger you really do love me and you really do want "ME" to have what I want.

I say your friend will be back. Do her and yourself a favor, quit being too nice and quit hoping to rescue her. Make her think for herself rather than giving her so much advice. Avoid behaving in some way you may regret. This guy is only making you look better.

I guess so. I guess I just gotta sit back and see what happens

Here is what I'd do.

A. Keep talking to her like it's no big deal. If she says anything, simply say, "You're a friend of mine and I'm going to talk to you. If you don't want me to talk to you because of your cock sucking boyfriend, well goodbye and I hope you enjoy being a beaten up wife on Jerry Springer."

B. If she stops talking, so be it.

C. She talks to you and the boyfriend comes into the picture, tell him this, "Listen you ball sniffing piss drinker, I'm going to keep talking to her because she's a friend of mine. Now if you don't like that, tuff shit. Pick the sand out of your vagina and actually grow a pair. I'm not going to fuck her but as I said she is a friend and I talk to her. Now if you don't like it, take it up with me but don't get her involved. If you got a problem, take it up with me."

Now he may want to fight you so get ready for that. I've seen though that if you confront them about it and get in their face, they usually either back down and start to change their mind or they dump the girl.

Find a new friend.

I have seen and dealt with this before. So first of all your friend is an idiot. If she is going to settle for being with someone as controlling as this guy then she is going to be miserable for the rest of her life. If you are truly her friend you will try to make her realize this. If you dont try then aparently you arent a very good friend. She either will eventually see that you are right and break off the relationship or she will be pissed off at you and not want to talk to you again. Which seeing as how she isnt talking to you to begin with what do you have to lose?

sivic02 may be destined to repeat his experience history until he learns the correct answer to this lesson in life. If one is a true friend with some wisdom, they will know that it is not their responsibilty to rescue this girl from the decisions she makes. It is in fact his responsibility to let her make her own decisions and learn by them. At this point, what has this girl lost? She has a "B/F" and a friend waiting. BigFig has shown her that he will always be there for her when she changes her mind. Sit back wait and seeee??? She will have more respect for BigFig if he gets busy and does his things for himself what ever they may be. Chicks deffinatly dig it when guys do this. Let her wonder if she has lost someone of value rather than staying right where she wants him. Next time she starts complaining about her "B/F", use some words and attitude like, "gosh what are you going to do now? Gotta go." You know the proverb about if they don't come back you never had them. How can she ever come back until you set her free? I don't think she is crazy or an idiot but my guess is she isn't in the top 10% of her class very often either.

walk away.

murder the boyfriend.

harmony will be restored.

sounds like a dead end relationship for her, so id leave her alone, let her learn, and wait for her to come crawling back. thats when u give "her" the cold shoulder and make her earn u back as a friend...

They have been going out for a year. It really bugged the hell out of me when this first started to happen but after a while i just got used to it. It still bugs me a little et today just to see this all happen. To me this guy is a complete F*** Head. One time he had a record of all calls made to and from her cell phone and he was questioning her on this and that.

She did call me up one night and we talked for like 5 mins which I thought was really cool. At the end of the call she said i got to delete this call i made or he will find out. We both hung up and i sat there like wtf is this guys deal. I see on his myspace profile all the girls that comment him saying that they should hang out soon blah blah blah. Its completly ok for him to talk to other girls but cant talk to any other guys that isnt his friends. I just cant believe they have been going out for a year. Whatever hes doing must be good enough for her.

I dont think i can just get up and walk away. When we first met she used to call me all the time and we would talk til 2 or 3 in the morning just stuff thats bothering her or just to talk. But for now i guess just gotta sit back and see what happens

or she could feel threatened by him. (in which case, you should try to make her seek help.)

I dont think she is threatend by her. Theyre always leaving oh i love u comments to eachother on myspace. But if she is threatend by him. That would be complete bullshit and no girl should have to be threatend

just because she's saying that doesn't mean she doesn't feel threatened, she may well feel threatened by him, you think she'd just allowthose kind of restrictions on her while he's free to see who he wants in his free time? that's bullshit, no girl wants that kind of double-standard.

you're obviously concerned about her, why don't you confront the boyfriend? you should go tell him it's pretty fucked up what he's doing. and maybe you should try meet up with her sometime (without him knowing obviously) and talk it over, maybe she's too scared to ask for someone's help.

i hate lovebirds....

She said the reason she is doing this cause she doesnt want to lose him. But like u said 2.2 Straight Six it is bullshit. Im not going to confront him hes not worth the time and i dont want to upset her. I just dont get this guy. But i told her numerous times that im always there for her no matter what.

just post a girl in a straight jacket on her myspace comments, and say, "hows life in prison?"

So their must be at least one reason she doesn't want to lose this guy?
She is the only one whom decides if that reason(s) outwieghs his undesirable behavior.

I don't get him or the way too many others similar to him act either.

I know (but find it easy to forget) that the only one we can or should try to fix is ourselves. Any other efforts are a waste of time and energy.

Repeating that you will always be there for her is too sweet! I'll just have to sit back and wait and see. You sound pathetic! She doesn't gain greater respect for you every time you say those words WBTW is actually because you hope for her to feel like you and always be there for you in return.

Get more honest with yourself first. Figure your self out. Tell her and show her that you are hurt by her walking away from you. Tell her why and what you want your relationship to be. Avoid useing the word need. She'll start thinking. Maybe you will find a new friend. Then watch what she will do.

Be the man! Your word is good, so you say something only once and expect the respect you deserve. People will pay attention to you because it is to their advantage.

Here is how it actually works. When you say, "I will always be there for you" she thinks, OHHH, GOOOD, I will always have some where to fall when I can't take it any more, so I am safe to stick it out with buckey b/f a little while longer.

Relationships are often like playing tag as a child. If you quit chasing her, she will lean back toward chasing you. Friends come and go. Sounds to me like you have something more than an average friendship.

Here is the real question you should answer. What do you really want? To keep posting, wondering, and wishing she would see that your way is better, or get buzy moving forward to put yourself in a better position that she will observe, gain greater admiration for, want, and know she could be a part of?

Develope your plan and follow it. You can't loose.

ghostrx, I think I have a good idea of the many things myspace can be. Do you know what manipulation is? Maybe you've heard that manipulation is a bad thing... and people don't like it?

I dont think shes crazy.

That's where you'd be wrong.

Its her stupid ass boyfriend. I dont get him. Not allowing her to talk to guys he doesnt know. Me and her met at the mall for a 1/2 hr one night just to talk and he flipped out about it. I think hes really insecure. To me i think its a bunch of crap that shes not allowed to talk to any guys but this guys always talking to other girls. Idk bout this guy.

There, and you just gave us the reason why we know she is crazy. If she was not crazy, she would be staying as far from this other dude as she could. So there you have it. 2 nutcases.

My space eh could you post a link to his page so we can see what this Willy Wanker looks like...............

My space eh could you post a link to his page so we can see what this Willy Wanker looks like...............

:1: X 1000

justsaygo- it was a joke, im sure if he did that he'd ruin that friendship with a quickness....lol

Uhhh BigFig15, do I understand you correctly? Your issue of trying to figure this guy out has been going on or building for a year? How much longer before you begin to wonder what to think or make of your own problem over your issue? Maybe you should enlist and get out of town.

Good to understand ghostrx7. BigFig15 could use a little bit of your sence of humor, seems like he lost his somewhere.

The reason why I posted the thread was to see if anyone had a similar thing happen. Im not losing sleep over this. I just wanted your guy's opinion which i did.

Besides its Friday night and theres beer to be drank.

Gather up some friends, beat the shit out of the boyfirend, find a new friend who won't choose you over some dipshit.

But he might send his Dairy Queen Posse on me. Might get a flipper across the face.