I'm In Luv Wit A Stripper

So I've been going out with this girl for about 3 weeks now. I always wondered what she did for money since she never talked about her job, but I assumed maybe she was looking for one since she just moved back to Chicago about a month ago. Anyways, she is often unavailable when I try to call, but I figured she was either sleep like she usually said (and she does sleep like a rock, I've witnessed) or had a boyfriend that I didn't know about. I had pretty much made up my mind that she either had a boyfriend or at least some other guy besides me. This was fine by me because I'm still talking to some other girls, but she has been the main one I talk to and spend time with.

So she tells me last week that she has some secret that she's scared to tell me. At that point I immediately assumed she had AIDS or somethin and I would have to kill her (even though I always wear my rain coat). But no, she began to describe what she does and I had it narrowed down to stripper or hooker. I was relieved when it was stripper. She didn't tell me where and I didn't ask. I don't think I really wanna know.

So what do you guys think? Advice? Observations? Jokes? (I'm sure they're coming :tongue: )

I still plan on seeing her, just like before. I actually feel better now knowing that she's not having sex with some other dude, but she's getting naked (I assume all the way) for a couple hundred guys during the week. Its wierd to think about, but she says she doesn't do anything with her customers and I'll take her word on it since she does spend most of her free time with me. Aside from her out of the ordinary occupation, she's a great girl and I genuinely enjoy my time with her.

And no, I don't know her stripper name, but I kinda wanna know so I can call her by it :icon16:

1. ask her stripper name!
2. continue to see her and let her buy you whatever she wants! strippers are rich biooootch!!!!!
3. take her for what shes worth to you. i wouldnt date a stripper with my jealousy issues, but is you like chillen with her, and she does good in bed, keep her around.
4. most strippers give lap dances, which ive seen lead to more. but not all strippers sleep with the customers. i'd be pretty nervous bout that.
5. no jokes, sorry.

i wouldn't worry about her doing anything with the customers, many places have rules about how close to a "performer" the customers can get, if they so much as try to touch one the bouncers throw them out and they're barred. it's just a matter of trust, as long as you trust her in what she tell you you'll be fine. (well, as long as she isn't doing anything with anyone else)

personally the thought of other guys looking at my girlfreind in such a way isn't to my liking. i often get very protective over those i'm close to, and those i'm with at a given time.

i don't think there's anything wrong with it, as long as she's on the good side of the law, and the good side of moral life there's no problem in my eyes. but if she's potentially your girl then it's your opinion over everyone else's.

The idea of guys lookin at her like that doesn't appeal to me at all. I'm usually very protective, borderline jealous when guys look at my girl. Thats why its best that I don't know where she works and that I NEVER go there.

I wanna ask her about the rules about touching at her place, but at the same time I don't wanna bring up the subject in general. I can tell it was pretty hard for her to tell me. She seems very embarassed about the whole thing but I do appreciate her honesty. She couldn've kept me in the dark forever and I wouldn't have pressed the issue, but at the same time I would always be curious and have less trust in what she was doing when I wasn't around.

some dancers are genuinely nice girls. I became really friendly with a philipino girl back in Buffalo who was a professional dancer back home in Long Island. I understand how its wierd to have someone you know and like take their clothes off for other people, but think of it this way...
- Guy's will be undressing her with their eyes anyway, and she won't be getting money for that.
- She's not sleeping with anyone else
- She's fucking amazing in bed... or the couch... or kitchen... or public pool :uhoh:
- lastly, dancers have an interesting take on life. my friend was always extremely optimistic and upbeat, always fun to chill with around the guys, etc. I'm sure this girl you like is very interesting and has an addicting personality that you can't get enough of.

also, have fun

that is hard to handle. if i had feelings for her i wouldnt b able to deal with it. but if u have other girls on the side, and shes just kinda a "toy" shall we say, it would be easy to deal..

- Guy's will be undressing her with their eyes anyway, and she won't be getting money for that.
Good point
- She's not sleeping with anyone else
Hope not :uhoh:
- She's fucking amazing in bed... or the couch... or kitchen... or public pool :uhoh:
:naughty: :wink:
- lastly, dancers have an interesting take on life. my friend was always extremely optimistic and upbeat, always fun to chill with around the guys, etc. I'm sure this girl you like is very interesting and has an addicting personality that you can't get enough of.
Quite true

that is hard to handle. if i had feelings for her i wouldnt b able to deal with it. but if u have other girls on the side, and shes just kinda a "toy" shall we say, it would be easy to deal..
She's not really a toy per se. I don't really talk much to the other girls anymore and haven't seen much of them either. I actually told her about my situation with the other girls when she told me her little secret. Kind of a "come clean" session. She was cool with it for the most part. She knows she's not my official girlfriend, but at the same time with the relationship we have now she expects me not to be messing with any other girls just like I expect her not to be going home with the guys at the club. So I don't know what that makes us... hmmm

thats a decision you have to figure out urself, as her too... if you want a relationship, you have to be prepared for the jealousy and reality of the situation. people usually dont change for other people, so be prepared to take her "as-is"

At that point I immediately assumed she had AIDS or somethin and I would have to kill her
That's the funniest thing I've read in a long time!

date her. watch the episode of Spin city where Mike dates a stripper...and sooner or later, you could talk to my friend who's dated a lot of strippers...although he's not quite as stand up guy as you, so maybe his opinion ain't needed.

so what? guys look at her. at the end of the day, you're still the one touching her. sounds wrong, but best way i could put it. plenty of songs and stuff to go with it to.

" You can dance-every dance with the guy
Who gives you the eye,let him hold you tight
You can smile-every smile for the man
Who held your hand neath the pale moon light
But don't forget who's takin' you home
And in whose arms you're gonna be
So darlin' save the last dance for me"

and in a way, she will save the last dance where she totally strips and then well...ya know. :naughty:

oddly enough, that song fits better than i thought.

Hmm....aweomse body and your Mother will hate her.

Perfect.

Pics or she doesn't exist.

:evillol:

TS out

http://santafemods.com/images/Smileys/Other/1nicebabe1.gif

^:uhoh:

hahahaha, shes a looker....:shakehead

http://santafemods.com/images/Smileys/Other/1nicebabe1.gif

^:uhoh:

why does she have a caveman-esque "schlong cover" on her panties?

why does she have a caveman-esque "schlong cover" on her panties?
:lol: I don't know. Thats from TS's archive of gif. files. He said he didn't even realize it was there but everyone else always does... which worries me... and should worry him even more :uhoh: :icon16:

edit- pic removed upon coming to senses

Okay the truth is out, thats my ex.
Since I insist she stay in the kitchen to cook all day in her undies, and she had no where to put the rolling pin, she went out and bought a rolling pin holder attachment.

Can't you tell how happy she is to be cooking. :lol:

TS

:lol: I don't know. Thats from TS's archive of gif. files. He said he didn't even realize it was there but everyone else always does... which worries me... and should worry him even more :uhoh: :icon16:

edit- pic removed upon coming to senses

look just admit it. she's a stripper for people with "special tastes".

ok?

why does she have a caveman-esque "schlong cover" on her panties?
You'll have to slip $5 to find out when you go to see her show. :icon16::icon16:

You'll have to slip $5 to find out when you go to see her show. :icon16::icon16:

*shudder*

oh, and i think her stripper name is "Derek".

and Derek has a few more bits you don't know about............................

Bits that will fit into you bits.............................................. ...............

Derek like to go Fishing, Hunting, and Stalking vonerable men who can't tell the difference between two sex's............................................. .........

You can view its show at the local drag/Strip bar..................................

Derek also likes Drunk Body Builders.......................................... ..........

This thread should have been called, I'm in love with a Sheman...............

and Derek has a few more bits you don't know about............................

Bits that will fit into you bits.............................................. ...............

Derek like to go Fishing, Hunting, and Stalking vonerable men who can't tell the difference between two sex's............................................. .........

You can view its show at the local drag/Strip bar..................................

Derek also likes Drunk Body Builders.......................................... ..........

This thread should have been called, I'm in love with a Sheman...............

you're really not funny at all.

Fact: I'm Bored to death and am at work, anything to pass the time really, Even replying to a 17 year old emo (you) who is trying to find humore in my, well boredom.......................

STFU you lot.

anyway did u find out her stripper name yet? inquiring minds must know!!

and im not talking about the stripper with the third leg.......lol

Not yet. Last time I mentioned that I wanted to know she got mad and said I was wrong to make fun of her about it. I tried to explain that I was genuinely curious, but she wasn't goin for it. Now she won't tell me just cause I asked. D'oh!

As soon as she breaks, I'll let you guys know. :icon16:

:icon16: Good stuff

Well here's the update on this saga as I mentioned in another thread. Why must my life constantly become more turbulent?

So keep in mind that I met this girl in June originally. And we didnt really start dating or anything til July. That means I've known her for 3 months now. She told me before that she moved to chicago after breaking up with her old boyfriend a few months ago in Minneapolis. It was a horrible break up and she wants nothing to do with him ever again. That has nothin to do with me so I could really care less what happened between them right??? WRONG!

After an eternity of near-crying and hesitation she tells me that she's *drumroll please* pregnant! Of course, why wouldn't she be? Not just a couple months but more than 6! She's so small in the waist I can't even tell but after 6 months there's nothing you can do about it so to speak.

She says the reason she didn't tell me about this before is because she didn't know what she was gonna do since she doesn't like the idea of abortion (another debate entirely best left to philospy forum). Plus she says she never expected us to be very serious.

So here's the current situation: I like this girl (more than I expected to) and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I don't even have a problem with kids, I've dated women with kids before but they were always born first! The idea of dating a girl that is currently pregnant with somebody else's kid doesn't sit well with me at all. Plus what about her ex? I don't know if he knows. And if he doesn't, does she plan on telling him? It doesn't seem that way. We were talking last night and it seems more and more that she's looking at me with an eye for the future. She made a number of hints about how she wants to move and I should come with.

Also, I'm going back to school in Florida starting in January so I'll be gone for about 4 months, and after I graduate I'm still not 100% sure of where I might be living. From what I can tell she's hoping I'll move to Minneapolis with her and we become one big happy family. I definitely want to have a family one day, but I don't want to start it with somebody else's kid. Plus I don't really wanna have kids for a few years. I'm only 23 and she's turning 26 next week. I would like to enjoy my life after school a bit without being settled down with (might as well call wife) and kid.

So basically I know I can't continue this relationship but I want to find a way to not hurt her feelings. Plus I've recently (as in 2 days ago) reconnected a relationship with my ex from New York. We had a strained relationship for the last few months because of some other stuff, but we reconciled and I'm really excited to be back with her. If we had been talking again when I met the stripper girl, I never would have started talking to her. The girl from NY is my #1 all the way but I started looking elsewhere hen I thought it was over between us :frown:

If you've read all this, thanks mang. Any thoughts? This sucks... I hate being the bad guy

Thoughts: home is where the heart is. Only you know what's right and wrong in your situation and opinions from internet forums generally count for 0.

^Very true. I certainly don't look to AF to lay out the path of my life like some sort of internet Dr Phil, but it sometimes helps to have other people's points of view. Especially whe they are of different backgrounds. Me and all my friends come from the same background and we usually have similar points of view so advice from them doesn't usually lead me in new directions.

Ugh, as I get older I realize more and more why my mom used to tell me I'd sit and wish I was still 16 when no one expected much more of me than to go to school and come back with decent grades.

we'll, u kinda answered your own question, you say the ny girl is number 1, so tell number 2 that the pregnancy thing is too much for you......

^ Yeah. I do know the only answer to my question. I just don't wanna hurt any feelings and I know this girl is gonna be real upset. Seeing girls/women cry is the kryptonite to my usually emotionless exterior. Thats why my little cousins and nieces walk all over me :disappoin

Plus I'm bein a chump and draggin my feet about the situation which only makes it worse. I need to hurry up and settle the situation, but its like I have to hype myself up to do it. I think I only post about it here as a means of procrastination since I "need" to wait for the expert advice of my AF colleagues :rolleyes:

just tell her u dont like kids..... just kidding, altho i have done that before..
well, she told you some shit that she must of worked herself up to say to u, now u have to do the same. honesty is the best policy, altho being a azzhole will work too in time, but that takes to long for her to leave u...and worse, she might like it!