divorce and breaking up

im not sure in other states but here in california the divorce rate is 50% thats way too high for me would you marry or even get with someone knowing that there is 50% percent chance that there is going to be a breakup?????

just like fliping a coin:2cents:

it's not like the marriage fairy goes around waving her wand and saying "ok now you are getting divorced" and "you two are staying together".

the marriage rate is high because there are more people jumping headfirst into marriage without even thinking "how long have i been with this person?" "do i really love them or do i just love the sex?" "are we in a situation to make this work?" "do i have any unresolved feelings for other people?"

if people think and make smarter choices about their partner, the rate wouldn't be so high. it also stems from the poor marriage examples being set by the parents of the past generation. how many of you can say you didn't pick up a single habit or mannerism of your parents?

also, resolving not to get married on a statistic alone is just dumb as well.

Well, you've got people who get married and stay strong forever.

Then you get people who get married and after 20 odd years or so realise they don't feel the love and move on.

You also get the fuckwit kids who get married at 18 just so they can have sex because they've been brought up with blinders on and been drilled NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, without being taught anything else about being a sensible, balanced individual. (Note: nothing wrong with sex before marriage, but be reasonable - if you can't have it because of your religion, don't have it. Instead of getting married just so you can shag and this turning marriage into a fucking joke).

Then you get people who cheat...


But yeah, Danielle's got it as well. People need to really think about whether they want to/can see themself spending the rest of their life with the other person.

There are 3 kinds of liars in the world, in ascending order (as in, from "best" to worst) they are liars, politicians, and statisticians.

But yeah, Danielle's got it as well. People need to really think about whether they want to/can see themself spending the rest of their life with the other person.

There are 3 kinds of liars in the world, in ascending order (as in, from "best" to worst) they are liars, politicians, and statisticians.


:lol: Politicians better than statisticians......

You're right....too many people get married to fornicate, and they forget that they have to communicate as well. I'm on marriage #2 - the first one wouldn't communicate AND cheated more than once...so yes IF it's the right person it's cool, but there has to be commitment on both sides as it's a two way street. And no matter who is living in the same house, there will be an argument down the road.

I think the previous three posters have covered this topic very well.

I'm starting to have second thoughts about my long term relationship and it's depressing the hell out of me. :(

Ozzie - I'm currently on a "break" or "on hold" - we haven't broken up, we're taking a step back and I'm giving her her space while she figures out who she is/what she wants.

It sucks while its happening, but it can be a good thing for a relationship. Guess we'll see how mine turns out.