Alright, i need dating help

YEah, so... kinda embarrasing, but i'm willing to admit when i need help. See, i've been out of the scene for so long that i forget what to do.

So the story goes there's this girl at my work (don't even start with the dating coworkers thing, i'll take the risk) that I really like. And when I really like a girl, i turn into a bumbling idiot. So I already took her to the movies once (to see v for vendetta, she liked it, as did i) and she seemed to have a good time... but.. now what?! Keep in mind i have to keep this kinda under the radar, because i don't wanna be cathcing flak from the rest of the guys. Oh, and she's 19, so the bars are out of the question too.

Yeah so. I don't really know what my next step is. I'm thinking of inviting her to a party up at UMass whenever my friend throws one, cause then we'll be surrounded by people I know, and that I trust. But i feel like that's kind of overt... but then again, who says overt is a bad thing? Meh.

help!

I feel you man. It sucks. I just say go out to lunch a few times. Maybe once or twice a week. Skip the movies and go bowling or putt-putt. Something where yall can interact and act goofy.

yeah you need to take her somewhere where you can both talk and you could get to know her better....most people think the movies is all romantic and it's the perfect date but honestly if i take a girl to the movies i'd love her to shut up and let me watch it....so take her to lunch...maybe take her somewhere nice so she knows you're not just being friendly

yeah well the movies were just a water testing thing, to see if she's even agree to go. Thing is, this girl is impossible to read, i can't tell if she's just being nice or if she digs me...hard to tell

Dude, your going at it the wrong way already! C'mon... just sit back and relax. You went and saw a movie with her right? Yes, so she digs you. Next time you hangout with her dont worry about it, just have fun!

ask her out to dinner one night... but have the day, time and place in mind already. you got to seem like you have all your ducks in a row and are confident. if she says yes, great.... if she says no, dont sweat it, but dont push it either

force her to have sex with you

ask her out to dinner one night... but have the day, time and place in mind already. you got to seem like you have all your ducks in a row and are confident. if she says yes, great.... if she says no, dont sweat it, but dont push it either

Exactly. You might even try suggesting to her what to wear.....90% of the time, they come wearing the exact thing you told them, and they love it.

Lunch will get you into the Friendzone.

Take her to dinner.

Man I maybe only 16 but I would take her out to dinner not lunch :nono: go hang out get to know each other then ask her to date you if she says no no big deal you can still hang out and have fun its never let me down so far.its easier said then done but dont sweat it. :thumbsup:

Alright, i got it
Dinner,
tell her what to wear
forced sex.

I'm so in.

Alright, i got it
Dinner,
tell her what to wear
forced sex.

I'm so in.

:disappoin Good luck. I'll see you on the news.:wink:

Take her to some Go-Karts and then invite her to your place and cook for her.....trust me

invite her to your place and cook for her.....trust me
You got that backwards.

Alright, i got it
Dinner,
tell her what to wear
forced sex.

I'm so in.

haha whoa man the whole force sex thing was a joke, i don't need that shit on my conciuos(sp?)
lol.... :evillol:

comedy shows are always good. they give yuo a chance to talk some and also to see what her personality is like see what she thinks is funny and what might upset her or repulse her. you let the comic test her out for you instead of you making mistakes when it comes to humor.
basically when my friends and i take girls on dates we always try to get creative and do things out of the ordinary but still fun get some creativity. or do some stupid shit like a picnic in a park people dont use that one enough anymore

Take her to some Go-Karts and then invite her to your place and cook for her.....trust me

See, this guy knows what he's talking about. On a serious note, if you want another date.....cook for her. Very powerful. Girls LOVE guys that can cook.(It doesnt hurt for it to taste good either). After that....... throw the bitch on the ground and...:evillol:

whatever you do, dont let the butterflies take control! take her out somewhere fun, like bowling. no joke, that's actually a really good place to go on a date. also +1 on the cooking, but if you're hopeless with that, a nice dinner is great, lunch is aright, too. and always try and feel comfortable, and make her feel comfortable. and who said chivalry is dead?

Well the cooking for her thing would be great (and i can cook too!) if it wasnt for the fact that i have no place to do it... living with the 'rents and all.

Im thinking of setting up a plan with my friends to go out blowling or whatever like that, so its a little more relaxed. Though, i dunno if its a good idea to go out with more than just us now. egh. I also need to find out if she's comfortable with motorcycles. Cause i think maybe i'll offer to take her on a ride and then stop someplace, get a bite to eat talk, and hit the road some more. Or something.

Take her to a park or something that has the public grills and cook...I went to my girlfriend's parents' house and cooked burgers and hotdogs for everyone. How old are you? Its prolly acceptable for you to still be with your parents. Bowling is a good idea, my gf on the other hand likes putt-putt. Try to goof off a little and have fun. Also, dont buy too many games..bowling gets sooooo borin after about the 2nd game.

do some stupid shit like a picnic in a park people dont use that one enough anymore

:1:

You'd be surprised but the little things actually are some of the best. I know this girl and she's about to get married. Guess what she told me she did on her very first date with the guy. They went to Sonic and then he took her to a gym when nobody would be there and they played PIG and some basketball.

i'm one for walking and such, take her for a stroll in the park, picnic if you want. somewhere relaxed, away from it all where you can just let life pass you by and most importantly you tow can talk without disractions.

you can do the whole sitting on a bench talking, or on the grass or whatever. not somewhere deserted, not somewhere packed with people. just a place where there are enough people in the background to make it comfortable but not too many to intrude into what you're doing.

maybe it's just me but this is what i'd do. i love to walk places. and it's good for you to talk about justa nything at all. you dont need a certain subject in mind, just talk.

steel, chicks dig bikes! bowling is a great place to go, imo. i ended up flirting so much w/ this girl i didn't know i liked til then. apparently some of our friends thought we've been going out for a while after the sight. i dunno, something about the enviroment just relaxes us.

Ask her over for dinner and a mvie, ask specifically for no sex. That'll twist her mind, make her curious, get excited and come on over. Then you have sex with her.

Muscletang, vinnym86, and 2.2straightsix all have the right idea. Communication is important. Obviously, you're not sure what this girl likes so you need to figure her out a bit more. If you really like her and want her to know you're interested then hanging out with friends with her probably isn't the best approach. Like previously stated, take her for a walk in the park and then go to a nice restaurant for supper. Then if you find out that she likes bikes, maybe you can go get your bike and take her for a spin and then see what happens after that... GL

I don't know about you guys but from what this sounds like, you're trying to make a single grand gesture to profess your feelings for/towards her.

What I'm saying is why not give her a small card (an e-greeting from yahoo or similar) or listen to her and suprise her with something small based on conversation. I believe its about getting to know her and expressing interest in her as a person and her life... multiple small nudges in this direction would probably work better than a single grand gesture.

It really also might depend on how old you are too. Spending time after work at a bar or having a lunch date works well in my life as I'm fairly busy with work and other such obligations and free time is hard to come by.

The most simplest thing that I've found out is that you don't have to guess if she's into you or not. Ninety-nine percent of the time, the other person will make it painfully clear that they're into you. You just have to give him/her an opportunity to do so.

I don't know about you guys but from what this sounds like, you're trying to make a single grand gesture to profess your feelings for/towards her.

What I'm saying is why not give her a small card (an e-greeting from yahoo or similar) or listen to her and suprise her with something small based on conversation. I believe its about getting to know her and expressing interest in her as a person and her life... multiple small nudges in this direction would probably work better than a single grand gesture.

It really also might depend on how old you are too. Spending time after work at a bar or having a lunch date works well in my life as I'm fairly busy with work and other such obligations and free time is hard to come by.

The most simplest thing that I've found out is that you don't have to guess if she's into you or not. Ninety-nine percent of the time, the other person will make it painfully clear that they're into you. You just have to give him/her an opportunity to do so.

neh, its just that im being a real big wuss with this girl, i dunno why. I'd love to hit the bars, except she's 19 so that doesnt work. It probably *is* painfully clear to anyone but me, but, heh what can i do.

neh, its just that im being a real big wuss with this girl

Don't worry man all the great ones started out at square one. Yes, even this guy was shy at first.

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but, heh what can i do.

You go over to her, look her right in the eye, and say, "listen, I'm going to cut to the chase, lets just pretend we're two people with needs, I need you, and you need me, so why don't we forget these little games and just give into each other?"

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white guy get some boo-tay!

force her to have sex with you

considering two of my closest friends are rape victims i can tell that's not in any way funny. there are people out there that do that kind of thing, please don't even joke about it.

sup guys:rolleyes:

now for a girl's point of view :)
awkward silences are never cool. sitting at a movie is alright, so now that you know she would do stuff with you outside of work, try doing other activities. i say pick something fun and interactive that will help create conversation between the two of you. there's only so many things you can say about a movie, but if you go do something you can talk about what happened, funny stuff either of you did and so on. sitting around gets boring after awhile. gokarting is a great idea. talk to her about what activities she likes to do and try something like that. if you live near a lake/beach, maybe go down there for a walk or something.

cooking for her is definetely a great idea! i would love it if a guy cooked for me instead of me doing it for him. i'm still waiting for that to happen. if she isn't a stuck up bitch, even if you screw up things should be ok.

as far as not being able to read her well, just give it some time. girls are all about emotions, you just need to learn to pick up on what each girl does to show you how she feels. what she thinks of you will come out in time, and since she agreed to hang out with you and all, it can't be that bad, can it?

don't even mention sex at all. being a girl and having a guy talk about sex in pretty much any way when i barely know him his a big red flag to us that that may be all he's interested in. going on dates and stuff like that will let her know that ur interested in being more than friends, you don't need to mention sex to make her aware.

and as chris said, it's not funny to joke about shit like that. you'd be shocked at just how many girls out there have been victims of sexual assault or rape. even some of ur own friends may be and are too embarrassed or shocked to tell you about it. trust me on this.

good luck with it all, keep us posted on if you get her or not!

cooking for her is definetely a great idea! i would love it if a guy cooked for me instead of me doing it for him. i'm still waiting for that to happen.
I would cook for you. Might not be very good, but I would cook.

I would cook for you. Might not be very good, but I would cook.

are you feeling ok? you seem a little "out of character".

I would cook for you. Might not be very good, but I would cook.
aww that'd be great. or we could cook it together :wink:

aww that'd be great. or we could cook it together :wink:


That would be cute. Then post pictures on AF about it....right?

That would be cute. Then post pictures on AF about it....right?

i trust you're referring to the cooking...

Isn't there a thread going on about something besides hooking up with another member? I thought so too.

yes, but you know how life goes.

I just want to eat good food.

I just want to eat good food.
there's life outside of food...well maybe..idk..i haven't really tried venturing out..

there's life outside of food...well maybe..idk..i haven't really tried venturing out..


Now Bleeddodge is going to be traumatized for a few days.


Bleeddodge=food in human form

i eat because im unhappy and im unhappy because i eat...