Butterflies

Ever meet someone and act completely calm and cool, but the more you hang out with 'em, the more you start stuttering and losing your touch, and get those butterflies in your stomach?

just posted something for discussion.

I've got a lot of friends who are chics, and this doesn't happen to me, that's why their just friends. i've known 'em a looong time now. but some girls, i just get that high school first crush bs and that's when i'm like "ok, time to calm down and ask her out".

yeah i hate that feeling. i used to be SUPER shy and i've finally gotten over it but it sometimes strikes again whenever i'm around a guy i think is super hot or that i really like. damn shyness :( any other guy i'm perfectly fine. maybe someday i'll get better.

yeah i've gotten that feeling a few times. it really sucks because you KNOW that you are past the HS crush stage and that you should just do something about it. there's been a few times when i've called girls that i just have to sit on my bed and work up the cojones to call her. it sucks. but it's part of life i guess :dunno:

Kinda makes you consider some of the reasons why services like online dating and instant messaging have become so popular. Of course, while they have their advantages, they have their drawbacks as well. I find that when I'm talking to a girl via email or AIM or something, that extra layer of artificiality sort of adds a buffer to the whole discourse. It's like I'm just detached enough to feel that "safety" (maybe we just feel potential rejection is easier to take if it's coming to you in text on a computer screen.) Plus, you have that extra time to compose a more witty, provocative, or thoughtful response. And of course, you can type in as much as you want to say, but until you hit "Enter", it doesn't get sent -- which kind of beats having to spit out all out with fumbling hands and faltering words or face to face (all you need to do is accidentally "drop" something on the Enter button, and your big question is magically and irrevocably wisked away, relieving you of any burden beyond "what's done is done -- the cat's out of the bag".) On the other hand, there's something to be said for saying something face to face with someone, a part of the experience which, while sometimes (or often) uncomfortable is, nonetheless, part of the experience. :uhoh:

that's a good point. i know one of my best friends' mom has done the internet dating type thing. i don't reall know why, and neither does my friend. i guess i must be old fashioned or something, but i still find it better when you can ask someone something face to face. nothing is better than seeing them say 'yes' or whatever and you look into their eyes. m

my friend talks to his girlfriend more through txt message than they do face to face. it's rediculous. i think because of AIM, txting, messenger, everything done electronically is part of the reason there is less and less confidence when speaking in public. even at a party, where people are faded and it's easier to talk, do some people still stand in the corner and dont' say a word.

there's only one girl that makes me get butterflies, everytime i talk to her i jsut fall into thoughts of her...

there's only one girl that makes me get butterflies, everytime i talk to her i jsut fall into thoughts of her...

Yeah, I'm the same way. Weird...

As far as online dating, and communicating with people electronically...I can see what you guys are saying, but sometimes I think that when I talk to a person without seeing them, I get to know what they're really like before I get to physically be with them. And, if I can really like someone for their personality, then the physical things won't matter.

I think that when I talk to a person without seeing them, I get to know what they're really like before I get to physically be with them.

i think that's something great about talking to pple online. but i much rather do it in person, as i think aim lets you think about what you type, and you can come off as something you're truly not to try and impress. not that you wouldn't do that in person, but its a bit more obvious in person.


And, if I can really like someone for their personality, then the physical things won't matter.

werd :smokin:

there's only one girl that makes me get butterflies, everytime i talk to her i jsut fall into thoughts of her...


aww, how nice of you to think of me like that, chris :greddy2:





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aww, how nice of you to think of me like that, chris :greddy2:

:lol: Weirdo.

:lol: Weirdo.

shit happens

Caterpillars!

aww, how nice of you to think of me like that, chris :greddy2:





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Didnt know you had a sex change, vin..

As for the butterflies thing goes.. ive never gotten em, I usually just get excited when I talk to that someone, whoever it is.. or was.

It's strange because I get butterflies really bad when going up to a good looking girl. The thing is though that once I start talking to them, the butterflies go away and I'm very calm.

See, i don't get butterflies around good looking girls. it's only when i realize that i may really like that girl that they start, if i haven't already started going out with them.

it's only when i realize that i may really like that girl that they start

Really?

Well, I could hate the girl with all of my heart and soul, wish her a long painful death, and want to knock her in the face with a 20 pound sledge...but if she's got a hot body I'm nervous still walking up to her :screwy:

Luckly though the butterflies go away after I say "I" and I can finish off "hate you" real calm and cool.

Luckly though the butterflies go away after I say "I" and I can finish off "hate you" real calm and cool.

now try following that up with, "how about i buy you a drink?"

...see where that one takes ya

now try following that up with, "how about i buy you a drink?"

...see where that one takes ya

I did...she had $50 worth of drinks before she said she was going to the bathroom...and never came back :(

I don't get butterflies around hot guys. I really don't get nervous either. I get sort of quiet when I first think I really like someone...but after that I'm fine.

It doesn't really matter though, because I don't find anyone remotely attractive anymore. Except the guy that gives me butterflies. He's the only one.

bah meh. Im actaully going to the girl who gives me those feelings every time i see her after i eat and post this. I see her every week. I sleep in her bed. I want to shoot myself.

Im normally a pretty confident guy, i don't generally have problems talking to girls, gorgeous or not. Most of the time i'm not 'looking' for anything so that helps too. But this one girl puts me in a whirlwind everytime. I dont stutter and stumble over my words, but the whole time i'm around her i just feel...eh.. you know. People keep telling me to say something to her, but i just can't. Considering that this girl and my ex are one in the same, i'm at a very clear disadvantage in every category of courting.

Ha, life is wonderful.

yea, vinny, you're just so irresitible that i just want to tie you to......wait a second...

yea, vinny, you're just so irresitible that i just want to tie you to......wait a second...

We're not friends anymore, thats the last straw.

We're not friends anymore, thats the last straw.

i'm sorry i let myself get in between you two... :frown:

"i dont want to come between you.............or do i?" - quagmire

I know the feeling!
I still get it when i see my man, or i know im going to see him.
It's great :grinyes: it's not the HS kind of feeling for me, it's a sign that i really do care about him

I know the feeling!
I still get it when i see my man, or i know im going to see him.
It's great :grinyes: it's not the HS kind of feeling for me, it's a sign that i really do care about him

Speaking of which, how's he doing? Haven't heard from him since I came down.

But yeah, basically any time I think of her/see her/think about seeing her. I become a blithering idiot, basically. It's FANTASTIC.

But yeah, basically any time I think of her/see her/think about seeing her. I become a blithering idiot, basically. It's FANTASTIC.

i miss that :rolleyes:

i've been together with my girlfriend for 8months now, and the butterflies are still getting more.

We're all good!

Looking forward to seeing you and your butterfly babe in April :)

Speaking of which, how's he doing? Haven't heard from him since I came down.

But yeah, basically any time I think of her/see her/think about seeing her. I become a blithering idiot, basically. It's FANTASTIC.