Long Distance Relationships

Just wondering whats everybody's opinion on this is.

Here's my situation in a quick informative nutshell. My girlfriend who I love like a hobo loves a ham sandwich is moving to New York, I live in Texas. She's a model and got a job to model for Ford (not bullshitting, I was just as skeptical and suprised) and it requires her to be close to her job and be out there long periods of times. She wants to stay together, I do too but I'm not naive enough to think it won't be tough to stay in a relationship with a girl that far away. Thing is though, she'll be making enough bread to atleast see me each weekend or every other weekend by flying back here or have me fly up there. But I wanna stick with this girl. So I'm wondering what do you guys think. Am I crazy or making the right decision. I love this girl for who she is, but shit, modeling for Ford, making big $$$. Even more reason for me to want to stay with her. Girl's got a bright future.

She wants to stay together, I do too...I wanna stick with this girl...I love this girl for who she is

That's all I need to know right there. The real question is, do you see this going somewhere? Do you think she's the one, or do you feel you might need to shop around a little while or want some freedom before you settle down?

If the answer is yes, if you know for sure she's the one, then go for it dude. Yes, a long distance relationship is very hard. I tried one and it just didn't work out. If you feel she's THE girl then this will be a nice thing for you two. If you both can get through this, smaller things will seem much easier in your guy's eyes.

been there...done that...

listen...you love your girl she loves you...yah...ok

but...shes going to have money, but put into that scene and be that far away from you?

Ummm bro...that sounds like you should let her go to me...save yourself the heartach.....:(

Its tough...and I know better than alot...eather way bro, your in for alot of pain....

How long is she going to be out there, and why cant you move?

been there...done that...

listen...you love your girl she loves you...yah...ok

but...shes going to have money, but put into that scene and be that far away from you?

Ummm bro...that sounds like you should let her go to me...save yourself the heartach.....:(

I have to disagree. Not all girls will cheat on or dump a guy in a split second. Yeah, there is the chance that due to the money and location you could get your heart broken. There is also a chance though things will work out, and the relationship could get stronger. Which one though? Well that's up to XeVeNskyLiNE and his woman to decide.

I never said shes gonna up and cheat right away but the stress of distance with the added weight of such a high stress job really streaches things thin.

Hell, I never said shes going to cheat, but people change first off, and when people are so far apart those changes still happen...and people tend to grow apart when they change what the other person loved, and when that person expects it seeing as they didnt change together....it tends to hurt things.

I dont know eather person, just saying what personal experience, and experience of many friends has taught me. Anyway, as I asked why cant he move out to her? How long is she going to be out there? These things affect it too. If shes only going to be there a month or two, thats no problem *or shouldnt be if they are strong*. But if it is going to be years...come on...they are still forming personal identies for the most part...thats really hard to do in a relationship with two people seperated so much over such a long time.

I wish the best man, but unless you can go with, or shes not there long I fear for ya and know that, as I said, eather way your going to be hurt. Being so far away from someone you love hurts, and so does seperating.

Good luck bro...good luck.

Yea I know what you're saying. I'm being both optimistic and pessimistic about it. I'm pretty confident she'd be loyal to me, but you know shit happens sometimes. Moving to NY isn't exactly something I want to do, plus I don't even know how possible that'd be. I've already got plans for myself here in Texas plus I'd have no way to support myself unless she's the one taking care of me. I'm basically broke and getting into college before this year is over, so I couldn't afford to live up there.

She's told shes going to be up there for about a year and a half. That seems really long to me. But like I said, if she can come see me often or vise versa then I'm pretty confident things can work out. One thing I've noticed is that when I don't see her for a few days she starts missing me really bad. So maybe that's a good thing, she'd stay loyal because she doesn't want to lose me. But I dunno, its just hard to predict things since there will be so many variables once she actually does move out there.

I do feel like she's the one, even to the point where it'd seem like a hassle to keep shopping around. So I'll stick with her and see what happens. Who knows, maybe things will turn out better than expected. I'm no fortune teller I'll just have to leave in god's hands or somethin...

well bro, it will test you harder than anything else!

But if it does work out, as Muscletang said, it could get stronger. You know...ring and home and kids and grandkids thing?

I wish you the best man. Keep in constant communication, dont get paranoid, dont you DARE let yourself get bad thoughts eather.

And if you ever need someone to talk to whos been through this shit on some scale hit me up.

Will do, thanks for the support.



Oh gawd, marriage and kids :uhoh:

lol

hey! It sounds good to me! :p

I almost was married!

i think that relationships are about chances...so take one....

i think that relationships are about chances...so take one....

ditto...will always be heartache i a relationship...but if you want to be with her...give it a try...granted my now wife and i were only a state away when i went off to school, but we made it...but it will be the hardest and most fustrating thing you can do...more so b/c she's a model in the Big Apple

Move out there with her.

then she would probably think that he didn't trust her or something like that...or he moves out there and she dumps him...i wouldn't do it

Yea, going from Texas to NY, big ass leap in so many ways. Might consider that if we're still together after a few years. I've already got plans for a 2 year tech college so I'm not going anywhere anything soon.

Modeling for Ford.! 2 words: Sugar Momma

Long distance, means big phone bills dude!

New York is a long way from Texas, and I dont mean just the miles. Sounds like a Tuff one man, sounds like its gonna hurt a little too.

But it can work, I hav seen it!
But when it doesnt work out :banghead: things can get ugly.
Good Luck XeVeNskyLiNE follow your gut!

xero is right - get on the same VoIP provider.

Anyways, it all depends on how committed both of you are. If your both committed, you will be fine. If it's one and not the other you're screwed.

They suck, flat out!

way to add nothing usefull :rolleyes:

aha, I know. If you really want to know how she feals about you then ask her to marry you!!!. This will be a good benchmark. its either now or never mate given she's a model there are going to be plenty of other guys who are going to want her just for her looks let alone whats in side........

hes got a point...if your that serous and its been that solid....pop the question.

If she says no shes not thinking about you, shes thinking about the job. It would be a very quick reality check on whats more important. And if its you, well have to set up an AF wedding :p

I'm only 18. :uhoh:

so what?

No way I'm gettin married this early, plus I couldn't afford it, atleast not right now. I won't even consider marriage until I'm atleast 21.

But anyways, she told me there's a possibility she'll stay here but just have to fly NY often.

You'll be real hungry by the time you get anything that she's cooked for you with that distance.

.....:sly:......

yes...thats whats important.....cold food....

hmm just say will you marry me in the year 2009 and see what she says, you should present her with a handfull of nothing and say that her ring hasn't been invented yet, Or you could loose her and settle for some fat 250kg chick who eats 20 pies for lunch (true story).

Hmm 18 hmm or you could just get it on and make her pregnant before she goes so you two are bonded for life.

hahahahahah...no that just means he needs to pay her money for the next 18 to 21 years as she marries someone else :lol:

You'll be real hungry by the time you get anything that she's cooked for you with that distance.
is food your solution for everything when it comes to girls? :p it's a good thing we're not dating, i burn even the simplest cut out sugar cookies :frown: something tells me we just wouldn't get along since i can't cook

an AF wedding would be kickass, so i say propose to her just so we can all have a huge party.

on a serious note, like mentioned before, it'll only work if you're both 100% committed. for me, i was and he wasn't and things got really nasty last weekend. so to avoid further heartache, really make sure you and her are on the same page and going in the same direction before you decide to make things even more serious.

i learned something in my Pluralism class today, (well, by learned, i mean i heard a new point of view, that i don't necessarily agree with);

Relationships in which both partners are ambitious and move up a social ladder, be it in career, status, or attitude, the relationship is likely to stay strong. Similarily, if both partners plataeu on the social ladder, be it in career, status, attitude, [even location], the relationship is likely to stay strong.
However, if either partner differs from the other on the social ladder, a relationship can very easily complicate and is likely to fail.

kinda technically said, but after i heard it, i tuned out the rest of class and just reflected on it, tried to apply it to myself, to others around me, to weigh out the sides... think about it. i came down to slightly agree, however, still think that it is something that can easily be worked on if sacrifices on both sides are taken.

The 2009 marriage proposal sounds kinda cool, I'm gonna put that one in my back pocket for now.

Good point Vinny. She's already above in the career area, but give me about 2 1/2 years and I should be making some pretty decent money too. Hells yea we're gonna be stacked, lol. Did I mention she likes cars too?

I can taste that Evo now :evillol:


But like I said last post, she said she's in the midst of working out a way she can stay here in Tejas. So till I get the word I'm gonna be praying...

I can taste that Evo now :evillol:



Evo? sure, they're hot, but not hot enough to drive around a model. pool your money and get a playboy's car, the new 599GTB. that's ambitious.

Evo? sure, they're hot, but not hot enough to drive around a model. pool your money and get a playboy's car, the new 599GTB. that's ambitious.


True true, but she's a lil racer girl at heart, I know she'd love the hell out of an Evo. Plus I like to be ambitious but with a side dish of realism. An Evo would be the stepping stone to something bigger. But if I ever saw a girl driving a tuned Evo I'd probally wreck from rubber necking.

Plus I'd be nervous about her driving a V12 beast, plus I could build a bigger badder Evo. But only daddy would get to play with the big toys :icon16:

haha, i know what ur sayin'. i just said the GTB cuz it's got the aura of young hollywood about it, a rockstar and model stepping out and tossing the keys to vallet with a crisp ben franklin, if you catch my drift.

Yea I gotcha, duno bout the vallet, I think I'll go park it myself, haha.

duno bout the vallet, I think I'll go park it myself, haha.

:lol:

A wise man summed it up once, [me]. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, absence makes the heart wander.

Take it for what you will:smokin:

psychology is pretty interesting, and its affeted by sociology, as in the everyday interactions you encounter, your mind will follow one of 2 different courses:

Out of sight, out of mind.

or

seperation by time, the closer [she'll] stay in mind.

i know, corny, but it sums it up well. thats college at work for you.

A wise man summed it up once, [me]. Absence does NOT make the heart grow fonder, absence makes the heart wander.

Take it for what you will:smokin:

close, but not quite.

absynth makes the heart grow fonder.

close, but not quite.

absynth makes the heart grow fonder.

Yeah, but only the heart sitting next to U at the time!!!!!!!!:evillol:

is there really a beast such as a 2.2 in-line 6????

Chuckles, grins, giggles

yup, but i dont know about stock ones. my user name comes from a couple cars my friends used to race. all were 2.2-litre straight sixes. we had an M50 stroked to 2.2-litres. we had a 1JZ-GTE (i think) reduced from 2.5-litre to 2.2 by using very thick sleeves. and we had an RB25 that was sleeved to 2.2-litre.

is there really a beast such as a 2.2 in-line 6????
There's such a thing as a 2.2 in-line 4 as well. A great little motor.

There's such a thing as a 2.2 in-line 4 as well. A great little motor.


Yup, Honda's H22.

Thread Hijackage.

Yup, Honda's H22.

Thread Hijackage.
Yes...

There used to be a Mopar 2.2 as well. Some of them are still around, I have one. Unbreakable.

And a 2.2 is used in the Chevy Cobalt.. only regular versions, the SS come with a 2.0 Supercharged..

Those things are pretty much unbreakable too. We used to beat the shit out of the ones in Cavaliers and Sunfires in our younger days.

modelling for ford, huh? so she's hot, but not like chevy hot?

modelling for ford, huh? so she's hot, but not like chevy hot?

atleast she's not a dodge.

atleast she's not a dodge.

Id take a Dodge over a Ford anyday, but not over a Chevy..

Also I was wondering what Chris asked when I first read the thread..

dude the second she gets off the plane she'll be shoving cocks down her throat

dude the second she gets off the plane she'll be shoving cocks down her throat

:slap:

fucking faggot

modelling for ford, huh? so she's hot, but not like chevy hot?

Shit I didn't even know Ford had a modelling thingy until she told me. They pay big time, so money is money. Hell I'd want her to model for any car maker if it payed good.

dude the second she gets off the plane she'll be shoving cocks down her throat

:slap:

Thats an insult to me but whatever, I wouldn't be with a girl who would do that kind of thing in the first place.



Anyways, I think somewhere in this thread I mentioned that she doesn't have to move anymore. If I haven't mentioned that yet, well.....she doesn't have to move anymore.

:icon16:

Thats good so I guess this thread is useless now. :lol2:

I B L!

how do you get into being a car model girl?

She's modeled for magazines before, so I imagine its about the samething except with the Ford label slapped on it. I haven't asked her about it too much, I just assumed she was doing magazine stuff again, it'd be cool if she was one of those models at car shows (not the slutty ones, I'd never allow that).

Oh, and about getting into that kinda stuff in the first place, not too long ago, there was like a modeling expo here in Dallas with a bunch of agencies that came here to see auditions and all that shit. I'd imagine thats the best way to get started.