getting arrested

so wonderful news, i quite possibly am going to be getting arrested for assault. i'll start from the beginning. i was working on typing up some essays last night on the computer. my parents have this thing about not letting me use the computer, even if it's for my hw. so even tho i got these assignments at the end of last week, last night was the first time i was allowed to do them and great, they were due today. so i was doing research before i wrote them to make sure i had everything right, then i started to write my paper.
i had been on the computer for about 5 hours when my mom came in and told me to get off there, i hadn't gotten enough done so i wasn't allowed to finish and it's HER computer and she wanted to use it. i tried to explain to her that since she hadn't let me use it before and that these assignments were due i needed to keep working. the thing that bothered my parents the most is that i had been talking to 2 people online that night. i wasn't talking to them then and hadn't been talking a ton earlier cuz i was working.
so then my dad heard my mom yelling at me to get off the computer and since i wouldnt' since i had a lot of hw still to do, he came in there, grabbed me by the arm and ripped me out of my chair and threw me on the ground.
he then tried to close out of all the stuff i had been working on so i would lose my work.
i got up off the ground and tried to push him aside so i could save my work or at least attempt to continue working on it. and he again would shove me down, kneeled on me to hold me down and yell at me, threw me partway across the room..:( i finally slapped him on the arm and tried to run down the hall, down the stairs and to the next floor to answer the phone cuz my friend and i had our cams on and he happened to witness the whole thing, start to finish.
i was so out of it from having been thrown so many times that i then fell down the stairs trying to get away. *it also hurt cuz my ankle is still swollen from having sprained it* my friend kept calling me until i answered to make sure i was ok. i talked to him for a little bit and he helped me to arrange for someone to come pick me up. i stayed at my other friends house until about 2 am.
i had tried calling a child abuse help hotline and they told me to call child protective services. i tried but the line was always busy. so this morning i went in to talk to the school cop about what had happened. this is where it gets "fun". he told me that my parents could do pretty much w/e they wanted because it's their house and even though what they're doing isn't the best way to do it, it's still ok. but my dad and i both might be getting arrested and charged for domestic assault. and i was like um no..he hit me first, i was just trying to get him off me.
the cop then told me that i need to start listening to my parents more. WTF! as if i don't? i'm sorry but i'm sick of being told every day that i'm a loser with no friends and am going nowhere in life and that i'm just a big fuckup that they don't love anymore. so overall, i hurt, i'm really sick and can't stop sneezing and i might be getting arrested and charged as an adult cuz i'm 17. ur thoughts?

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?
i can cook a mean batch of mac n cheese if that's what you mean...lol

Sold! Im getting you this weekend.

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?
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i wouldn't listen to the school cop much..there is a reason he is working that job...

why do you think you are getting arested? was something said to you. they don't tell you that they are going to arrest you a week a head of time.

what's going on with this?

hope everything works out for you :)

why do you think you are getting arested? was something said to you. they don't tell you that they are going to arrest you a week a head of time.


Because school cops are ticket hungry assholes who sit at their desks all day and when they have a chance to give a ticket they will. I punched out this kid for making fun of my brother, kneeling on the hood of my car, and then the next time he saw me popping off 2 times. I hit the kid 1 time and he went out like a lightbulb. The school cop wanted to charge me with substantial battery (a felony) and if I were 17 I would have been tried as an adult.

Bottom line, cooperate with the cop but as little as possible. He'll mess with your head. Say the witnesses stories didn't match up and try to get you to change your story. Make sure to tell the truth and stick to your story.

he's just saying that shit because he is a lazy POS. call 911.

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?

rofl

Cops in schools is overkill most of the time. Getting arrested for a typical school yard fight is just rediculous. Fucking retarded, even. Shit's been going on since the beginning of time. Should there be cops? Sure. People are supremely fucking retarded these days. Should kids get put in handcuffs, thrown in the cop car and even arrested for simple, miniscule scuffles? No way, man...that's just stupid. It's like we're just striving to create more hardened criminals.

How much homework could you have gotten done in the time it took you to author that post?



My point is not simply to be antagonistic - it is to point out that we are only hearing one side of a story here. And it doesn't add up. This is not the first topic on the subject of your parents (as seen by you).
When someone is angry, and getting physical (your Dad) - what is the best course of action you can think of? To get angry and physical back. Prompting him to get MORE physical with you - and he is much bigger and stronger than you are I'll bet.

From a self preservation point of view, you are committing suicide!! Where is your common sense? Violence begets violence. STOP LOCKING HORNS, IT DOESN'T WORK. FIND ANOTHER WAY.

From an emotional view point, being told that you're not loved, not valued, and not expected to amount to anything is horrible, and deplorable and I feel very, very sorry for you. That is emotional abuse of the worst nature. I hope you have a good network of people (friends and family other than parents) around you to offer you emotional support. It sounds as if neither of your parents have any people skills, and are totally devoid of empathy for your situation.

I do, however, think that you exacerbate this situation, as bad as it is, by trying to "force" your will on them, as they force theirs on you. That is NOT how power relationships work. THEY have the power, THEY have the rights (legally, usually) and YOU DON'T. IT SUCKS, I know, and that will all change soon, but until you are legally an adult, surround yourself with those who support and encourage you and get the highest possible education you can - because it will be more difficult later in life AND STOP FIGHTING BACK THE WAY YOU HAVE BEEN. Because it hasn't gotten you anywhere, and won't get you anywhere.

Ozzie

Move in with me. I won't beat you.

Can you cook?
haha :rofl::rofl::rofl:

like Oz said, stop fighting with them, theres no use in fighting. They will win. It doesn't seem fair but yes, they have control of your life till you are 18. fighting physically will only get you hurt. I know how over bearing parents can be, it has ruined the relationship we have. we barly ever talk, maybe 2 times a month, and we live 5 minutes away from each other.

oz is great, oz is wise.

How much homework could you have gotten done in the time it took you to author that post?



My point is not simply to be antagonistic - it is to point out that we are only hearing one side of a story here. And it doesn't add up. This is not the first topic on the subject of your parents (as seen by you).
When someone is angry, and getting physical (your Dad) - what is the best course of action you can think of? To get angry and physical back. Prompting him to get MORE physical with you - and he is much bigger and stronger than you are I'll bet.

From a self preservation point of view, you are committing suicide!! Where is your common sense? Violence begets violence. STOP LOCKING HORNS, IT DOESN'T WORK. FIND ANOTHER WAY.

From an emotional view point, being told that you're not loved, not valued, and not expected to amount to anything is horrible, and deplorable and I feel very, very sorry for you. That is emotional abuse of the worst nature. I hope you have a good network of people (friends and family other than parents) around you to offer you emotional support. It sounds as if neither of your parents have any people skills, and are totally devoid of empathy for your situation.

I do, however, think that you exacerbate this situation, as bad as it is, by trying to "force" your will on them, as they force theirs on you. That is NOT how power relationships work. THEY have the power, THEY have the rights (legally, usually) and YOU DON'T. IT SUCKS, I know, and that will all change soon, but until you are legally an adult, surround yourself with those who support and encourage you and get the highest possible education you can - because it will be more difficult later in life AND STOP FIGHTING BACK THE WAY YOU HAVE BEEN. Because it hasn't gotten you anywhere, and won't get you anywhere.

Ozzie



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WTF though, Oz, are you on the wagon or something? That response made you sound like you cared...which is unusual

quteasabutten, I have dealt indrectly with situation's like your's over the years in my job. There is no way you are gonna win this fight with your parents. Unless there is a gross negligance or abuse being done by your parents, the courts will likely side with them. If you have a job and a friend you can count on I suggest you get emancipated from your parents and move in with her/him until you can get on your own two feet. Besides the apperent physical harm you are or could be receiving from your parrents, you are dealing with a lot of emotional damage that takes a lot more time to heal from. I hope everything works out well for you and if you need someone to just talk to, PM me. I'm a good listener and I promise there won't be any cyber leg hummpin'. Good luck.

Damn Q, im sorry you have to put up with that crap. I hope everything gets atleast a little better. Like redneck said you need anyone to talk to im usually on AIM late at night. I wish you the best.

yeah the cop had told me yesterday afternoon that it is quite possible i'll be charged with assault since i had defended myself by pushing him off me by any means possible *kicking, pushing, shoving, screaming*. had i been a helpless child this would've been different. so it's abuse if the child is younger and you shove them around but if you do the same thing to them when they're 13+ it's perfectly acceptable? :screwy: school cops are gay, i agree. our last school cop doesn't work here anymore for putting false testimony on my friend's report, claiming he confessed to sexually assaulting a girl he actually never even touched.
i do my best to stay in my room alone or out with friends. i want minimal contact with the rest of my family. i do have some friends who'll do anything to make sure i'm safe and they let me know i'm loved and am a good person. one of them works at the #1 radio station in madison and is good friends with cheif of police in madison. so yup, at least we have some superb legal advice on our side. i'm going to graduate high school, move out into the cheapest apartment in madison this summer, then in the fall go off to college for business.
anyone know if it's possible for me to collect welfare this summer? *i do plan on working full time also, im not a pathetic moocher or anything*

Sorry to hear that... just try to keep minimal contact like you said. It's true though, this is only one side of it. Most likely they want you to succeed in school and don't want you on the computer on MySpace posting pics of your thong, etc.

As for the welfare thing, I don't think you can collect while working a full time job.

I hope everything works out okay.

anyone know if it's possible for me to collect welfare this summer? *i do plan on working full time also, im not a pathetic moocher or anything* it'll depend on what your income will be looking like! they'll also figure in your bills, to see what you will be living off of and what'll be left over each month.

did you get arrested? "quite possible" being charged isn't the same as actually being charged. they don't warn you of that--for a charge like this.

did anyone ever pick you up ??

cause if there not going to i will :D

anyone know if it's possible for me to collect welfare this summer? *i do plan on working full time also, im not a pathetic moocher or anything*

Why would you need welfare if you are working full time?

I'm sorry about your situation, my suggestion is to stick it out until you're 18, then move out, it's obviously not a great place to be growing up in so try to keep as little contact with them as possible. they are your parents however and it will hurt to leave them but you have to think of what's best for you. if you don't contact them, they might start feeling sorry, or they might be in a different state o mind later so that you can talk to them and try to work out your differences.

One thing you can do right now is talk to them, try to get them to understand your needs, and tell them that what they did was wrong. leaving your parents is never a great thing, but sometimes it's the only way, try to use it as a last resort.

there should be a library close to your house, many libraries have computers for people to use, or you can try to use the school computers. worse comes to worse, just use a pencil and paper. why do you need a computer for an essay? do you need to do research? if so, explain to your teacher that your parents won't let you use the computer. plus you can always check out books from the library. the internet is a great thing but it's not the only way to get info.

If you need anyone to talk to there are many people here that have already offered their help, I'm just one more person you can talk to. Obviously i don't know you but sometimes it can help to just let everything out. I went through some tough times when i was younger, like grade 7 and 8, although i was mostly the cause of the stress. i got bullied alot and then i'd get into fights, i got suspended alot and almost charged with assault but the ppl droped the charges. anyways, i've got some experience with dealing with parents, i've had many a talk with my parents. besides, next year you can be at university, or college if you're in the states, and you won't have to talk with your parents. speaking of which, i can't wait till next year, university baby.

so just try to tough it out, keep your head high and don't let your parents get to you.

there should be a library close to your house, many libraries have computers for people to use

Well if it's anything like the library I work at (I'm the IT youth apprentice aka I fix their computers). You'll get the same regulars that hog the thigns all day. Also if you can get a computer I recommend disinfectant wipes.

You're in a bad situation, that is for sure. Beef's got a good idea, head to the library to do your projects - or does your school have a computer lab? That could be an alternative. If you never get on your mother's computer, she will never be able to yell at you to get off of it. (And, if you are on it and she yells at you to get off, just say "ok", save everything and get off).

-edit- and Oz is correct: escalating the violence obviously isn't helping you, and will only end up making things worse. Be the bigger person, and don't get drawn into the sh*t.

I don't envy your situation, and everyone goes through something similar - but not always as intense. Hang in there for a few more months, get your HS diploma, and get ready to move out. Don't forget you have numerous options, anything from working full time, college and work, military, etc. But don't quit - things will get better.

yeah i always post on here from the library. i haven't had my own computer password at home in almost 3 years and they have deleted my account off the computer *which deletes permenantly all my saved files too* on numerous occasions. i'm not a very violent or aggressive person, the physical things have only happened a few times. i've found a few apartment possibilities in downtown madison, i'm planning on contacting the person about living there too to find out what i need to do to get one. my mom left me at school on purpose today, showed up and picked up my brother and his friend but left me there. they do shit like that all the time that isn't "abuse" but isn't good parenting. it's not fair how much they play favorites and let me know they don't want me :(

why do you think you are getting arested? was something said to you. they don't tell you that they are going to arrest you a week a head of time.

cop: "yea, so don't leave the state or anything in the next week, im really tempted to arrest you, but i've got lunch in 5. i'll drop by on thursday..."

So do they just say to you "we don't love you" or something like that?

... hey just beware ..she may start asking for stuff soon .. :D


your how old ??

dam girl .. time to nut up and be a woman. do good in school, and then get out on your own asap. dont pay no attention to them.. move on with your life dont stand still ..

shit or get off the pot !!

we all gave you alot of hugs already ... some offered to pick you up and take you from that sitaution .. :D ... so what else is there ??

come on ..quit acting like a girl .... lol

j/k'ing !!

Don't listen to a school cop about what goes on at your house. they are just as useless as a mall cop. Just like the other post try not to butt heads with them anymore. Eventually this will lead to someone being arrested, I went through kind of the same thing when I was 16 and i ended up getting arrested 2 and I never got violent just did the same as you and pushed off of me. there has to be some common ground somewhere for you and your family just got to find it without clashing. Hopefully it all works out for you and you get a appt. soon. Once you move out things will probably be alot calmer between ya'll.

... hey just beware ..she may start asking for stuff soon .. :D


your how old ??

dam girl .. time to nut up and be a woman. do good in school, and then get out on your own asap. dont pay no attention to them.. move on with your life dont stand still ..

shit or get off the pot !!

we all gave you alot of hugs already ... some offered to pick you up and take you from that sitaution .. :D ... so what else is there ??

come on ..quit acting like a girl .... lol

j/k'ing !!

Ya know...in all honestly, I agree. If you can't win in the situation, then fuck it. Do what you have to do. It's pretty obvious that your family isn't on your side, so make them enemies. Turn your back as they did on you. Don't talk to them, don't start fights, say as little to them as possible...just bust your ass in school, move away and go to college. Get a great degree, make bunches of money and watch them crawl back!!!

In the end, you'll be the much stronger, better person for it. Just don't give up. I'm sure your pals on here will help ya out in any way we can. I will...just lemme know!

"The trick is to keep breathing."

Don't listen to a school cop about what goes on at your house. they are just as useless as a mall cop.

Might be as useless but they can do a hell of a lot more than a typical security guard.

Might be as useless but they can do a hell of a lot more than a typical security guard.


Yeah instead of searching your bags, they search your LOCKER!!!!

i've been there and done that... sorry to hear about that. all i can say is that i don't know of a 17 yr old that doesn't have some sort of problem with their parents. good luck tho... seriously. just do what you gotta do.

i've been there and done that... sorry to hear about that. all i can say is that i don't know of a 17 yr old that doesn't have some sort of problem with their parents. good luck tho... seriously. just do what you gotta do.

I really don't except they make me go to church and certain places. I can usually come home as late as I want and if I go drinking they don't care as long as I'm responsible and don't drive.

You guys have school cops? :eek7:

You guys have school cops? :eek7:

Basicly.. I think almost every Highschool has one.. along with Middle schools, or atleas the one I went to did.

i hope everything works out for you man

she's a girl

Basicly.. I think almost every Highschool has one.. along with Middle schools, or atleas the one I went to did.

Same here one at the midde and high schools. I really don't get it though. I mean my school has like 1300 people in a town of 20,000. I don't see why they need 2 cops just sitting at desks all day.

I dont get it much either, until you see someone act up and the cop puts down the law. The thing is that not everybody acts up and few go over the line to begin with.