short to no relationships?

cool, new sub forum, and i'm the first thread. suck on that! suck it long, suck it hard!

...right, here's something i'd like to discuss:

does anyone here have very very short relationships? i mean, me as an example, after college started, i've been just kinda having fun, never looking for a relationship. is that normal with everyone here? i mean, it'd be nice to actually have a gf again, you know, someone to relaly love, but i mean, i have a lot of chic friends who i do that caring bs for, and i'm having way too much fun drinking, getting laid, waking up, and running away. not really something healthy i guess. seriously though, i haven't wanted a gf in a while, and now i'm thinking it'd be nice, its somehting i'm missing in my life, u know? maybe cuz February just rollled around, and the 14th is just coming up fast, lol :tongue:. anybody ever in this position and now a good person with a good gf and a good life have advise on how to stop being so typical college kid?
(i'm pretty stoned and hope this thread makes sense. it does for me. all of a sudden, i'm in this whole looking at my life thing right now with relationships, future, school, etc... wierd.)

I'd say don't really worry about it, you'll find one that you'll want to keep around eventually but till then you'r still in college enjoy it while you can.
I've been seperated/divorced since Aug. and I took a break from it all for a month to get my shit straight. Well since then I have had 3 gf's and the longest one was 3 wks. They kept complaining i wouldn't spend much time with them. Tried explaining I got my daughter and i don't really want a gf around her so much so they don't get attached and she think she's her mom blah blah blah. I decided to wait till i get back into college then I'll find a gf.

i pretty much do the same thing as you and i've been thinking about a girlfriend too but i don't really care about valentines day (too broke to buy her anything anyway), i wanna hear some advice too

well being a college student i'm as broke as anyone, but its just that its nice to have a day specifically for you and a gf. given, its just a hallmark card holiday, but still. its nice... i'm so terribly lonely... lol

Well I am here to make a useless post and leave my mark forever in the first thread started.. thank you :D

yeah i've noticed i have short relationships too. i go thru guys rather fast. it's like oo they want me, i get to know them better and find out they're not what i thought they were *i think it also comes from that i'm a slightly bad judge of character* and then they get pissed at me cuz i'm in love with someone else i just can't be with right now and then boom it's over. then i find a new hottie and it starts all over again. *sigh* i've given up on guys until college tho...:rolleyes:
edit: i can't wait for valentines day! even tho i'm technically single...i still have someone to share it with, he's just 350 miles away

yeah i've noticed i have short relationships too. i go thru guys rather fast. it's like oo they want me, i get to know them better and find out they're not what i thought they were *i think it also comes from that i'm a slightly bad judge of character* and then they get pissed at me cuz i'm in love with someone else i just can't be with right now and then boom it's over. then i find a new hottie and it starts all over again. *sigh* i've given up on guys until college tho...:rolleyes:
edit: i can't wait for valentines day! even tho i'm technically single...i still have someone to share it with, he's just 350 miles away

instead of loving an ideal for a man, and finding out that whoever you're going out with doesn't turn out to be that ideal, try learning to love the things abot whoever you are going out with. try it, just pick a guy you sorta like, go out with him, and instead of seeing similarities to your ideal man, look at the qualities that make him different and attractive.
See, my problem is i don't look at anything but what i see through beer goggles. If i were to go out with someone again, i don't set up parameters. well, ok, i do set up the shallow ones, like "no fat chicks". but otherwise, i'll go out with them, and see if i can get to like who they are, not try and hope who they might be. if they're just annoying, ditch 'em.

I'll usually get to know them for a bit first before i put on the beer goggles,
not all the time but usually, so this way i can see if it someone i'd want to have a relationship. First impressions matter alot but they are only accurate when ya'll are both sober.

You know, Vin.. im going to try that, just not with a guy. :lol2:

i have had short relationships in the past and some long ones but i find if you're not really sure about if you want a gf or not its better just to wait because one of the worst things you can do is psh yourself into a relationship because you're sick of all the short ones because people are only going to end up getting hurt

I did that short relationship thing for a long time. Never more than 2 months/gf, ditching girls close to holidays, maybe not remembering the name of the girl you wake up next to. I have been married for almost 9 years now and I wouldn't ever go back to that life.

well at least they're short...i went on with one for 4.5 years, and now i've been single for over a year now.....and yeah it kind of sucks (i don't even get the one-night stand or anything) but at least it'll keep you richer in the wallet......

Im not the kind of person to get involved for one nighters or to fool around for a while. I'm not that kind of guy, if i find someone (and i think i have), i'm very loyal. I've done the dating thing plenty of times, but i would never take advantage of a girl.

Im not the kind of person to get involved for one nighters or to fool around for a while. I'm not that kind of guy, if i find someone (and i think i have), i'm very loyal. I've done the dating thing plenty of times, but i would never take advantage of a girl.
Amen to that brother!

Im not the kind of person to get involved for one nighters or to fool around for a while. I'm not that kind of guy, if i find someone (and i think i have), i'm very loyal. I've done the dating thing plenty of times, but i would never take advantage of a girl.

How does one night stand = taking advantage of a girl?

How does one night stand = taking advantage of a girl?

+1. i mean, i've got a lotta respect for you josh for being like that, but me, for example, i'm not someone who takes advantage of a girl. if anything, she's there for the same reason as me. One nighters are different for me than hooking up with someone i know or/and like. I barely even know the person, if at all. If i grow to like them, i'll go out with them. If i do find someone i like, i'm very loyal as well. I would never do anything dishonest or unloyal to someone i loved. Even if they pissed me off so much, and i know i still love them, i'd never do anything to hurt 'em.
just setting that straight, so you know i'm not some deadbeat taking advantage of drunk girls in the bars. if anything, the way things are lookin, i'd say i'm the victim :cwm27: ...

... she's there for the same reason as me. One nighters are different for me than hooking up with someone i know or/and like. I barely even know the person, if at all. If i grow to like them, i'll go out with them.

It would be hard to imagine trying to be loyal to someone you hooked up with on the first night, even if you grew to like them. How could you ever trust them? That is no way to start a relationship. If they are willing to give it up when you don't even know each other it's probably not the first, or the last time.

One night stand does not = taking advantage of.
I only consider it taking advantage of when they are impaired (high, drunk, etc.), and I never understood how some guys think thats fun. Whats the point? Might as well hump the couch or a blow-up doll :( . I despise date rapists. :killbarne

It would be hard to imagine trying to be loyal to someone you hooked up with on the first night, even if you grew to like them. How could you ever trust them? That is no way to start a relationship. If they are willing to give it up when you don't even know each other it's probably not the first, or the last time.

you're right, it is hard to trust them at first, but you'd be surprised at how many times i've seen it work out. my best example is my friend t-bag who met his current gf at a party for the first time, they both got drunk, ended up sleeping with eachother there, next morning hung out for a bit, liked each other, and they've been together for about a year now. it doesn't work for everyone, i guess.

t-bag
Nice nickname :D. How'd he get that?:naughty:

Sounds like he got lucky in more ways than one. Maybe his relationship will work out inspite of the way they met.

Nice nickname :D. How'd he get that?:naughty:

Sounds like he got lucky in more ways than one. Maybe his relationship will work out inspite of the way they met.

it might, it might not. who knows, right? anyway, yeah, he earned that name, lol. plus, it's easier to say than tyler.

Sounds like all your talking about is a blow job.

How does one night stand = taking advantage of a girl?


I didn't say that, that was a completely different though that happened to be in the same paragraph. I know that girls are usually more guilty of wanting to do that than guys.

I know that girls are usually more guilty of wanting to do that than guys.
Shhh, don't tell everyone.:sly:

Sounds like all your talking about is a blow job.

Tea-bagging: "Tea bagging" is a slang term for when a person stimulates a man's testicles with her or his mouth. Some people use "tea bagging" to refer to the act of lowering one's scrotum into another person's mouth.
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Tea-bagging: "Tea bagging" is a slang term for when a person stimulates a man's testicles with her or his mouth. Some people use "tea bagging" to refer to the act of lowering one's scrotum into another person's mouth.
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wow, you should write for webster's...