AIM Chat

Ok, me and my fiance have been engaged for 3 months, now my parents like her too. Problem is that she talks to her ex ALOT, and she doesn't do it on the phone, she does it alone on aim. So is there any program that I could type in her s/n and log her chats? Because I really can't deal with this anymore, and I don't wanna tie the knot like this. Thanks

don't do anything shady yourself or you lose your edge if an argument should arise. Spying on her secretly would not go over well if she found out. I recomend just approaching her on it and explaining how you are feeling.

This is a wierd first post...

Just buy yourself some sort of a key logger.

I don't know about aim, but yahoo has it. If you know her password or can get it it should have a message achive. You can delete it though so she might do that.

If I didn't know better I would say it's just a troll looking for attention.....

I know its a wierd 1st post, but I've been hanging around here for acouple of months,just checking it out, and when this problem arose I tried finding the solution my self, and I couldn't. So I thought maybe you guys know a program like the one i described. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just like closes the door, so i need to do it this way.

i know the feeling, my GF used to talk to her X every now and then on the phone. She always said they were just friends and wanted to keep in touch. And for her part that was true. But i told her, Guys cant be friends with girls, if a guy is a friend with a girl its because he wants her. She kept saying no no its not like that. We about 6 months ago he leaves her this message that he is still in love with her and wants her back. My gf was upset and told me about it. I rubbed in a little that i was right. I was also kinda pissed and told her that if she kept talking to him i was gonna leave her. She stopped talking to him and thats been the end of it.

Dead Aim does it just tell her its for taking away ads which it also does. PM or Aim me if you need help getting it. :)

Uninstall AIM.

Yeah, installing a keylogger on your fiance's computer is a great way to strengthen trust in the relationship.

Talk to her and tell her you're uncomfortable with it, dufus.

lol, I dun think i'll be able to get on her comp. I'll give it a shot tho, does anybody know a program that I can do it from my comp??

I'm sure there's a way if you're using a router and have the systems connected. But like Toksin said, not a smart way to make progress. Just tell her about it!

Lol i'm glad that girl said no. A gf is too much of a hassle at this age i'm 15 btw almost 16.

So your not comfortable just talking about a problem with your fiance? Don't do a key logger or crap like that, if she finds out, she is going to be Pissed. Just ask her whats goin on and tell her about your insecurity with it.

WOW.

No offense but if you can't even talk to your fiance about this then the marriage isn't gonna get very far. As for the whole men can't be friends with girls bullshit...that depends on the guy.

Seriously you're just promoting the steretype that women have believed in forever. Just because a guy is friends with a girl doesn't mean he wants to fuck her. I have many friends that are girls, i also have a girlfriend does this mean i plan on fucking every woman i come into contact with? And installing a keylogger? Whoa, hope you plan on finding a new woman if she finds out. That's like recording her phone calls/video tapping her apartment. Man, if i found out my girl was doing that she would not only get the boot, i would prolly kill her. Peace-

Let it be man. She's engaged to you. My girlfriend talks to her ex online, that doesn't mean I worry. I trust her:smile:. If it really bothers you, sit there and talk to her about it.

id just like to say im friends with all my exes but one who refuses to talk to me and frankly i want nothing to do with him. even the guys i have fooled around with i keep in touch with, and i have no interest in them anymore now that i have a boyfriend, and they fully know that.

so maybe i wouldnt worry too too much about it.

sorry bro, but yeah, its a no-brainer. dude, don't keep shit from her. just come out with it like a big boy. talking and staying the night are still ballfields away, last i heard, so stop being so paranoid.

like I said earlier spying is a no-no in a relationship. you need to make it clear to her that this makes you uncomfortable. If she doesn't understand that then maybe you guys aren't ready to be engaged.


To put it clear and simple. If you spy on her and she finds out then you are going to be the one in the doghouse, and you know who she is going to turn to to bitch about it? thats right her ex. The very one that you were worried about. So in reality you may be getting paranoid about nothing and by spying you may turn your fears into reality. Just talk to her about it, don't spy.

k, I'm gonna talk to her about it :)

Like a few others have said. If you have a problem with your girlfriend, just tell her. I've meesed up a few relationships because I couldn't just tell her the feelings I had. A couple of months ago it all just builtup and went to shit. Needless to say I lost a wonderful person because I couldn't be a man and say something. I've learned snece then and I haven't had a problem sience. Just talk to her man

Sheesh.

Takes a billion people screaming at him on the internet before he mans up and talks to her.

Should we start a pool on how long the marriage lasts?

Sheesh.

Takes a billion people screaming at him on the internet before he mans up and talks to her.

Should we start a pool on how long the marriage lasts?


definitely, but we should wait till the outcome of their little chat, it may not even make it to marriage.

definitely, but we should wait till the outcome of their little chat, it may not even make it to marriage.


:iagree:

Trust and communication are pretty much the most important things in making a relationship work. Doesnt really sound like you have either.

:iagree:

Trust and communication are pretty much the most important things in making a relationship work. Doesnt really sound like you have either.

Well said.