women

i am a freshman in college and as a freshman i started out the year with two close guy friends and one girl in the same group. we considered ourselves a family blah blah blah yadda yadda...

so with the girl i was her closest friend. just being myself which in turn caused me to be very nice to her. when i meet women who give me an opportunity to i am this way because i believe it is the proper way to treat a lady

so i end up telling her how i feel about her. that shes awesome and deserves someone who will make her happy.

and this freaked her out

she thinks i've had alterior motives this whole time and was only nice to her to...whatever
i don't know

she isn't talking to me and apparently doesn't want to be friends with the whole group of us anymore...

bitch?

i don't know, i just want her to talk to me so we can straighten things out

thoughts?

She's crazy.. you're better off finding this out now rather than later.

i call the insecure card...any takers?

:iagree:

I've had that happen before. Oh, more than once.

I no longer tell girls how i feel. I just let it happen.

Maybe she sees it as friendship under false pretences?

Either way, I think your stuck in the 'friend' bag forever

we just need to talk to handle this like grown-ups...

so today i was going to do my laundry and i see her at the location across the hall, so i choose my normal one which is on the other side. she was alone, typing a paper on her laptop and i respect that and leave her alone.

as i'm coming back from lunch she sees me and when i'm leaving she has a group of her, "new and improved friends," all laughing and having a grand old time. shes beginning to make me believe that i've done something.

i know i know, i haven't done anything and all i need to do is go out and meet new people, but its hard when someone who you have had for so long just moves on without even talking to you.

...yeah

le sigh

PS http://intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

that is a link from her facebook which i'm assuming she follows to the T, which is why i believe i'm in this situation

yeah just forget about her i've been friends with girls like that too. we used to be best friends until she thought she was too good for the rest of us and is always flaunting her new, "better" friends. so i went and found other people too, no need to put up with that BS, and neither should you. find some other girl who will appreciate that ur a nice caring guy :)

I found the ladder theory to be fascinating... so I guess you're not rich enough? And if she emerged from the bathroom naked, would you fuck her? I think subconsciencously you did want to fuck her, and your situation in fact does fit the ladder theory to a capital T.

i suppose i thought she understood me better than how it actually turned out in reality...human nature is something i cannot escape and apparently something i'll have to deal with

Do her.

Do her.
:disappoin typical ignorant guy response...

Either way, I think your stuck in the 'friend' bag forever

yup, oz is right, either you're stuck to being a friend or you're not even gonna get the "privelidge" of being that.

typical ignorant guy response...

heres the joke.. ---------> o


heres your head.. --------> o

human nature is something i cannot escape and apparently something i'll have to deal with

hey, how bout another great thing to deal with? there are 5 FUCKING BILLION MORE CHICKS out there. SO, keep your head up, man - and eat a goddamn donut.

After becoming friends with a girl, you can't them you have feelings for her. In fact, you never tell a girl you have feelings for her. You have to ask them out fast otherwise they figure you just wanted to be friends. It happens. Welcome to the friend zone.

In fact, you never tell a girl you have feelings for her.

Either you're an idiot, or you grew up in China.

On topic: I'd talk to her next time you see her. Tell her what you meant. If she doesn't want to talk...she might not have been all that good of a friend to begin with.

there are 5 FUCKING BILLION MORE CHICKS out there.

Good lord I hope this is not true. There are just over 6 billion people on this planet. I'd be at a 5:1 disadvantage. Key words "I'd be", because I'm with a fabulous guy. I'm one of the lucky ones :biggrin:

Yea a lot of women have this whacked out idea that the only reason you became friends with them was because you wanted to get some, and this was all part of "your master plan." Women forgot that men are not really complicated creatures. All we want is not to be fucked with and then we're pretty happy. They don't get that after being friends for awhile that feelings develop that go beyond friends, and that is just natural. If she thinks she's so special, they screw it leave her alone and go find some other chick then flaunt it in her face. lol. seriously fuck it man, life's to short to be worrying about this shit. Peace-

Either you're an idiot, or you grew up in China.

On topic: I'd talk to her next time you see her. Tell her what you meant. If she doesn't want to talk...she might not have been all that good of a friend to begin with.
No doofus, you're an idiot. Of course you can tell a girl you have feelings for her. You say this to your girlfriend or wife, not a FRIEND.

Either you're an idiot, or you grew up in China.

On topic: I'd talk to her next time you see her. Tell her what you meant. If she doesn't want to talk...she might not have been all that good of a friend to begin with.

Hmm. Making fun of Chinese people? You'll soon learn racism is something not appreciated here. Even making fun of people can get you in trouble. just a heads up.

And on a different note, i'm in the same boat as you man, the same situation (esentially) happened to me a couple of years ago and it took my friend a whole year just to start talking to me, and even then she was a bit on the odd side. SHe's fine now, 2 years later :(

I still find it so bizarre that some chicks are so shallow/naive/immature that they freak out if a guy even hints at alterior motives. I've had tons of guy friends profess their love of me, I let them down easy, and we're still friends. I've even fooled around with a couple, stopped, and we still continue to be friends.

I have a theory. My theory is that guys and girls can't be friends without there being more romantic feelings either way at least at some point. I don't think this is a problem, and can even strengthen a friend relationship.

I tend to get along better with guys, most of my friends are guys. The few chicks I get along with are like me, they don't like chicks. I've been there many times, and I just don't find it a humungo problem at all.

Yeah dude, I say just start screwing with her. Ask her out all the time and tell her how awesome she is. Better yet, just walk up and start kissing her. She'll dig that.

No doofus, you're an idiot. Of course you can tell a girl you have feelings for her. You say this to your girlfriend or wife, not a FRIEND.

You never said friend. You said girl.

Hmm. Making fun of Chinese people? You'll soon learn racism is something not appreciated here. Even making fun of people can get you in trouble. just a heads up.

Not making fun of the Chinese. I'm making fun of Communists and their rules on love. I suppose I should have said "Either you're an idiot, or you grew up a Communist"

Dangerous animals can be viewed in cages at the zoo. Women can be viewed in cages at the strip club. Makes sense to me.

^I like that! :)

That intellectualwhore link is great

That intellectualwhore link is great

the application to our situation is frightening...yet rather explanatory

i appreciate everyone's interest on the subject.

tomorrow we're going to talk this over...i'll let you guys know

and no i'm not salvaging a relationship only a friendship

tell her how you feel by punching her in the face

You never said friend. You said girl.



Not making fun of the Chinese. I'm making fun of Communists and their rules on love. I suppose I should have said "Either you're an idiot, or you grew up a Communist"

China is only is communist by title, they're slowely converting to capitalist. You were obviously making fun of chinese because china isn't the only communist country in the world, you could have easily used the word communist instead of chinese.

omg just let the whole china/communist thing go, that is not even close to the point of the thread and a completely pointless argument

China is only is communist by title, they're slowely converting to capitalist. You were obviously making fun of chinese because china isn't the only communist country in the world, you could have easily used the word communist instead of chinese.

Seriously man, it's not their fault they don't enough about the world to know who's communist and who's not etc. Deal with it. Why is this thread still around???

Where is this girl? I will slap some sense into her :D

On a serious note, it sounds like she could be one of those girls that reads too much into things, dunno. I've always had a group of guy friends, even after meeting my husband and always felt like one of the guys. If someone decided to compliment my hair or make up it flattered me that they notice I AM a woman, but I never felt they were complimenting to get in my pants. Then again I am a weird one because I don't like to hang out at coffee shops with other women talking about the things my husband didn't do for me or what a big jerk so n so's husband/bf is.

Hey whiteex, forget her man, next time you see her just go up to her and start dissing her infront of everybody and then pimp slap her and say " Aint this a bitch" BITCH! (hahaha and then she will start crying and make you her boyfriend)