Girl problems

Well Wednesday I asked out this girl who I had a crush on for like 2 months now. I just asked her if she'd like to go watch a movie Sunday night, and she's like "Yeah, sure, that'd be great". So then I try to setup a time and everything, but then she remembers that she has this other thing to go to Sunday night (legitimate, not just making it up), and she's not sure as to what time it's at. So she tells me to call her back Friday afternoon to setup the time. Well, as my luck would have it, I called her twice today, and I couldn't get a hold of her, so I just left her a message, basically telling her that I needed to talk to her and asked her to give me a call. Well, it's like 11:20 pm, and still nothing. And this is supposed to take place Sunday. I really have no idea what to do, I mean I can't just keep calling like a bitch.

Just chill out man, it aint Sunday night yet.

Just keep calling her, and tell her love poems in her voice mail. When she sees 136 new messages, all from you, all love poems, she'll be all over you.

^Very nice...and very true. Chill, at least you're makin' progress.

The last 5 girls ive been interested in have had b/f's and I dont find out til at least a week later and I hang out with them everyday!!! More than their boys...that's just messed up. Why me!?! Now, I'm like all their best friend and *sigh*. What'll suck worse is when they all need be for a shoulder to cry on. Then i got 5 girls to deal with. Aye...I aint got that kina money!

Why does everyone try so hard? Settle down and just call once and wait for her to call back. Dont freak out, just chill.

Just keep calling her, and tell her love poems in her voice mail. When she sees 136 new messages, all from you, all love poems, she'll be all over you.


Thanks for the Advice Rick. I did that all night long, and now i'm no longer worried, she will be all over me next time I see her.

Well anyways, on a more serious note, you guys are right. I just need to chill. I don't know, but I have this really bad feeling that it will not work out.

Never call more than once. If they don't answer, leave her a message, and leave the ball in her court.

Never call more than once. If they don't answer, leave her a message, and leave the ball in her court.
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girls are bitches yo. they'll lead you on. You don't wanna go down like a bitch because you called her too much. Let her go down like a bitch because you called her once and never again.

rick, didnt you contradict yourself then ? you said to keep callin', leave messages an love poems etc..

then you agreed with MBTN an said only to call once.

which should he do ? i'm confused now.

It's called sarcasm young grasshopper. You have much growing up to do ;)

Girls play games which is why we love and hate them so much.

And and for the record don't ask "...a movie or something". Never say "or something". Always have a specific plan. Women like it when you take control of the situation but aren't demanding. A movie is sometimes a bad idea for a date. Nothing says "you're not interesting enough to talk to for 2 hours" like a movie does. Go for coffee, icecream, bowling et cetera. Something interactive. You don't want to be sitting staring at a screen because you'll never accomplish anything that way.

And and for the record don't ask "...a movie or something". Never say "or something". Always have a specific plan. Women like it when you take control of the situation but aren't demanding. A movie is sometimes a bad idea for a date. Nothing says "you're not interesting enough to talk to for 2 hours" like a movie does. Go for coffee, icecream, bowling et cetera. Something interactive. You don't want to be sitting staring at a screen because you'll never accomplish anything that way.

Thinking back about it, I don't think I said "or something", so I think I'm fine. It was her idea going out to a movie on a first date. Here's the thing. I was just hanging out with her, her sister, her sister's boyfriend and her best friend (female) one afternoon, and the conversation turned to dating. All of a sudden she went off on what she likes and what she doesn't like to do on a first date. She said going to a movie is a good idea for a first date.

It's called sarcasm young grasshopper. You have much growing up to do ;)

Girls play games which is why we love and hate them so much.

And and for the record don't ask "...a movie or something". Never say "or something". Always have a specific plan. Women like it when you take control of the situation but aren't demanding. A movie is sometimes a bad idea for a date. Nothing says "you're not interesting enough to talk to for 2 hours" like a movie does. Go for coffee, icecream, bowling et cetera. Something interactive. You don't want to be sitting staring at a screen because you'll never accomplish anything that way.

i got plent of time to wait to. i have literally no free time these days. its not unusua for me to got on 36 hour stints of working. i was up thursday morning at 6:45am had school etc... had loads of work so i was up all night etc.. an all the next day. living on chicken sandwiches an redbull drink. (i had the same amount of caffine as 72 cups of coffee in the time i was up) eventually slept early friday night. so i was up a total of 37 hours follow by a straight 20 hours of sleep (no jokes).


but for the record, i'll think of something other than a movie for the next time. something without drink, i dont drink at all.

Well OK if it was her idea, than obviously go with it. However plan on something else afterwards when you can interact with her.

yeah chicks hate it when your every response is "well, i dont care, what do you want to do?" HAVE SOME BALLS!!!! take charge of the situation and make a decision. i was hanging out with a potential boyfriend last night and i suggested going and getting milkshakes. he said "yeah, i guess so" and totally sounded like he didnt want to. i pointed that out, said "well, what do YOU want to do?" and he said "i dont care, whatever you want to do?" the main reason this bugged me so much is that i had come up with our other plans for the night (have dinner then drive around and look for snow up in the mountains, which we did). girls like to be treated and surprised most of the time. just try and be sure that if you're surprising her it will be something she likes. you said you're friends with her sister and her sisters boyfriend -- THAT IS A TOTAL ONE-UP. think of something and ask her sisters opinion of whether or not your (potential) girl would think of it.

also, MBTN got it right on: dont call more than once. but DEFINITELY leave a message if you can and try and sound as cool and relaxed as possible. then the ball is in her court and you can live your life normally again.

Ok, so she never called me. I guess she's not interested. Next time I see her, should I at least ask her if she got my message, or not even that?

Just say hello, nothing else. If she just says "oh hello." then she got your message and blew you off. Otherwise she will either tell you she got your message but was busy, or she will say she didn't get your message at all.

I mean its entirely possible that I called the wrong number, or that my message was inaudible, etc and she wouldn't necessarily know that I called. Should I mention it maybe after she doesn't say anything?

Say hello and see what kind of vibe you get. If she seems to be avoiding you, then you know what's up...

Well, I went ahead and talked to her about it. I told her that I was confused by her actions (she said "yes" and then didn't return my message), so then she's like I never said yes, I said "maybe". And then she was making up some bs excuses about not calling me. Oh well, looking back at it now, it's actually kind of funny that she would say "I never said 'yes'".

shady girls make up excuses. i'd say give it another shot and if she does the same thing, forget about it (and her). dont waste your time on someone who doesnt want to spend their time with you.

Seriously, I'm dealing with this girl who is sooooooooo fucking passive it's not even funny. EVERY time we've done something I have to decide(we're talking possibly hundreds of dates) I don't give a shit about the whole balls thing! I have balls I know that, she knows that. But everytime I figure out something to do I ask her if she's cool/what would you like to do and her favorite response is "thats great, whatever you want to do" or "i don't care". And she has this thing about not calling me untill i call her, or she won't return my messages. It sounds like she's always blowing me off, but she truely digs me. Whats even worse is everytime I've talked to her about this she's like "ok, well i'm sorry i do that. I'll work on it". I've been dating on-off with this girl for like 5 years and I'm not sure i can take it anymore. WTF?? Why does the guy always have to be the one to take charge and figure shit out and handle the action. I'm going to get wasted. Peace-

"I'd say give it another shot"
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Screw it. Consider it a loss and move on. Sadly shit happens, but she was just being a typical tease.

cos men an women don't see eye-to-eye. men an women are completely different, we think "women are screwed in the head" an they think "the bastard left the toilet seat up.." its life an i can honestly say despite the psycho-analysing i like to do to try and understand them, i never will.

I get that men-women don't see eye-to-eye but you can really help the situation by taking charge. Well maybe this is the reason i've never had a real long lasting relationship besides the one i'm in right now. You have to be like LOOK!!! don't play fucking games with me, don't try to fuck me over, and don't try and treat me like shit and not expect me to do anything about it. You have to make them understand that you aren't scared to break up with them. They can't hold that over your head all the time, because it's fucking bullshit. I believe in treating women right, but i don't think that we as men should be allowed to be treated as shit. Seriously i don't understand the double standard between men and women. Women are like all men suck but as soon as a guy talks shit about a girl he is a fucking asshole. I'm gonna stop because i could go on for fucking pages about this. I love women but the majority of them piss me off beyond belief. Peace-

I get that men-women don't see eye-to-eye but you can really help the situation by taking charge. Well maybe this is the reason i've never had a real long lasting relationship besides the one i'm in right now. You have to be like LOOK!!! don't play fucking games with me, don't try to fuck me over, and don't try and treat me like shit and not expect me to do anything about it. You have to make them understand that you aren't scared to break up with them. They can't hold that over your head all the time, because it's fucking bullshit. I believe in treating women right, but i don't think that we as men should be allowed to be treated as shit. Seriously i don't understand the double standard between men and women. Women are like all men suck but as soon as a guy talks shit about a girl he is a fucking asshole. I'm gonna stop because i could go on for fucking pages about this. I love women but the majority of them piss me off beyond belief. Peace-


whew. personal experiences? Been there, done that.

Seriously some girls just don't give a rats ass. I'd say she's one of them. I don't believe in that "Oh sorry I didn't get your message" bullshit, cell phones don't magically erase messages, and not to sound sexist or anything, but most girls are addicted to their cell phones.

So like the other guys said, just move along like its no biggie.

Women are like all men suck but as soon as a guy talks shit about a girl he is a fucking asshole.
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i dont think generalized statements like that should be allowed. i have never said, nor do i believe, that all men suck. i know that there are great guys out there and i've met some of them. i do believe, though, that if girls have reasons to bad-mouth guys that guys would have just as many reasons to bad-mouth girls. :dunno:

yep, i agree with xokayso on that. i dont think its sex that decides the bad-mouthin, its the person an what they've done/what they do.

here's the deal... sounds like you've rejected lightly with the first call... if you call again, you'll just give her another opportunity to reject you again.

yeah, you can either keep trying and end up looking like a loser...or you can shrug it off like she means nothing to you and it'll be like nothing happened.

Girls aren't so different from guys, there's a lot of girls out there that think exactly like guys (they're just the ones we, as men, call sluts). I know a girl that will date a guy just to play his Xbox, now thats shallow...(did I bang her? yes, she was hot, and dating the guy w/ the xbox, but obviously messed up in the head). Some girls don't even like it when a guy wants them, they'd rather have him play hard to get. They do like dominance though, idc what they say, dominance makes them feel secure...almost the same way money makes them feel secure.

So you have about 2 choices as a guy for girls to be all over you...be strong, good looking, caring, and funny....or have money. Now if you're like me and have both....nah j/k...i dont have much money ;)