About to be dumped

I'm so close to tears I can feel my heart ripping apart.

I don't know why it went, I don't know where it went...

Everything was fine on the weekend... I was more in love with her than ever...

My life was so happy, so complete... So... right, ya know?

Then on sunday, we went into the room I stay at their place I closed the curtain and lyed on my bed, this was about 1:30, Brony (my what-was true love) came into my room to talk to me, then 10 seconds later her mum and step dad exploded saying "oh you always go behind a door or that curtain and we just don't know what you're doing".

Basically not trusting us. Brony broke down in tears. They had to leave, then Brony just broke down and started saying how they only think about them selfs (not true) and shit. I thought everything was going to be O.K...

Wazza, the step dad, wanted me gone, so I left...

I thought everything was going to be fine... I did... But she didn't talk to me... She kept saying how she's got mixed feelings, and she's confused... I went to bed wondering if she still loves me...

She's been talking about how she "can't cope with life" and "everythings bothering her"


I have desperately trying to get her to not let everything that's bothering her to affect us... But she isn't listening...

I tried so hard to calm her down, but it didn't work...

Oh god, I'm crying now, I feel like such a pussy...

Just 5 minutes ago, I asked her "tell me if you still love me", she said she does, but not the same as she did....


I begged her not to... I begged...

Kill me.

I just got a message saying she just wants to be my best mate...

Kill me.

man im sorry to hear that. Give her some time, it sounds more like her family is pressuring her not to be with you. And just remember theres pleanty of fish in the sea. Do you really want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with you enough to defy her family?

I don't know... She told me "theres plenty of fish in the sea", but that's just it, I found the one I need.

It's official. I'd still take her back... Not because I'm an idiot, but because I know she is for doing this.

That's terrible man..

I'm a firm believer that it's impossible to be "Best friends" with a girl that you love dearly. Because then you get to see who else she gets with and it burns deeper.

I dont talk to my ex.. I refuse to.

It sounds like it's not quite over yet. Just hang around and see what happens. If you do get dumped just remember it happens to everyone. You'll get over it, everyone does.

Don't give up on her.

My dad married a great lady because he wasn't afraid to deal with the crap from her family. Too bad there offspring turned out to be so sh*tty :lol2:

I didn't give up on her... She kinda gave up on me... Just "oh, sorry, thanks for your money get out of my life"... Like everything I did didn't mean shit.

Be back in 7 hours.

Eh.. good luck man.

We still need to know what was up with your "arse" post yesterday. :)

my last ex said that she wanted to be "best friends" too.. but somehow that just never works out :grinno:

anyways.. i hope you the best of luck and do get her back.. but if not, im sure u can find someone else... even though u probably dont feel that way.. u feel like theres no one else in the world like her and that shes perfect for u and all this stuff and u feel like u want to throw up because ur so sick... ive felt that way before, im sure most of us have (or was that just me?).. and now ur probably thinking, that i have no idea how u feel and that no one could feel for someone else like u feel for her, but honestly weve all felt that way before too and even though u probably don't believe me still, we'll see how u feel in 6 months time or so... in my experience its a lot easier to get over a girl when you dont see her that much... if they go to ur school, and u see her ever day then it sucks

When somebody makes you hurt like that, they know it. I guarantee all the problems in your relationship have been about her. I think she's a needy girl and she knows it will hurt you but she still wants to see you treat her like she means the world to you. And this is how she is getting you to do it. Trust me bro, anytime you have feelings like this you would be better off if you never met her. She said shit like "theres more fish in the sea", she's trying to make it look like she's optimistic for you both when really, she's just a bitch. All she wants to hear is how much you need her. Then when you say you need her, you've lost her. Do you really want a girl that couldnt live life if you decided it wasn't working out? You turned yourself into more of an obligation. Its a lose-lose situation bro. Don't cry over this shit. One day you'll look back and feel stupid for it. Do your thing, and just WAIT, because I guarantee you will learn a lot of important things in different relationships. And if you dont get that experience, then you'll be dealing with problems all the time, which you would otherwise know how to deal with. dunno if thats worded exactly right, but work with me. I had a long night.

Shitty, i'm sorry mans, I'm having a hard time as well. I finally find a girl that I care this much about then Bam, I have to move(transferring from community college to university). Sucks, but hang in there man.

If you ever feel like you need to vent in person, gimme a message man, i'll be more than happy to listen to ya.

AH... I know exactly how you feel, my friend. And i'll just tell you what was told to me when I was going thorugh the same situation (thought I didn't believe it at the time).. Time will heal you. Probably a looong time, but it'll eventually get better.

Here's some things that will help you; Don't kid yourself into thinking you're going to get abck with her. No matter how much you want it... it probably isn't going to happen. Try not to talk to her too much. The more you stay in contact with her, the more you'll be picking at the scab on your heart, so to speak. OH, and stay away from the drugs and alcohol. Trust me on this one - it only postpones and prolongs the pain.

You'll pull thorugh. Just don't do anything dumb like I did. And give yourself plenty of tiiiiiime.

Back. I didn't come on last night, I was too drunk and just went to bed.

I called her yesturday and today...

She said that on sunday night she started having mixed feelings, and basically stopped loving me then and there.

I had a go at her for just giving up, and not even wanting to work it out...

Oh god it's so hard.

It was over officially yesturday. I made sure of it today. I had a lot of support from dad and a friend. My what-was-perfect life was just destroyed.

I'm slowly starting my recovery... thanks for listening. I'm really bumbed out.

Davo- i know how you feel man. 2 years ago my gf and i broke up. We were going out for about 2-3 years and i could have seen myself with her forever. Well i caught her cheating. Which was stupid because i had almost finished purchasing a ring for her.

She "wanted to be friend" but i soon realized my life was better without her.

Things will get better.

Davo- i know how you feel man. 2 years ago my gf and i broke up. We were going out for about 2-3 years and i could have seen myself with her forever. Well i caught her cheating. Which was stupid because i had almost finished purchasing a ring for her.

She "wanted to be friend" but i soon realized my life was better without her.

Things will get better.

i had a similar situation with a 2 year relationship... but not with the ring at all cause when we broke up i was about to turn 15... and u can imagine.. all those hormones all over the place :lol: ...

not a good point in my life... u feel like ur on top of the world, and then u feel like it just ends... how do girls do that :confused:

Good question.

it will get better davo. I promis. I had my bf of 2 years do tha same thing to me after he found out that I was pregnet. I thaught I was gonna die.

Seriously if the girl wants to take her family over you than let her its better off that way. I used to date a girl who's mother and father hated me with a passion (possibly because I tanted their only child who was an "angel"). But when I first was getting to know them I was always respectfull and polite. It wasn't till like a year after we were together that her parent's started doing shit like telling me not to call the house, that she wasn't home when she was, and that she couldn't see me. This girl was fucking 19 at the time, going to college just living at home. The last straw was when I picked her up one night and we went back to my place. Like a hour later her father(this little pussy who thought he was all cool) starts pounding on my door and screaming for her to get out here or he's gonna call the cops. I went out and was like "WTF is your problem, you come up to my house causing trouble you're lucky I don't call the cops on you." This is when he said if he didn't let him in my house he was gonna knock me out, and I was like you're her father, I'm not gonna fight you, but if you hit me I'm gonna be forced to defend myself. At this point she came out and was all pissed at me, and I was just like look, you can either tell your dad to get the fuck off my property or i'm calling the cops and stay, or go with him and in that case i don't wanna ever hear from you again. Needless to say she left with her father. Last I heard she still lives with her parents and doesn't have a boyfriend the girl is like fucking 25 now!! I can understand If you're like 15 or 16 and the parents don't want you alone together but if you're over 18 they can fuck themselves trying to tell you what to do with your love life. Peace-

King, I agree. What a tosser.


Today I "threw" out everthing that reminded me of her. Oh, fuck it was hard. Her picture came down the other night... I couldn't stand to look at it... I threw out the necklace (which I loved) she gave me for my 19th :( The Jamacian doll (which even had dreadies) she gave me... I started crying when I looked at her pic (such a pussy).

I've been carrying two phones around for the past 5 months after I went out and bought another one and a new number so it was cheaper to msg and call her... I still cradel that, and look at it every 5 minutes just to see if she's msg'd me to say sorry or want to take me back...

She won't...

I've stopped eating as much... I'm just not hungry, and I've started drinking a lot, I don't know why, it just feels like an escape from reality at the moment...

My family have supported me so much, as you guys.

Dad made me realise if I take her back I'll always feel insecure and not being able to trust her, always counting down the days till she does it again, would I ever be able to love her again? I don't know.. I still love her now, and I feel like I still love her the same as before... But I don't know...

Your situation really sucks. Been there. Done that. I know that it doesn't seem like it, but things will eventually get better.

I'm not going to tell you not to drink, but make sure you don't drink too much. It won't make things any better.

as they've said, drinking doesnt help. temporarily, maybe, but dont let it get out of hand. i was never really a big drinker, but when i broke up with my ex i smoked A LOT of weed and it never actually helped anything. it just distracted me, which was good for a short period of time. then i realized, you know, there are so many more BETTER things i can be doing with my time. so i started painting. i started biking and hiking and i switched to full time at my job for the summer. lose yourself in everything that you can because the only way you can forget about her is to focus on completely on other things.

MOST IMPORTANTLY -- I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH -- SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE YOU TRUST AND LOVE AND WANT TO BE AROUND!!!! you have friends for a reason. you have family for a reason. your dad sounds like he's right on track with that, and thats awesome that you have that kind of relationship with him. but seriously, you have to work to get over someone like her. someone that you love but know you shouldnt or cant. it's rough, but time works wonders. "nature, time, and patience are three great physicians." i got that in a fortune cookie and i keep it taped to my mirror so i see it whenever i happen to look in the mirror. make that your mantra.

as they've said, drinking doesnt help. temporarily, maybe, but dont let it get out of hand. i was never really a big drinker, but when i broke up with my ex i smoked A LOT of weed and it never actually helped anything. it just distracted me, which was good for a short period of time. then i realized, you know, there are so many more BETTER things i can be doing with my time. so i started painting. i started biking and hiking and i switched to full time at my job for the summer. lose yourself in everything that you can because the only way you can forget about her is to focus on completely on other things.

MOST IMPORTANTLY -- I CANNOT STRESS THIS ENOUGH -- SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE YOU TRUST AND LOVE AND WANT TO BE AROUND!!!! you have friends for a reason. you have family for a reason. your dad sounds like he's right on track with that, and thats awesome that you have that kind of relationship with him. but seriously, you have to work to get over someone like her. someone that you love but know you shouldnt or cant. it's rough, but time works wonders. "nature, time, and patience are three great physicians." i got that in a fortune cookie and i keep it taped to my mirror so i see it whenever i happen to look in the mirror. make that your mantra.
Right on.

I gotta second that whole post. You'll never trust her bro. I was with my ex for about 2 1/2 years, but she admitted to cheating 9 months into it. It was never the same. She wants me back now, and the last time I saw her was a year and a half ago. I still don't trust her.


The wise man is not the man who knows all, but the man who LISTENS to the man who knows all.

The temptation to talk to her is rough, I know it. I made all the mistakes you're wanting to make. But the fact is that I should have just moved on right away. You are still Davo. You'll be davo tomorrow, and davo in ten years from now. No girl can take that away from you..... unless you let her. Right now you're letting her, and you aren't davo. You're "her ex". Dont be that guy. When you wish you could talk to her just tell yourself that its okay to miss her.... but not okay to dwell.

Im telling you man shit passes... I know how it is... The whole I feel like my life is over and I have nothing to live for feeling but trust me you will get over it. Love it or hate it as the expression goes. In thing cases look back and smile on the good times together and be done with it. Two... I wouldn't be her best friend now just because it will hurt you more in the long run. Just let it passes and say goodbye. Don't be a be to mean about it but don't be a bitch either. Tell her strait out your done. It's for the best.

Me personally which some people think is sad but I don't - I'm more or less a materialistic person, I never want to be commited etc. Especially after see'ing my friend's GF dump him make out with another guy the same day and then he lets her back into his life again - She totally controls him, I can't stand the sight of her she's a disgrace. Back to the main point.

In the end just go your separate ways leaving neutral....

The temptation to talk to her is rough, I know it. I made all the mistakes you're wanting to make. But the fact is that I should have just moved on right away. You are still Davo. You'll be davo tomorrow, and davo in ten years from now. No girl can take that away from you..... unless you let her. Right now you're letting her, and you aren't davo. You're "her ex". Dont be that guy. When you wish you could talk to her just tell yourself that its okay to miss her.... but not okay to dwell.

to summarize:
1. dont talk to her
2. move on
3. you are Davo!
4. keep being Davo!
5. dont let bitches f**k with your s**t and make you "un-Davo-ish"

Down with the bitches and the hoes!!!....honestly I have found it helps to go on a vacation....it sounds so cliche but if you get out where you're at for a couple days and just live for the moment and not the past you'll feel alot better about yourself.......

on a side note, this is one of the best relationship threads i've read yet.......good job guys....and who said that guys were just pigs that treat woment like meat....psh* gimme a break...






damn my neighbors daughter is lookin fiiiiiiine today........damn! i'd like to "do some laundry" with her!! :lol2:

i like meat.





but not women.

hehe thanks guy, you are right :) I'm glad I posted this and not let it eat me.

I'm not drinking much, I went out last night but I stopped drinking after 8 beers, I might be drinking with friends on monday, and next saturday, but that's about it... I'm not a big drinker, I don't want to burn my self out.

Thanks guys...

Im glad to hear you're doin alright davo. Just remember to keep that smile on. Like mcdonalds.... or something.

Davo, trust me, the last thing you want is to be stuck in a relationship with the girl going "I'm not sure about my feelings but I'll try to make it work." It never works. Once there's doubt, any doubt at all, its over.

It's best that it ended now, quickly.

Harsh, but true brother.

Dave, that's true.

Even if she did tell me "oh, I'm sorry I love you so much" I'd have that doubt in my mind.. :(

I'm slowly getting by, I miss her so much. I've stopped using the phone that I used for her, I deleted all her pics from my camera phone, and the ones on the computer, erased all messages from any of her family except her brother (he's a legend), and I've started feeling normal again. :)

Good lad, get rid of any reminders.

Spend as much time with your mates as possible. Also go to lots of house parties.

Why?

Because the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.

Alllllllllriiiighht....
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it's not stopping, the depresson is really starting to hit. I'm more depressed now than ever.


*ed*

I got really bumed down because I found out a few things maybe I shouldn't of, I've since looked on the bright side of life, sober this time :)

it's not stopping, the depresson is really starting to hit. I'm more depressed now than ever.


*ed*

I got really bumed down because I found out a few things maybe I shouldn't of, I've since looked on the bright side of life, sober this time :)

At times like this, looking on the bright side is pretty much all you can do. I'm glad to hear you were doing it sober too. As a non-drinker myself, I think its better to stay sober when you're depressed, prevents you from doing things since your inhibitions are still there. As for the guy who said the thing about house partys and "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else", I wouldn't do it. Everytime I've gone after someone to try to forget someone else, I always ended up being reminded of the girl I was trying to forget. Stay strong man, the only way for us to go is up.

Your first post made me cry. I've been sad all weekend, and now I am even moreso. I feel so sad right now. Thanks!

hmmm, just getting to readint this and sorry about the late post... but if she has a hot friend..... or sister/ mom cousin??

First post..08-16-2005, 11:47 PM

You could've just let this one die.

Honestly, it's not really that old. It's still on the first page.

Your first post made me cry. I've been sad all weekend, and now I am even moreso. I feel so sad right now. Thanks!


That's your own fault :icon16: