how would you like to be let down?

lets put this from your viewpoint.

you leave a note on your girlfriends car in the morning (with hopes that she will find it when she leaves for work that afternoon) and don't hear from her all day. the note reads something like this:

"i'm addicted to you. i'm lying awake smiling with thoughts of you in my head. everywhere i go and everything i do is always the second thing on my mind. whenever we are together i feel like i am a better person, and a happier person because of you. whenever we aren't together i am anxious to hear your voice and see your face. you amaze me with every action, your kindness, and your patience. i love everything about you and i cant wait to see you again."

/end your viewpoint.

my viewpoint.

boyfriend leaves love note on my car. *vomit*

/end my viewpoint

i've been avoiding him for the past week and havent really hung out with him because i dont know how to break up with him (does that make me a bitch??) but i know i want to. i suppose there isnt really an easy way to break it to him. if anyone can think of a sickening love note to write back, i would appreciate it. (note: it does NOT have to be nice -- get creative!!!)

"Dear Boyfriend,

Let's cut to the chase.. My period lasts 2 weeks of the month, I have violent mood swings... and well.. Have you seen the Stand? The part where the elevator opens up? Yeah... Sorry.

Love,
Girlfriend."

i've been avoiding him for the past week and havent really hung out with him because i dont know how to break up with him (does that make me a bitch??) but i know i want to.from a real respectful mans point of view......the longer you wait the longer and more he'll be pissed off. Especially if you avoid him. It may not be immediately but it will catch up to him eventually when he thinks about it. I did.

Just call him up and be like "yeah, its over, sorry."

It irks me when people can't just do it, whatever 'it' may be.

Granted, if you take this approach, he will likely be initially crushed, apologetic, and desperate. After that he will probably be pissed off, and after that he might become depressed.

But at least he'll know what the deal is, because all that would (will?) probably happen anyways, depending on how clingy/not clingy he is...

:2cents:

just tell him to his face.
"look this how i feel... blah blah blah"
I will be hurt but he'll get over it.
And he'll respect you more for it.

I can think of so many times when a girl could have just told me strait out but instead acted like a fucking coward and by telling me through either her friends or my friends. Hardly anything pisses me off that much

I'll tell you this..any girl who doesnt break up with you the moment she has a definate feeling about it is a bitch in my world. Really because they're going out with you for no one's sake. If you're the girl it sucks for you and if you're the guy it will suck anyways when she breaks up with you later so do it sooner!


So just tell him, yo im sorry 'nig' but I founds me dis otha foo who makes me happy than your broke ass.

Or use your best judgement and make something up :)

Any girl who loves the drama gets off on it. Any pussy-whipped angst-ridden dude who thinks he a guy gets whipped.

Shoot straight from the hip. No fucking bullshit walk-around. It may hurt but I'd rather know straight truth than a lie like "It's not you it's me" kind of shit.

Shoot straight from the hip. No fucking bullshit walk-around. It may hurt but I'd rather know straight truth than a lie like "It's not you it's me" kind of shit.

Yeah man, same here. Why cant people just be truthful to this crap when they've been lying about everything else?

How would I like to be let down?

Personally I'd prefer that you do me one more time. Then go ahead and tell me. :crying:

Lol then you wont care and already on the way to make yourself a sandwich because she left ya!

he will likely be initially crushed, apologetic, and desperate. After that he will probably be pissed off, and after that he might become depressed.

this is what i am most worried of. he hates his job, his home, he doesnt have a car (which SUCKS because i end up driving whenever we go somewhere), and all that drama crap. i try telling him to apply for different jobs, looking for his own house, and looking for a car. he doesnt do any of it and he just complains about it more. i like the kind of guy who will get what he wants and isnt afraid to work for it!!! this nonsense is exactly that. nonsense. so if i break up with him now (hes had a thing for me since 10th grade which was... 4 years ago) i think he will definitely be crushed and desperate and depressed. and i think with all of that on top of all the drama he creates for himself will likely make him go insane. shouldnt i be concerned about that?

Not really, look thats his problems, if he goes insane on ya, RESTRAINING order. Look if he has a crush on since 4 years, doesnt have a car, wont look for a different job or home, what future do you THINK you'll have with him? You cant stay with this guy because then he'll get too attached to you and be off worse, trust me on this it's the best thing you can do for both of you.

this is what i am most worried of. he hates his job, his home, he doesnt have a car (which SUCKS because i end up driving whenever we go somewhere), and all that drama crap. i try telling him to apply for different jobs, looking for his own house, and looking for a car. he doesnt do any of it and he just complains about it more. i like the kind of guy who will get what he wants and isnt afraid to work for it!!! this nonsense is exactly that. nonsense. so if i break up with him now (hes had a thing for me since 10th grade which was... 4 years ago) i think he will definitely be crushed and desperate and depressed. and i think with all of that on top of all the drama he creates for himself will likely make him go insane. shouldnt i be concerned about that?

Just so you'd know,
Since your all he knows, he will go insanely depressed for a while. 4 years? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but doesn't he know what you want? Have you discussed this with him? People change over time and you may have also. Some of the same things you liked may have had a gradual change that you didn't notice. Samething for him also. Yall could be subconciously getting on each others nerves. All I'm saying is if you gave him chances and he doesn't know how exactly to change, explain that to him if you didn't. IF that doesn't work then let him go. Yall are both young and still don't know exactly what you want or how to do things $ years in a relationship doesn't mean you "know" if that is yall first MAJOR hook-up. Yall simply could have just grown apart. Me and my ex did. ANd instead of breaking up with me, she cheated. The worst thing.............

Three words for this guy.

"I..am..gay!"

As Jerry Seinfeld says, "it's like a band aid, one motion, RIGHT OFF!"

Just so you'd know,
Since your all he knows, he will go insanely depressed for a while. 4 years? I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but doesn't he know what you want? Have you discussed this with him? People change over time and you may have also. Some of the same things you liked may have had a gradual change that you didn't notice. Samething for him also. Yall could be subconciously getting on each others nerves. All I'm saying is if you gave him chances and he doesn't know how exactly to change, explain that to him if you didn't. IF that doesn't work then let him go. Yall are both young and still don't know exactly what you want or how to do things $ years in a relationship doesn't mean you "know" if that is yall first MAJOR hook-up. Yall simply could have just grown apart. Me and my ex did. ANd instead of breaking up with me, she cheated. The worst thing.............


My ex didnt give me a chance, she said she did many times but she never outright told me what was bugging her. I tried giving her the worlds, I worked multiple jobs and moved, leaving all my friends and family to be with her. She didnt do shit except move out of her house which she said she wanted to do anyway. And if she just talked to me about the few things bugging her we would probally be together and things might be better, if not at least I would have just left without her tearing my heart out after 4 very serous years.

Find the biggest and baddest guy in town and tell your boyfriend that you fell in love with him.

You sound like a drama princess, getting off on his whining.

oh that's wonderful! thank you. moving right along.... :eek7:

lets put this from your viewpoint.

you leave a note on your girlfriends car in the morning (with hopes that she will find it when she leaves for work that afternoon) and don't hear from her all day. the note reads something like this:

"i'm addicted to you. i'm lying awake smiling with thoughts of you in my head. everywhere i go and everything i do is always the second thing on my mind. whenever we are together i feel like i am a better person, and a happier person because of you. whenever we aren't together i am anxious to hear your voice and see your face. you amaze me with every action, your kindness, and your patience. i love everything about you and i cant wait to see you again."

/end your viewpoint.

my viewpoint.

boyfriend leaves love note on my car. *vomit*

/end my viewpoint

i've been avoiding him for the past week and havent really hung out with him because i dont know how to break up with him (does that make me a bitch??) but i know i want to. i suppose there isnt really an easy way to break it to him. if anyone can think of a sickening love note to write back, i would appreciate it. (note: it does NOT have to be nice -- get creative!!!)


woah you're in a really fucked situation.

Have you seen the movie "how to lose a guy in 10 days"? yeah I think you should sit down with a pad and paper and watch it again, just do little shit to turn him off.

For example, find out what he doesn't like, and do it.

If he doesn't like a bad smell, stop bathing (I know being a female this would be almost impossible), get him irritated to the point and tell him "I don't think it's working for me, sorry".

You'll smash his heart in to a millions of pieces and it'll take years for him to pick the parts back up...wtf am I saying? I'm writing my own death cirtificate here, at least I know what to avoid....Or at least I think...


Pet Shop Boys rule!

That's the dumbest thing to do... don't beat around the bush. The truth hurts. Do it as straight forward as possible. It'll suck for him, but it'll suck the least out of anything you can do.

Ayep, push up your wonder-bra, say adios.

i think i'm the only girl ive ever known who hasnt owned a wonder bra. thanks to genetics, i've never needed one.

oh and last night i ended it with him. problem solved!

In other words she's an A cup, not needing a bra most of the time. :lol: sorry had to do it.

"Dear Boyfriend"

I'm a stuck-up bitch. I'm too good for you, and have too many fucking issues for you to waste your time dealing with. Please don't waste another second of your valuable-time trying to break through my bitch-shield and my fucking mind-games and tests. Leave my ass now and move onto the next attractive woman in line. Don't waste another second thinking about my bitch-ass - it's not even worth thinking about. Move on immediately to one of the many women waiting for you.

- Girlfriend."

I wish this is how chick's would dump me, cause it's what I think about most of them.

In other words she's an A cup, not needing a bra most of the time. :lol: sorry had to do it.

i will not justify this with a response.


...other than this one.

...Ride... :werd:

"Dear Boyfriend"

I'm a stuck-up bitch. I'm too good for you, and have too many fucking issues for you to waste your time dealing with. Please don't waste another second of your valuable-time trying to break through my bitch-shield and my fucking mind-games and tests. Leave my ass now and move onto the next attractive woman in line. Don't waste another second thinking about my bitch-ass - it's not even worth thinking about. Move on immediately to one of the many women waiting for you.

- Girlfriend."

I wish this is how chick's would dump me, cause it's what I think about most of them.

:1:

From a woman's point of view:
Grow up and tell him the truth, then move on and let him move on. There is probably some desperate, clingy, pathetic gal out there that will love to have Mr. Drama.

Meanwhile, YOU should be a decent person and just end it. Maybe you have some sick little thrill in keeping him on a string, cut it and be done with it. Your both young, this is not the end of the world, just the end of bad 'relationship'.

i wuld like to be let down honestly

I think his letter was real fuckin romantic. He may not be a keeper, but that letter, from any other guy SHOULD have made you smile all day. And you're a straight up B I T C H for letting him sit around ALL DAY w/o hearing from you. Fuck, that must have sucked ass for him. WAY worse than it sucked for your poor little self to get a romantic love note and then vomit.

But we all make mistakes. At least you FINALLY told him. After FOUR years. Jesus. Poor fucking guy. I bet the reason he's so broke and ghetto is because he spends all his time thinking about you.

This is good for him, but I hope you don't drag any more guys along like that. Tell the truth. And if that doesn't work just ignore them until they get the point.

I think his letter was real fuckin romantic. He may not be a keeper, but that letter, from any other guy SHOULD have made you smile all day. And you're a straight up B I T C H for letting him sit around ALL DAY w/o hearing from you. Fuck, that must have sucked ass for him. WAY worse than it sucked for your poor little self to get a romantic love note and then vomit.

But we all make mistakes. At least you FINALLY told him. After FOUR years. Jesus. Poor fucking guy. I bet the reason he's so broke and ghetto is because he spends all his time thinking about you.

This is good for him, but I hope you don't drag any more guys along like that. Tell the truth. And if that doesn't work just ignore them until they get the point.

first of all i'd been dating him for less than a month when i ended it a few days ago. i've KNOWN HIM for four years. and he's not so broke and ghetto, he just doesnt do anything about his problems except bitch about them. thanks for your honesty, though. i'll keep that in mind when i think about ripping the next guy's heart to shreds.

i'll keep that in mind when i think about ripping the next guy's heart to shreds.

he has to love you or that "thing" first. By then it would still be wrong to play with emotions like that.......................................IMO.... ....not tryin to be mean...................just being honest...........kay......k

Yeah, in seriousness, I'd rather get it over with quickly, it's less painful or awkward in the long run than drawing things out.

Theres no GOOD way to breakup. (I dont care what anyone say's on that cause its BS) Just tell him it's over. If I wanted a girl to end it. I would want plain an simple no beating around the bush. well.... Ive been thinking NO! None of that just tell him strait out.

True, why the hell dont they just tell you straight out and simple "It's over, goodluck with whatever you do" drawing it out into an hour of useless talk is stupid because in the end you'll be broken up anyway.

he's 20 and doesn't have a car???? LOSER...good thing you got out of there for the simple fact he doesn't have goals...he'll just spin his tires until he's 30 and then maybe get his shit in order....bad times girl...hope he gets it together...

there IS a good way to break up. Have sex for the last couple months before you know its gonna be over, and then when the day comes, kiss and say goodbye.

It's called goodbye sex for a reason.

It will make both you fucktards in a more relax state so that it SHOULD be easier to divulge upsetting information such as breaking up.


Unless you both don't like sex....cuz your gay....cuz hes gay....thats so gay

Thats gay.

well,you could say your a lesbian