Sexual Harassment

When does it become harassment? When does someone cross the line?

For example there is this guy (or should I say old man – he’s in his 60s) who constantly stares at my chest, at lunch he waits until everyone has left the room before he talks to me and then it’s always about stuff he’s told me fifty million times and he takes forever to get it out. Whenever he wants something he calls me “a gorgeous hunk of womanhood :apuke: :apuke: . And he’s always invading my personal space.

Is this harassment or am I just overreacting??? :confused:

Question: Why do you still eat with him????????????????

it's not harrament in a legal view, but you should confront him about it, or it could become sexual harrasment, and if that doesn't work, go to your boss, then the courts,



hope it works out

Originally posted by DMC12
Question: Why do you still eat with him???????????????? Because we’ve only got one staff cafeteria and I don’t want to sit outside because everyone who sits out there smokes. It’s also not just at lunchtime, it’s also whenever I have to go down to the warehouse for anything. He always makes kissy noises :apuke: and stands way too close.

I also take a magazine to the lunchroom with me and stick my head in that (even if I’m not reading it) so he won’t talk to me and I’ve also tried pretending that I’m so engrossed in an article that I don’t hear him, but that still doesn’t stop him. :rolleyes:

yeah, just ask him to lay off, tell him how you feel, most guys(at least me) dont try to make women feel bad and will stop if they feel they are

I guess from a legal point of view its pretty grey.
It is haressment if it keeps going on.
The best thing to do is bring it to your boss'es attention & also
advise the pervert that it is bothering (pissing) you.

:monkeypis perverts

Once management are made aware of it they are obliged to
act on your complaint.

We could always show him some "Pandamonium"


The Panda wants to do it!!!!!!

I certainly don’t think he does it on purpose. I think he thinks that he’s being witty or funny, but he drives me nuts! He was the same with a few of the other girls that work here and they just told him to piss off. I just have a hard time bringing myself to do that. :(

Originally posted by Spec2 Girl
I certainly don’t think he does it on purpose. I think he thinks that he’s being witty or funny, but he drives me nuts! He was the same with a few of the other girls that work here and they just told him to piss off. I just have a hard time bringing myself to do that. :(


do as the other girls have and tell him to piss off :mad:.......hopefully that'll work...and make things easier for you..........


If you can't bring yourself to doing it....just imagine he has just keyed your GTS 25t....that'll get ya going.....

Originally posted by ragt20
If you can't bring yourself to doing it....just imagine he has just keyed your GTS....that'll get ya going..... True, true, but it’s a GTS 25t the 25t is VERY important to add on to the end of the GTS bit! ;) :p :D

J/k :)

Originally posted by Spec2 Girl
True, true, but it’s a GTS 25t the 25t is VERY important to add on to the end of the GTS bit! ;) :p :D

J/k :)

ok ok I changed it just to keep ya happy ;) :D

one shall not make that mistake again...:rolleyes: :silly2:

Originally posted by ragt20


ok ok I changed it just to keep ya happy ;) :D

one shall not make that mistake again...:rolleyes: :silly2: Hehe, you’re so sweet. :D :p :angel:

ooh ooh ooh, can I practice my karate on him. I think I know the nerve points to stop his heart:devil:

Harassment is what occurs when someone persists with behaviour that they have been told is offensive.If my Dad is still bothering you even after you have told him unequivocally that you do not want his attention,feel free to tip a glass of iced water all over his nuts next time he annoys you......


:devil:

Originally posted by darkness
ooh ooh ooh, can I practice my karate on him. I think I know the nerve points to stop his heart:devil: Be my guest! :devil:

and Taranaki, tell your Dad to stop it will you!!! :devil:

Mr T's exactly right - like I said: you have to tell him to stop it. He most likely will stop (if he's not meaning to be a Panda) but if he doesn't, then it become sexual harassment. And I don't think the law is at all grey, once you've said stop.

I actually had a situation somewhat similar to this at my job about 10 months ago. A 22 yr old married-with-children pressman was giving me problems. Staring down my shirts, making every excuse to walk by my desk, asking me out, etc. I told him to knock it off, and when he didn't, I talked to both my supervisor and his supervisor. He was forbidden from talking to me or walking by my desk and they also moved him to the day shift so I only saw him a few times for the next few months. Then after about 6 mo's he was moved back to evening shift. About a month or two later he was fired for an unrelated reason. That night he kept bothering me saying how much we were going to miss each other, etc. I ignored him for the evening and I havent' seen him since.

Sexual harassment is anything that is making you feel uncomfortable and is inappropriate in the workplace...so tell the guy to knock it off, then talk to supervisors if the problem persists. Make sure he knows that you are serious and want nothing to do with him. Right now the law is tipped very much in favor of females and you can sue for nearly anything. So if talking to supervisors doesn't work, I guess I would try that route.

OK thanks everyone for your advice. :)

Next time he does something that is inappropriate I’m going to get up the guts to tell him to knock it off and that it is totally inappropriate. I’ll see how that goes.

And boingo82 it's very encouraging to hear that your experience all turned out well in the end. :)

I hope yours goes as well. Work is stressful enough and that's not something you should have to deal with. And if you do have to deal with it, demand to be paid for it. Strippers make good money. :) But seriously, it's not in your job description and I imagine your employer will take this seriously. Good luck.

did you say he was 60....if so just go in dressed as Vamperilla one day....and the shock will prolly kill him :devil: .. :hehe: