Why Must I Dream Of Her...?

A long story short....3 years ago i had such a crush on this girl that worked a couple stores away from me (mall job/fun times).. I told her one day that she was beautiful...we had some chit chat..thats all really. I never really got the nerve to ask her out, but she probably knew i liked her. I used to say hello sometimes, smile..flirt..whatever..

Anyway, i still have a mad crush on her, for some reason she is still in my mind..you know, something about her just stuck with me..since the moment i saw her. I remember walking by one day, and i was like...i gotta meet her.. at first sight, i swear it....kinda cheesy ha..lol..

PS, i've moved on, got a better job...and work like 30mins away from that mall. I have these recurring dreams of her, like last night, i dreamt she was working with me..and i was just talking to her..she looked so good in my dream...it was so damn real. I woke up depressed, like "AH...SH*T" why did i have to dream of her. Funny cause since the day i seen her, i'd have like atleast 2 dreams a month about her, nothing sexual or anything...just like talking to her..or seeing her etc..

I try not to think of the past, but it always comes back to me. Any advice..?

heres what you do.... whenever you have dreams, write them down when you wake up. Every little detail you can remember. Do this for about a week or so, and you will be able to CONTROL your dreams. You will train your brain to recognize the infinite abilities of a dream, and you can manipulate them. Then next time you dream about her, ask her to have sex. Of course she will say yes because its YOUR dream. Then you can have sex with her every now and again. Sometimes I can control my dreams, and when I can, I usually have sex. Its pretty cool.

Lol, thats a good trick rick, somehow i don't think it'll work with me.

The thing that drives me crazy though, is that "sexually" she really didn't do much for me, granted she was cute, from trinidad..nice color skin, lond black hair..petite etc, it was on another level which i cannot describe. I mean, yeah there are the chicks you see you just wanna bang...usually they fade away in your memory, but this girl it's weird, it's almost like i can imagine being married to her, yet sex wouldn't have a strong bearing...weird huh...

I almost feel like "dr kelvin" (george clooney) in solaris, where i have a loss because i'm not with her...i know, movie babble right, that movie hit it home with me boy i tell you.

Maybe it's love at first sight, maybe it's just a void within me that is filled when i think of her....i'm clueless.

I've recently been there. Things didn't turn out good. In fact, I wish I never even met her. But you WILL move on. It will take some time to get over.

will i have some advice for the future so this wont happen again. next time you see a girl that u really seem to like ask her out cause then u will have given it a shot. maybe u fail maybe u suceed but at least u try. see the reason you are dreaming of her isnt not because she is the most amazing girl ever it is because you are trying to live what you would have liked to have w/ her through dreams because you didnt have the balls to try it in reality

thats a pretty good explanation.

also, if you are that into her, then why don't you bust out some "love story" tricks, and do the most romantic thing anyone ever did to her in her life. Track her down, tell her you loved the time you spent with her, loved talking to her, you've met other people, and you keep comparing them to her.


I dunno.. that might make you look like a stalker. But heck, why not try it. Either she never sees you again, or you give it a shot and she thinks you're nuts... worst case scenarios. Or the best case is shes flattered and you two live happily ever after. If I felt that intenely about a girl, I'd let her know, no matter what.

Thanks guys, and yeah..very true on what you said sideways.. Dreams tend to act out things you wish would happen.

Lol, i feel like ben stiller in "there's something about mary"... I'll be like 32 and get a pi to track her down...to funny.

Oh, and as far as "weird" goes, just today i saw this chick that used to work with the girl i'm talking about...and i got a customer from my old store-in which was next to this girl i had a crush on.....you want even more crazy sh*t... Right after i seen these 2 people, on the radio was pearl jams "black" and guns and roses "november rain"....those two songs i always listened to in the past, like riding home and just wanting some depressing music.

WTH is this happening, it's flipping me out. This was 2-3 years ago...maybe fate wants me to get with her....then again, i don't believe in fate.

Man I'm going through the same shit sort of. That girl I made several threads about last year that I fell for pretty hard showed up in my dreams for about 5 days in a row last week. Just was just there, nothing was said, we were just sitting around not saying anything. It really has made this past week really difficult, bring back all the feelings i had for her. It also brought back the lack of trust i have for my roomate now and the things he did while I was head over heels for her. Shit that no true friend of mine should have done.

What you need to do is get a fucking girlfriend and stop posting on the internet.

Love,
Dr Ozzy

Oz, seriously thats the best advice i can take, thanks.

:thumbsup: Go for it mate.

Sometimes I can control my dreams, and when I can, I usually have sex. Its pretty cool.

Careful man, you might wake up one day stuck to your bed.

Same thing has happened to me.
I was working at a grocery store stocking shelves when we met. She was PERFECT. like the best friend you could ever have. We hung out after work, worked on school stuff, all the usual stuff. We got so close and had everything in comman. We both collected the same things, and liked the same movies.But he was dating this real dick hole and she knew it.( But she was sharing her apartment with him and could'nt afford rent on her own.) We never really got "sexual"( but everyone in the store thought we were) but constantly flirted with each other. ONLY problem, I had already gotten married to my high school sweet heart 13 months earlier. Things were really hurting me to be with my wife and not her. At one point I even packed my clothes and a few things of mine and wrote a note to my wife explaining why I would never come home to her again. I never had the nerve to break her heart and give her the note. I ended up telling my soul mate that I could'nt leave my wife as bad as I knew it was the right thing to do, and she cried in my arms for a half hour. We never even kissed.
I have dreams of her all the time. Just when I think I can't remember what she looks like anymore something in my subconcious reminds me in another dream.
I still have'nt told my wife about the note 8 years later. And my dream girl still haunts me.....
SOLARIS...
Trust me on this one, If you don't at least give it a shot you will NEVER FORGET! worst thing that happens is you get rejected. At least you'll know.

Wow Bayouwolf, that's incredible. Honestly, it sounds like you still have great feeling for the other girl, sometimes that happens.

Forget about even the girl i was refering to, there was also this girl, lauren, that worked next door to my store. Over the coarse of 5 months, we became like brother and sister...we talked about EVERYTHING. I remember talking to her one night about her father-he just had heart surgery...and i was talking about my mother that was also in the hospital due to chroens disease. I cannot describe it, but it's a totally different, more intimate friendship that you cannot have with the same sex.

Man, i havent even called her to say whats up, i swear it i spoke to NO ONE since that store closed up.....that was january 30th 2004. I am the one to blame in all this also, because i am a loner, i honestly like to be alone...i don't like to associate with people unless i gotta work with them. You know what i feel like, did you ever see Castaway..? I feel like Tom Hanks towards the end of the movie, when he's at the desert looking at the sun, and wondering which road to take...