Girlfreind or Freind??? HELP PLEASE!!!

OK, heres my story:
About a year ago I met this girl Amanda at the mall and we exchanged numbers and started to talk and then hang out on the weekends, affter a few weeks of this we developed strong feelings for eachother but she was in a relationship at the time. (I was head over heels for her) Then it turned into summer and I got a job at a go-karting shop, well we found it harder to hang out because of our scheduals not permiting it at all but we would exchanged the e-mail once in a while and a phone call here and their.
Then her boyfreind and her split up, permantly. I was still working so I never really got the chance to help her out in time of need, well I guess she then quickly met the other guy named Mike (same name as the guy linda cheated on me with, but its a different guy) and they quickly became boyfreind and girlfreind and have gone out since.
Now latley about two weeks ago Mikes car broke down and he has not been able to see her very much. So she called me and asked if I would hang out with her so I agreed, now we have hung out everyday almost all day after school and now all those feelings we had about a year ago have all came back like a tidle wave. But now I don't know what to do about her boyfreind, she has expressed she has feelings for me but I know she "loves" her boyfreind. And well I guess my question now is do I just continue to hang out with her as freinds and then maby.. Maby get a chance with her or do I put it all on the line and tell her how I feel for her?
Well thank you very much for taking the time out 2 read it :-)

Cliff Notes; 1. met girl about a year ago, had really strong feelings, she had a boyfreind
2. Got jot stoped hanging out with the girl
3. She dumped her boyfreind
4. I had a new girlfreind, then quickly broke up
5. Lost new job (broken hand) and then she found new boyfreind:banghead:
6. Her boyfreinds car stoped worken, she called me up and asked 2 hang out so we hung out now all my feelings came back and i don't know what to do. I can ither 1, put it all on the line and tell her how I feel or 2. wait it out and hope I get a chance.


Thank you guys

Well you can tell her how you feel but don't do it if you think it'll put some pressure on her (I'd only reccomend this if your realy good friends though). I'm in a similar situation now actually... can't decide what I want with my best friend, she's got shit to deal with first though.

Ohh and whatever you do don't be involved in any cheeting, that shit dosent get anyone anywhere in adult relationships.. Love triangles suck for all involved in my experience.

:iagree:
If you are good friends, which it sounds like is the case you should be able to talk about it. I guess it depends on how much she really cares for this other guy. I would just ask her how she feels about you and the "us" between you and her. Then let her know how you feel. She may feel the same way, but has been hesitant because she doesn't know how you feel.

Maybe you should learn how to spell. Maybe then she'll be your girlfriend.

I question i always ask is, Are yall friends on a non gender level? meaning does she she you as being her good friend boy? I encounterd girls who like the idea of having a friend only relationship because you cause stay friends forever that way. Theres nothing wrong with spilling it iut in the table tho. Maybe she sees it the same also. But usually girls express interest in guys they like that are not friends with them before a guy they already know. if there like you like that you'd know. At least that how they do it where im from.

Pfft. Tequila. Lots of it. When no one else is around. Then the arena for "true feelings" has been set. Slammin'.

-Dr Ozzie.

^you and your crazy advice man :lol: no wonder why you're a pimp....

well man, i don't know because a similar case happned to me except this girl was just a tease. sometimes girls like to do that, so relax on it before it blows up on you, and you get a case of blue balls :2cents:

Hey, Thanks for the help so far. i'd write more but i'm in school right now. Thank you, i'm going 2 her house 2night to hang out i'll keep you guys posted
sorry about my spelling.

Just don't ruin the friendship

Thanks, One more quick question. Do any of you guys know how I should bring it up in a conversation? I do admit I'm liken that Tequila idea OZ thanks
-Alan

Pfft. Tequila. Lots of it. When no one else is around. Then the arena for "true feelings" has been set. Slammin'.

-Dr Ozzie.
YEAAAAAAAAAH

Tequila is weak...only realy men go with rohypnol or ketamine.

Never talk about your feelings. Unless you're a wuss. BTW, wussies don't get the girl.

You said: we developed strong feelings for eachother

How do you know she had "feelings" for you? Explain.

Are you sure you didn't like her, and let yourself be blinded by that and just assume she liked you?

And if she did, what evidence do you have now that she's still interested in you? Explain.

Always make sure you're not stuck in the Friend Zone first. If you are "just a friend" to her, forget it and move on.

Otherwise, turn up the charm and the sexual tension. Be funny and cocky, etc; don't cater to her every whim; don't be a nice guy; ignore her every once in a while; demonstrate your independence. Etcetera, etcetera, etcetera, etc...

Jay and Raz Kaz are also 100% correct. Be the bad boy, get the ro', get the K, get the tequila. Then spark the convo.

well it seems to me that she's kindof used you as the friend thats there when she needs one... ya know, she calls you when her boyfriend isnt around so shes not bored and it seems like shes never made the effort for anything to happen. kindof sounds like you're being led on.. i'd play some games a bit just to see if this is for real before you get yourself all in a twist and lookin like a sissy.

*and if that doesnt work, OZ's plan is definately the way to go.. :2cents:

your on a automotive website asking if you think some chick likes you.......sorry to put it to you harshly, but your a loser. good luck getting laid.

Never talk about your feelings. Unless you're a wuss. BTW, wussies don't get the girl.

Agreed...NEVER do that. Experience wise couple months back me and a girl had a convo like that, we both said we liked each other blah blah. It has pretty much made my life even more stressful, I have hung out with her on the weekends and it's great, but otherwise I have no idea what the hell she wants...it certainly doesn't seem to be me.

Ur younger than I am, which is hard to find anywhere it seems...stop bein' a puss and do it. I don't understand people that put so much though into askin' someone out. It's not hard. Blah blah blah, "I've known them along time...blah blah blah". I dated a girl after knowin her 3 years and that was like everyday together knowinand it wouldve worked but i moved. then she moved back near me. to make a story short, we're each others best friends.

To add in, we could have started datin' like a year before we actually did and cause of stupid hesitation we didn't so our 2 weeks (yeah, i found out i had to move in 2 weeks) couldve been a year.

Tequila is weak...only realy men go with rohypnol or ketamine.
What the hell is that?

^roofies and Special K....haven't you been to any parties? :p

What the hell is that?
I hope to God your kidding.










Cuz you could be next

Hey Note: THIS IS AMANDA... ok... so Alan came over a couple days ago and i found out that he was on this website, he never logged out so i thought as long as i have some access into his profile and stuff that i would just add some things into this forum for ya all (as well as you Alan.. which i hope that for some odd reason you dont find this because ill be REALLY embarassed (Just like alan.. i cant spell either! so let me say sorry for all the mistakes ill be making! sorry!) So... anyway... Yes i do like Alan an EXTREME amount... but i have a problem... like he said.. i have a boyfriend! :'( i like my boyfriend and i like alan... but im afraid that if i break up with mike that hell be mad at alan and try to kick his ass...and im also afraid that me and alan will trash our friendship by dating!... but then again i can see us together in the future! Just like him i dont know what to do with this whole problem. should i tell him? should i stay with my boyfriend and pretend like it never happened? so i break up with my boyfriend?... lots of questions like that have been plaging me for some time now... i would love to be his girlfriend, but yet for some reason im still his friend!... i wish that i had an easy way to know who i love!... i know what Alans answer to that would be "i love cars..." :-D hes the first guy that i get along with that loves cars too (which is great!) i just wish i knew as much as him! lol he makes me seem like an idiot when it comes to cars (but then again.. i am lol) BUT anyway... this was kinda a way for me to let Alan know (if he looks at this forum again) that i like him too! i just need some time to think about what i should do! (I'm sorry that you had to be a vale for a week or so and not the owner of the car...who knows... maybe someday!!)
RECAP: Yes, i like Alan
I'm not ready to break up with Mike quit yet (need time to think about it first)
Alans a sexy beast :-D
Tequila might make him feel better at times!
I need a life... ~Nipps~

Recap. You're a cock tease and you don't know what you want. Stop fucking around and when you grow up maybe you should date Alan. If you like Alan as more than a friend, then you should not have had a BF in the first place.

Cliff notes:
Grow up

Recap...Allen wrote that whole shit up just for our entertainment. Stop fucking around.

Recap...Allen wrote that whole shit up just for our entertainment. Stop fucking around.

:iagree:

Either way, they "both" have to grow up ;)

what a sad way to gain attention.

Hey, alan here
I swear to God that i did not type that and i am in the process of loging out of my name at her house.
Alan
p.s. sorry, and i agree if i did make all this up then i would be a poor pathetic little man

/\ And what if some of us don't believe in God?





we want pics of her, pics of you, pics of you and her, pics f you and her at same computer holding sign saying "Raz_Kaz PWNZ ME"

Alans a sexy beast :-D

:wtf:

Hey, I'll see what i can do about the pics.
I will get my mom's digi camera 2marrow and if i figure out how 2 upload them onto my computer, i will in a heartbeat.

Ok look.......u should just express wat u feel about her. This will help u get over her if she wants u as a b/f or just a friend.

Hope this helps.

Hey, I didn't read the entire thread, just your original post, but I wanted to comment.
My current gf of like 3 years now, and I started out this very same way. Started as good friends, she was in a 4 year relationship, I was single and enjoying it, but we both had some feelings for each other. One night after alot of alcohol I told her "don't break up with him, or I'll be forced to ask you out".

Sure enough, a year later he broke up with her, we started dating. Yay for me, sucks for him. I think it is a good idea to let her know how you feel, but try to do it in a way that doesn't put alot of pressure on her. You don't want to put her in a situation where she feels she has to choose.

Tell her that you like her, but you are also very satisfied with being her friend, and you enjoy seeing her happy, and don't want to get in between her and her current guy. If done correctly, the idea will linger in her mind, and something will come of it in the future.

If you put pressure on her, you may cause her to cheat which will put alot of stress on her emotionally, and probably put stress on her current relationship. She may feel awkward around you, and she may also break up with the other guy. Either way, someone will be on the losing end of the deal.

Just plant the seed, let the idea linger in her head, and it will work out for you down the road.

first let me tell u that it is ur decision. imo it sounds like u r just a time pass activity for her. she only needs u when no one is around. but i can be wrong because i really don't know what she feels for u. if u guys are really best friends then tell her how u feel when the timing is good. what her decision is will be based on how things are going between her and her boyfriend. if she does not feel the same way about u then she would tell u to move on. if that happens then move on. DO NOT waste ur time, energy and most importantly ur feelings for someone who is just not that into u. i really hope that this works out for u. good luck.

I read the first page, so I dont know if anyone else has said this yet but...

Forget the feelings you have for her. Look at the way she is treating her boyfriend just because his car broke down. How would you like to be him? Whenever youre not around she will be chillin with another guy. Forget it bro. Shes a skeeza.

I have something else to say. When a boy meets a girl, and they are both interested in each other, there is a chemistry. The chemical reaction draws the words and feelings out and you dont have to get online and ask for advice, or ask your friends for advice, or your brother or sister, anybody. That is the kind of thing that just happens. And if it doesnt just fall in your lap and make itsself drop dead obvious that its a relationship in the making, then you can always just say, "hey, Im really diggin you, would you like to be my girlfriend?" If she has any feelings at all, thats all it takes. Would you reject a girl you like for any reason? No. Neither would a girl.

1.definately, theres no, well weve been friends for five years and i think i like u!2. nothing pisses me off more then girls that hang out with another dude just cause ur busy. some girls are such sluts! i should try that with my next girl. "we'll since ur busy im gonna call carolyn and hang out!" ill see if it works.lol! girls think they have such power cause of wusses out there, but that shit dont work with me, i take the trash out to the dump where it belongs! after that, they still want to "hang out" i think they get more attracted when u dont play there games. the last 2 relationships i had i cut the girls off, and they both try to hang out daily. i feel bad for there current b/f's. ask urself one question-what if ur car breaks down??????????????????????

i feel bad for there current b/f's. ask urself one question-what if ur car breaks down??????????????????????

thats exactly my point. The way shes treating the dude shes with now, is the same way shes gonna treat you. You wouldnt want to be him, so why are you trying to fill his shoes.

When a mannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn loves a womannnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol

just read the 2nd page on accident.

Wow thats gay. Shes dumb. And if shes not dumb, then youre dumb. And if youre both dumb, then you should just forget about it because the world isnt ready for your dumb kids.

Hey....maybe you and her can be friends with benefits. (Wink...Wink)