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Well, I saw this one coming. I just wish it hadn't been so soon, ya know?

:( :( :( :(

My boyfriend and I broke up tonight. :( It was on good terms. He and I have both been thinking a lot lately about whether or not we would have been better off just staying friends or if being "romantic" was a good idea. I've been more and more depressed lately, so he was worried about me that way. He was worried that I'd do something stupid if he broke up with me. He's been afraid that he was going to screw me over like most of my other ex's have, which was the last thing he wanted to do. And lastly he didn't want us to end things and be enemies. He decided that it's best for us to end things now as friends than drag things out and only become so frustrated with eachother that we wouldn't talk.

I said I understood. Which I do. I just wish that we didn't have to right now. I was really hoping to get out of my depression before it ended. (GIANT thanks to KDL for all your help! I only wish I had gotten to call today instead of having to wait now to call on my first offical day of Spring Break)

GOD, THIS SUCKS! I mean, sure, now I'm not a bad person for flirting with that guy I mentioned in Red's thread, but I don't know that it's such a good thing that I was ever interested. And it's his fault for flirting back. He only started to really flirt when he first learned that I had a b/f. Okay, not true. This has been building for over a month now. Should I go for the other guy now? I mean, should I give it a waiting period? This is the direction I'd been leaning towards for about a week now.

I really just hate this. Sure, we're friends, as we have been for 2.5 years now, but it seems this is always the way it turns out. This is the second time I've tried a relationship with the ex. Both times it starts out so quickly and fizzles out from there. I'm almost afraid that we're gonna go out again, and that would be too much for me. I'm just rambling right now b/c I'm trying not to cry. I'm trying so hard, and even though it did end on good terms, it doesn't mean that it doesn't hurt. And to think I was worried that I didn't care about him that much anymore! Guess it's time to dig out my pissy girl-rock CD's and blast them as I flirt with guys who have crappier cars than I do...

"Now I go grieving for days on earth I spent in worship of a mortal thing." ~~~Petrarca

"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding." ~~~Kahlil Gibran

"Why is there suffering? To thicken the plot." ~~Ramakrishna

One quick detail.. Why did u guys break up????

Originally posted by G_racer
One quick detail.. Why did u guys break up????

He said that we should end it now since both of us had been wondering lately if we would have been better off as friends... We both decided that we'd rather walk away now as friends than wait for months on end and hate eachother for it later, which has been the trackrecord for both our pasts.

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Pardon my language, but I've needed to let this rip for about 2 hours now.


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Okay, yeah. I was actually dealing with the break up rather well. I realized that we really do make better friends than "lovers" which was agreeable. Now I find out the MFer was actively going after this fucking blonde for several weeks now!!! Sure, I did some harmless flirting, but he was having friends find out information about this fucking chick... I wanted to slap him but instead I grabbed his arm and left him with "I knew there was a blonde." Of course, to cover his ass (and this was before I had gotten verification of the blonde) but he was all like "I didn't do it so I could go after anyone..." Whatthefuckever! This may not seem to be such a big deal, but one of my insecurities comes from one of my ex's whom I dreamt cheated on me, and turns out he did with someone who looked just like the blonde in my dream. So I made these jokes with the new ex about how when we were dating and he didn't answer his phone he was with "the blonde." Which for a while he went along with it. Then suddenly he was all like "c'mon, it's not true. that's enough of that." Which should have been my marker. But no.

Then the more I think about it... I realize that he originally asked me out not long after he asked out this new blonde that he's going after now. She said no, and like 2 weeks later I was the object of attention. So he basically picked me since I was available at the time. Then when things changed, suddenly we need to be friends. And last but not nearly least, he's dated 2 other of my girl friends who are in our little "group". I should have known that once I completed the trifectorate that I'd be worthless. he's even been avoiding my calls to his cell. Damn it all to Hell.

Yeah, I'm done now. I just had to vent that all out since I'm not supposed to know for sure that he was after someone else while dating me.

why are guys such asses sometimes?!?!?! I've got the worst story ever but it's really long and i don't wanna get worked up again. but let's just say i know how you feel.

I give up on guys. I have a bf now, but i am totally ready to completely walk away if he makes one wrong move. No exceptions, regardless of the condition. i'm soo sick of being treated like shit. I can do anything by myself and i am finally independent of anyone else.


**reminds me of song... starts singing "AT first i was afraid, I was petrified kept thinking i could never live with out you by myside....." hehehe****


KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!! Good things will come in time. You'll find someone who will make you completly happy.


becca

Thanks.

He's now spending every waking moment with this bimbo. It's funny how one of the ex's friends (who did once have an interest in me) has given him tons of advice which, had it been followed, would have saved us all a ton of stress and even grief. This friend told the ex that I am seemingly just what he (the ex) needs right now in his life. But apparantly a two year friendship means nothing to my now ex b/f and ex friend/confidant. My last gripe about this for a while. (I just had a long talk with the other 2 girls I mentioned in the last post, so I'm still a bit teed) But I had a chance on a quick fling with this player kid who is friendly with the now ex. I didn't want to be all PDA right infront of my friend seeing as how I'd just told him I wasn't interested in a really serious relationship at the time. The player got peeved and made me choose between the friend and the player himself. I told the player flat out that I'd rather maintain a happy 2-year solid friendship over a chance on a month-long fling with him. Well, obviously I cherished the friendship more than the ex did since he didn't even have the friggen courtesy to wait 2 full days before hanging all over this nasty blonde. (and yes, I disliked her this much even before now).

So now I basically don't even want to talk to this ex of mine since he's gone and trashed my trust. It's hard since all the other people I used to hang out with are his friends, too. Too damned bad they made plans to take their girls to the car show and left me outta the loop despite the fact that I'm the biggest car nut of all the girls. They also go and visit eachother and try to hide from me, so I'm left virtually friendless as all of my good friends come home from their colleges once a month at best. I think I'll save the rest of my pity party for when the rest of my guests don't arrive! :p


Edit:I nearly forgot! We are now booking flights to Switzerland to become nuns named Maria. Voice lessons to practice for singing with the VonTrapp family begin shortly, so sign up now!!!! Spaces are limited! RSVP no later than April Fools Day to ensure your spot!

man.....what a arsehole!

and he said you guys should break up to save the friendship.... :rolleyes:

sorry to hear about your guy woes.....seems things never seem to turn out right for us chicks here

I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all of this. I've just come to the conclusion that guys are just the root of evil. You know how I was going through all of that in my last thread about the problems with breaking up with my b/f, and my guy friend that I wanted to hook up with? Well that guy friend (that I've been friends with for so long), completely took advantage of me. He LIED to me for a month telling me how much he wanted to be with me, how he was falling in love with me, this and that and this, and I was just like, 'whoa', too much too soon. Well all he wanted was to get in my pants. The next day, *poof* No calls, no visits, no nothing. He got what he wanted, and was willing to throw away a nearly 2 year friendship for this kind of crap. :mad: Well, I guess there's a first time for everything. I got played. :( He went back to his ex a few days later.
So basically what I'm saying is I don't like guys anymore. I mean, the ones that I'm close friends with, I totally love, but I don't think I ever want to get into a relationship anymore. Seems like the only one I can trust anymore is my baby. ;)
Why are guys like this? I mean, they put us through so much crap, I just don't understand it...
*sigh* Just need to stay strong....
Hope everything works out for you. :)