Do You Find Yourself Too Forgiving?

I have been accused of being too forgiving of others, and so I pose the question to you. Are you apt to quickly forgive when wronged, or do you tend to hold a slight grudge, forcing the offending person to earn back your trust and respect over a lengthy period of time?

I get accused of being to nice, and I forgive those who hurt me, rather to quickly. I'm trying to make it so that they have to earm my trust for them again. Its gotten this way after what a so called "friend" did to me.....

I tend to be slow to get offended, but when I do I go hold a grudge as I keep replaying the incident over and over in my mind.

I do try to clear the thought, but it isn't easy :rolleyes:

A lot has to depend on what it is i'm forgiving that person for.
If its something like a slight disagreement i hold no grudge against that person...it's water under the bridge and forgotten about.
If its a big problem...god help them. I never forget, and i will wait for the right time and place to get very even with them. I will hold a grudge against that person for a very long time.

:( :( I too have been accoused countless times of been too forgiving. My biggest problem is that i dont realy like change much. But every one has their limits. I've stoped talking to alot of ppl because of problems that they have, but also i've forgivien alot of ppl. Friends are hard to come by sometimes... well ones you can count on at least. So for me i dont like to lose friends theirfore im very forgiving to them. but you never know...

I agree with what PMan said. If someone has got on my bad side over an arguement or something similar, I usuially let them off pretty easily.

If they have wronged me in a more serious way tho, that person may be partially forgiven but will NEVER regain my full trust again.

have to say that overall I am a grudge holder, the longest I have held is still running after 6 years.

It really depends on what they have done to get in my bad books though.

Ive been told that people will one day walk all over me and its actually happened a few times. They've said Im too nice and that its gonna land me into trouble one day. Its fine by me though. The way i see it, people make mistakes, its human nature. Whos to say that they dont deserve another chance? Holding grudges is just unhealthy in my opinion.

I’m definitely a big grudge holder. I always remember people who have wronged me and it takes a long time for me to forgive them again.

I don't know about forgiving.

but with girls I like and want to ask out I'll be really nice, which usually ends up with me getting walked all over.

why are you nice for occasions such as that? In fact is that the only time that you're nice?

I tend to be slow to piss off and feel I am pretty easy going, but when I do get pissed off I find that I will hold a grudge for a loooong time, even after resolution of the problem it still lingers in the back of my mind.

But it does take alot to get me that upset.

Originally posted by darkness
I don't know about forgiving.

but with girls I like and want to ask out I'll be really nice, which usually ends up with me getting walked all over.

Same here. What would you consider being real nice though? Have you gone out with these girls you like and was really nice (paid for expensive dinner, spent money on them...) What do you consider really nice?

I know I've taken out a girl I like just recently, (I had the grapefruits to ask her out, I'm really shy :)) and was the nicest person ever on that date. But it's like she was totally careless and now I can't even ask her out anymore because she is afraid I am going to waste my money on her. Im so confused :confused: :confused:

Originally posted by wickedG20


Same here. What would you consider being real nice though? Have you gone out with these girls you like and was really nice (paid for expensive dinner, spent money on them...) What do you consider really nice?

I know I've taken out a girl I like just recently, (I had the grapefruits to ask her out, I'm really shy :)) and was the nicest person ever on that date. But it's like she was totally careless and now I can't even ask her out anymore because she is afraid I am going to waste my money on her. Im so confused :confused: :confused:

thats exactly what I'm talking about.

I really killed this conversation didn't I/

yeah i seem to find myself forgiving my ex's way too easy... i mean they really pissed me off like doing things i would never forgive, but as soon as they get all sweet and naked on me i always put my hate aside.. i truley do think with my dink...