can some of u girls help me out?
LjasonL
03-18-2002, 01:43 AM
well ive been with this girl since august 6, 2000, and i love her and she is perfect for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. but tonight she told me she cant be with me right now cuz she "doenst like being in love" she "wants a chance to live" and she "feels like she is missing out on something by being tied down with me" now i KNOW she feels the same about me as i do about her. i KNOW she loves me, and i KNOW she thinks we are perfect together, but now she is seeing another guy? i know shes not with him just for sex or something cuz she is not like that, and she told me that is not what she wants and that she is never gonna do anything more than kiss this guy, and i believe her she wouldnt lie to me. but the thing is she says she loves me more than she could ever possibly like him, but thats not what she wants right now? can any of u girls please help me figure out what she is thinking? why is she doing this? is there anything i can do to help?
Neutrino
03-18-2002, 02:09 AM
I am not a girl.But maybe i have some good advice.
The other day I was talking to this chick and when I was asking her why girls act so weird she told me that is normal and chicks apparently go trough stages one day want one thing the other day something else.
Probably she is in one of those stages.
And if you find the deffinite answers will probably get a nobel prize or something. Who the heck knows what chicks want.
Sorry if this doesn't help very much is just that sometimes girls just bug me because they have no ideea what they want!!!:confused: :confused: :confused:
The other day I was talking to this chick and when I was asking her why girls act so weird she told me that is normal and chicks apparently go trough stages one day want one thing the other day something else.
Probably she is in one of those stages.
And if you find the deffinite answers will probably get a nobel prize or something. Who the heck knows what chicks want.
Sorry if this doesn't help very much is just that sometimes girls just bug me because they have no ideea what they want!!!:confused: :confused: :confused:
speediva
03-19-2002, 07:50 AM
I can kinda understand her view.
I once told this (now ex) b/f of mine that I could never have married him because I had never had my heart broken. I told him that I could never understand that part of living if I didn't know the pain. Sure enough, in the end he more than helped me find that heartache, but that's not the point. Sometimes we just don't know what we have until we experience what it never was. Kinda like how you don't know what you have until it's gone, but this is just understanding how "bad" things could be but aren't...
It's like this: If you try to hold a handful of sand with a tight fist, it will all slide out from between your fingers and in the end you'll have little if anything of what you started with. But if you cup it lightly and cherish it with open hands, it will stay and not waiver from your intent. Let her see what it is she thinks she needs to see. If she comes back, all the better. But remember yet: if she doesn't come back, know that God has another purpose for both of you in life.
I once told this (now ex) b/f of mine that I could never have married him because I had never had my heart broken. I told him that I could never understand that part of living if I didn't know the pain. Sure enough, in the end he more than helped me find that heartache, but that's not the point. Sometimes we just don't know what we have until we experience what it never was. Kinda like how you don't know what you have until it's gone, but this is just understanding how "bad" things could be but aren't...
It's like this: If you try to hold a handful of sand with a tight fist, it will all slide out from between your fingers and in the end you'll have little if anything of what you started with. But if you cup it lightly and cherish it with open hands, it will stay and not waiver from your intent. Let her see what it is she thinks she needs to see. If she comes back, all the better. But remember yet: if she doesn't come back, know that God has another purpose for both of you in life.
gdalton
03-19-2002, 04:06 PM
Ok first off let me just say that every woman I have ever known was completely crazy. That’s right I said it I think all women are nuts, and that is from personal experience, now some are nuttier then others but they are all crazy just the same and we as men (some of us sane men) will never understand just what the hell is going on in the female mind but we have to deal with all there craziness because we are nuts about them. Now as for your problem I can say that I know how it is to be so in love that you will let someone walk all over you and I'm not saying that to make you mad I just understand how it is, my advice would be find the first girl who likes you and start dating her and see how your girl likes it when your getting your chance to "live". Now sometimes this will work and she will get really jealous and come back to you but this can also backfire and make her mad and she will not want to come back to you but seeing as how all women are crazy then you only have a 50/50 shot no matter what you do. Seriously though I know it sucks to get hurt like that just try as hard as you can not to dwell on it, I would recommend getting a whole lot of new CD’s so you don't have to listen to anything that reminds you of her, remove all picture of her and find a good strip club.
I hope everything works out for you and she comes back realizing she has made a terrible mistake and wanting to spend the rest of her life making it up to you.
I hope everything works out for you and she comes back realizing she has made a terrible mistake and wanting to spend the rest of her life making it up to you.
LjasonL
03-19-2002, 04:30 PM
Originally posted by saturntangerine
I once told this (now ex) b/f of mine that I could never have married him because I had never had my heart broken. I told him that I could never understand that part of living if I didn't know the pain. Sure enough, in the end he more than helped me find that heartache, but that's not the point. Sometimes we just don't know what we have until we experience what it never was. Kinda like how you don't know what you have until it's gone, but this is just understanding how "bad" things could be but aren't...
this kinda makes sense to me, KINDA, she said she wanted to find out what its like to NOT have a relationship work out. now to me thats retarded, but thats what she said she wanted.
and guys, those were some funny answers u had there... :hehe: :hehehe:
I once told this (now ex) b/f of mine that I could never have married him because I had never had my heart broken. I told him that I could never understand that part of living if I didn't know the pain. Sure enough, in the end he more than helped me find that heartache, but that's not the point. Sometimes we just don't know what we have until we experience what it never was. Kinda like how you don't know what you have until it's gone, but this is just understanding how "bad" things could be but aren't...
this kinda makes sense to me, KINDA, she said she wanted to find out what its like to NOT have a relationship work out. now to me thats retarded, but thats what she said she wanted.
and guys, those were some funny answers u had there... :hehe: :hehehe:
littlerudegirl
03-19-2002, 10:11 PM
Originally posted by ldelaysionl
well ive been with this girl since august 6, 2000, and i love her and she is perfect for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. but tonight she told me she cant be with me right now cuz she "doenst like being in love" she "wants a chance to live" and she "feels like she is missing out on something by being tied down with me" now i KNOW she feels the same about me as i do about her. i KNOW she loves me, and i KNOW she thinks we are perfect together, but now she is seeing another guy? i know shes not with him just for sex or something cuz she is not like that, and she told me that is not what she wants and that she is never gonna do anything more than kiss this guy, and i believe her she wouldnt lie to me. but the thing is she says she loves me more than she could ever possibly like him, but thats not what she wants right now? can any of u girls please help me figure out what she is thinking? why is she doing this? is there anything i can do to help?
Hmm ok, some advice. Well always remember, girls are just as evil as guys are. For example: you can tell us one thing and mean or do another. The same thing goes for girls, its just we are a little more sneakier at it.
You’ve been with her for awhile and now all of sudden she doesn’t want to be with and she’s with another guy… now the question is, how did this happen? She doesn’t want to be ‘tied down’ yet she’s involved in another relationship.
Did you two loose interest in your future goals?
Was one driving the bus and the other was just along for the ride?
The only reason I can up with, and from a girl’s point of view, someone got bored and wanted out and needed something ‘new’ to play with. Maybe you need to access your life long goals and let her know that she does play an important role, if she can’t accept that, then you need to find someone who can.
But this is just from my point of view… good luck! ;)
well ive been with this girl since august 6, 2000, and i love her and she is perfect for me and i want to spend the rest of my life with her. but tonight she told me she cant be with me right now cuz she "doenst like being in love" she "wants a chance to live" and she "feels like she is missing out on something by being tied down with me" now i KNOW she feels the same about me as i do about her. i KNOW she loves me, and i KNOW she thinks we are perfect together, but now she is seeing another guy? i know shes not with him just for sex or something cuz she is not like that, and she told me that is not what she wants and that she is never gonna do anything more than kiss this guy, and i believe her she wouldnt lie to me. but the thing is she says she loves me more than she could ever possibly like him, but thats not what she wants right now? can any of u girls please help me figure out what she is thinking? why is she doing this? is there anything i can do to help?
Hmm ok, some advice. Well always remember, girls are just as evil as guys are. For example: you can tell us one thing and mean or do another. The same thing goes for girls, its just we are a little more sneakier at it.
You’ve been with her for awhile and now all of sudden she doesn’t want to be with and she’s with another guy… now the question is, how did this happen? She doesn’t want to be ‘tied down’ yet she’s involved in another relationship.
Did you two loose interest in your future goals?
Was one driving the bus and the other was just along for the ride?
The only reason I can up with, and from a girl’s point of view, someone got bored and wanted out and needed something ‘new’ to play with. Maybe you need to access your life long goals and let her know that she does play an important role, if she can’t accept that, then you need to find someone who can.
But this is just from my point of view… good luck! ;)
Neutrino
03-19-2002, 10:47 PM
Originally posted by littlerudegirl
Well always remember, girls are just as evil as guys are. For example: you can tell us one thing and mean or do another. The same thing goes for girls, its just we are a little more sneakier at it.
Girls just as evil as guys. NO:(
More like 10X more evil than guys.
Graphical represemtation:
Guy=:silly:
Girl=:devil:
Well always remember, girls are just as evil as guys are. For example: you can tell us one thing and mean or do another. The same thing goes for girls, its just we are a little more sneakier at it.
Girls just as evil as guys. NO:(
More like 10X more evil than guys.
Graphical represemtation:
Guy=:silly:
Girl=:devil:
littlerudegirl
03-22-2002, 05:50 PM
Originally posted by Neutrino
Girls just as evil as guys. NO:(
More like 10X more evil than guys.
Graphical represemtation:
Guy=:silly:
Girl=:devil:
N~
We're not that bad, are we? :flamer::stormzap:
http://files.automotiveforums.com/uploads/434234bitchfight.jpg
Girls just as evil as guys. NO:(
More like 10X more evil than guys.
Graphical represemtation:
Guy=:silly:
Girl=:devil:
N~
We're not that bad, are we? :flamer::stormzap:
http://files.automotiveforums.com/uploads/434234bitchfight.jpg
Neutrino
03-25-2002, 05:00 AM
Originally posted by littlerudegirl
N~
We're not that bad, are we? :flamer::stormzap:
http://files.automotiveforums.com/uploads/434234bitchfight.jpg
Yes as proven in this forum:
http://www.automotiveforums.com/vbulletin/t37218.html
N~
We're not that bad, are we? :flamer::stormzap:
http://files.automotiveforums.com/uploads/434234bitchfight.jpg
Yes as proven in this forum:
http://www.automotiveforums.com/vbulletin/t37218.html
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