Im asking you guys "am i doing the right thing"
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 06:55 PM
Hey guys, just a topic, Im just looking for general feedback fromALL of you.
Okay,
Pending the trip to Cali this summer. Im pondering how I will be able to speak with my mom about this. Im pondering that with her hectic, and rather busy schedule, I prefer to write my thoughts on what im about to do on paper, and hand her the piece of paper(s). But, I can't think of a good way to tell her, that Im heading off into the real world, alone. With the idea of California, my mom will more then likely blow up in my face and call me a dumbass, stupid, etc.....:rolleyes: I am ready to make my choice, Im sick of being at home, and or even near family. I need my space, and yeah 2200 miles is a lot of damn space. But seriously, How should I go about brining this to her attention with her hectic schedule? I think im going to go with writting it all down for her, explaining this to her, which is my only REAL option anyways. So, how much le-way should I give her on letting her know about my choice? Should I hold off until a month before, or 2? All i ask of you guys is some general feedback on the situation. Thanks in advance
Skylinefreak
Okay,
Pending the trip to Cali this summer. Im pondering how I will be able to speak with my mom about this. Im pondering that with her hectic, and rather busy schedule, I prefer to write my thoughts on what im about to do on paper, and hand her the piece of paper(s). But, I can't think of a good way to tell her, that Im heading off into the real world, alone. With the idea of California, my mom will more then likely blow up in my face and call me a dumbass, stupid, etc.....:rolleyes: I am ready to make my choice, Im sick of being at home, and or even near family. I need my space, and yeah 2200 miles is a lot of damn space. But seriously, How should I go about brining this to her attention with her hectic schedule? I think im going to go with writting it all down for her, explaining this to her, which is my only REAL option anyways. So, how much le-way should I give her on letting her know about my choice? Should I hold off until a month before, or 2? All i ask of you guys is some general feedback on the situation. Thanks in advance
Skylinefreak
Spec2 Girl
03-06-2002, 07:11 PM
I would give her as much warning as you can. When I told my parents that I was moving to New Zealand (from Australia) it took a while for it to sink in and they took it very hard. Is it not possible at all that you could speak to her face to face as it would be much better that way rather than reading it in a letter (it seems so impersonal). Also, think very carefully before you move, for me I thought it was going to be easy, but it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do and if I could turn back the clock I don’t think I would do it. :(
SkylinesKillAll
03-06-2002, 07:30 PM
yea definatley go with face to face. it makes u seem more grown up and able to make ur own decisions. i know how u fell i gotta try to convince my parts to let me have a girl friend spend spring break with me. its not as big but its still gonna be tough with my parents :(
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 07:31 PM
Originally posted by FTO Girl
I would give her as much warning as you can. When I told my parents that I was moving to New Zealand (from Australia) it took a while for it to sink in and they took it very hard. Is it not possible at all that you could speak to her face to face as it would be much better that way rather than reading it in a letter (it seems so impersonal). Also, think very carefully before you move, for me I thought it was going to be easy, but it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do and if I could turn back the clock I don’t think I would do it. :(
Well, given my situation, finding a decent time to talk to my mom=1 in about 100 chance of happening. With all the things she has going with my sisters, its hard to even talk to her sometimes...... FTO, Im ready to move, Im 20 years old, old enough to take care of myself. Im already taking care of my self pretty much, so there isn't any hassle in me doing what i want to do. Im still going to do it, ir reguardless of how she acts about it.
I would give her as much warning as you can. When I told my parents that I was moving to New Zealand (from Australia) it took a while for it to sink in and they took it very hard. Is it not possible at all that you could speak to her face to face as it would be much better that way rather than reading it in a letter (it seems so impersonal). Also, think very carefully before you move, for me I thought it was going to be easy, but it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do and if I could turn back the clock I don’t think I would do it. :(
Well, given my situation, finding a decent time to talk to my mom=1 in about 100 chance of happening. With all the things she has going with my sisters, its hard to even talk to her sometimes...... FTO, Im ready to move, Im 20 years old, old enough to take care of myself. Im already taking care of my self pretty much, so there isn't any hassle in me doing what i want to do. Im still going to do it, ir reguardless of how she acts about it.
Spec2 Girl
03-06-2002, 07:37 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
Well, given my situation, finding a decent time to talk to my mom=1 in about 100 chance of happening. With all the things she has going with my sisters, its hard to even talk to her sometimes...... FTO, Im ready to move, Im 20 years old, old enough to take care of myself. Im already taking care of my self pretty much, so there isn't any hassle in me doing what i want to do. Im still going to do it, ir reguardless of how she acts about it. That’s OK as long as you are ready. I was 23 and when I moved to New Zealand and I thought I was ready but I still found it really hard (I wanted to jump on the next plane back). It’s only in the last few years that I’ve lost the homesickness that I had (but everytime I go back to Sydney for a visit it’s still really hard to leave again when it’s time to go). :(
Well, given my situation, finding a decent time to talk to my mom=1 in about 100 chance of happening. With all the things she has going with my sisters, its hard to even talk to her sometimes...... FTO, Im ready to move, Im 20 years old, old enough to take care of myself. Im already taking care of my self pretty much, so there isn't any hassle in me doing what i want to do. Im still going to do it, ir reguardless of how she acts about it. That’s OK as long as you are ready. I was 23 and when I moved to New Zealand and I thought I was ready but I still found it really hard (I wanted to jump on the next plane back). It’s only in the last few years that I’ve lost the homesickness that I had (but everytime I go back to Sydney for a visit it’s still really hard to leave again when it’s time to go). :(
darkness
03-06-2002, 07:40 PM
You've got us FTO, thats a good enough reason to stay isn't it. :D :p
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 07:43 PM
Well seems like so far 3 people are saying to go with the face to face type thing. God....Its not that hard for me to say this to my mom. Oh and trust me, I won't get homesick at all. Im sick of my damn parents.
Spec2 Girl
03-06-2002, 07:47 PM
Originally posted by darkness
You've got us FTO, thats a good enough reason to stay isn't it. :D :p Didn’t have you before though did I! :p
and SkylineFreak, you’ve got to try and go face to face. As hard as it’s going to be it’s a much better option than via letter. :)
You've got us FTO, thats a good enough reason to stay isn't it. :D :p Didn’t have you before though did I! :p
and SkylineFreak, you’ve got to try and go face to face. As hard as it’s going to be it’s a much better option than via letter. :)
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 07:52 PM
Originally posted by FTO Girl
Didn’t have you before though did I! :p
and SkylineFreak, you’ve got to try and go face to face. As hard as it’s going to be it’s a much better option than via letter. :)
I guess im going to have to go with the face to face thing. But reguardless if she approves, disapproves, I don't care.
Didn’t have you before though did I! :p
and SkylineFreak, you’ve got to try and go face to face. As hard as it’s going to be it’s a much better option than via letter. :)
I guess im going to have to go with the face to face thing. But reguardless if she approves, disapproves, I don't care.
Spec2 Girl
03-06-2002, 07:56 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
I guess im going to have to go with the face to face thing. :) :) :) :)
I guess im going to have to go with the face to face thing. :) :) :) :)
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 08:06 PM
Originally posted by FTO Girl
:) :) :) :)
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
:p :p :p :p :p :D :D :D :D ;)
:) :) :) :)
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
:p :p :p :p :p :D :D :D :D ;)
Spec2 Girl
03-06-2002, 08:12 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
I wasn’t! I was just showing I was pleased that you had chosen to tell your mum face to face. :(
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
I wasn’t! I was just showing I was pleased that you had chosen to tell your mum face to face. :(
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-06-2002, 08:18 PM
Originally posted by FTO Girl
I wasn’t! I was just showing I was pleased that you had chosen to tell your mum face to face. :(
Dang it cheer up:D
I was messing around with you dang......:p
Cheer up FTO.:)
I wasn’t! I was just showing I was pleased that you had chosen to tell your mum face to face. :(
Dang it cheer up:D
I was messing around with you dang......:p
Cheer up FTO.:)
Gonthrax
03-06-2002, 09:50 PM
I agree, face to face is the best choice. I did it when I told my parents I was moving out to go to collage, and when I told them I was planning on moving to NZ (that was the interesting one :D)
Towlie
03-06-2002, 10:35 PM
im 17 and im trying to figure out how im gonna tell my mom ill be moving out in a few months
taranaki
03-06-2002, 11:37 PM
The hardest part will be to actually stop mom for ten seconds and say-mom,we need to talk....I'm having a serious think about maybe moving out some time soon.....when is the best time to talk about it? -
Once that part is out of the way,it is surprising how easy it is to actually explain exactly what you want to do and why.
Once that part is out of the way,it is surprising how easy it is to actually explain exactly what you want to do and why.
primera man
03-07-2002, 03:07 AM
Mate, your 20 yrs old and its time to cut the strings and head out in the real world. Its time to make your own life and if it means moving away from home then so be it.
Go face to face with your mum....writting a note is a wimps way of handling it. You never know how she well be.....she may be very proud of you to take such a bold step in life.
You dont say if you are a only child......this may make it harder for your mother to see you leave, but even she will have to see that you cant stay at home forever no matter how much pain it may cause her.
Go face to face with your mum....writting a note is a wimps way of handling it. You never know how she well be.....she may be very proud of you to take such a bold step in life.
You dont say if you are a only child......this may make it harder for your mother to see you leave, but even she will have to see that you cant stay at home forever no matter how much pain it may cause her.
SiRedge
03-07-2002, 06:21 AM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
Just whoring through! :finger: :finger:
Nah, seriously, you won't regret having talked to your Mum face to face about it. About the only thing to take note of - it's expensive out there :(
Stop whoring my thread:mad: :mad:
Just whoring through! :finger: :finger:
Nah, seriously, you won't regret having talked to your Mum face to face about it. About the only thing to take note of - it's expensive out there :(
RazorGTR
03-07-2002, 10:53 AM
Mate I moved out when I was 18. I suppose it was easier for me since my mom and I had a good relationship and were very open about everything.
The hard one was later when I told her I was following my heart and a gal in New Zealand. It has been rough on the sould not seeing family in going on years. Not to mention my son, but that is another story.
BTW what state do you live in now and what is the attraction in California?
The hard one was later when I told her I was following my heart and a gal in New Zealand. It has been rough on the sould not seeing family in going on years. Not to mention my son, but that is another story.
BTW what state do you live in now and what is the attraction in California?
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-07-2002, 11:25 AM
Well guys, the majority says, tell her face to face. So, Im going to do that. But how much time before I move should I give her? 2 months? 1 month? Should I tell her a week before I go? I need some feed-back on that guys, thanks alot.
Edit: My mom and I have a good relationship...We hardly talk about anything anymore, but yeah we are still cool.
Edit: My mom and I have a good relationship...We hardly talk about anything anymore, but yeah we are still cool.
Spec2 Girl
03-07-2002, 03:01 PM
Originally posted by SkYLiNeFrEaK
Well guys, the majority says, tell her face to face. So, Im going to do that. But how much time before I move should I give her? 2 months? 1 month? Should I tell her a week before I go? I need some feed-back on that guys, thanks alot.
As I said before, give her as much notice as you can. If you are planning on moving in 2 months time, then tell her as soon as you know. The more warning the better. It’ll give her time to get used to the idea. Don’t leave it until the week before.
Well guys, the majority says, tell her face to face. So, Im going to do that. But how much time before I move should I give her? 2 months? 1 month? Should I tell her a week before I go? I need some feed-back on that guys, thanks alot.
As I said before, give her as much notice as you can. If you are planning on moving in 2 months time, then tell her as soon as you know. The more warning the better. It’ll give her time to get used to the idea. Don’t leave it until the week before.
Sanchi
03-07-2002, 07:13 PM
:) :) ay bro, i know how ya feeling. It would be so much better for me if i stay home, but staying home just limits me to what i want to be. Takeing that next step is going to be very hard, lifes not ez. I decided to move out last year when i was 21. didnt tell my mom then. a year has just about pass im gona be 22 this week end and im just waiting for me to be finnacialy stable enough that i wont come crying back home.
There is alot of steps you have to take before moveing out. I just recently told my mom i was moveing out before the end of the year. She took it well. Since i have school full time and work full time, i dont get to talk to my mum much anymore also. But im prity sure your mum will take it well.
When you feel you have to start a new chapter in life do it wisely. Dont just jump into it. I cant wait till end of de year, new life, new home, fresh start. Forget all the bull shit, and leave it behind...
So good luck man stay :cool:
:D :D :sun: :flash:
There is alot of steps you have to take before moveing out. I just recently told my mom i was moveing out before the end of the year. She took it well. Since i have school full time and work full time, i dont get to talk to my mum much anymore also. But im prity sure your mum will take it well.
When you feel you have to start a new chapter in life do it wisely. Dont just jump into it. I cant wait till end of de year, new life, new home, fresh start. Forget all the bull shit, and leave it behind...
So good luck man stay :cool:
:D :D :sun: :flash:
SkYLiNeFrEaK
03-07-2002, 07:59 PM
Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
:) :) ay bro, i know how ya feeling. It would be so much better for me if i stay home, but staying home just limits me to what i want to be. Takeing that next step is going to be very hard, lifes not ez. I decided to move out last year when i was 21. didnt tell my mom then. a year has just about pass im gona be 22 this week end and im just waiting for me to be finnacialy stable enough that i wont come crying back home.
There is alot of steps you have to take before moveing out. I just recently told my mom i was moveing out before the end of the year. She took it well. Since i have school full time and work full time, i dont get to talk to my mum much anymore also. But im prity sure your mum will take it well.
When you feel you have to start a new chapter in life do it wisely. Dont just jump into it. I cant wait till end of de year, new life, new home, fresh start. Forget all the bull shit, and leave it behind...
So good luck man stay :cool:
:D :D :sun: :flash:
Thanks for the advice man. Basically, Im already looking for a job out there, and things like that, as well as an apartment. So basicall I am trying to get things settled.
:) :) ay bro, i know how ya feeling. It would be so much better for me if i stay home, but staying home just limits me to what i want to be. Takeing that next step is going to be very hard, lifes not ez. I decided to move out last year when i was 21. didnt tell my mom then. a year has just about pass im gona be 22 this week end and im just waiting for me to be finnacialy stable enough that i wont come crying back home.
There is alot of steps you have to take before moveing out. I just recently told my mom i was moveing out before the end of the year. She took it well. Since i have school full time and work full time, i dont get to talk to my mum much anymore also. But im prity sure your mum will take it well.
When you feel you have to start a new chapter in life do it wisely. Dont just jump into it. I cant wait till end of de year, new life, new home, fresh start. Forget all the bull shit, and leave it behind...
So good luck man stay :cool:
:D :D :sun: :flash:
Thanks for the advice man. Basically, Im already looking for a job out there, and things like that, as well as an apartment. So basicall I am trying to get things settled.
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