I Was Abandoned This Weekend...

Yes, I was abandoned this weekend, in a hotel room three hours from home, by someone I had trusted. Disappeared at 9:00pm under the premise that they would be right back. After calls to the local police departments and hospitals, several hours later, and my calls to their cell being unanswered, I called a few connections, only to discover that I had been abandoned for good, alone to fit the bill for the hotel room and find a way to get home in a place very unfamiliar. I got home okay, but all I can say is this...so far for this year...heart ache and sexual assault. It's a wonder I can still trust people. Although my heart is bruised and my trust waning.

I guess I needed to come back here, to the sanctuary of AF. Sometimes it seems like home.

OMG dante! that's horrible! :( i wish i could help ya out, give you a hug or something. <sigh> people can really suck sometimes. You should get a dog, they are really good judges of character, plus a dog will never leave ya.

Really sad to hear. But just know that not everyone is like that.

That has got to suck big time, (BIG HUG) hope the year gets better for you. It's good to know that you can always come back here for the support and encouragement you need.

Im sorry to hear about this Dante, I wish I could come out and give you a hug, seriously, you've been through alot as of late. Im still once again in shock that something like this would happen to you. :( You can always count on us here at AF for some warm comforting support.

I'm not doing well. This has proven a huge setback for me. I get nauseous even thinking about eating and I can't seem to stop shaking on the inside. Do I forgive them or not? To be abandoned hours away from home by someone you trust seems unthinkable. And they have continued to live in hiding. Not getting online, answering calls, or talking to roommates. I feel so numb, yet so overwhelmed by everything that has happened in the past two months. How much can one girl handle? Luckily, there was someone who stayed up with me through much of the night, talking to me on the phone to ensure that I would get to sleep alright. I feel very much indebited to tha person. Last night I went for a very long drive. Took a friend and we headed out of town talking the whole way. I felt lucky to get back home though as having only had four hours of sleep, I noticed that my driving skills had sharply declined and was nearly in an accident, not to mention shaking a bit here and there. How could someone do this knowing everthing that has happened? This is the first time. and within a month of being raped. I can't begin to fathom it. I can't begin to understand it. All I can seem to do is seek out the support of others. And I'm scared. I'm scared because I'm blaming this all on myself. It's a struggle to get myself to eat. I'm imploding. And I don't know what to do. I guess I just have to breathe in and breathe out. Take one day at a time. God, I just want to be held right now and told that I'm worth something instead of sitting here shaking while typing my thoughts out. I'm shocked. And dismayed and I feel scorned by those I trust. I can't tell you what this has done...

Correction: This isn't the first time of being left alone in a hotel room.

We're all here for you. I'm so sorry that all this has happened to you. :( Keep in touch. We won't be leaving ya!

Do Not try to blame yourself.

It is not your fault that there are people out there that could do things like that to a person. Keep telling yourself "This is NOT my fault. This is NOT my fault."

And remember that there are pople who care about you and are willing to help you out of the situation you find yourself in. Don't turn these people away but look to them for help and guidance.

Stay strong.
Simon A

Well, although you've already sketched me in on these goings on, I say agian. Holy Shit! Thats just about all I can say to that... :(

No, I lied, I can say alot more, watch me :)

I find it amazing that someone can have the balls (or lack there of, I'm not sure which) to do a thing like this. IMHO you should Not forgive this person and most of all, you should Not blame yourself. How could this have possibly been your fault? Even if you did say and/or do somthing to this person, if they cared about you in ANY way, they would have sat there and worked things out.

Any how, make some soup, get warm, watch a movie, be happy, your life has just begun.

The more I read about this dreadful incident,the more I wish I could help.I hope that in some way my sympathy could help,but I wish there were some more concrete assistance I could offer.It's a shame that the nicest people are the easiest to hurt.

DantesInferno:

If there were some way to allieviate the pain, I would do it for you. No one needs to go through horrible things like this without at least a shoulder to cry on.

But because I am unable to physically be there to help support you, I am going to do my best to support you in words.


It is not the time to lay down and give up. No. This is the time to make yourself stronger! You MUST get up, brush yourself off, evaluate the situation, put your head up, shoulders back, and set your mind that you will NEVER allow this to happen to you again.

Take some self defense classes. Not only will this allow you to never be a victim again, it will boost your self esteem.

It is also a time to become hard. You should become an impenitrable barrier. If a guy really likes you, he will be willing to continue to chip at your barrier, and the longer he stays at it, you can slowly let your guard down.

Dantes,

I am saddened to hear that more shit has hit your fan. Being (most likely anyway) a much more violent reactor then you, I'd suggest a baseball bat upside the bastards head, groin or any other handy target. I'd let a measure of revenge take the pain away for awhile and then start putting yourself back together. I hope your world turns around for you soon. If you'd care to pass along this donkey raping shit-eaters email address, I'm sure some of us can at least cause the bastard some minor grief.

Originally posted by YogsVR4
. If you'd care to pass along this donkey raping shit-eaters email address, I'm sure some of us can at least cause the bastard some minor grief.

Don't tempt me.

Originally posted by DantesInferno


Don't tempt me.

Tempting... tempting.... tempting...... I can discretely cause lots of grief... Heres as sample of underhanded chicanery http://www.student.uit.no/~paalde/revenge/TAH.html

And that is just a reference for starters.

:eek: :eek: :eek: :( :( :(

I want to cry for you and your pain, DI. This kind of thing leaves me at a loss for words. I don't know what to say. I just feel terrible that such terrible things happen to such nice people.

I do, however, like Yogs' advice. If you'd need a helper, I'm a pretty mean shot with a baseball bat.

I wish you all the best.. things pretty much have to improve from here, which is the upshot. And with the courage you are showing in even sharing all these events with a large on-line comunity, I know you are going to be okay. Hang in there, kiddo :) And know that we're here to help you out in any way that we can.

Dante I’m so sorry to hear about your weekend. It sounds like you’re having a pretty rough time of it lately. There are some truly horrible, mean, disgusting people in this world. :mad:

On a more positive note, all your AF buddies are here for you. :)

I'm with JD and Yogs, scratch one detail...you guys can keep your baseball bats, I'm bringing a sword.

What kinda Fucksmack trys shit like that? I just wanna go beat some(thing/body) right now. I've never had much faith in the Human race, but this...This really puts me in a "killemall" mood.

damn..who ever did that needs a serious kick in the asshole with a steel- toe boot. well i know for one thig that God will get his ass in the end and he'll go to hell 4 what he did. that's so fucking disresptctful and selfish...i hope that who ever did that will rot in hell. you're supposed to treat the other person with respect and love man, not bitterness and hatered. that's so damn stupid fuck the basebal bat i'm goin for a lead pipe. either that or a plumber's wrech thingy.. my girlfriend has one. she'll want in too.

itll all come back and bite him hard. "what goes around comes around" or another way of saying it "karma's a bitch"

That sucks so bad DantesInferno :( All you can do is just pick yourself up and don't give the bastards the satisfaction.

I sure as hell hope things improve for you - no-one deserves that sort of crap.