I'm giving it up

Do to some recent events, i've decided that i'm giving up alcohol completely. Not right away mind you, there are some events coming up that will be my only exceptions. And once these upcoming events are done, i'm through forever with alcohol. However, my weekend binge drinking and party life is going to end starting now. This is probably going to piss off a lot of my college buddies but they'll just have to deal with it. I thought i would tell my friends of AF because i've posted plenty of times on here while intoxicated and stupid drunk, and i thought it was fitting for you to know this. I've hurt a lot of people because of my drinking habits, including my best friend Jeremy, my parents, and a dear friend who doesn't want anything to do with me anymorehttp://www.automotiveforums.com/vbulletin/images/smilies/disappointed.gif So aside from some light drinking on New Years, my birthday, and maybe a summer party or two...I'm done.. This is something that sits in the back of your mind for days or weeks on end, and your to afraid to do anything about it, but i'm making a big effort to kick the habit. I'm proud of the fact that i can quit drinking, and hopefully i have some real friends around here who will support me and not give me a lot of shit about it. A lot of people in my family were huge alcoholics and that's not how i want to be known. I know this was a long post and i thank whoever took the time to read all of it.

Glad to see you're making an effort to right a few wrongs. Hope things turn out well for you.

I support you all the way Josh. Keep it up. If you need any help, talk to me buddy

Thanks guys, every time i see myself in the mirror now i say "You're done, no more alcohol"

Drinking isn't your problem, self control while drinking is. I know you said not right away, but if you were to manage 1-2 beers instead of getting obliterated I think you'd feel just as good as you would quitting..

Ever been to a 3 kegger party? I'm sure you have... 2-3 beers turns into 15 real fast. I said i would have 1-2 beers on certain occasions, but i plan on being completely alcohol free within the next 7 months, it's just something i feel i have to do.

Good on you Josh. You've got my support on this and you know it. If you need anything, you've got my number. :smile:

if saying that you want to stop... then why have you already planned out your drinking habits for the next year of your life??? LOL.. there are no reasons why your obligated to drink.. good opportunity to work on your self control.

Well, although I'm not taking your route, I can sympathize. I rarely just drink 1 or 2 beer, or 1 or 2 anything, mostly cause I don't like alcohol (other than wine) in social settings unless it's a lot.

Mind you, I'm in University, so we pretty much just get hammered round the clock. I've always been pretty decent at controlling myself, and I know what to stay away from and I have a rough Idea of my limits.

Still, good luck with sobriety make a drinking fund or something, like everytime you have more than you think you should, put in a few dollars, like a 'swear jar' of sorts, but don't buy alcohol with it after!

Well I'm not you, but can still respect that decision. Good luck man

Yeah, dont go quitting immediately, I don't think that is the right way to quit... IMO, drink modderately and work your way down to about 2 or 1 beers and then you have enough control to absolutely quit.

Coolness:sunglasse

Josh, you know I'm here for you. Even though I'm having a hard time stopping myself...I'm here if you need someone to talk to. You can do it, and it'll be hard, but once you kick it and get it under control, your life will be better (at least that's what everyone tells me)

Alcohol and drugs aren't the answer. Drugs are the question. The answer is yes.

Good for you dude. I think alcohol addiction is as hard to kick as drug addiction, so its good taht you've realized the path you were heading down now rather than when its too late.

I myself am also not a 1 or 2 drink person, if I drink I DRINK. Therefore I only allow myself to drink when at parties or something, never alone, never at home unless with friends, etc. And thankfully I never get too stupid, not much stupider than I generally am anyway lol.

i respect that, thats prolly hard as fuk to do and something i'd prolly never do. I'm from poland.... we drink vodka for breakfast lol

*stumbles off*

Thanks guys

The important thing is that you recognized that it was becoming a problem; awareness of a problem is the first step to solving it. I won't say good luck, because it's not luck but your decision to make; and you've made it.

lol....my friend Derek wants to drink with me this weekend... I just told him i was going to my sisters in Charleston all weekend...

Congrads man. My uncle had a problem with alcohol and it got to the point that a judge offered him the choice or joining a rehab program or 60 days in jail. The one thing he did tell me was that is is easier to quit " cold turkey" rather than try to ease yourself off of it, one drink may seem like a good idea but one can turn into 15 really fast. Each to his (or her) own i guess. I would not recommend lieing to your friends about it though, tell them the truth so they know whats going on and can help support you and not tempt you to drink. I addmit I used to have a drinking problem myself and it wasnt until I got the support of a fellow AF'er that I was able to stop, I dont think she knows just how bad it was for me but she did help me alot. If you want to talk about it feel free to PM or IM me on AIM, Yahoo, MSN, it doesnt matter. Im here to help if you want it.

i can respect that, its really self control that you need to worry about. i'm not sure that it's just the alcohol.

Well ghostguy, your friend was an alcoholic... I don't think Josh is quite there yet from the looks of things. But I could be wrong, I hate to assume. Being an alcoholic goes beyond self-control, thus the only option is 'cold turkey', but if you can still resist, it doesn't hurt to work your way down the ladder.

Well ghostguy, your friend was an alcoholic... I don't think Josh is quite there yet from the looks of things.
It was my uncle and he is far from a friend to me. I was only drinking for about two or three months, i really dont remember much of it :disappoin but i do know that the call of alcohol can be pretty strong, Ive been sober for 6 months now and i still get tempted at times......

It was my uncle and he is far from a friend to me. I was only drinking for about two or three months, i really dont remember much of it :disappoin but i do know that the call of alcohol can be pretty strong, Ive been sober for 6 months now and i still get tempted at times......
Me too man. I didn't drink often, but when I drank, I got my ass drunk for sure. I am also going on about 6 months of no drinks and will admit that there have been times where I just wanted some booze.

You know you enjoyed every night of it though, it's not like you just went out to get plastered for the hell of it Jon, you had a blast when you did...

p.s.- I really am going to my sisters' this weekend, i wasn't lying

It was my uncle and he is far from a friend to me. I was only drinking for about two or three months, i really dont remember much of it :disappoin but i do know that the call of alcohol can be pretty strong, Ive been sober for 6 months now and i still get tempted at times......

Your doing great man. My mothers side of my family is full of acoholics, as well as my own uncle, and from my fathers side is a great tollerance from alcohol, so I am somehwere in the middle. I crave it but I can just as easily walk away without a second look.

One important fact is to never drink when your feeling misserable... drink while having a good time.

Drinking while feeling like shit is setting yourself up to be an alcoholic and I'm sure no one wants to do that anyhow.

Ever been to a 3 kegger party? I'm sure you have... 2-3 beers turns into 15 real fast.

Damn...the things ya miss when ya skip college...:smokin:

One important fact is to never drink when your feeling misserable... drink while having a good time.

Even before I started drinking the sheer thought of alcohol made me misserable, Ive lost so many friends because of there drinking or someone elses drinking. Everytime I saw a bottle it was like someone giving that knife in my heart an extra turn, until one day I finally just said fuck it and gave in :disappoin

Sorry for hijacking your thread, Ill shut up now

It was my uncle and he is far from a friend to me. I was only drinking for about two or three months, i really dont remember much of it :disappoin but i do know that the call of alcohol can be pretty strong, Ive been sober for 6 months now and i still get tempted at times......


i have an uncle in poland whos a REAL alcoholic.... he's fucked up, he acts like a crackhead, he's liek 45 still lives with his mom, always in and out of jail.

My dad and uncles say that even when they were like 14... they'd go stop at the store to buy some chocolate bars or some shit and he'd be buying beers/vodka.

He goes out at like 7am to his spot with the other alcoholics and drinks, they get in fights all the time, drink the cheapest shit (like 40s but its cheaper and has like 16%)

Honestly... they're just like crackheads, they're fucked


I got an uncle you could consider an alcoholic here in america, he drinks everyday but he's cool. He doesnt get out of control, does his job right, goes to stripclubs, drives a benz

He's early 40s but he's like one of my boys, i love him... he doesnt have any kids so he treats me kinda like his son/friend.

I am proud of you for stopping the binge drinking. Its a good way on to a newer and healthier you.

I haven't had a drop of alcohol to drink, since february 1998, 6 months after I found out a friend of my committed suicide due to alcohol.

Dude, i came to that same decision last May after a Prom party. I got drunk at my friends farm. We had a bonfire and only about 10 people...so we had a lot of alcohol. I got really hammered on Windsor Canadian whiskey and Rootbeer Shnapps. I made a total ass of myself and my friends had a camera. Two of my good friends were drunk w/ me, but that didn't matter. I made a total ass of myself and ended up throwing up, passing out and to top it all off.......i had some bladder control issues :wink: That camera has since been destroyed along w/ the film. I have promised my girlfriend that i won't drink, do any sort of drugs, or street race as long as we are dating. I haven't gotten drunk or anything since and i haven't been happier. Michelle and i are getting engaged and let me tell you first hand. You're a lot better off not getting drunk because nobody likes a hangover. Good Luck! :bigthumb:

Thanks for the support guys, means a lot. http://www.automotiveforums.com/vbulletin/images/smilies/smile.gif

i have an uncle in poland whos a REAL alcoholic.... he's fucked up, he acts like a crackhead, he's liek 45 still lives with his mom, always in and out of jail.

My uncle has been drinking for as long as i can remember, hes 47 lives on his own because his own parents dont want anything to do with him anymore, living off welfare most likely. My cousins hate him so much that when his wife first started the divorse procedures that they started packing his stuff up for him because they " didnt want that drunk fucker anywhere near them anymore". You know how a drunk always wants to be buddies with you?, well one of my aunts funerals he was so drunk that he thought he was at the wrong funeral and wouldnt shut up, once the service was over he came up to me (15 at the time) and said "Now that that shit is over why dont we go for some cold ones" All choked up over my aunts death I couldnt say a thing so i just decked him one in the face and left him passed out in the parking lot. Being punched out by a 15 year old, I dont know how anyone else could be more of a drunk than my uncle.

My uncle has been drinking for as long as i can remember, hes 47 lives on his own because his own parents dont want anything to do with him anymore, living off welfare most likely. My cousins hate him so much that when his wife first started the divorse procedures that they started packing his stuff up for him because they " didnt want that drunk fucker anywhere near them anymore". You know how a drunk always wants to be buddies with you?, well one of my aunts funerals he was so drunk that he thought he was at the wrong funeral and wouldnt shut up, once the service was over he came up to me (15 at the time) and said "Now that that shit is over why dont we go for some cold ones" All choked up over my aunts death I couldnt say a thing so i just decked him one in the face and left him passed out in the parking lot. Being punched out by a 15 year old, I dont know how anyone else could be more of a drunk than my uncle.


yup they're as low as you can go... the problem with my uncle in poland is he lives off his mom, she cant do shit about it, she hates him. He just keeps coming back, if he didnt live there he'd live on the street cause there really isnt a welfare system. He drinks from the minute he wakes up till he passes out...

I've honestly never seen anything like it..... he is just like a crackhead. I dont know if you've ever talked to crackheads but they're fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucked up

getting a little closer to Josh's problem, I think that getting plastered is simply something that goes away with maturity, I mean once you go out, head down your desired career path etc. or even get married, the drinking slows down to the point where it's a few Premium lagers or whiskeys every now and then, etc. That's how it is for me these days (At almost 30).

Back in my Uni days, where I had no job, no commitments, etc. I could be found getting tanked somewhere every weekend and the odd weekday as well, but soon as I left I just slowed down.


I suppose my lesson is to enjoy your youth, but know that you have to slow down sometime.

Josh, you have already made your decision to quit. Right now, you don't even realize how much of a step that is.

You must talk to your friend, Derek, about supporting you through this. He has to know that this is very important to you and all those close to you, and he has to treat it accordingly. I helped my friend stop drinking and the hardest part of the entire process was to get him to the point that you are right now. I kept telling him that he had a problem until one day it finally occured to him. Once he knew that he had a problem, he quit drinking and made sure to not put himself into situations where a craving might arise.

Hang in there, you'll be fine.

I've honestly never seen anything like it..... he is just like a crackhead. I dont know if you've ever talked to crackheads but they're fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuucked up
I do alot of security work so crackheads are nothing new to me. At least with a crackhead you can usually expect that they have been using for a long time and usually dont have enough energy to really be much of a threat or they are so stoned that they feel no pain and think they can do anything. Once a crackhead realizes that they cant get what they want the leave or they are so fucked up that you just call the police. With the drunks they tend to get increidibly viololent or extremaly passamistic, Here if your arrested while being stoned( more that just weed) you are usually taken to the hospital to spend the night where an attemp is made to get you help. When your drunk, its the drunk tank until your sober then your one your way. Im told it takes about 5 visits to the tank before some kind of professional help is started.

didnt read the whole thread. you have my support. just make sure IF you do break your promise to yourself, try to get on here and tell us. i think that may help. otherwise, ricochet said it very well by just having a beer or two. you'll learn thats the most fun anyway, getting smashed is kinda stupid after a while.

good luck!