Need opinions...

Okay, it's time for me to bitch about a chick now.

Check it out, I met this girl named michelle and it was pretty simple in the beginning: I liked her and she liked me. Later on we become a couple and things are going great and I feel like I love her and she loves me but than I start to notice things. She shows me a devotion that was just scary, and I would see this and say: I wouldn't do that. This is when I begin to notice that I don't feel the same love for her.
So we continue and things get worse, I start trying to find an excuse not to see her and I feel a little obligated to be with her. It really began to show in the last few months and I felt so awful that I decided that the best course was to just let her go and hopefully stay as friends.
So I let her go and it was horrible, I felt like shit and cried and a month passes by and I go on the internet and she has a website and I don't know why but I began to read the website and she begins talking about some other guy.
That's what brings me to today, I find myself depressed, hurt, crying, not being able to sleep or eat knowing that she got over our 1 year and 3 month relationship so quickly. I talked about it with her and she told me that why should it bother me when I was the one who ended the relationship and I tell her that it wasn't easy for me. Than I find myself saying that I want her back and shit and in reality if it didn't work a month ago I don't think it will work again today. She has another guy and I'm jealous, I feel as if I was replaced like if I were a toy. That's what hurts. I do miss her but I know that being in a relationship with her isn't going to work , yet I don't want her to be with anyone else...it could be that I'm selfish. It could also be that she was my first and I feel pissed off that some other asshole is going to do something with her (which is probable).

Why do I care? That's the question that has been haunting me. She still wants to be my friend, saying that I always cared for her and that I cared enough for her to tell her the truth, she doesn't hate me for doing what I did. A friend of mine tells me that I did her a favor. Yet I cannot get over this feeling of emptiness, loneliness and depression that eats at me inside.

What do you all think? Did I do the right thing? Did I do wrong, what should I do now?

It's normal for you to feel confused about the whole situation, but overall you did the right thing. If a month ago you weren't happy with the relationship, what could possibly change?

And, if someone thinks that the person they love has left them, of course they're going to try and move on. She may very well still have feelings for you, but has tried to move on with her life. The best thing you could possibly do is try and do the same. I went through the same thing with my girlfriend a month and a bit ago, was feeling pretty down about it. Go to a couple clubs, dance with a couple girls, and you'll feel a whole lot better.

move on, no need to dwell in the past. Its not going to help you any, and all roads lead to depression. Go out with annother girl, go out with the guys, hang around the family more. But if she is affectiong you that much, try to stay away from her.

Go with the three Fs. They have been mentioned before. You sound like a smart dude that can figure out what they for himself.

Yeah, if you knew she was into you a whole lot more than you would ever be into her, then you did the right thing. Since she's your first then you'll never forget her. Change your guilt over to a good memory and remember her for what she was: your first. Damn I sound like Dr. Phil or something.

Went out to a club today, had some fun
2 coworkers of hers saw me, they even said hi...weird
anyways
my question is, should I be her friend if she wants me to be her friend?
or should I just forget about having any contact with her?

I've never really seen any two people be able to pull off still being friends after a long, meaningful relationship. Especially if it ended with some tears and hurt feelings at the end. Maybe I'm overly cynical, but I think that only works on TV.

If you see her, smile, be polite and treat her like you would anybody else. But don't go out of your way to be around her, don't let on that it might still hurt a little bit, and stay the hell off her web page...

I understand how you could feel hurt that she was with another guy so quickly. But consider that people are telling you to go out and see other people and get back in the swing of it all, and we'd be giving her the same advice right now if she were here instead of you.

You did the right thing by breaking it off. The bitch about it is that even when you finally convince yourself to do something that's really hard, it's often even harder to justify your actions to yourself when it seems like you might be worse off than when you started.

Too often we only want what we can't have because we can't have it. Let me ask you- would you feel this way if you hadn't seen the site?

to be honest
i wouldn't be like this right now if I had never seen the website.
if that website never existed I would be dandy

which brings the next question: she did this on purpose or did she do it out of being naive, because when I asked her about that she said that the guy she's with has no internet right now.

oh well, what's past is past, since i treated her like a friend in the relationship there won't be that much difference now, (no kissing, sex etc hahaha)

I've been in that boat. You dump her, she moves on way too quickly. It hurts your pride. You feel like she should still want you and you convince yourself that you may still have feelings for her. She may very well have done it to get to you- and it's working, right?

It worked like a charm
is that a strategy that most women use to get men to want them back or something?? cuz damn it works better than begging.

who dumped who? you dumped her, move on man, quit second guessing or you'll end up 20 years down wondering why the hell did I get back together, f**king someone else, getting caught, end up living in a dingy one bedroom apt because she took your ass to the cleaners in court

Don't look back, just forget her. As soon as you "got" her, she'd a put on 150 lbs, and turn into Rosanne anyway.

dumper bro! or :biggrin2:

Don't look back, just forget her. As soon as you "got" her, she'd a put on 150 lbs, and turn into Rosanne anyway.



Roseanne R a hotty :(