Should i be mad

My girlfriend every wednesday night goes out to a dance club with her friends from work, and she always talks about how she dances with her friends and doesn't do any bad things. But her friends are guys that she knew in high school and only started getting to know for the first time in 4 years. Last time i went, i had my 4 beers by midnight and was ready to leave, any way i found her on the dance floor grinding with some dude she said was an old friend :mad: .

Now i know i've done some things in this relationship that are far from honorable(the girls in charleston i.e.) but we seem farther apart than we used to, she even told me today that she want me to change my look and get an earring and spike my hair so i would look more "sexy." I told her i wasn't changing myself for anyone. Should i be mad?

No - there is no reason to be mad. Why aren't either of you willing to compromise? How solid is this relationship?

My girlfriend every wednesday night goes out to a dance club with her friends from work, and she always talks about how she dances with her friends and doesn't do any bad things. But her friends are guys that she knew in high school and only started getting to know for the first time in 4 years. Last time i went, i had my 4 beers by midnight and was ready to leave, any way i found her on the dance floor grinding with some dude she said was an old friend :mad: .

Now i know i've done some things in this relationship that are far from honorable(the girls in charleston i.e.) but we seem farther apart than we used to, she even told me today that she want me to change my look and get an earring and spike my hair so i would look more "sexy." I told her i wasn't changing myself for anyone. Should i be mad?
Good on you for not changing for her.


You should be remotely suspiscious, but not mad as such.

I just posted this in another thread but here it is again, because we need to be reminded...
http://www.beefhole.com/pics/women.jpg

Well, I'll try and be as unbiased as I can since your gf and I are good friends.

I agree with the good for not changing. I know you, and know that it would go completely against what you believe to change just to appease someone. Besides that, an earring and spiked hair wouldn't look like you, ya know? It'd be weird and everyone would be like "what the hell did you do?"

Now, I know I haven't had too many relationships to be giving you advice, but at least hear me out. If it bothers you what she's doing, go out there and dance with her. Even if you don't necessarily like to dance, you'll be the one giving her the attention, and not the other guys. It's not like you don't have any say in this matter.
If you think things are starting to get farther apart, do something different. You're pretty good at coming up with ideas on what to do, so do something the two of you have never done before. It may not be horribly exciting, or what you're used to, but it will be new and you'll be doing it together.

I don't know man, I suppose to truly understand what you're experiencing, I'd have to be in your position, and that's a bit tough seeing as I'm not you. Like I said, I know I don't have so much experience in relationships, but that's just my thoughts. Good luck, and call me if you wanna talk or something.

I just posted this in another thread but here it is again, because we need to be reminded...
http://www.beefhole.com/pics/women.jpg


:rofl: :rofl: :rofl: Holy shit that was great!!!!

How solid- It's not to bad i guess, we've been dating for a little over 2 years. I dont know..... women to this day continue to confuse me, everyone of them is different, so when you get used to one kind of woman you have to figure another one out, but yet they are all the same..they're the same but different, i dont get it....

I dont know..... women to this day continue to confuse me, everyone of them is different, so when you get used to one kind of woman you have to figure another one out, but yet they are all the same..they're the same but different, i dont get it....
Dont try to figure them out, you cant figure out women. Insted try to figure out what makes her happy. In all honesty I think if you figured out a woman you would get bored with her wouldnt you?I mean if you knew what she was thinking all the time. new exactly what she was going to say and do wouldnt you get tired of her?
As for the first post, my suggestion is to just ask her about whats going on. If youve been going out for two years it sounds like you have a strong relationship, maybe its just time you did something with her besides going to the club, try a different club maybe :dunno:

I just posted this in another thread but here it is again, because we need to be reminded...
http://www.beefhole.com/pics/women.jpg

hahaha!

Anyway dont change for her if she doesnt like you then she should find some1 else.

sounds alot like the relationship i was just in. she always went out to the bar with friends and so on and so fourth. i wasn't mad till she dumped me. now she has a new guy. i love these sudden urges of homicidal rage.

i wouldn't be worried till she changes the way she act towards you.

Dont try to figure them out, you cant figure out women. Insted try to figure out what makes her happy. In all honesty I think if you figured out a woman you would get bored with her wouldnt you?I mean if you knew what she was thinking all the time. new exactly what she was going to say and do wouldnt you get tired of her?
As for the first post, my suggestion is to just ask her about whats going on. If youve been going out for two years it sounds like you have a strong relationship, maybe its just time you did something with her besides going to the club, try a different club maybe :dunno:
Well actually when you have women figured out it makes it soooooooo much better. Which kinda runs with what your saying because you can make them happy and at the same time make your own self happy.

One of my BIG hobbies is studying psychology and NLP. (Especially the stuff that works great on women).
I've read pretty much every book on dating, getting myself to be funnier around women, getting more confident, ect.

My advice (if you wanna take it) is to start looking for another women RIGHT NOW! Not in two weeks, not in a day. But right now, just get out and meet girls. There all nice, dont be afraid. I've NEVER had a girl be bitchy to me when i meet them. And yes the EXTREMELY hot ones too.

Because what's happening (and its not your fault because you dont know) is that she's loosing the all important feeling called ATTRACTION for you. Just because of a sequence of things that have gone on between you and her the past couple of weeks, months, whatever.

I'm not saying dump her, just find other options, i mean if she's out there dancing with other guys, GET YOUR LAZY ASS OUT THERE AND DANCE WITH OTHER GIRLS! LoL.

It will make you alot happier. Hoped that helped any.

If she wants to be all over other guys, then she shouldn't be in a relationship. I would be pissed man, you have every right. Take the advice, if she wants to do it, then you go do it. Although I probably know how you feel. You probably dont want to go out and do the same thing she is, you probably just wish she would stop. Atleast thats how I'd feel if I was my girl.

I don't see why you get upset at your girlfriend dancing with other guys when you cheated on her (http://www.automotiveforums.com/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=1778126&postcount=17).

Your hypocrisy sickens me.

Yeah, that's true Toksin. I shouldn't hold double standards for myself. It shouldn't sicken you though, not as much as aggravate by having to point that out, which i did mention in my first post.

One standard for you, one for everyone else.....



That's the most manly way of thinking, I like it.

One of my ol' friends used to say this all the time: "The nicer and friendlier you treat your g/f the more chances that the bitch will cheat on you!" So basicly what he ment was that not to be afraid to step your foot down, and lay some rules down! Too bad we were both drunk when he said this, im not even sure if he was serious or not! And the funny thing is.. that im drinking right now. wow




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Get off your butt and go dance. This is why I usually don't date girls that go to clubs. There is three reasons why I dont date girls that go to clubs.
Reasons:
1.) Someone in Wranglers, Cowboy shirt, boots, and hat definitely won't fit and will be taunted.
2.) The reprecussions of being taunted is me fighting and possibly embarrasing the girl.
3.) Can't dance to save my life.
But anyway, have some faith in her. Try some new stuff do NOT change your looks. If she doesn't like you for you tell her either move on or deal with it. But definitely try doing something new for the both of you. Possibly take her horsebackriding(if it is new to you and her. It seems to do good for relationships. I know from experience (ie years of being a barn rat)

One of my ol' friends used to say this all the time: "The nicer and friendlier you treat your g/f the more chances that the bitch will cheat on you!" So basicly what he ment was that not to be afraid to step your foot down, and lay some rules down! Too bad we were both drunk when he said this, im not even sure if he was serious or not! And the funny thing is.. that im drinking right now. wow




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"The nicer and friendlier you treat your g/f the more chances that the bitch will cheat on you!" So true, it hurts. :disappoin

What so many guys fail to understand is that a night clubbing/dancing, ESPECIALLY with females can be an awesome night out. It's all about finding music you can dance to.

I am a hard dance freak - hard trance, hard house, german techno, I don't care - it just has to have some pounding bass and a hard edge.

I have other friends who are really into chilled out house. But really, my point is, find some genre of dance music that does it for YOU and then drag HER along.

There's absolutely no feeling like watching the sunrise in a club that is still absolutely pounding after a night of hard dance, good laser setup etc. with some good friends.

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Next time I see something like this I will delete it. If you've got nothing to say, don't post. Simple as that.