Girlfriend Greif

Alright, this is really not a good week for me. As some of you may know, I have a bunch of guests over for a couple of days that are driving me nuts.

Anyways, my gf is getting on my case now how I'm avoiding her and pushing her away because I havent seen her in over a week. Ive asked her to come over anytime she wants, but she is intimidated by my family. I booked off 3 days next week to spend some time with her, but she says it isnt enough, and that I'm not trying hard enough.

So yesterday me and her get the talking about everything thats goin on, and she goes on about the same thing. I lose it on her and just started going on how shes beeing to needy and cussed her out. She thought that I was too high on my horse and that I need to stop disrespecting her.

The worst part of all this is that she had the nerve to send me an e-mail at work saying how she doesnt need nor deserves to be treated like shit, that I need to stop thinking I'm perfect and give her the respect she deserves. Then it ends with her saying that she wishes me luck finding another girl that will allow me to trweat them the way I treated her...and she has nothing more to say to me.
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Well that does it, when she comes into work today, I dont care if any of my boss' are around, shes gonna hear it from me. She always, always, always uses the whole "see ya around some time...maybe" every time theres a fight. If you wanna know where this little quarrel came from, it's from ehr thinking that im being "mean" to her online :screwy:

Man... if a girl pulled that shit with me, I'd drop her like a bad habit.

The first second I hear crap like "that's not enough" it's over. Not worth making huge sacrifices to keep maintenance on a girl with a short fuse.

Thing is that I've been seeing her for over a year now. None of my past erlationships lasted over a month...well, I guess I'll takl to her when she gets in and see what's really up, if she wants to end it, then it's her loss

Do yourself a favour and don't blow you're top at her at work.
You'll just ending up looking like a dick and everyone will know your buisness.

As far as the other goes, all I've heard is your side so..
But, IMO, if you booked three days off for her that sounds pretty darn good.
See you around sometime...maybe? yeah baby, real good way to get some "quality time".
Nothing like threatening to break it off to bring you closer eh? :wink:
I can understand her feeling left out/insecure or just plain uncomfortable, but I would hope that she would be a little more understanding and enjoy the time that you do have together.

Do you want to continue the relationship with her, or are you tired of all the bullshit?

By the way, I'd tell her that luck has nothing to do with it, you had no problem finding one before her and there won't be one after her either.
See how she likes that little nugget. :lol:

Well I can understand that she wants to spend time with you, but aparently she doesn't understand that there's a lot going on with you and your family and stuff. Hey, you told her that she could go over, but she's choosing not to. And to top it off, she's not even satisfied with the three days you're taking off, just for her! Doesn't seem fair to you at all. I hate it when you do so much for a girl and they end up saying "it's not enough." That's three extra days off you're taking...that's a lot.

Spyke, I used to work and go to school with her. We used to have HUGE fights every now and again where half of the school would get invovled and the rest of them knew what was happening. Now the fights usually blew over without any major damage.

She always threatens to break up with me after all the fights. She gets like this when I dont see her for a while (1 week and she gets all crazy, I can imagine how shed get when I leave for 2 weeks...)

Trust me, finding another girl isnt an issue, it's not what matters. It's the fact that Ive spent so much time with her only to be dropped like a bag of flour because of her paranoia.

PS, she acts differently when I confront her face to face

I know it sounds bad to drop her hard like that after so much time... but guy, you gotta realize this could continue for a long time and cutting your losses fast is the best option.

If she can't cook for beans, dump her ass.

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Yea I really don't know what I'm gonna do, it all depends on what she is going to say today. If she fucks up, it's over and then I'm going to spend my 3 days off to get fucked and forget her!

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Yea I really don't know what I'm gonna do, it all depends on what she is going to say today. If she fucks up, it's over and then I'm going to spend my 3 days off to get fucked and forget her!
I don't recommend this for your three days off, although it does sound fun. Falling back on women when something bad happens will make you emotionally dependent on them, and they could try to take advantage of that. If you do this, don't even mention your girl to any of them. Most women are evil!

Ignore that^ :P

Go out and party on your 3 days. You took them off for her, if you wont need them for her, go out with your friends and meet girls and take your mind off her. Have an absolute blast, you'll feel better about your decision if you do.

Ive come to know that all women are evil no matter how kind/normal they seem. You can give them the world and it's still not enough for them. Grr, I hate working with the public when events such as this take place, I feel sorry for my customers.

I just wanna leave work, sit down and talk to her...

Not all women are that bad man, about 99% of them are, but not all of them.

Then 99% of them need to be smacked upside the head and have their brains turned around to work properly.



Disclaimer: I would never hit a woman, it was just a joke

corrective brain surgery to reverse the direction of their brains does sound like a good idea



Disclaimer: I meant every word of it

Ok dude, here is my view on this. Ignore her at work. when she comes up to you, and more than likely makes the comment. "what, you arent going to talk to me"... just tell her, oh yes, I want to talk to you, but now is not the time. say it in a serious voice, make it seem like you are going to give her the heave ho message. this will force her to sit down and evaluate the relationship, and see how much she really cares about you. hopefully, HOPEFULLY she will realize what a pain she has been lately and that her feelings for you run deeper than that. if she is still super bitchy, then just tell her look. my family is in town. I hardly get to see them ( or if you do, say you dont see them often, or something to that degree) tell her that she is a big part of your life, and so is your family. tell her you are proud of her and want to show her off to your family (making her feel like a fool for running and being intimidated by them). Tell her you feel like she is a big part of your family, so she shouldnt be bothered by them. let her know that you care for her, and you don't appreicate her making you feel like you arent doing anything. one thing, you failed to mention how much effort does she put forth into this relationship. is she always the one making the phone calls, the trips, planning adventures. does she set aside time for you, or are you the only one ever taking time off of work. I know you two went on that fishing trip a few weeks ago. if you both are putting a equal time into this, talk it out. if she is doing everything, and wants it that way per say, she might be a little needy. whats going on in her life right now? is it a stressful time where maybe she needs you for some emotional support, or domething to that degree, but since she is intimidated by your family, she doesnt want to intrude and feels that she cannot otherwise gets the support she needs from you. if you do feel that she is being really needy, let her know. tell her you feel like she is not giving you rom to breathe. no, when you do tell her this, she is going to get all hurt and defensive about it. all women do. if she can't take the criticism, then maybe it might be time to take a short break from each other and re-evaluate the relationship and where each of you stand. your both young. if it doesnt work out, there will be plenty of time for that right one to fall into your lap.

Well she's not allowed to come in my area (I'm higher up than she is, "restricted zone").

She has been over at my house when my family was over before, she just doesnt like being outta place. I usually make the phone calls when I can (she doesnt call me because she never knows when I'm home). I take time off work for her but she usually comes up with things to do (I do my part though, as in next week I planned something for us to do before I leave for vacation). Shes not going through anything major in her life right now, apart from being paranoid that im pushing her away and avoiding her. I dont see my family often (havent seen my uncle in over 6 years). its not my fault I work so much, it's not my fault I cant see her all the time, when I get the chance I go out with her, I even take the time to make time for her...yet its not enough

that is a ton of BS. i know nothing about relationships, but i hope everything works out for you.

Well she's not allowed to come in my area (I'm higher up than she is, "restricted zone").

She has been over at my house when my family was over before, she just doesnt like being outta place. I usually make the phone calls when I can (she doesnt call me because she never knows when I'm home). I take time off work for her but she usually comes up with things to do (I do my part though, as in next week I planned something for us to do before I leave for vacation). Shes not going through anything major in her life right now, apart from being paranoid that im pushing her away and avoiding her. I dont see my family often (havent seen my uncle in over 6 years). its not my fault I work so much, it's not my fault I cant see her all the time, when I get the chance I go out with her, I even take the time to make time for her...yet its not enough


well, then send her an email that says you too need to talk, and if she asks about what, just tell her now is not the place, and you will talk to her in the evening. maybe she is wanting to get that little ring on her finger, or maybe move in together....

I snet her an e-mail at home telling her that I will be confronting her about this when she gets in...all I'm asking from her is to have the decensy to tell me it's over to my face and reminded her of the stupid reason she's using to end it




Funny part is that im more mad then sad about this whole ordeal....

Raz, take it from me sit down and have a seroius talk with her, keep your cool. Ask her whats going on and why it is happening. Try to work something out, and if she desides the relationship is working out, move on. If she does break it off get her to at least say it on the phone or better yet face to face, emails always leave way to much room for dought. If she says its over, its over maybe give her one chance to get you back, women can change their mind after they have time to think, if shes going to break it off a second time, leave her for good! Most women Ive met WILL fuck with your head after they leave. Youll find the right one sometime, im sure several of you read my post about my last G/F, Ive found someone, if theres hope for me, theres hope for you. Hope this helps. Ive been there before so dont be afraid to IM or PM if you want to talk.

yea I e-mailed her only to let her know that I'll be showing up in her area to confront her about this on my break and told her to tell me face to face it's over. That's all I ask her, not gonna make a big scene in front of her cooworkers. Just a simple
"yep, it's over"
I walk away and no one gets hurt

*UPDATE

Well i went over to her area of the workplace only to discover she hasnt read her e-mials. I had a small oppurnitity to talk to her about what the hell is going on (this was really weird as we were both laughing :screwy: ) I got across that this little incident started from a stupid reason, she got across that im still a jackass and that im not getting her point through my thick head.

I jst told her to read the e-mail and respond back face to face...if she does it over the phone/mail/IM I will make things hell as Ive done to the other ex's

Wow she sounds like a major drama queen. Can you imagine living with/marrying her? Cripes!

Well...got home yesterday around 8-8:30. She was done work at 9, she came online only to be baffled at the state my internet is, so she decided to call me.

We were on the phone for over 3 hours last night (the longest Ive ever spent on the phone) talking about everything thats going on. I told her that she needs to stop acting like a child if she wants me to respect her as an adult. Many things were said, all in all its still a work in progress....i guess