Life.

everything sucks.

as some of you may know, my girlfriend of 8 months recently broke up with me. and before any of you cynics say ANYthing about 8 months being "paltry", or "not long enough to love someone", shut the fuck up before you even type it because you don't know how i felt. any comments like that left in this thread will be deleted.

anyways, she broke up with me after 8 months. and for what reason? "my feelings have changed. it's nothing you did, it was just time". time? leading up to it, everything was fine. sure we've had our rough patches in the past, but everything in my mind recently was a-ok. i didn't even see it coming, she gave me no indication. it's almost as if she broke it off with me based on feelings that she just developed a day before, which is a move i've made before and i'll admit it was stupid.

she also said "i'd still like to be friend". oh really? then why have you been avoiding me ever since?

to make it worse, she's already hanging out with another guy who she claims had "nothing to do with the break-up" and "is just a friend, i promise". bullshit. when you break up with me and then spend every single freaking night with this motherfucker, what the fuck do you want me to think? that it just naturally flowed that way? and the fact that she's even thinkinf of that within less then a week of breaking up with me goes to show how little i meant to her after all. i've wasted so much time and so much money on her...and for what? to be devastatingly heartbroken and dropped like a wet rag for some guy that she's known for all of a week? i loved her. genuinely loved her, but it doesn't really sound like the feelings were returned.

as if that weren't bad enough, the car i want to buy at the end of the week might sell at any second now, the guy who said would buy my 240SX is fucking me over and won't pay me any money whenever i go to talk to him, none of my friends are home this weekend to hang out with, and my family is gone as well so i all can do is sit around this FUCKING HOUSE BY MYSELF AND THINK OF HOW FUCKING MUCH MY LIFE SUCKS BECAUSE I HAVE NOTHING AND NO-ONE TO TAKE MY MIND OFF OF HER! FUCK!

and as if THAT weren't bad enough, i went into town to get dinner at McDonald's tonight, and who'd i run into? you guessed it. little miss muffet and her new beau. so i figured what the fuck and sat down to eat with them. i accidentally get ketchup on her shirt, and what does she do? she stands up in the middle of fucking McDonald's and starts SCREAMING at me at the top of her lungs about how much i fucked up the relationship and how i'm STILL doing stupid shit to her even after we're broken up.

i don't know what the symptoms of clinical depression are, but i'm sitting here at 12am on a summer saturday night, 18 years of age, when i should be out partying. i'm sitting here alone, in my house, on my computer, with an alcoholic drink in my hand. and i'm crying. sounds like depression to me.

i can't take this anymore.

Welcome to Adult life. Id say go for a drive but you've been drinking. Anyway, sucks not to have anyone to hang out with. Go put on a funny movie and get drunk.

"Shit happens, things change and no one has all the answers"

You look pretty happy in your sig pic...

Boy, real support here. Listen man, as a guy who has found love at the age of 18, I can say I have an idea of what your fealing. I hate to make thing's worse but she's most likely been cheating on you. I can't say I know of anything short of a killing that will make you feel any better. But don't that, that would be bad. I would say get drunk, but you already did that, which was VERY funny to read, BTW. I'd say your not in depression, just moaning. you can't change her feelings, say like the others said, pop in a funny movie and get wasted, it'll make time move faster. If you need someone to talk to, PM me anytime.

Already said what I've needed on MSN. You know where to find me Brian.

as if i wasn't already mad enough, the fucking server just ate the paragraph's-long reply that i just typed up.

anywho, to sum it up, running into her tonight made me feel even shittier. i'm not going to get shitfaced tonight by myself because that's really sad.

tomorrow looks up, as i am heading to see one of my old friends that i've known for 14 years (since grade 1), and we're going to go hang out with a couple of hot women, then go hit the bars and get shitfaced. he has a computer, so expect some rigorous pissposting. :D

Boy, real support here. Listen man, as a guy who has found love at the age of 18, I can say I have an idea of what your fealing. I hate to make thing's worse but she's most likely been cheating on you. I can't say I know of anything short of a killing that will make you feel any better. But don't that, that would be bad. I would say get drunk, but you already did that, which was VERY funny to read, BTW. I'd say your not in depression, just moaning. you can't change her feelings, say like the others said, pop in a funny movie and get wasted, it'll make time move faster. If you need someone to talk to, PM me anytime.
Yeah he pretty well said it, your welcome to PM or Im me anytime as well

It's tough man. Life is most of the time. But, when it gets you down, you have to roll with the punches. This is just a temporary set-back in your life, and I'm willing to bet you aren't going to let it stop you. It may bother and hurt for a while, but that's to be expected with such a situation, so that can't be changed. But, don't let it ruin the days that you have. You can never get time back, and to spend it being pissed off at something, no matter how big or small, is a waste. I personally believe that fate plays a part in life, and, by my belief, if you were meant to be with this girl, things would have worked out.

I don't know man, you'll be fine, you and I both know this. Just take it as it comes, because if you try and do more it will just end up stressing you out more than you need to be.

Not too much I can add to these posts. I agree with them.
When I was your age I got dumped by several girls that I loved. It sucked; they were cruel, shallow, nasty (in a bad way) and I felt like you do.
But it gets better. Give it a bit of time, you will know that she's the loser, not you.
You can always PM me. You live in my home town anyways.

The one piece of advice that you should take to heart is do not spend any time with this woman. Do not make an effort to see her. Do not make an effort to avoid her. The times you run into each other, be cordial but not chatty. You do not have to leave, but do not accept any invitation of any type from her.

Many women still like to exert control over ex boyfriends for as long as they can. Do not assist in this. The pain will pass. Every single adult male on this planet has been exactly where you are now. Take it from those of us who've been there (and several times for many). You may realize that part of your pain comes from the act of the losing something and that something may not be entirely the woman.

i don't know what the symptoms of clinical depression are, but i'm sitting here at 12am on a summer saturday night, 18 years of age, when i should be out partying. i'm sitting here alone, in my house, on my computer, with an alcoholic drink in my hand. and i'm crying. sounds like depression to me.

i can't take this anymore.

Wait? You're telling me that isn't normal? And I'm not kidding either.

...I shouldn't tell you that part of the reason I'm this way because of women. ~_~

EDIT: Oh and:

i accidentally get ketchup on her shirt, and what does she do? she stands up in the middle of fucking McDonald's and starts SCREAMING at me at the top of her lungs about how much i fucked up the relationship and how i'm STILL doing stupid shit to her even after we're broken up.

I would have done it again. Typical ex.

Best thing I've noticed is ignoring the person, don't even talk to them if you see them. If they know it's bothering you they'll probably from my expirence keep trying to talk to you. Keep trying to be "friends" fuck friends cut her off. Get drunk, find someone else it'll really get under your skin if you can do the same thing they did.

The real problem is not getting over this girl...it's not letting the bitterness carry over into your next relationship. Sometimes it's hard not to generalize after a woman you love screws you over- to feel like all women are treacherous bitches out to rip your heart from your chest...

Everyone has depression at one time or another, for many different reasons.

I thought I was heart broken when a high school girl only went out with me once......then another girl came along.....then the military thing.....then another girl........then overseas duty.......then another girl........got married.......then divorced........then a really hot woman......then got dumped after 5 months.......then another woman, nothing happened.......then a younger woman, again nothing happened.......now a really funny, nice, giving woman, someone I can see a future with.

Life is full of changes, live it up and be happy.

I dont know why you guys are all telling him to get drunk. Alcohol is a downer and getting drunk will just make him more depressed.

I dont know why you guys are all telling him to get drunk. Alcohol is a downer and getting drunk will just make him more depressed.

:eek7:
Depressant does not mean alcohol makes you depressed! Depressant means depressed arousal state (opposite of a stimulant) as in slower heart rate, increased relaxation, lowered blood pressure, loss of inhibitions, slower breathing and movements, etc.

Being drunk is probably when I have the most fun other than driving.

oh. Well whenever my boyfriend drinks, no matter what mood he is in before, he gets depressed. I'm sure everyone is different though.

getting drunk to get over this isnt gonna make you depressed, its just not a good idea start thinking of it as something that can solve all of your problems.

Getting drunk is like taking a truth serum. It breaks down inhibitions and the true person comes out. If you're in a depressed state of mind, look out. I've seen it happen too many times, the most mild mannered person becomes superman and then sometimes the biggest, baddest dude becomes the crying hulk. Alcohol or drugs is never the answer.

you forgot the sex part.

The one piece of advice that you should take to heart is do not spend any time with this woman. Do not make an effort to see her. Do not make an effort to avoid her. The times you run into each other, be cordial but not chatty. You do not have to leave, but do not accept any invitation of any type from her.

Many women still like to exert control over ex boyfriends for as long as they can. Do not assist in this. The pain will pass. Every single adult male on this planet has been exactly where you are now. Take it from those of us who've been there (and several times for many). You may realize that part of your pain comes from the act of the losing something and that something may not be entirely the woman.

Beautifully well written.

The real problem is not getting over this girl...it's not letting the bitterness carry over into your next relationship. Sometimes it's hard not to generalize after a woman you love screws you over- to feel like all women are treacherous bitches out to rip your heart from your chest...

This is so true, alot of great responses. I agree that while drinking will ease the feelings you have, it can also get you into an even more shitty mood. Brian, what you are going through I do not consider it as depression. Upset, hurt maybe. I would suggest going to a gym and work it out, get your mind off of her as hard as that can be. Most guys have gone through what you have gone through and it does hurt. Its good that you are going out with your friends, it'll keep you from thinking of her. Sometimes we love too much and when we don't, we are accused as being insensitive jerks. Don't let it get to you, while I do not know you personnally, what I have seen and read here in the forums by others and yourself you seem to be a very nice guy. You are young, and (don't take this the wrong way) a handsome guy. Soon enough you will have other ladies at your feet. You have a good head on your shoulders and need to let it guide you in working out this pain. You have friends both in AF and in the real world, that would gladly help you out. Soon, time will heal the feeling. She doesn't deserve you and it seems that she wasn't the right one for you. So do like your sig pic shows and put on a smile on your face and soon enough you'll find the right one.
TS out

if she really was cheating on you, and shes the type of grl that wounl do that shit, then she'll probly end up cheating on him, and if he had no problem going w/ her when she had a bf then he probly wont have too much trounble cheating on her (especially when he realized that she cheated on u and might do it to him) their relationship will probly go nowhere, not to say that this guy doesnt seem like a real class act, taking his girl to mcdonalds and what not. Mabe if they make it to their 1 month anniversary he'll spring for the supersize option. She fucked up and she'll know it soon enough. forget her.

you all may just be words on a screen, but all of your responses have made me think, and have definitley helped me through this.

i'm not totally better yet, but i'm getting there.

thank you all from the bottom of my heart for taking the time out of your day to type me a response, and help me through my troubles. it means alot to me.

Good to see you're doing better. Things are a lot easier the second you remember - girls are weirddddd. It's tough losing the one you really love... I can't say I've felt it - I'm getting married to the first girlfriend I ever had.

But I just look at it this way - the moment anyone starts pulling dumbshit things like... most girls do during breakups... i realize they're not worth my time and I'll be better off if I dont waste any further time and energy on them.

Just hang through it, get a new girl and treat her good, and have fun with it. As I'm sure most people here have already offered, You can IM me if you need someone to talk to. I'll at least make an ass out of myself so you'll laugh.

you all may just be words on a screen, but all of your responses have made me think, and have definitley helped me through this.

i'm not totally better yet, but i'm getting there.

thank you all from the bottom of my heart for taking the time out of your day to type me a response, and help me through my troubles. it means alot to me.
That's the power of the Internet, Brian.


Well, at least the power of AF, when the server's not busy...

Only took me cut and paste seconds.

No problem. Any more plagurised advice I can give...

well, while hanging out with friends tonight, her and fag-of-the-week showed up. and she did everything in her power to flaunt it in my face, or piss me off.

so now i'm pissed again.

Flash your cock at them?

Might make you feel better.

Most people have already stated what I would write. One thing people have always told me is if things suck hang in there, if it doesn't get better it isn't over yet, but it will get better give it time.

well, while hanging out with friends tonight, her and fag-of-the-week showed up. and she did everything in her power to flaunt it in my face, or piss me off.

so now i'm pissed again.

Don't let her know it bothers you, if she knows she'll keep doing it. I advise you do the same(get a hooker even) or completey ignore her if she even talks to you. It'll eat away at her if you do it.

wink at her new boyfriend.

a lot.

You should tell her fag of the week what a bitch she is and that he shouldn't hang out with her. He'll probably take off right there...

and then wink at him. I'm serious.

Whats this wink at the boyfriend stuff? All thats gonna go is get him a reputation or a fight. Just ignore them. Act like it does not bother you and just laugh at them. That will piss them especially her much more. By showing you are upset it just fuels her fire to continue to do it more and flaunt it like shes been doing.

ignore, ignore, ignore. This is the one thing that WILL piss her off. Girls want attention, lots of it. Just ignore her, it's the greatest revenge I can think of. Peace man.

Best thing would be to talk to her new "friend" and tell him not to get attached saying that if she left you for him she'll probably leave him for someone else too.

navyford has it down perfect.

There isn't a person in this world who hasn't had their heart broken by a loved one. Oh yeah( i learned this in my psy 101 class, im so proud) To be diagnosed as depressed you must be depressed for 3 straight years to have clinical depression. And drinking alone is very unhealthy dont do ever do that. And about the woman, after seeing how she treats you now, and learning what she thought of you during your relationship(mcdonalds scene) you really ought to realize now that she isn't worth your tears. Life goes on, with or without her, dont ever let one little bump in the road ruin it for you.

There isn't a person in this world who hasn't had their heart broken by a loved one. Oh yeah( i learned this in my psy 101 class, im so proud)

I've never had my heart broken.

I've never had my heart broken.

Yet

sh*t dude, I can't legally drink.

Where to begin? where to begin? Now I would say that my normal response would be to drink your sorrows away and then wake up in the morning realize what you did the night before and why you did it? but now...after what I have been through this past month, I wouldnt say that. I would say, sit down with a close friend that you can trust and talk about it. Vent to him/her and just let it all out. I know that may not be the easiest thing to do but getting trashed isnt gonna help. You'll think that it'll solve your problems and probably for the next few hours, it will. You'll do stuff that you wouldnt do sober and once you realize what you did, you'll get more depressed and one thing will lead to another and you may end up becoming attached (i hate the word addicted) to alcohol. What she did was wrong and she shouldnt be forgiven. My advice, take it as you may, stay away from places where she could possibly be but dont stay inside because you will see her. If you know she likes to hand out at a particular spot, dont go there, i'm sure there is another place like it in town. Go on a mini vacation. Even if its an hour away and stay at a hotel or something. Its away from home and you dont ahve to deal with the stressors of daily life. Get out and meet new people, that'll cheer you up. I mean, I know these things may have helped to work for me and I know that they dont work for everyone but every little bit helps. Try to stay away from the alcohol and drugs. I do have to say that from the bottom of my heart because I know what its like to finally realize that you have a problem and to get help. To finally come down for the last time and just go through withdraw isnt fun but sometiems its needed to realize what you have for yourself. This all probably makes no sense but i'm sure...to someone, somewhere, it does.

Best of luck and you know where to reach me if you want to talk.

concentrate your efforts on taking over the world, like BRAIN.

well brian, I always say you got to respect the good times as well as the bad times. When you feel you hit a low-point, best thing to do is look foward at other opportunities, like 240sx's