Chicks :-(

Ok, I have liked this girl for about a year now, she knows that. I have asked her out before but says she doesn't wanna have a boyfriend right now but is ok with me liking her and all cause were best friends. But like I guess she figures im over her cause she starts talking about this guy. Alright now get this, she now likes this guy that she doesn't know. Thats right, last summer she was at this fireman convention or something cause her dads a fireman and she met this guy there. (The kid lives 5 hours away) She talked to him like once, and hasnt seen him since. But now, she tells me all about him and says how great he is and how much she likes him. I have liked her for about a year, she knows that, and she now likes a guy she doesnt know. That makes me feel like shit, that I have tried for a year now and she just up and meets some kid once and likes him. This summer at the convention he didnt go but I guess he told his parents to get her email address so he could email her. So he has her email address cause she gave it to him but he hasnt emailed her yet. But I swear if he does and I get a hold of his screen name I will not only tell him to stay away from her, but if he ever emails her again that ill get my hacker friend to destroy his computer. Now I dont know if I will actually do this cause what if she finds out, she probably wouldnt be too happy that I tried to ruin something (if anything ever did happen). Ah, im pissed :disappoin

........I wanted to smack her, ............... But I swear if he does and I get a hold of his screen name I will not only tell him to stay away from her, but if he ever emails her again that ill get my hacker friend to destroy his computer. ............ Ah, im pissed :disappoin

Easy with the violent tendencies. This sucks and we have all been in this position, but don't turn into the "psycho - not- even-ex-boyfriend."
You became the male friend before you were the boyfriend.
Women don't want to date the familiar friend. They are attracted to the handsome mysterious stranger.
It's a tough rut to get out of. Try backing away for a bit. Play hard to get for a bit; say you are too busy doing your own interesting stuff to hang around with her as much.
Just my :2cents:

i agree with magicrat. create some space between the two of you. ive noticed that when you play hard to get they like you even more because most of the girls have to get what they want. and if they think that they cant have you then they will just try that much harder to get you. if that makes sense?

Yeah, makes since, but kinda hard since were almost best friends. Plus I see her like 4 times a week and we always hang out then, but I guess I not hang out with her and hang out with the guys, btw which I haven't done in a while.

Ok, I have liked this girl for about a year now, she knows that. I have asked her out before but says she doesn't wanna have a boyfriend right now but is ok with me liking her and all cause were best friends. But like I guess she figures im over her cause she starts talking about this guy. Alright now get this, she now likes this guy that she doesn't know. Thats right, last summer she was at this fireman convention or something cause her dads a fireman and she met this guy there. (The kid lives 5 hours away) She talked to him like once, and hasnt seen him since. But now, she tells me all about him and says how great he is and how much she likes him. I wanted to smack her, I have liked her for about a year, she knows that, and she now likes a guy she doesnt know. That makes me feel like shit, that I have tried for a year now and she just up and meets some kid once and likes him. This summer at the convention he didnt go but I guess he told his parents to get her email address so he could email her. So he has her email address cause she gave it to him but he hasnt emailed her yet. But I swear if he does and I get a hold of his screen name I will not only tell him to stay away from her, but if he ever emails her again that ill get my hacker friend to destroy his computer. Now I dont know if I will actually do this cause what if she finds out, she probably wouldnt be too happy that I tried to ruin something (if anything ever did happen). Ah, im pissed :disappoin

Alright, I'm going to respond to this with as much honesty as possible and as little beating around the bush as possible (with my opinion anyways).

1. She doesn't want a relationship with you. Sorry. If she did, she wouldn't have said no the first time, and she wouldn't be talking with this other guy. You are on the dreaded "friend" ladder, which puts you, in her eyes, as someone she can go to if she needs a favor, or to talk to if something is bugging her. But, no more than that. Sorry man, start looking for a new girl.

2. Don't talk about wanting to smack a woman. Ever. That's some real bullshit dude. Only a complete and utter piece of shit would ever consider smacking a woman. Unless she has a gun pointed to your head and the only way to save your life is to hit her, you don't do it. Period. Joking about it isn't even funny. I've had female friends be hit by their boyfriends (now ex's) for things as stupid as getting fingerprints on a car.

3. The relationship, however small, between her and this new guy, is not your business. If she wanted you in her business she would have informed you of it. Don't be acting like the pissed-off wannabe boyfriend and go bitching at a dude because the girl you like favors him over you, that's stupid, and immature. "Oh bah, this dude has a girl I likes' interest and it pisses me off because she told me no and him yes. Even though I don't know him, I'm going to have someone destroy his computer and all this happy horseshit. That will teach him to strike the interest of a girl." :rolleyes: Congrats man, destroy his shit, even when he has no idea about you. Good job on being a dick. Face the music, she's not for you. You can't just make someone love you. Not only that, but if you DO have someone destroy his computer and anything else, and it gets back to her, that could ruin whatever form of relationship you have right now completely.


Got all that? No? Here's the short version:

Man up and realize when you aren't a love interest and let her live her life. Don't fuck with what doesn't involve you and don't be getting on a tangent about warning someone for doing nothing wrong or destroying personal property for the same reason. You're her friend, so be one and take this like a man.

since eighteenvisions wrote pretty much what i was about to post...

find a new girl. you'll be ecstatic, then when you need to talk to someone about said new girl, talk to your friend. because that's what she is. a FRIEND.

She's not interested? Get over it. There's millions of them out there. Meet her friends ;)

I wonder how much these guy's are in the successful relationship ballpark. Look dude, if its a long term, serious ass relationship, wait. Do the research, 90% of successful, long (life long or close to it), relationship's start out as friends. the fact that she said no, may not be no, just not now. sounds like she still need's to grow up a little. My take, the best thing you can do is this, stay around her, a be there to pick up the piece's of her heart when her shit up boyfriends drop her like a hot pan. that's how I got my girlfriend.

You are on the dreaded "friend" ladder, which puts you, in her eyes, as someone she can go to if she needs a favor, or to talk to if something is bugging her.

Ah, I love the Ladder Theory!

2. Don't talk about wanting to smack a woman. Ever. That's some real bullshit dude. Only a complete and utter piece of shit would ever consider smacking a woman. Unless she has a gun pointed to your head and the only way to save your life is to hit her, you don't do it. Period. Joking about it isn't even funny. I've had female friends be hit by their boyfriends (now ex's) for things as stupid as getting fingerprints on a car.

Trust me, I would never smack a woman. I also believe that any guy that hits a girl dosen't deserve to live. It was just a figure of speach, I didn't mean I actually wanted to smack her. Sorry for the confusion.

Alright, I'm going to respond to this with as much honesty as possible and as little beating around the bush as possible (with my opinion anyways).

1. She doesn't want a relationship with you. Sorry. If she did, she wouldn't have said no the first time, and she wouldn't be talking with this other guy. You are on the dreaded "friend" ladder, which puts you, in her eyes, as someone she can go to if she needs a favor, or to talk to if something is bugging her. But, no more than that. Sorry man, start looking for a new girl.

2. Don't talk about wanting to smack a woman. Ever. That's some real bullshit dude. Only a complete and utter piece of shit would ever consider smacking a woman. Unless she has a gun pointed to your head and the only way to save your life is to hit her, you don't do it. Period. Joking about it isn't even funny. I've had female friends be hit by their boyfriends (now ex's) for things as stupid as getting fingerprints on a car.

3. The relationship, however small, between her and this new guy, is not your business. If she wanted you in her business she would have informed you of it. Don't be acting like the pissed-off wannabe boyfriend and go bitching at a dude because the girl you like favors him over you, that's stupid, and immature. "Oh bah, this dude has a girl I likes' interest and it pisses me off because she told me no and him yes. Even though I don't know him, I'm going to have someone destroy his computer and all this happy horseshit. That will teach him to strike the interest of a girl." :rolleyes: Congrats man, destroy his shit, even when he has no idea about you. Good job on being a dick. Face the music, she's not for you. You can't just make someone love you. Not only that, but if you DO have someone destroy his computer and anything else, and it gets back to her, that could ruin whatever form of relationship you have right now completely.


Got all that? No? Here's the short version:

Man up and realize when you aren't a love interest and let her live her life. Don't fuck with what doesn't involve you and don't be getting on a tangent about warning someone for doing nothing wrong or destroying personal property for the same reason. You're her friend, so be one and take this like a man.


holy shit, i agree with everything you have said word for word. very nicely put

A few things I have learned the hard way:
1. Don't date bestfriends ever, if she is a casual friend maybe.
2. Somethings are just meant to be, if you are meant to be with her something will happen and you two would end up together.
3. If you are that good of friends you should be happy for her that she found someone she might like to have a relationship with.
4. Don't try and stop someone elses relationship unless it involves abuse, ect. Most likely you would end up having issues with the guy and losing a friend over it, is it worth it?

indyram, do tell man, why is it such a bad thing to date bestfriends. they already more than likely know alot about other. That's 90% of it right there. she's go'in for the mysertious type she still addicted to the hunt; the daydreams, the thrill, need I go on. Like I said before, be there for her like he has, and one day she'll wake up and see what she's got go'in. I'm best friends with my girl.

pure brilliance


The man knows.

I've never had a girlfriend before, and I can tell you that it's probably much more fun to be single. I'm loaded, I'm nineteen years old, and I have everything I need. I'm all set. I don't exclude women from my life totally, I talk to some of them but I just don't do anything with them. I look at my friends and they're all whipped, poor, driving shitty beat up cars and working at dead-end jobs that they can't get out of because they have no education and can't do anything else. One of my friends has a kid on the way, and I feel sorry for him, his life is done now. Sure they have sex and everything, but it costs them. I think I have things figured out, but I already know that many people disagree with the way I see it.

You're asking for advice, and I thought I'd just add my side to it. The relationship you have with this girl has gone probably about as far as it ever will, I would venture to say...

deedoodeedoodeedoodeedoo... there's a signpost up ahead, you have now entered, the friend zone.

Ok, I have liked this girl for about a year now, she knows that. I have asked her out before but says she doesn't wanna have a boyfriend right now but is ok with me liking her and all cause were best friends. But like I guess she figures im over her cause she starts talking about this guy. Alright now get this, she now likes this guy that she doesn't know. Thats right, last summer she was at this fireman convention or something cause her dads a fireman and she met this guy there. (The kid lives 5 hours away) She talked to him like once, and hasnt seen him since. But now, she tells me all about him and says how great he is and how much she likes him. I have liked her for about a year, she knows that, and she now likes a guy she doesnt know. That makes me feel like shit, that I have tried for a year now and she just up and meets some kid once and likes him. This summer at the convention he didnt go but I guess he told his parents to get her email address so he could email her. So he has her email address cause she gave it to him but he hasnt emailed her yet. But I swear if he does and I get a hold of his screen name I will not only tell him to stay away from her, but if he ever emails her again that ill get my hacker friend to destroy his computer. Now I dont know if I will actually do this cause what if she finds out, she probably wouldnt be too happy that I tried to ruin something (if anything ever did happen). Ah, im pissed :disappoin


I FEEL YOUR PAIN

I liked this one chick for a year. The "like" became strong feelings. Strong feelings because an endless hurt cause I wanted her. Then I wanted her badly. Wanting her badly turned to obsession. After a year I gave in an asked her out. She said at the end "We're friends".
5 months later I hear she's sleeping around on a cruise ship, and fucking TOTAL strangers almost twice her age in night clubs, bars, and clubs. I told her how I felt. I poured my heart out, she rejected me, and then sleeps around. But I couldn't control her, I had no right. I wanted her, and given the chance, I'd pound her one, she's a fucking mega babe. You think Aussie chicks are hot? This Aussie chick is the Lamborghini Diablo of chicks. She's the Ferrari. The Porsche. The car every man dreams of, but will never touch. And I knew her. Man, I'd give my guitar to of poped her cherry.
I thought I was in too. I was sure she'd say yes, but no.

I left broken hearted for over 2 months. I couldn't fucking move, or look at her. But I'm over the slut now.

Easy with the violent tendencies. This sucks and we have all been in this position, but don't turn into the "psycho - not- even-ex-boyfriend."
You became the male friend before you were the boyfriend.
Women don't want to date the familiar friend. They are attracted to the handsome mysterious stranger.
It's a tough rut to get out of. Try backing away for a bit. Play hard to get for a bit; say you are too busy doing your own interesting stuff to hang around with her as much.
Just my :2cents:
Once your in that rut its very hard to get out of, I got out of it once and now that I think about it I would have rather stayed in the rut, not only did it cost me a G/F but one of the best friends i ever had, several friends in fact. Your going to have to ask yourself, is it worth risking a friendship with such a great woman to go out with her? In my opinion if she doesnt want to go out with you, you shouldnt try. When this happened to me it was some of the best times of my life, but the higher you get in life the harder you fall when it comes crashing down. there are plenty of other girls out there, best bet is to try to keep that one your friend. G/F's come and go but true friends are alot harder to find and its better to loose a G/F than a really good friend. It sounds like you havent had to go throught this before so youll have to trust me on this one.

You don't want her even as a friend, let alone get involved at a profound level. Why? Because she lied to you by the typical & misleading 'I don't wanna be in a relationship' bullshit. If she didn't want to be in a relationship, she wouldn't be falling for that guy so hard. Besides, how hard is it to tell you that she simply wants you as a friend and nothing more? For someone like her, it is hard. she wants a 'whipped friend' more than a 'good friend'. In other words, she needs pussies like you so she can suck the self esteem out of you, and feed her bottomless pit of insecurities.
Here's what you need do:
1. Get the fuck over her and get her out of your system NOW!
How? See step 2.
2. Get her the fuck out of your sight! Permanently! YOU ARE INFATUATED! In other words, you are infected by a desease called infatuation/lust, so you need to be detoxified. It's like alcohol abuse. You do everything in your power to not drink.....ever.
3. Find a g/f. These platonic scenarios are NOT for you.

a whole fuckin year wasted. :loser:
Man you make me sick seriously im going to throw up, you were her friend friends dont get laid, you missed a important male lesson growing up didint you. stop having fanatsys of this broad and move on its just sad that a grown man would come on here and shame himself so terribly by admiting to be a hater. The fire fighter guy deservess to hit that he did more to impress her in 10 minutes than you could do in a year. Move on and get some fukin confidence.


And hitting a woman is justifiable Just because there females doesnt mean they could get away with shit even your enemys wouldent do to you . SO Im pro SLAP A HOE when its necessary.



hey you really needed to here this even if you dont agree. :2cents:

"Pro Slap a Hoe" :disappoin Very Intelligent.. :loser:
-Jimmy

"Pro Slap a Hoe" :disappoin Very Intelligent.. :loser:
-Jimmy

:iagree: What the hell are you thinking. :disappoin Sad thing is your proud of it too.

:iagree: What the hell are you thinking. :disappoin Sad thing is your proud of it too.

Well, in his defence, who would want to slap the shit out of some chick who just kick YOU out of YOUR house, even if we would never do it. I mean, come on, girls do shit to guys that even your worst enemy would think of as inhuman. Not saying I'd slap a girl, cause I wouldn't, but still...

What about friends with benefits? Best thing to do though is move on once you have enter that zone theres no comin back. unless your lost for 10 years come back and become a completely different person.

a whole fuckin year wasted. :loser:
Man you make me sick seriously im going to throw up, you were her friend friends dont get laid, you missed a important male lesson growing up didint you. stop having fanatsys of this broad and move on its just sad that a grown man would come on here and shame himself so terribly by admiting to be a hater. The fire fighter guy deservess to hit that he did more to impress her in 10 minutes than you could do in a year. Move on and get some fukin confidence.


And hitting a woman is justifiable Just because there females doesnt mean they could get away with shit even your enemys wouldent do to you . SO Im pro SLAP A HOE when its necessary.



hey you really needed to here this even if you dont agree. :2cents:
1. A whole year wasted eh? So the fact that he still has her in his life means dick? Oh, wait, of COURSE it does, because he didn't get LAID. After all, that's all women are good for, right? Sex?:rolleyes: Good friends can become better friends. I've seen it happen.

2. Dude, pull your head out of your ass. Seriously. Women are generally the weaker sex. They take this role because they want the male to be the dominant figure. Do you know what that means? Do you? That means YOU DON'T EVER FUCKING HIT THEM. Now, I don't know what part of white trash world you grew up in, but slapping or striking a woman in ANY way with malice is not something that should happen. Ever. At all. You should be bludgeoned with a pipe for even saying that kind of shit. Saying you would hit a woman isn't something you should be proud of by the way. Find a real man and tell him that and he'd kick your ass. And yes, I said REAL man, because a real man doesn't have to hit a woman. Unless she's got a gun to your head or is inches from killing you or harming you, you don't lay a finger on her in anger. YOU make ME sick.

Me pull my head out my ass fuck you, read the post right pussie before you come at me side ways, the fucker obviously wanted more with her since day one now its a year later and hes mad because she doesnt want him, and now hes talking about sabotaging her relationships,yea What a real good friend. Hes obsessed on this girl and im letting him know that.
Yes women are the smaller than us and dont get me wrong let me correct what i said, Woman shouldent get hit its sad and unecesary for a woman to get abused by a 200 pound man.......................................but a bitch on the other hand, one who raises her fist at you and swings wildley like if they were pro boxers they do need to get slapped. And if youve never experinced these kind of woman good for you stay under your rock but theres people who know were im coming from. White trash fuck im mexican! i wish you would tell me that brave shit you typed in my face id slap your bitch ass to and have you really seeing eighteen visions!!!!!!

Oh yea and if you have to wait until she has a gun to your head to slap her your a fuckin idiot.

1. I didn't read anywhere that you said he was "obsessed".

2. This is the internet, and I'm full of opinions. I don't care who you are, if I have an opinion, I'll share it. You'll never meet me, I'll never meet you, lets face it. If you can't take something I say and it pisses you off that much, from the INTERNET, then that's not my problem. The way your first post read, you basically sounded like someone lobbying FOR violence against women. I just so happen to be someone who does not like violence against women. Excuse me for getting pissed off that someone would say something like that. Think about it, if there were something you so firmly believed as wrong, that others believed as well, and someone went against it, claiming that it's an ok thing (even if it's a bit taboo), how would you respond? Politely? Doubtful.

3. You were right, however, about the white trash comment. That was a bit crude of me. Everything else? I don't really care.

Me pull my head out my ass fuck you, read the post right pussie before you come at me side ways, the fucker obviously wanted more with her since day one now its a year later and hes mad because she doesnt want him, and now hes talking about sabotaging her relationships,yea What a real good friend. Hes obsessed on this girl and im letting him know that.
Yes women are the smaller than us and dont get me wrong let me correct what i said, Woman shouldent get hit its sad and unecesary for a woman to get abused by a 200 pound man.......................................but a bitch on the other hand, one who raises her fist at you and swings wildley like if they were pro boxers they do need to get slapped. And if youve never experinced these kind of woman good for you stay under your rock but theres people who know were im coming from. White trash fuck im mexican! i wish you would tell me that brave shit you typed in my face id slap your bitch ass to and have you really seeing eighteen visions!!!!!!

Even though the rest of the post is pure unadulterated dribble, that last line about seeing eighteen visions made me giggle.

Me pull my head out my ass fuck you, read the post right pussie before you come at me side ways, the fucker obviously wanted more with her since day one now its a year later and hes mad because she doesnt want him, and now hes talking about sabotaging her relationships,yea What a real good friend. Hes obsessed on this girl and im letting him know that.
Yes women are the smaller than us and dont get me wrong let me correct what i said, Woman shouldent get hit its sad and unecesary for a woman to get abused by a 200 pound man.......................................but a bitch on the other hand, one who raises her fist at you and swings wildley like if they were pro boxers they do need to get slapped. And if youve never experinced these kind of woman good for you stay under your rock but theres people who know were im coming from. White trash fuck im mexican! i wish you would tell me that brave shit you typed in my face id slap your bitch ass to and have you really seeing eighteen visions!!!!!!

My God, I said all that about sabotaging her relationships out of anger, you know, how you get upset and say things you dont mean? Yeah, thats what that was. And that thing about eighteen visions was retarded.

why the hell are you obsessing over someone who doesnt want you? She doesnt want you, thats the facts. Get over it, find a new girl, have fun.

Even though the rest of the post is pure unadulterated dribble, that last line about seeing eighteen visions made me giggle.
Me too:lol2: