TMI

Inspired by a comment made by FTO Girl. :p

When is it too much information? I sat in a cafe today waiting for my Chai to be made and from across the room, a woman started talking to me. I didn't realize she was talking to me at first, but once I caught on and politely responded back, she didn't stop. In less than eight minutes I had learned that she attends exercise classes regularly, but puts on a 10 pound stomach every winter, then has to sweat it off (this conversation taking place as she grabs her stomach and shakes it at me), then she began talking about some of her personal hygiene. :confused: So...the question begs asking, when is it too much information???

On another note. ;) I have a nickname back on campus, "TMI Flower Girl". This has to do with my first truly erotic moment. :) And no...I'm not going to post it. IM me if you're dying to know.

Originally posted by DantesInferno
Inspired by a comment made by FTO Girl. :p
See, I just knew it was going to be TMI. Sorry!!!! :(

Originally posted by FTO Girl
See, I just knew it was going to be TMI. Sorry!!!! :(

No, no, no...It wasn't TMI. I rather enjoyed it, just like JD! Don't worry about it. :)

OK, thanks Dante. :D

Now back on topic. ....

I have to agree with you on the TMI and strangers comment Dante. What are they actually thinking when they're rattling off their life history to a complete stranger. I’d never dream of doing that to someone. I definitely think when things start to get too personal (for example your comment about the stranger talking about their personal hygiene) with someone who’s not a close friend or partner, family member, etc. then it’s definitely TMI. There’s a difference between sharing information and SHARING information!

Right on! There has to be a certian level of a relationship, whether it be a friendship, a love relationship, or what have you, before the topic of their (Or your) personal hygiene should be talked about. And personaly, I don't think a public cafe is the place for it any way. Kinda like young sis talking about little Timmy throwing up at the dinner table when your lady friend is visiting.

Just look at them while their talking to you and let your eye twitch. Thats usually enough to get them to move on.

Originally posted by YogsVR4
Just look at them while their talking to you and let your eye twitch. Thats usually enough to get them to move on.

Hehe, I don't think I could do that to someone with out busting out laughing:silly2:

Originally posted by DantesInferno

On another note. ;) I have a nickname back on campus, "TMI Flower Girl". This has to do with my first truly erotic moment. :) And no...I'm not going to post it. IM me if you're dying to know.

I know what she is talking about so you can also IM me as well....:D


And as a side note, i would have to agree with what everyone has said before me. You have to have some sort of relationship with the person before you start going on about personal....stuff :)

Boy I'll tell ya, you two girls and your mind games, you don't even know your playin um:D By saying Originally posted by DantesInferno On another note. I have a nickname back on campus, "TMI Flower Girl". This has to do with my first truly erotic moment. And no...I'm not going to post it. IM me if you're dying to know. you spark a struggle deep inside every man. It is this, "Do I maintain my current train of thought, or do I let it run wild and turn back into a 12 year old and IM them asking for nitty gritty details"
Evil you are:devil:

Yikes that's scary!

You can tell alot about a person within minutes when they start conversing with you. She obviously has no cooth....imagine if you knew each other for a long time :eek: what kind of TMI you would have to listen too. There are some things best left unsaid...I don't care to share about my personal hygiene habits nor do I care to hear about others'.

Heh, I guess I will IM you to find out :)

Everybody has their own parameters for what is private and what is public.When the person you are talking to does not share your values,they do not tend to understand them either,and this makes it very hard for them to respect your space.

Worse yet,if you try to tell people that you do not wish to know,you usually end up coming across as the bad guy.:(

The other extreme can also apply..It can be very distressing to be in a relationship where you would expect an intimate sharing of thoughts, but the other person's personal space requirements make it appear that they are being secretive........

Originally posted by Gonthrax
Boy I'll tell ya, you two girls and your mind games, you don't even know your playin um:D By saying you spark a struggle deep inside every man. It is this, "Do I maintain my current train of thought, or do I let it run wild and turn back into a 12 year old and IM them asking for nitty gritty details"
Evil you are:devil:


that was my first thought

Originally posted by taranaki
When the person you are talking to does not share your values,they do not tend to understand them either,and this makes it very hard for them to respect your space.



I agree with that. Know what's even worse? When you do you gently let someone know you are don't wanna hear certain things and they talk about it even more!

We have a certain person in my office that is always talking about her "personal" health problems. And she certainly has no problem telling you about it especially while you are eating lunch :apuke:

This so reminds me of a visit I had at our local Big K recently!

Some poor, lonely housewife longing desperately for someone who cares came up to me during the week before Christmas and tells me all about her son and his schooling, and her decorations, and their trip to Disney World... I felt so badly for her because I know that in my area many men leave their wives at home all the time with no way to get around and meet people. I just let her talk until she felt content.

Then she found me again about 10 minutes later, but I politely told her that I had to be getting home (to which she kinda frowned). I guess some people will do anything to have real human interaction! :(

Originally posted by Gonthrax
Boy I'll tell ya, you two girls and your mind games, you don't even know your playin um:D ...you spark a struggle deep inside every man. It is this, "Do I maintain my current train of thought, or do I let it run wild and turn back into a 12 year old and IM them asking for nitty gritty details"
Evil you are:devil:

I'm sorry to hear that Gonthrax. No mind games were intended. :right:

I visit the local library quite a bit. One of the librarians there will literally talk for 30 to 45 minutes with out me saying a word. I just walk by and she calls me over to tell me something and it takes FOREVER to get away. So much of it is stuff I don't care about. I know WAY too much about her life, her savings, her family, her sons and their grades. It's very annoying, but I put up with it. She is a really skilled librarian and she can help me find anything, no matter how obscure.

Originally posted by FTO Girl
What are they actually thinking when they're rattling off their life history to a complete stranger. I’d never dream of doing that to someone. I definitely think when things start to get too personal (for example your comment about the stranger talking about their personal hygiene) with someone who’s not a close friend or partner, family member, etc. then it’s definitely TMI. There’s a difference between sharing information and SHARING information!


then my job's built on TMI :D lucky most people will indulge themselves if encouraged :)

Originally posted by YogsVR4
Just look at them while their talking to you and let your eye twitch. Thats usually enough to get them to move on. :hehe: Yogs, you are too funny :hehe:

Anyway, getting back to the topic, sometimes it is really hard to draw that line.. at least for me. I know I've "TMI'ed" a couple members here from time to time. I get this from my mom. We both really enjoy talking to strangers. We both have trouble with friends, because they so often have issues. I know I know, that's an assholic thing to say, but sometimes a little pleasant conversation with a complete stranger is great, since you don't have to stick around long to find something unpleasant about them. Sometimes you do. Sometimes they find out something about me if I fail to draw that line. The only thing that really bothers me is the idea of crossing that line and failing to notice... :uhoh: