GF Help

Hey guys, here the deal me and this girl have been friends since about December (2004) you know going out (only as friends unfortunately) and I want to be more than friends know (I don’t see her much at school because she is a sophomore and I am a junior so we don’t have the same classes) the only problem is I don’t know how to tell her this. I mean I can’t call her up and say hey lets go see a movie. Btw I want to be your boyfriend. Hey if anyone can help that would be cool. I mean this sucks I get pissed at every guy she talks to like I am her boyfriend but I am not. So any help would be appreciated.

so you're saying you haven't met her yet?
well when you do, don't forget to remind her how good she looks, then slowly build up from there

No I have meet her. We have been friends for a while but now I want to be more than friends. When I first met here I didn’t want to be BF+GF but now I do.

just start hanging out with her more outside of school. I dont see why you cant ask her to a movie since you are friends.

Hey guys, here the deal me and this girl have been friends since about December (2004) you know going out

since about December (2004)


:uhoh:

Listen buddy, I have this idea or two for your time machine.....

Suck it up. Be a man and ask her out/ tell her the truth about how you feel. Don't be a wimp and hope she eventually reads your mind. And don't start getting jealous of other guys, either- especially when youre not her boyfriend- thats a great way to show her you have a real confidence problem

Sorry to say, but welcome to the friend zone. You became her friend, not her BF. If you ask her out, she will more than likely say no and say "I thought we were just friends". It sucks, I've been there. After that it's damn hard to even look at them.

I was thinking the same thing as MBTN. Oh well I guess. Well I guess ill ask her and se what happens from there.
After that it's damn hard to even look at them.
If that happens it doesnt matter as much because she is going to a new school next year.

gotta just be cool with it but blunt its always the hardest part but worse to worse you got a friend and that matters a ton

Just ask her. Maybe she feels the same, if not prepare for "I know you too well" or "Let's just be friends". Either way, you'll both get over it eventually.

Walk straight up to her and say "I remember when you used to look like that for me". Then walk off and ignore her for the rest of the night. :evillol:

REQUIRED READING:

Don't Be Her Friend (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/104_relationship_expert.html)

Going From Friendship To More (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_200/205_relationship_expert.html)

Make Her Want More Than Just Friendship (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/35_relationship_expert.html)

Don't Be Her Stooge (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_60/81_relationship_expert.html)

Avoid Becoming Her "Friend" (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_150/189_relationship_expert.html)

When She Wants To Be "Friends First" (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_60/75_relationship_expert.html)

When Is A Date A "Real" Date? (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/116_relationship_expert.html)


And, if you don't manage to get this one to be more-than-a-friend...
Can Gal-Pals Help You Meet Women? (http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_100/126_relationship_expert.html)

While you're there, go ahead and read all of those Doc Love articles. ;)

lol awesome links man

I know how you feel dude, I've been in that situation a ton, usually ends up for the worst but we still stay friends, but you just gotta tell yourself that if she doesn't like you then your not right for each other and you'll find the girl for you eventually, and when you do, you'll be glad you waited... a girl acctually told me that last part, and I've experienced it so its deffinately true :)

good luck dude

Thanks for the links Jay. I read a couple and decided I just ask and see what happens, hopefully going to go out this weekend. And Soyo that last part makes sense, if she’s not right oh well I guess.

Thanks for the links Jay. I read a couple and decided I just ask and see what happens, hopefully going to go out this weekend. And Soyo that last part makes sense, if she’s not right oh well I guess.
Read ALL of them. Four times each. Seriously. Not kidding.

When you've read all of those, do read the other Doc Love articles... ;) 100% helpful, each and every one.

I am going to impart the usual advice here.

I've said it enough times, you all should know what it is by now.

Indeed, start tuning that guitar up :p




But really, I say don't get too attatched to her, so that you are jealous of other guys talking to her, just put the question straight up there and even if she says no try to pretend it didn't happen.

the trick is to get her to like you, if after about a month of trying hard and she still wants to be friends, give up boy, she's a lesbian.

Okay so i will ask her tommorow. But what should i say. Want to go out to dinner? Then tell her i want it to be a date??

Take her out for coffee or something and flirt, play footsies even (ok don't. I was joking) then go for a walk. Just an IDEA. If she picks up on what you're doing and gets uncomfortable back off, if she doesn't, keep doing what you're doing.

We cant tell you what to tell her. We have no idea how you two are in real life. Do you guys go out alot?

Take her out to dinner then rent a movie and go back to your house. Renting movies are way better than seeing them in the theater.

Take it from me... i liked a girl for 10 months... and we were jus good frends... i never had the guts to ask her out and then my "best friend" did instead despite knowing I liked her and didnt have the balls to talk to me first. So, just ask her out, the worse that can happen is gonna happen anyways cuz she'll go out with another guy if its not you. And that hurts for about 3 months. And BTW she and my frends are now going on 8 months...

This is a very simple problem that has a very simple solution.

Tell her your interested in her.

If she's not interested, move on.

Problem solved. NEXT!!

the problom your going to face is that rather they admit it or not girls like a guy that has attitude and is a jerk at times..that acts somewhat cocky...subconciously they beileve that this means you have " all that " and that they have to prove themselves to you....even tho as a social front they make it appear that they have power over you and they have what you want..its in all realness the other way around...so the fact that your friends means that you get along and your nice to eachother..that will be the problom you face..she doesnt think of you as that " bad boy " type character she fantasises about...hopefully she has already developed feelings for you and this wont matter..but if not....then you need to test the water and slowly start getting a lil cocky twards her..but in a playful motion so that she doesnt take an offense by some means..and then talk to other girls around her..flirt with other girls around her and let her realize that you have the attention of other girls..thats when there competitive dating side comes into play..int hat fact she will start giving you more attention..asking questions..dunb stuff like that..but dont subdue to fast..keep your answers short..but still give her the hint that " you might " be interested in her like that... keep hanging out with her, cause you dont want someone else stepping up..and get calls from other girls when your out with her if you can..but dont talk to them...im sure you get the idea...i know this for fact...because i ahve had quite a few instances where i have tried dating good friends because i have toi around here cause the rave/party scene is so damn small here.... and the 2 i tried to be upfront with I lost..then 1 i did that and I got her..then later on I tried that on 1 of the ones i already struck out on and it worked !! Its my theory and I have found it EXTREAMLY effective...and its honest cause your not playing them or anything...just getting them to realize that they want you ..I mean that in sence is how every other animal on this planet attracts a mate..why shouldnt we...

I find your advice slightly retarded.

Where was this thread dug up from?

I confirmed with a chic I know about if you start friends will the chic ever think of you as more and she said almost never cuz chics decide if your their type right when they meet you

Ok all guys/girls go through this, I know when I was in school I kept falling into the friends trap and I really hated it. As I got older and left school things got slightly better and what I realised was I had no self confidence, I always thought "Nah she could never like me she is too beautiful", basically I got wrapped up in how beautiful I thought the girl was, regardless of what other people thought. Well here is my story of how I turned things around

I started my first career job after leaving college about 6 years ago now. I was working in the IT dept of a large Insurance company here in Ireland.

About a year after I started a secretary started on our floor. Stunning wasnt the word for her, all the guys on the floor thought so (even some of the girls). She was tall, slim, blonde hair and the sexiest smile. But above all, she was brilliant craic (fun) to be around. Her name was Niamh and the two of us got on really well. We would always have a laugh and talk about plans for the weekend and stuff. We started to email each other in work aswell. Things were going great and I knew I was falling for her.

Well one Friday night after work we were all out for a few drinks and the usual laugh was being had between us. Late in the night two of us were very drunk and we kissed very briefly but she shunned me for the night. I was really wondering what was going on. Things were awkward with us for a few weeks after that and I wasnt sure how to react around her. After a while I thought I had blown it even though my friends told me I should ask her out.

Well Xmas party came around and things were much better between us, we were laughing again, and danced together the whole night. Everyone in the company was asking were we together and we both laughed it off and said no. Anyway we left together and one of my friends gave me a little look as if to say "Good man, you did it". We got the coach home and sat very cossily together, she was holding my hand and I had my arm around her, it was perfect. Nothing else happened that night.

All over our Xmas holidays we were in touch and on New years eve she sent me a very sweet text message. Now at this stage like anyone else reading this will guess, she did like me too BUT and its a very big but she said to me after our very brief kiss that she doesnt get involved with people from work. So now I am very confused and this is where I know how you feel ViperJ. For about a month after Xmas we were back to being our normal selves with each other. I was starting to kick myself for not making a move at the party and started to think damn she just wants to be friends, another one who just wants to be friends. But I asked myself What have I got to lose? so I asked her out for a drink and she accepted, We had a brilliant night just the two of us and I decided I had to tell her how I felt. I said to her, "I know you dont like getting involved with guys from work and I accept that but I really have to tell you something. I really like you and if I didnt tell you then I would always regret it and not now how you feel about me"...she felt the same way...and we ended up dating for a while.

What I am trying to say is, if you like someone dont let it go without telling them, be fair to yourself the worst she can say is no. I am engaged now to a different girl also called Niamh, somone who I cherish and adore. We have been engaged for 2 years, so the other side to the story is just cause you really like this girl now doesnt mean she is the right person for you. But if you dont ask her out, you never have a way of finding out.

Best of luck, I hope you do the right thing

seeing this thread is almost a month old now... whatever happened to the guy that started this thread? did they hook up or did he puss out and not ask her?

He hit on her, she took out a restraining order, he started stalking her and got thrown in jail.

yeah I heard about that

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