Net Based Relationships

What do you think. Give your honest opinion and have you ever been in one and if so how long.

I honestly would not mind a "net relationship" if i got to know the girl well, and got to call her, and talk to her online then its worth it to me. But, its also something that I don't want to do, because, souly on the fact, I'd rather be there with the girl, then sitting in front of a moniter talking to her, or having to hear her sweet voice on the phone. Other then that I would not mind. But I'd rather have a relationship in the flesh. It tends to work out better.

I think it's an good idea to a point. If you start staying home all the time just to talk to the othe rperson online, I think that'd be kinda bad. But I've been in relationships where the girl totaly smothered me, and had to be with me all the time, and that got annoying. and if I had a realtionship on the net, I could just not go online until I wanted to... But I have known people that met on the internet and they got married.

I don't trust internet relationships one bit, you could be talking to a 50 year old fat bald and ugly old man who still lives in Tennesee with his parents, not a 25 year old blond supermodel from Beverley Hills, even if they are what they say they are they still tend to lie.

I say leave internet relationships for the cyber-geeks

The say that on the 'Net nothing is real.....I've seen some people get as upset by their partners' net relationship as if it were a real one.The ironic part is,of course, that you can never have a real relationship on the net.Sure,you can look at each others picture and talk a lot but you never experience the tenderness and intimacy of a real dating encounter.It makes no sense to risk damaging a real partnership for what,in the end,is just a string of binary code from someone a long way away.

I've never had a net based relationship so I can't make comment. I've met some really great friends through the net though, so it's good for that. :D

I've met people on the net. I met one, and he turned out to be my most recent exboyfriend!!!

The net is great for people who are shy and can't really stand the idea of getting denied IRL. I'm very shy outside of my group of friends, so going out and actively searching out "guys" is really awkward for me. This way, I meet guys who are into cars, or ice skating, or whatever, and even if we never meet, it's still fun to get to talk with someone to get an idea of how different their perspective on life is. I mean, it's amazing talking with the Kiwi's whose culture is so drastically different from my own, or anyone elses, for that matter!

There's my spare change.

No, I have never been in one, but I would have to say that I doubt that they would work.

I would have to ask what you considered a net based relationship to be. One that began on the Internet or one that uses the Internet as a primary means of communication?

My answer assumes that,like myself,the person concerned would already be in a regular relationship,and that an Internet relationship was only considered as a lightweight diversion.

It is interesting for me to see the various opinions and justifications you have presented. I am by nature, believe it or not, shy around women but not men. I find it very easy to talk a women.

I have found love on the interent via the media of a chat service over 5 years ago. We saw each other virtually every day on line and not only conversed via type but also ran up some huge phone bills until we both were able to get voice chats going. Snail mail and emails poured back and forth for over a year until we met in person. All the mean time casual converstations turned into love. How can it turn into love you may think? Well there was a true connection as I was able to not only read the type but also feel the emtions and even knew without asking her state of mind, whether or not she was in pain or happy. Many times even before we came on line together. There was a definate connection of souls if you will.

She flew to meet me in person 4 years ago this coming Jan 24th. She stayed a month and then flew back. That month was like heaven. Complete bliss without a care in the world. I in turn flew to New Zealand on May 24th, 1998 and fell for the country and decided to live here. Even though our physical relationship ended back in June of last year I remained here.

I beleive love on the interent and interent relations are real. They can and do happen. More often than not they end before it is taken off the world of electrons and wires. Some make it as far as mine did for 3 years others die quicker. There have been a few that have went further and are still going.

One thing for sure that an interent relation can give you is the ability to see whether or not you are even compatable with converstaions. If you can not converse then obvisiously there is no reason to persue it beyond this relm. It takes both parties to be fully open and fully honest because if you are not then when it comes time to take that next step and go beyond here your world will come crashing down.

:)

I met my most recent ex on the net.

We talked for only a short time before we met because we lived in the same town.

Although I had her phone number i still talked to her alot more on here.

It was good while it lasted and Ive got no regrets.

The good bit is now that we have broken up we can completley ignore each other, and hopefulyl never see her again (thats how messy the break up was)

The net is just another tool to meet people. I dont think its should be used exclusively to make a relationship, but it can certainly by a useful medium.

I agree with Yogs

Ya see, in the end its all about people, what isnt?

Some people just cant connect with people over the internet, i for one couldnt deal with not being able to see the girl in person and go places, but on the other hand im insanely shy, soooo looks like im screwed :p

i cant say i have except when i was like 13. I vote for everything cause it can do all of them. i can say ive met people over the net that id love to go out with, but i havent been in a net relationship with them.

Net relationships suck. I'd need the physical part of a relationship, and like Jimmy_11 said, you never know, you could be talking to a 50 yr old guy instead of a younger hottie like they say.
Its fun to meet people, but not as a relationship...But hey, each to their own :)

another thing that i believe talking to people over the net can do is show you all teh different personalities there are out there in the world and you can figure out which one you like.

the problem with net relationships is that you can never be 100% sure that the other person is being honest. It is hard to fully judge a person on words on a screen

More valid points. I have seen talk shows do shows on them and very very few ever work out. As was stated it is hard to know 100% that the person you are talking to is for real and whom they claim they are.

It is so easy to hid behind type, and hype but comes the day when you may have to front. Me personally what you see is what you get. I have been to quite a few meetins from the chat room I met Barb in. I have met over 400 people who used to chat in the rooms I frequented. Nearly every single one of them were not whom they claimed in one form or another but hey I got to see, talk, and converse in real time and then make my judgement from there.

On the net well I take people at face value until I see otherwise. Cuts all the possibilities out and makes for a more enjoyable time on the net.

Peace

Originally posted by tazdev
the problem with net relationships is that you can never be 100% sure that the other person is being honest. It is hard to fully judge a person on words on a screen

Yes, exactly.

Another thing......people always have a picture of themselves which is usually a few years old....hmmm.
:rolleyes:

BTW - I didn't know what option to pick.

I have met a chick on the net, she even came over to see me, she was nice, and we had a good time, but nothing serious, it was just a holiday for her, she had never been to NZ and wanted to see some places, I was a tourist guide if you like.

Well I think chat rooms are a bit of a lurking place for some weirdos...

But i think forums (like this) are ok, because you do tend to build up friendships with ppl and can suss out what they're about by the way they reply and come across. I think some great friendships can be made.

But I don't think a proper "relationship" can be made until you meet the person face-to-face. Even if u get to the point where you are phoning each other, I don't think it can ever be the same as going out and getting to know each other in person.

There are exceptions of course, and it's obviously worked for some. :)

Im not saying to fall in love with a person based on their personality, but talking to people and getting to know them better online and know there personality, is a good way to learn the kind of personality that you want in someone that you meet in real life. Ive met girls over the net unlike any girl ive ever met in real life with what they say they would do and that.

A person can construct themselves however they see fit on the 'net....However,you have to be damned good at lying to get away with it.If you talk to someone over a period of time,and think about what they say and how they say it,you will find that you can quickly spot a pretender.I'm not suggesting that you cross-examine every statement somebody makes in a forum,just pay good attention to what they are trying to say,and most importantly what they are trying to avoid saying.Never meet an internet friend in person unless you have cast-iron confidence that they have been 100% truthful with you and that their motivation for wanting to meet you is entirely legitimate.

The odds are stacked against you if you try to develop a relationship over the internet....you only have to look at the pictures that people post of themselves to realise that whatever you think the person you are talking to,may be like,reality is often a surprise.

i wouldn't have an online relationship, and i never have...

I'd rather talk to a girl or meet a girl 1 on 1, not threw a machine.

Originally posted by gang$tarr
i wouldn't have an online relationship, and i never have...

I'd rather talk to a girl or meet a girl 1 on 1, not threw a machine.

It's through not threw. :)

But having a online relationship can be hard. Sitting behind a monitor may be easier for some to forget about reality, and tend to move to what a person wishes they could be.

Originally posted by GSr32


Yes, exactly.

Another thing......people always have a picture of themselves which is usually a few years old....hmmm.
:rolleyes: I did say that my pic was a few years old, so does that count?? You all know my aversion to cameras of any kind! :hehehe: :p

Originally posted by kbslacker


It's through not threw. :)

But having a online relationship can be hard. Sitting behind a monitor may be easier for some to forget about reality, and tend to move to what a person wishes they could be.

lol, i always make stupid typos like that.... my brain thinks through, and my fingers type threw. or my brain thinks there and i write their
haha

talkin about myself though, it would seem like a waste of time to build a relationship with somebody who lives far away (romantic relationship, not friend relationship) i don't even understand how you could have a romantic relationship with somebody on a computer

ah well, to each his own.... right?