any of the girls on, Would you Give this up?
bfagan10
04-16-2004, 02:37 PM
I am 19 and clueless as what to do.
I was with this girl for 1 year and 8 months. On our first date I fell in love with her and I decided to become a good caring person. I saw her every day for our time together. We spent all of our free time together. I gave up Dirt track racing and demolition derbies for her Because they took up too much time and money.
8 Months ago she moved on with me. In that time i found a side of me that I never knew was there. When we got into arguments I hit her. Nothing serious but still way out of line. It happened 13 times. I am now getting counciling. It really helps me. I don't flip out like i used to.
In our time together I showed her every way that I loved her. I did all of the small things that most guys don't do. I bought flowers and cards for no reason, I made an engraving in a coffee table of our pictures and names with roses and heart. I always did things like that. I used to take her out all of the time. We used to sit in front of a lake until the sun would come up and just hold eachother.
I put my life infront of hers twice. One time I wrecked a car. When I realized I was not going to regain control, I jumped on her. So she wouldn't get hert. I went through the windshield and woke up to her screaming. She thought that I was dead. The second time we were burning old couches and stuff. A shot gun shell went off and I pushed her back and stood in the way. I got two of the pellets in my Sholder.
Our time together was like those love stories that you see on TV. We were both so happy and loving to eachother. We did anything we could to be together.
About a month ago I got arrested for some stuff that I had part in for the last three years. In about six months or so I'm looking at about two years in jail.
In the next couple of weeks we were planning on buying a house together. So, we decided to move to her parents house for the time being. We spent two nights there together. Everything seemed fine. That wednesday she went to work. She kissed me and sayed she loved me. So I spent the day painting and doing things for her. That afternoon she came back with a PFA against me. She also had a date with a real dirtbag the same night. My mom works for the courts and she showed me his record. So, I left and have been staying at my parents house.
She has taken all of the furniture which was all name brand and expensive stuff. All together it coust like $15,000. She also took a 1991 Mitsubishi 3000GTthat I completely redid. For some reason I had it in her name. All I got was my clothes and small personal things.
In the last few days I put a photo album together for her. It has pictures, Quotes and poems that I wrote. I gave it to her and she didn't even shed a tear. She just told me that I was a piece of shit that never cared about her.
I love her very deeply and would do anything to get back with her. I know that I could move on. And I will fall in love again. But my heart is so filled with her that I when I go out I don't even look at other girls. I feel like part of me is missing. I know that your first true love is the hardest to get over. But I would do anything to prove myself to her.
What should I do?
What are some other ways I could show her how much I love her?
Sorry to have put this much but I'm really stressed out about her.
If you have any advice e-mail me at [email protected].
Thanks
I was with this girl for 1 year and 8 months. On our first date I fell in love with her and I decided to become a good caring person. I saw her every day for our time together. We spent all of our free time together. I gave up Dirt track racing and demolition derbies for her Because they took up too much time and money.
8 Months ago she moved on with me. In that time i found a side of me that I never knew was there. When we got into arguments I hit her. Nothing serious but still way out of line. It happened 13 times. I am now getting counciling. It really helps me. I don't flip out like i used to.
In our time together I showed her every way that I loved her. I did all of the small things that most guys don't do. I bought flowers and cards for no reason, I made an engraving in a coffee table of our pictures and names with roses and heart. I always did things like that. I used to take her out all of the time. We used to sit in front of a lake until the sun would come up and just hold eachother.
I put my life infront of hers twice. One time I wrecked a car. When I realized I was not going to regain control, I jumped on her. So she wouldn't get hert. I went through the windshield and woke up to her screaming. She thought that I was dead. The second time we were burning old couches and stuff. A shot gun shell went off and I pushed her back and stood in the way. I got two of the pellets in my Sholder.
Our time together was like those love stories that you see on TV. We were both so happy and loving to eachother. We did anything we could to be together.
About a month ago I got arrested for some stuff that I had part in for the last three years. In about six months or so I'm looking at about two years in jail.
In the next couple of weeks we were planning on buying a house together. So, we decided to move to her parents house for the time being. We spent two nights there together. Everything seemed fine. That wednesday she went to work. She kissed me and sayed she loved me. So I spent the day painting and doing things for her. That afternoon she came back with a PFA against me. She also had a date with a real dirtbag the same night. My mom works for the courts and she showed me his record. So, I left and have been staying at my parents house.
She has taken all of the furniture which was all name brand and expensive stuff. All together it coust like $15,000. She also took a 1991 Mitsubishi 3000GTthat I completely redid. For some reason I had it in her name. All I got was my clothes and small personal things.
In the last few days I put a photo album together for her. It has pictures, Quotes and poems that I wrote. I gave it to her and she didn't even shed a tear. She just told me that I was a piece of shit that never cared about her.
I love her very deeply and would do anything to get back with her. I know that I could move on. And I will fall in love again. But my heart is so filled with her that I when I go out I don't even look at other girls. I feel like part of me is missing. I know that your first true love is the hardest to get over. But I would do anything to prove myself to her.
What should I do?
What are some other ways I could show her how much I love her?
Sorry to have put this much but I'm really stressed out about her.
If you have any advice e-mail me at [email protected].
Thanks
ci5ic
04-16-2004, 04:41 PM
Dude... sometimes relationships just DON'T WORK. It could be that you smothered her... maybe she didn't want you to give up everything for her, maybe she didn't want to spend all her free time with you... I feel like my girlfriend is alot like you. All she ever does is think about me, do things for me, and want to spend ALL of her time with me... In fact, she goes fucking crazy when she can't spend time with me (or when I want to do something else). She's obsessed with me to a dangerous degree, and I can't fucking stand her because of it, but I love her too much to really tell her all of that. Maybe that's the way your ex feels.
It sure doesn't help that you've got a violent streak in you either...
I don't know what a PFA is, but all this sounds like she REALLY wants out of the relationship, and it's probably best just to let her go. Just don't go psycho and start stalking her and shit. Let it be in the past, there's other girls out there.
Good to know that you're in counselling though...
It sure doesn't help that you've got a violent streak in you either...
I don't know what a PFA is, but all this sounds like she REALLY wants out of the relationship, and it's probably best just to let her go. Just don't go psycho and start stalking her and shit. Let it be in the past, there's other girls out there.
Good to know that you're in counselling though...
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