Could this be considered as cheating?

Okay, here's the situation:

I've been going out with this woman(I'm 18, she's 20) for 5 weeks and 4 days. The other night; my friend Brandie asked me if I wanted to go to the movies with her(she knows I have a g/f). I have known her for 3 years or so. I asked my g/f if I could go and she said yes (because she trusts me). The problem comes from my mom, who thinks I'm cheating on my g/f even after I told her that we were only going to the movies as friends. If anyone has any kind of advice or suggestions, I welcome them with a semi-open mind.


P.S: It may sound strange, but when I was 17 I went out with a 41 year old. You can never say no to a hot woman with no kids :naughty: .

You dated a 41 year old woman? Damn you had a sugar mama at 17 thats crazy. HAHA. Nah, its not cheating. Since you've known her for a few years and she's your really good friend than its no big deal I don't think.

you should still be allowed to have platonic friends. i don't think it's cheating. if you hadn't told her it'd be different.

It's not you that has a problem, it's your mom that does. This is one of the few times that moms are wrong. I would just ignore it. On a side note, try to see if your GF and your "girl" friend want to have a 3some.

It's not you that has a problem, it's your mom that does. This is one of the few times that moms are wrong. I would just ignore it.

My mom tends to spaz about things like this every now and then...It pisses me off beyond reason.


On a side note, try to see if your GF and your "girl" friend want to have a 3some.

Uhhh....How about no?

Wow, my mom is the same way, I have a lot of friends that are girls, but no gf, so she asks me all the time, dont all the girls get jealous of each other? I'm like, mom, am I not allowed to have friends? Anyways, to touch on your subject, no not at all bro. If youre gf trusts you, then youre fine, I dont know the situation between the other friend and you, but as long as nothin happens with you guys, you got nothin to worry about.

Just say "HEY! MOM! STFU!!"

Just tell her she can believe whatever the hell she wants, but that you are telling her the truth as you know and see it. It's your life.

when you think its cheating your proly cheating. as long as your not feeling her up during the movie i see no problem going out a movie with a girl as long as your g/f says ok. its the same as like going out with your buds. as long as your not secretly trying to get in her pants then thers no big. your moms just over reacting.

Just say "HEY! MOM! STFU!!"

that'd go over real well in my house.
me-->:chair:<---Dad

Your girlfriend may be testing you to see if you'd go out with another girl...

Women do that stuff sometimes. Just because they say it's okay doens't mean it actually is. Women are the most complicated thing created by God :lol: :rofl:

Your girlfriend may be testing you to see if you'd go out with another girl...

Women do that stuff sometimes. Just because they say it's okay doens't mean it actually is. Women are the most complicated thing created by God :lol: :rofl:
Aint that the damn truth, all this time I thought the reason I didnt have a gf was because I was doin somethin wrong, come to find out...its them! Most of em are all FUBAR with their games and tests and stupid drama shit. But you gotta love em...I miss having one... :rolleyes:

as long as 1) she knows u have a g/f and 2) your g/f knows you're just friends with her then.. it's not considered as cheating ;) however..most women tend to be jealous if it's ongoing..:sly:

Who cares what your mom thinks. If your gf is fine with it, and you're not actually doing anything, what's the problem?

Only if it's a p0rn movie.

Just say "HEY! MOM! STFU!!"

That would be the day I sue Bill Gates and get myself a Viper...Because she would probably try and knock the hell out of me.

Just tell her she can believe whatever the hell she wants, but that you are telling her the truth as you know and see it. It's your life.

I told her the entire story from beginning to end (covering 3 years in less than and 20 minutes) and she says it still doesn't seem right to her. I'm irritated to hell so I'm just gonna tell her: Fuck it...I'm going to the movies anyway. I'm not idiotic enough to fuck up 5 weeks into a relationship.

On a side note, try to see if your GF and your "girl" friend want to have a 3some.

Now theres a good piece of advice.

On a side note, try to see if your GF and your "girl" friend want to have a 3some.

Now theres a good piece of advice.
Or not... Unless the two girls completely, COMPLETELY don't care, it would probably end up screwing his relationship with the one he's actually with.

i went to the movies with a friend when i was with my g'f (the bitch who cheated on me and got pregnent. See my thread 'hurt doesn't show, but the pain still grows' for more details) but the tricky thing is, they don't know each other, or know each other exist, and i had strong feelings for bec as i was away from pam for months and she wasn't talking to me for some reason, my feelings for bec put my feelings for pam in a dark shadow and before i knew it i had asked bec out on a date (we were already going out to the movies) and then she said 'we're just friends' and for some reason, i'm both glad, and regret that day...

I'm still trying to hook in with bec now pam droped me like a ton of bricks off a 10 storey building.

I think that's the thing about old people. Most of them, back in the day, were only friends with people of the same sex. If you were hanging out with a girl, you were dating her. That's just how it was. At least that's what my dad says and he's been alive forever.

you dad can help me with my history essay!

^^^ Rofl

im in the same boat right now, but my mom couldn't give a fuck, it's my g/f's mom...I jus told her to screw off, my g/f dont care, she told her mom the same thing...the other girl, my female friend, is my g/f's best friend...so it's koo, and im workin to hook her up with one of my buds.....

on a side note--they wont 3some...asked...got slapped....twice

Most of my friends were girls for a long time, and I was (and still and) with my fiance, she didnt think too much of it *she did randomly get jelous, thats just who she is* except for 2 friends who EVERYONE told her I nailed, and the worst part is....I DIDNT!....

so tell your mom, as nice as you can, to fuck off
and go watch a movie, just keep yer cack under controll and if your girl gets mad, then trust me she isnt worth it *controlling is BAD*

i run into this alot cause i'm always bringing home differnt girls *non are G/Fs* my moms like are you cheating on **** i have to explain that i'm a swinger to my mom so you got it easy mate.

But what to do is tell her mom i've been freinds with the one girl for 3 years i won't mess up 2 friend ships yours with friend and your G/F for 1 stupid night shes just my friend and if she doesn't belive you sorry your in for it.

no big deal

Aint that the damn truth, all this time I thought the reason I didnt have a gf was because I was doin somethin wrong, come to find out...its them! Most of em are all FUBAR with their games and tests and stupid drama shit. But you gotta love em...I miss having one... :rolleyes:

Alright I gotta stick up for the ladies here. Some girls are not messed up, you just gotta find the right ones. A lot of guys are assholes and treat the good girls like crap so they don't wanna date anyone anymore. BEEN THERE DONE THAT. Then one day you grow up, start a mature relationship with a great girl and the whole "Girls are so confusing" attitude disappears. Just wait. Girls may be crazy but guys can be confusing as well.
About the whole deal with the mother... she's just gonna have to learn. I used to get teased non stop by my parents cuz I have a ton of guy friends my parents would always joke about where my boyfriend was or if this guy was my new one. Finally I called em out on it and told them it was none of their damn business but if they were gonna harass me about it then they needed to ask and get their stories straight first, cuz some of those guys (okay a lot cuz I met them thru cheerleading) were gay. Most girls I know LOVE having gay guy friends. Old-fashioned parents don't understand these things. Tell your mom to think twice and not jump to conclusions, everyone's parents do something of the sort. I just stopped bringing them home with me, that helps too. But I guess it can't be avoided if you still live at home

Alright I gotta stick up for the ladies here. Some girls are not messed up, you just gotta find the right ones.

GOOD POINT:thumbsup:

Alright I gotta stick for ma fellas in here...
Some guys are assholes not all of them. Now to a woman, a guy with a g/f that has a really close girl-friend is dangerous, because women assume that the man might do something with the girl-friend. But a guy does not care if a girl has close guy-friends and still has a b/f. I'm going out with a girl that hangs out with lots of guys, thats cuz im always working, but I trust her. Same with her, she knows that I'm at work and I have some close girl-friends and she trusts me enough that she wont accuse me of doing anything. If your girl says that she doesnt mind then I do not think it's much of your moms buisness, let her know that your not those types of guys

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On a side note, try to see if your GF and your "girl" friend want to have a 3some.

Now theres a good piece of advice.
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Or not... Unless the two girls completely, COMPLETELY don't care, it would probably end up screwing his relationship with the one he's actually with."


He's what 18? Hes not gonna marry this girl.... have the fun while you still can... get em both in bed together and have a kickass time. You may "really care" for your g/f but seriously I GUARANTEE your not gonna be with this girl forever .. maybe not even next month! So if you CAN get her in the sack with the other one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well as a guy who's been cheated on.... by a slutty ex-wife.... I tend to agree with the mother.... Not to say you have to break up with your friend of 3 years, but at least invite your girlfriend along and make it a evening out. Going with just a single friend of the opposite sex is too much like a date situation to me. It also leaves way too much room for temptation and feelings to develope.

wow, bring back the memories

I have a couple of friends that I have been friends with for like 10 years. Once in awhile we go to the movies or to have a drink, but just as friends. Yes they are hot, my mind may wonder, but they will always be friends. If she gets too controlling it's not worth it. My wife knows they are just friends and is alright with it.

Most of my friends were girls for a long time, and I was (and still am)


lol sorry couldnt help it when i read it :evillol:

Hey if ur gf is letting you go to the movies with another girl then she is a keeper. Most girls are insanely jelouse and go nuts if u even mention another girl. I got a great girl. She lets me go hang out with my friends and dance with other girls when we go out. :iceslolan ahhh shes the best..but anyways ur 18 and can make ur own decisions..u can respect ur moms opinion but in the end u make ur own decisions

That is definitly not considered as cheating!! If you talked to ur g/f and she understands ur just friends and she doesn't care, then you shouldn't worry. As far as your mom goes... who cares... last time you checked your mother was NOT a part of ur relationship so she should have no say, no input, and no opinion, unless you ask for it.

umm i think that this thread is past it's shelf life and i should have closed it sooner.....check out the date this thread was posted...the last reply was almost 2 months ago....and just for that the thread is closing