Abortion

I was just wondering what everyone's insight on this particualr issue is. You never know when you might be caught up in a situation where you have to make a choice whether or not to let her have one.

Hi firstly i have just found myself on the flip side of this situation and whilst desperatly searching the web for help , i found this disgussion your all having
( not only that but i also make show cars and cover cars how flukie is that )so i joined AF firstly inorder to thankyou all for showing me im not compleatly alone in not knowing what the right thing to do IF indeed there is a right thing to do
and secondly id like to add my REAL twist to the situation and see if you can help me out here.

long story short..in long term relationship love him to death,already have two kids from failed relationship love them to death too! have disgussed that we want further child of our own one day in the FUTURE........problem........last night i discovered im pregnant i was thrilled to bits but He says hes not ready and would like me to have an abortion,since we have alot on our plate anyway.....i really dont want to and i dont think i can but,,, hes not giving in (in his last relationship the same thing happened to him and his ex did have an abortion)what do i do? ...i agree with abortions in desperate situations ONLY and even then only if it is caught in the very early stages .

any advice ? thanks!:uhoh:

Tough one.

Don't let anyone make you do what you know you don't want to do. Especially when it comes to another life.I feel children are a gift and it sounds like you think the same about them. If you guys can't handle having another child right now then that child could be a gift in someone elses life.
Adoption is always an option. I imagine it would be hard to give up a child you have carried for almost a year but at least that child will have the chance to grow up.

This is about your life and your unborn childs life. I know it's hard but try and make your decision based on the 2 of you and not on what he wants even though you love him. After all it's going to affect the 2 of you a lot more than it will him.

My 2 cents.

thanks for the reply

i desperatly want to keep the baby and i couldnt give him/her away for adoption either ,last night i cried my eyes out and tried to plead with him and i got "its not a baby yet its only cells" "we havent done all the things i planned yet like holidays and stuff" "im not ready its to quick i dont want to be forced into it" ...as my reply......... its almost like he wants to belive that its not there really and instead i have something else wrong and all i have to do is just nip to the chemist and bobs your uncle its sorted.
i have had a rough time with guys before and this is the first man i have ever been treated properly by and he really does look after me right down to tea and toast in bed everyday , he works really hard and is perfect for me so now im in a dilema do i keep the baby and cling to the knowlege/hope that when he lays eyes on it he will be instantly in love with it and forgive me,,,,,,,,or get rid of it and spend my life outwardly pretending that he was right and inside hating myself for what i did and wondering about the what ifs...
i know nobody out there can make the decision for me but i have found this to be a bit of an outlet for me at the moment so when i get peoples opinions i am taking the bits that i can use in disgussions with him later and trying to use the suggestions carefully to turn his opinion around...
im sure i just cant do what he wants,, im totally prepared to have this baby but i dont want to lose him in the process.......:(

I don't even want to pretend to know what you are going through right now. Having someone you love on one hand and having someone who is truley a part of you on the other. It's a really hard choice to make. I don't want to tell you what I would do because I'm not you. I do think it's easier for him to make a decision than it is for you because quite frankly he's not a woman. He can't see things from a womans point of view. He doesn't have a life growing inside him. He doesn't know how it feels to have someone totally dependant on him for it's life as you do. He will never feel the bond that only a Mother and her child has.
Make the choice that is right for you. If he really loves you he will listen to you. He may not like it but he will listen. Explain to him how you feel. Try and make him see that the child isn't just cells but is a real human being. It's his child. It's his boy or girl.
If he wants to wait till he has done everything he wants to do before having a child then that day will never come. I have been there. I kept telling my wife I wanted to wait till we were ready financially. We waited for years but we never seemed to be where I wanted us to be. Finally I woke up and saw how much it meant to her to have a child and gave in. The funny thing was that we found a way to make it with what we had. Things are better financially now and my son is 12 years old. I am so glad I didn't wait. I don't want to think what life would be like without him.

Good luck with whatever you decide. I will look forward to hearing from you again. Keep talking and we/I will listen.

I went ahead and split this thread for you guys, since you have arguments for discussion.

And yet the massive explosion of humans on our planet is depleting our natural resources, and more importantly causing the destruction of the habitats for millions of species, without whom we cannot exist.
If you truly feel this way, and are heartless enough to use it as an abortion argument, put your money where your mouth is and jump off a bridge!! :evillol:
Otherwise, use a bit of human compassion, tactfulness and sensitivity

Wasn't this thread suppose to be about Lady Laminator and her decision she is faced with? It wasn't suppose to be about if abortion is right or wrong was it?

Oh shit, I meant to post in the other abortion thread, I don't know how it got here instead. I apologize to Lady Laminator, my post was not intended to be in this thread, and as such it is taken out of context.Sorry!!

Lady_Laminator, may I suggest you head on over to www.babycenter.com/community and go to the "termination for non-medical reasons" forum, also the "teen parents" forum. You will find women there in your same situation and those that have gotten through it and will probably get some good advice, they're very helpful. :)

Figures, I try to make a new discussion out of an old one and end up screwing it up. Sorry guys.

[QUOTE=DGB454]I don't even want to pretend to know what you are going through right now. ..

firstly ,thankyou for replying, i have spent the entire weekend pulling every trick out the hat to try and save this baby ..im really glad you wrote about your experience and im going to ask him to read the entire thread right from the begining where ever that was and hopfully it will help.
ive screamed tantrums at him ,ive talked calm and quietly but we are in a dead lock situation the timing is all wrong for him and thats that however.. we have come to the conclusion that we need to discover how far gone i am ,and what the options are.He has agreed that if the baby is old enough inside me to resemble "a baby "and not 'cells' then we will keep it.

i skived the day from work today to go to the doctors but when i got there its bloody bank holiday and theres nobody there "tyipical"
thats another thing ,,,,,work,,,,, i work with fiberglass and resins and spray paint and im not convinced there is a breathing mask in the world that can save me and the baby from inhaling the vapours and not look suspicously over cautious all of a sudden.......


i also am going to look at those web pages that were suggested too (thankyou).
im starting to feel that he should be sat at the pc finding help too!,

Welcome to AF. I can say I'm agree with your choice in that abortions should only occur in desperate situations. Hope things work out.

[QUOTE=DGB454]I don't even want to pretend to know what you are going through right now. ..

firstly ,thankyou for replying, i have spent the entire weekend pulling every trick out the hat to try and save this baby ..im really glad you wrote about your experience and im going to ask him to read the entire thread right from the begining where ever that was and hopfully it will help.
ive screamed tantrums at him ,ive talked calm and quietly but we are in a dead lock situation the timing is all wrong for him and thats that however.. we have come to the conclusion that we need to discover how far gone i am ,and what the options are.He has agreed that if the baby is old enough inside me to resemble "a baby "and not 'cells' then we will keep it.

i skived the day from work today to go to the doctors but when i got there its bloody bank holiday and theres nobody there "tyipical"
thats another thing ,,,,,work,,,,, i work with fiberglass and resins and spray paint and im not convinced there is a breathing mask in the world that can save me and the baby from inhaling the vapours and not look suspicously over cautious all of a sudden.......


i also am going to look at those web pages that were suggested too (thankyou).
im starting to feel that he should be sat at the pc finding help too!,

How far along do you figure you are?

Don't worry about being overly cautious all of the sudden. Just tell the people at work you saw a special on the news about how bad those fumes are and you want to be careful.

Let us know how things work out.

.. Hope things work out.

Things always work out. Lady Laminator, you will get through whatever choice you and your boyfriend/spouse make. Keep that in mind when things get hard and you will be fine. That kind of thinking has helped me through some tough spots and holds fairly true in any situation. Best of luck to you.

I think perhaps this "guy" is somewhat selfish is some respects (understatement).

Don't take the emotional trauma of having an abortion lightly. It isn't a good idea to go for something like this if there is any doubt in your mind... Much less if you don't want to do it at all in the first place.

Saying that at this point "the baby" is just cells doesn't really wash with me. I wouldn't find comfort in the fact that the potential human being I had just killed (some might say murdered... but whatever) was "just cells". Because... In the end that's what is happening here. Dead human being.

You're obviously not in a condition to have an abortion. But it's your choice.

Remember this is YOUR BABY. No one but you should have the right to choose if you go through with this (with the possible exception of the baby itself).

ABORTIONS FOR ALL! :swear:Boooo!!!!

ABORTIONS FOR NOWONE! :swear:Booooo!!!!!

....okay. ABORTIONS FOR SOME,
SMALL PATRIOTIC FLAGS FOR OTHERS! :cheers:Yeeeeaahhh!!!!

You know, I used to be a firm believer in no abortions, til I thought I got a gf of mine pregnant, then the first thing that popped in my head was...hmmm we can still get out of this....which really pissed me off. So Id like to say no abortions, but I dont know, I think ill pass...cuz, its different for everyone

[QUOTE=DGB454]How far along do you figure you are?

im about 5/6 weeks now , and nothing has changed infact he is more determind than ever that now isnt the right time,,,,,,,but i cant help that everytime i close my eyes i can see images of the baby all new born and helpless and lovley and how much i know he would love it if he just gave it a chance!
if i was to have an abortion now they would use some kind of vacum thing to literally suck the contents out of me and according to the doctor there would be no problem as my local hospital has some days free!!!!,,,(thats as much as i let the doctor tell me before i asked her to stop )

i cant be without him........... but i just cant do that too!
im really beating myself up about it all now,,,,ive been through some pretty tough times before but not like this ,i put on this hard as hell face and build up a wall to protect myself and keep my head down ,ploughing on to survive
but time is against me right now and i cant put off this decision for too much longer ....im really scared ....

It sounds like having an abortion will most likely have a lasting effect on you. Will it be worth it? I know you love him but is it worth what it's going to do to you not to mention your child? If you don't want to have an abortion but go through with it there will lasting effects. Is he willing to put you through that?

Here is a link showing the development of your child throughout your pregnancy.
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancycalendar/l/blwbw.htm

Maybe if you can show him that's it's more than just cells even at this early stage he might change his mind.

I know you are scared but do what is the right thing for you. Keep in touch. My prayers are with you.

All im going to say is that if you have an abortion. You will regret it for the rest of your life.

well............i have been through hell and even got as far as sitting at the doctors with him to make 'the ' appointment , i got quite ill over it and would never forgive myself, whilst sat there the reception lady came over an said that the doctor i was going to see had had 2 tyres blow out on the way!!! and there were no more appointments ,,,, this was most definatly fate .....we went home and disgussed heavily what he was making me do,,, turns out it came down to him being scared to death about finances and timing etc but i talked him round and for the last few days he has been thinking it over and ,everyday got to like the idea a little more and....and.. has come to the conclusion,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,WE CAN KEEP THE BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh my god what a rollercoaster i really wouldnt have got through that with out being able to talk it out on here Thankyou so much ...
i just know that he wont regret it :smile:

Well let me be the first to say congrats! I knew everything would work out for you in the end. Good things for good people.

Here is a link showing the development of your child throughout your pregnancy.
http://pregnancy.about.com/cs/pregnancycalendar/l/blwbw.htm

Maybe if you can show him that's it's more than just cells even at this early stage he might change his mind.

.....ohhhhh we have just been to that link !!!!!! its fantastic ive seen what it looks like at 7 weeks and theres no way on earth ill consider an abortion............xxxxxxxxxxx

Well let me be the first to say congrats! I knew everything would work out for you in the end. Good things for good people.


you are actually really the very first person to say that!!!!!! thanks!!!!!

well............i have been through hell and even got as far as sitting at the doctors with him to make 'the ' appointment , i got quite ill over it and would never forgive myself, whilst sat there the reception lady came over an said that the doctor i was going to see had had 2 tyres blow out on the way!!! and there were no more appointments ,,,, this was most definatly fate .....we went home and disgussed heavily what he was making me do,,, turns out it came down to him being scared to death about finances and timing etc but i talked him round and for the last few days he has been thinking it over and ,everyday got to like the idea a little more and....and.. has come to the conclusion,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,WE CAN KEEP THE BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh my god what a rollercoaster i really wouldnt have got through that with out being able to talk it out on here Thankyou so much ...
i just know that he wont regret it :smile:

Congratulations:smile:. I'm very happy for you both. I was a little worried what had happened to you. I'm glad it all worked out for the best. I know he won't regret it also. Especially after he sees it for the first time.Keep us all updated on how everything is going.

...,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,WE CAN KEEP THE BABY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
oh my god what a rollercoaster i really wouldnt have got through that with out being able to talk it out on here Thankyou so much ...
i just know that he wont regret it :smile:

Oh, congrats!! I bet that is a big load off your shoulders to not have to worry about that decision any more. I hope you have an easy pregnancy too. There will be aches and pains but at the end it's all worth it. :)
I'm going to recommend Babycenter (http://bbs.babycenter.com/boards/bbs-birthclubs) again, if you click the month you're due, you can talk to hundreds of other mothers due the same month. It's REALLY helpful to be able to discuss worries, symptoms, etc with them. Also some helpful pregnancy boards here: http://bbs.babycenter.com/boards/bbs-preg

Out of curiosity, how far along are you right now?

Oh and just have to post, this is my little one 3 days ago, he is 9 days old today. I'm no expert but I've just barely finished the whole pregnancy thing so I'm happy to answer any questions you might have. :)
http://img49.photobucket.com/albums/v149/boingo82/6Days.jpg

I'm happy this is how things turned out.

Congrats.

Thats awesome that you are going to keep the baby! I was a little worried when you said you were at the hospital but Im extremely happy to hear the good news that your keeping it. I think its one of Gods greatest works that he can have a living breathing person live in another humans stomach or any animal for that matter, its just amazing! And boingo82, you have a cute baby, whats his name?

Thank you, his name is Blake. :)

I commend you on your decision to keep the baby - its one your will NEVER regret :smile:





Boingo - Blake is a very cute baby :smile: I see that and wonder how anyone could made a decision to not let that into the world...

boingo82,,, how cute is Blake!!!!....well done and congrats to you and thanks im overwhelmed with everyones support !
im 7/8 weeks so not far into it really , im feeling pretty yuck too!

last night my other half came over to me of his own accord and blurted out that he has thought things through and hes actually really glad we are having this baby and he beamed this huge smile that i have been hoping to see since this began so ...hopefully i can relax now

Thanks!! He's a really good baby too - only cries if hungry or trying to "work things out".

I'm guessing you're going through morning sickness right now? If it's any consolation, it will most likely be gone around 12/13 weeks when you get into the 2nd trimester. I'm so glad to hear your significant other is getting excited about the baby - it will help you so much to have a supportive person there while pregant. :)

Glad he has come around. Now comes the good part of going to get ultrasounds and seeing him/her for the first time together and picking out clothes and all the other things that go along with planning for a newborn.
Good times. When mine was born we went to countless yard sales till I found just the right crib. I strpped it down and redid the whole thing. I made it to match the room we were prepairing for him. It saved us a lot of money not to mention it gave me a sense of accomplishment when it was finished. If I remember right he didn't spend a lot of time in it though. I had a hard time parting with him when it was bed time so I always brought him to bed with us. Not good for my wifes and my sexual relationship but I loved waking up in the morning and seeing the 2 of them sleeping together. Have fun and enjoy this time.

Oh yes - make sure to bring a blank video tape to your ultrasounds, they usually will tape it for you so you can show to family/friends - and there is just nothing like seeing that you have a healthy little baby growing.

im hoping to find somewhere that does the" in colour" ultrasounds .......not looking forward to the blood tests tho!.

As for my man ,well some days he is excited about it and others he dosent seem interested , im finding it hard going because i really do feel sick and dizzy and i need him to be there for me right now ...........i realise its hard for him as he has to kinda come to terms with it all.....

i went home from work early on friday ....and i know that when i go back in after the weekend im going to get trouble from the boss (he was out when i left a message to say ive gone home!)........ i just felt like the blood had drained from my head and i had just got off a boat in a storm .........

Your man will get excited off and on about it.That's the way we are. He should get more interested the closer the due date comes.
Does your boss know you are pregnant? Does he allow for sick days for things like that?

[Does your boss know you are pregnant? Does he allow for sick days for things like that?[/QUOTE]................................

Nope he dosent know and.....I wish!........where i work they are totally avoiding the tax man and insist that we are all self employed....hence they dont pay us sick pay or holiday pay or anything............its really worrying they arnt to hot on health and safty either which leaves me either worrying about being there with all the dangerous stuff and chemicals or being stuck with no job...and no hope of getting one in my condition......

we have reported them to certain authorities but nothings really happened about it yet....if i could just get maternity leave!!!!

we have reported them to certain authorities but nothings really happened about it yet....if i could just get maternity leave!!!!
I think you have to be so far along before you can get maturnity leave. It's a federal law that mandates your employer to give you time off after the baby is born though.

[Does your boss know you are pregnant? Does he allow for sick days for things like that?................................

Nope he dosent know and.....I wish!........where i work they are totally avoiding the tax man and insist that we are all self employed....hence they dont pay us sick pay or holiday pay or anything............its really worrying they arnt to hot on health and safty either which leaves me either worrying about being there with all the dangerous stuff and chemicals or being stuck with no job...and no hope of getting one in my condition......

we have reported them to certain authorities but nothings really happened about it yet....if i could just get maternity leave!!!![/QUOTE]

Sounds like a bad situation. I'm not sure what the laws are in the UK but it seems like there should be something that can be done to get maternity leave. Are you insured at all through your employer? Are there any government institutions or agencies where you can go to or call to see if help or assistance is available for you during your pregnancy and after the birth?
I will look up on the internet to see if I can find anything on it. Like I said, I don't know what the laws are in the UK.
As far as chemicals go; is there some kind of mask you can wear to avoid inhaling dangerous fumes? If so is it costly? I can pitch in to help buy something if you need it. Just let me know.
You seem to be a strong willed person.You can get through this. Reach out to your local government, Churches and friends for help. That's what they are there for. Keep us informed on what's going on.

what they are doing at work is against the law here , the dept that deals with this kind of thing are turning up on the 25th may, but since they foolishly told my boss the date he has quickly changed the company name and technically closed the old company therefore he isnt resposible for any of the unpaid tax or for not giving us workers the entitlements we are supposed to have such as sick pay ,holiday pay, paid maternity leave etc...however im hoping that the people turning up to sort them out have a way around it all ,,,,,, oh and guess what guys they are planning to move the business to the USA!! look out !!

i have bought myself a breathing mask but having it strapped to my head when i am feeling so sick isnt fantastic........thanks for the offer though you are kind xxx

i found a new job today that pays rubbish but is just a simple working in a small cafe job.........i dont know if ill do it yet .
take a look at what i make now then see if you would want to swap!!
www.mynheer.com (http://www.mynheer.com) dont be fooled by the b'sh on the web page tho.my other half and i can make it cheeper and in half the time . (no disrespect ment to them of course)

I hate people who take advantage of people for their own gain. It would be tough to leave a job where you make something you take pride in even if the employer is a jerk. Hopefully the guy will get what's coming to him soon.

Are there places at your current job where the fumes aren't as bad? Would it be possible to do one of those jobs at least till after the baby is born?

Good luck. Keep in touch.

Lady Laminator, I just wanted to share the experience I went through with a similar situation.
I was totally against my "friend" having our baby and encouraged her countless times to get an abortion. We really didn't have a permanent relationship and the baby was more of a love child conceived from a night of passion with a friend. She was 34 and had never had a child so she thought this may be her destiny to have it. I was totally against it and keeped on her to have an abortion. Even after the doctor said the child would be born with down syndrome she refused to abort. I had many arguments to justify an abortion. How can you have this child , it will be a sin to bring a child with down syndrome to suffer in this world, what will you do with this child , it will drain u emotionally and financially, the child will not have an active father, how could u do this to a child, I have 2 boys already that I pay child support for and this child would not get much from me.
To make a long story short, she had the child....a beautiful baby girl, very healthy, no down syndrome as the doc said. After holding my little girl and helping her mom after her difficult pregnancy and labor, (it destroyed her chances of ever having another baby) she(the baby) began to grow on me. Today this child is 8 years old and the most important thing in my life. She has been the most perfect child I have ever seen. Her intelligence is unbelievable, her compassion towards all living things is remarkable, I have always been extremely impressed with her behavior and ability to follow instructions, straight A student, there's just too much to say about her to list on here.
Before her birth I worried about how much this child would end up costing me, now I'll gladly give this child the world if I could. I have put her in a good private school because public schools can't keep up with her intelligence. I think back at what I wanted her mom to do and it sickens me that because of pure selfishness I almost didn't have this blessing enhancing my life to a new level of happiness I thought was not possible. Her mom and I now have joint custody and she spends an enormous amount of time with me. Her mom is very happy that we are so close and allows her to spend all the time she wants with me.
I hope when you have your child your partner will grow to love him/her and have his life enhanced as I have and realize that having this child was the best decision both of you could have made.
I wish you both the best.

Lady Laminator, I just wanted to share the experience I went through with a similar situation.
I was totally against my "friend" having our baby and encouraged her countless times to get an abortion. We really didn't have a permanent relationship and the baby was more of a love child conceived from a night of passion with a friend. She was 34 and had never had a child so she thought this may be her destiny to have it. I was totally against it and keeped on her to have an abortion. Even after the doctor said the child would be born with down syndrome she refused to abort. I had many arguments to justify an abortion. How can you have this child , it will be a sin to bring a child with down syndrome to suffer in this world, what will you do with this child , it will drain u emotionally and financially, the child will not have an active father, how could u do this to a child, I have 2 boys already that I pay child support for and this child would not get much from me.
To make a long story short, she had the child....a beautiful baby girl, very healthy, no down syndrome as the doc said. After holding my little girl and helping her mom after her difficult pregnancy and labor, (it destroyed her chances of ever having another baby) she(the baby) began to grow on me. Today this child is 8 years old and the most important thing in my life. She has been the most perfect child I have ever seen. Her intelligence is unbelievable, her compassion towards all living things is remarkable, I have always been extremely impressed with her behavior and ability to follow instructions, straight A student, there's just too much to say about her to list on here.
Before her birth I worried about how much this child would end up costing me, now I'll gladly give this child the world if I could. I have put her in a good private school because public schools can't keep up with her intelligence. I think back at what I wanted her mom to do and it sickens me that because of pure selfishness I almost didn't have this blessing enhancing my life to a new level of happiness I thought was not possible. Her mom and I now have joint custody and she spends an enormous amount of time with me. Her mom is very happy that we are so close and allows her to spend all the time she wants with me.
I hope when you have your child your partner will grow to love him/her and have his life enhanced as I have and realize that having this child was the best decision both of you could have made.
I wish you both the best.
Thats awesome! Its good to see stories like that in a pro choice world today!

[QUOTE=kmacho]Lady Laminator, I just wanted to share the experience I went through with a similar situation.



it was so nice to read about your experience thankyou
, so far i have had so many good wishes and lots of support for this baby id like to thank you all for this and now my man is starting to get people congratulate him and i can see that he is getting more and more proud about it each day.
i have left my job with cars for now and im working in a nice little deli/cafe , i think it was a good decision as i no longer have to worry about chemicals (ill go back to cars when im ready as i will always have the skill there)
i have a bump now and with it being so noticable i think it has hit home and we are both happy about it now ....we have even been and bought some baby things . hopefully things are looking up

Its nice to hear that things are getting better and better :sunglasse

Glad you got a less harmful job. After the pregnancy, you might even have the opportunity to look at new places that need your skill and, in turn, get better pay/working conditions.

Any updates?
:)

First things 1'st!! Go with your gut and what you feel you should do. NOT what someone wants or would like you to do, because they simply say so or ask you to do it.

Think of all your options?????? If you really want to have the child, then have it.

If you feel you will not beable to financially support the situation your in, then consider adoption. If all else last but not always good- obortion.

YOU ARE THE ONE WHO WILL LIVE WITH THE THOUGHTS OR REGRETS.

Hope all works out well.

Any updates?
:)

hello ive been given a rough date when the babys coming,,,,,they said Dec 17th,,, but i did go over 11 days with my last one so im pretty sure that knowing my luck i will be in hospital having the baby on CHRISTMAS DAY!!!! ,,, i have asked Mother in law to bring me a plate of proper xmas dinner if i am ,as in the uk the hospital food is very poor!

i have been working my new job for a month now and its ok but i do stare out the window at the road that goes past us , and watch cars!,,, i do miss it ! and discovery tv have only gone and decided to make a documentary about the modified cars i used to work on and ,really wanted me to be in it but now i cant!!!!!!! tyipical !!!!!! i could have been famous!

i went to work today nearly passed out and came home again!i feel really tired in the afternoons and i think im getting past the sickness stage now!


my man and i have been shopping and bought some baby things together however im hoping someone in the USA can help me out for somthing i need.........i have tried to invent a contraption that keeps your seatbelt away from your pregnant tummy,,, something that lets the belt work properly but that maybe dosent retract over the lap on impact,,,,,,however you guys in the states are light years ahead of us in england with your gadgets and usefull items for the house , and im pretty sure you have already invented what i need!(if not then i hearby copywright my idea!) IF you have something could someone let me know please !!!! thanks!!

I think youve got yourself a copyright!

but:
http://www.dps.state.mn.us/trafsafe/beltsairbags/pregnacy.htm
http://abcnews.go.com/sections/living/GoodMorningAmerica/PregnancySeatBelts_030731.html

Good to hear the pregnancy is going pretty well. A Christmas baby huh? Make sure to give him/her a separate birthday present on their birthday. :)

Will you be looking to go back to work in the custom auto industry after delivery? It must be hard to like doing something that much and not be able to do it.

Here is a site that sells maternity seat belts. Good luck.
http://www.maternityseatbelt.com/

Best wishes.

hello!!
i have been for a scan!!!!!!!!!!!!! i compleatly forgot to take a blank tape to film it but it was totally amazing!
the baby is 11 cms long and it really moved about alot !! it arched its back and kicked me hard , i guess he/she is doing well even if its slightly cross at me!
i look pregnant now , not too big tho because i havent been feeling well for ages and didnt want food anywhere near me .
now i have mad cravings for courgettes and cheese!

i will definatly be back to cars after i have the baby but i will wait untill both baby and i are ready .... and i will be getting married next august so i have to spend a bit of time working out so i look lovley for the day!

we still have our project car on the go at our home workshop (maserati ghibli conversion) so i can have regular car contact if i feel the need!

keep in touch! im off to look for my seat belt now! xx

Congrats! Keeps us informed on how you are doing. :smile:

hello!!
i have been for a scan!!!!!!!!!!!!! i compleatly forgot to take a blank tape to film it but it was totally amazing!
the baby is 11 cms long and it really moved about alot !! it arched its back and kicked me hard , i guess he/she is doing well even if its slightly cross at me!
i look pregnant now , not too big tho because i havent been feeling well for ages and didnt want food anywhere near me .
now i have mad cravings for courgettes and cheese!
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That's great. Nothing like the ultrasound, is there? It kinda makes it seem "real". We were so excited when we saw ours. How many weeks are you now? Congrats on the wedding, so exciting. :) Hope everything continues to go as well. :sunglasse

Emily

I bet u all thought i had disapeared......



i am back now i have the most adorable baby boy his name is Riley and he is 3 months old..... thanks to everyone for the support

my partner and i have set up our own car customisation business and we are very happy..... :)

ill post a picture as soon as i work out how to do it!!:screwy:

Great to hear from you again. I was wondering a few days ago what ever happened to you.

Glad to hear the good news about the baby and the new buisness.

Look forward to the picture. Post a few pictures of some of your custom work too.

This thread sure is old. Did not expect to hear back from you. I am really glad you're enjoying your DS>
Can't wait to see pics! My Blake just had his 1st birthday this month.
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v149/boingo82/DSCF4621.jpg

He is sooo cute.

Cute kid. I bet he's getting into everything.

Cute kid. I bet he's getting into everything.

Yep. :) Spends all his time throwing things on the floor.