Hows your Love Life

:cry: well mine couldnt be anyworst, the holidays just passed and i feel all alone :(

Recently my GF of 3+ years broke up with me, we broke up because i well have to work school full time. It was supose to be kinda a break thing go out with ur GF and have fun.... (i think she got too much fun outa it) and i just feel like i wasted 3 years :cry:

Ohh and everything is fine between us we get dinner once in a while too but... How would u feel if she plans a date with u the day after newyears... but she never calls ya back the night after newyears, nor did she go home that night, and when u try to get a hold of her a strange guy picks up :confused: and always has an excuse not to give u the phone... :mad:

And the worst part is yet to come.... i called her cell right before the weekend last week in the morning and the same guy said she was still sleeping:sleep: SLEEPING!!!.... she didnt go home till SATURDAY!!!!

OHHH what do i do im so heart broken :huh: :cry:

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
OHHH what do i do im so heart broken :huh: :cry:

1) Breathe. It helps. I know I look dumb, but that is by far the first thing...

2) Go out w/the guys. They'll get you drunk and you'll forget about how upset you were. You don't even have to hook-up, but it sounds like you need to "escape" for a few hours...

3) Take 2 and call me in the morning... Okay, so you can't "call" but just get some good, solid sleep. If you need to, get some over-the-counter sleep aids and just relax...

I hope that helps out for starters!

Welcome to life. Everyone has been where you are at. You have to let her go, no calls, dinner, visiting or anything else. Its going to take time and less you dwell on it, the better off you'll be. You have to look back and remember good things about the last three years, but dont waste the next 50 on them.













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I'm sorry, my what?

Lol,


i am sitting here, now single again(thank god)


I don't care enough to really get caught up in the emotions thing.


Emotions:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:



Edit: Sorry to offend some of the memebers who recently when through a break up.

Ya thankx u guys... hanging out with the guys and getting drunk is only a partial fix.:apuke: :buck I also got her a hella expencive gift and kinda want it back now LOL... is that wrong of me to think she dosnt deserve it anymore.

Not that the money realy matters ... (well some new rims would be nice) but its the point of the matter. i got it for her thinking she respected me enough to not be a selfish B.I.T.C.H. :zx11pisse not to mention she got realy freindly knowing what i was gona get her, now im left with nothing but memories and silence. humm funny thing is, im not sure if i want to see her to see her or to talk about the shit thats been going on.:(

Man im such a sucker for da ladies..... :licker:

my love isnt part of my life anymore.....so...my "love life" is nonexistant now....:(

Well guys .......lets just put things into perspective ....girls are great until they break your heart and ...well i dunno exactly where i'm going with this but Girls Suck :( . I myself was doing really well on Xmas but when New years came rolling around ....well things went down hill and I'm all alone again :( . I know this doesnt make things better but I'm here with u guys :) through the good times and the bad times :D

Play hard to get. If a girl wants ya, she will come and get ya. Just make yourself avalible to them. Also, dont hold anything back when it comes to your expectations and personality. A famous man once said,

"Walk into a relationship with your eyes wide open and come out with your eyes half shut."


I think...?

Originally posted by GOD
Well guys .......lets just put things into perspective ....girls are great until they break your heart and ...well i dunno exactly where i'm going with this but Girls Suck :( . I myself was doing really well on Xmas but when New years came rolling around ....well things went down hill and I'm all alone again :( . I know this doesnt make things better but I'm here with u guys :) through the good times and the bad times :D

:) :) wow didnt know new years was so ruff for others besides me, I know how u feel GOD... and well its sux.. happy i joined this forum u guys are the greatest. i Spend my whole day at work on here LOL... Technicians have it so EZ :bandit: :D

Ohh and 1989 DX R... i live by those words, and it has never got me much exept a better insight into reality:biggrin2: not saying im gona start treating the oposit sex with less respect just that when u "Walk into a relationship with your eyes wide open and come out with your eyes half shut." ... U might enter the next one with one eye shut:licker: . What i mean is that, once u enter another relationship you might be more protective, or an ass, u might jump in to stuped little suspisions that dont mean anything. so with one only one eye open ur vision is altered & wont be able to see pass the obvious.

u can only take so much crap befor u lose all trust ... then ur fuked:angryfire

The cold facts are it's time to move on dude.
It sounds like she has moved on and it's now time for you to pick up your arse and move on in life.
I know its bloody hard. In your case you poured 3 years of your life into this and it will feel like a kick in the guts.

This is probably not the first time its happened and probably wont be the last either...but there are plenty of other fishes out there to catch.

TRUE THAT!!!:D :D

searching for happier times

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac

Ohh and 1989 DX R... i live by those words, and it has never got me much exept a better insight into reality:biggrin2: not saying im gona start treating the oposit sex with less respect just that when u "Walk into a relationship with your eyes wide open and come out with your eyes half shut." ... U might enter the next one with one eye shut:licker: . What i mean is that, once u enter another relationship you might be more protective, or an ass, u might jump in to stuped little suspisions that dont mean anything. so with one only one eye open ur vision is altered & wont be able to see pass the obvious.


What i mean by that is that you try and find out what youre getting into, and once you are into it, try and be accepting. Accepting means that you dont try and change the person to your standards without changing to theirs. If you have high standards find someone else who is just like you. Now, this applies to BOTH sexes, so girls, watch out for asshole guys. Besides i think this quote was more about marrage, and i can believe it! :p

dude that really bits. I can't say i knwo what its like, ive never been in a relationship anywhere near that long. Over my christmas break, I had my emotions tossed around by a girl that ive had a crush on for like the past couple years. I found out on a date with her, through a cell phone call to her ex, that they are back together. Also to say i dont like this guy is being nice. So i'm not too happy but at least she is so thats something good at least. And she hasnt talked to me at all in the past week which is very unusual for her. Oh well as others have said, there are other fishes in the sea.

It realy sux when u cant do anything but be happy for your other, it pains me to think she is with another guy instead of me. Its been a week now since i last spoke to her, its just real sad to have to live with it, that your time with her is over and u have to search for some one new. Life sux to have to make ppl search over and over again for the right one. (thankx everyone for listen'in to my sobing, got alot to let out)

Well guess spending time with me car will have to do for the time being, but once again its hard to feel happy for them when u ur self arnt.
:(

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
It realy sux when u cant do anything but be happy for your other, it pains me to think she is with another guy instead of me. Its been a week now since i last spoke to her, its just real sad to have to live with it, that your time with her is over and u have to search for some one new. Life sux to have to make ppl search over and over again for the right one. (thankx everyone for listen'in to my sobing, got alot to let out)

Well guess spending time with me car will have to do for the time being, but once again its hard to feel happy for them when u ur self arnt.
:(

yeah i know how you feel, ive been there a many times cause im too chicken to ask a girl out 99% of the time and the times i do well 1/2 the time good stuff does not happen on it. were here for ya man, im sure most of us have been through something like that, so it no prob, most of us have been there.

Originally posted by Psman32@af


yeah i know how you feel, ive been there a many times cause im too chicken to ask a girl out 99% of the time and the times i do well 1/2 the time good stuff does not happen on it. were here for ya man, im sure most of us have been through something like that, so it no prob, most of us have been there.


LOL :lol2: i know how u feel, all through highschool ive been too shy to ask girls out. Just mind my own and surely enough someone will ask me out, only problem is i get the ones with all the problems LOL.

Now the problem is that im not in highschool no more and when i go to collage now their mostly guys :( . Guess that means i have to actruly look now, or atleast put my self out there, can't sit around looking pritty with a bunch a guys:eek: :silly2: :D :D
:thinkerg:
So wish me luck.... im officaly on the market again ladies!!!!:coolguy:

yea seriously, my lovelife vanished when i went to college - the girls are completely not interested in relationships there and i haven't met one that i would go out with..its one of few things i enjoy about coming home

Just be happy you had the relationship while you did. It could be worse. Loved, & was loved for 19 yrs 3 mos,4 days. Drunk driver took her. You don't know pain till it's written in stone. Someday, someday.

Hows your Love Life


in one word EMPTY:(

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
ive been too shy to ask girls out. Just mind my own and surely enough someone will ask me out



Im in my 2nd yr of college, and I still think that way. Ive always been that way. Im to chicken $hit to ask gals out, so I just let opportunities pass me by. Being the negitive person I am (Im trying to change, but it is hard) I only see failure, and I have the most massive fear of rejection.

Probably explains a few things about me :confused:

Luckily I am a dumper rather then the dumpee.

Don't worry about your lovelife, man. There is always gonna be some down times, but you can't give in to the darkside. Just hone your macking skills now that you are single (the off season I call it) so that you'll be a franchise player once you sign that new contract. It doesn't hurt to be a journeyman (man-whore) while you aren't signed. Afterall you can look at this as an opportunity to get that out of your system.

whats a love-life?:p

I've been single for a year without even a hint of anything. It really sux.
It's getting really lonely. I have good friends but it just doesn't seem enough.

i know where you're comin from man..for me it's really difficult to get a girl interested in me.....i've been single for bout 8 months i'd say and girls either see me as a good friend, or they hate my guts, or they don't know me and seeing how i'm shy when it comes to things like that, it gets difficult for things like trying to meet someone new....and also seeing how my last relationship seemed to make me bitter and cynical..it kind of sucked as well....it's worse man when she's using you as some person to just get their rocks off with..because if you get attached, your heart will get ripped out from your ass...what ever you do, don't end up like i did man..i'm only 16 and i feel as if i'm an old man because of this:( :rocket: :mad:

Being single really isn't all that bad. Heck, I was almost sad to turn in my single badge tonight for being "spoken for" again!!! :o Oh well. But honestly, I went all throughout High School with out any dates between my Freshman Homecoming and my Senior Prom!!! Sure it kinda sucked, but I made it. Just stop looking. It's the dumbest idea you've ever heard, but it always seems to strike then!!! I can honestly say it has happened to me a few times...

I've been single now for 5 years and it's getting fucking boring.

Friends try and set me up all the time but they never work out:(
Maybe it's just me

:confused: :confused: AHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! :( :(


I'm am such an emotional reck right now. I'm not sure wether i should feel happy or f'ed in the head. On Sunday to my very surprize i get a phone call late night. :confused: :eek: and... and guess who it was.

Yup it was her. The source of all my sorrow, well any ways she calles me up after bout a month of nothing. (read very first post) and i just lost it. i melted at the sound of her voice. :eek: :flash: :flash: i was bout to explode with happiness.. i think that was it.

Anyways she was nearly crying on the phone just when she heard my voice as well. A million thing were going through my mind when i saw her name flashing on my caller ID (cell phone) We had a little small talk and then i told her was it okay for me to go see her. She said it was okay..... :)

When i got there, it was the strangest feeling just takeing over. I havent realy seen her in 2 monts so. well we talked and talked for bout 2 hour's, prior to this day i had made up my mind about her and i was over her, and ready to move on with my life. So one can only imagion the situation i'm in atm.

She was crying pritty much the entire time i was there. It was a very emotional 2 hours for us. Alot was said, and all in all i got the closure i was after... well some what. I was right about the fact that she was seeing some one new... she said she was kinda seeing someone.

It was a very comforting 2 hours... so comforting and im afraid i have once again fallen back into my little hole. All that getting over her and moveing on has been lost, and i am once again LOST!!!!!:eek: :confused: :confused: SHe said she has been thinking about me alot and stuff and was feeling very guilty about our whole situation. :eek: :( :(

I absolutly have no ideal what to think right now or what to do about this. All my feeling have been some what rezorected. AHHHHHHHH!!!! Why must this happond to me :( :( :( :( :) :) :) :) :confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

I, too, was hung up on my ex for quite some time...

You just need to surround yourself with something to do. I chose to take out all my time for AF. Sure, I looked like a loser doing it :silly2: but it helped me sort things out by talking to others, meeting people, and talking about anything else... Now I'm in another relationship (which is going to move much slower--thank goodness) and I'm feeling pretty good about things. My ex and I can talk without feeling strain or desire (well, atleast I can). It can and will get better. Just keep ploughing on through and you'll be out of the tunnel in no time! :flash:

I dont mean to sound cold here....but be careful.
Dont take this the wrong way but make sure she is not trying to take you for a fool and trying to compare you to her new partner to get the best deal. I hope she's not because you really seem to be hooked on this lady and want thinks to work out.

I still think you need to break away from her though and get over the hurt and pain and move on. You have already started on this road and need to carry it on.

Goodluck

Damn I think i fit in perfectly to this crowd. The end of the tunnel? HEHE I doubt that I will be seeing the end of that.

SE-R I read your last post, but wasn't quite clear....did she and her new partner break up and now she's coming back or is she still with him and wanting to meet up with you for whatever reason??

If she has broken up with the other guy and is now coming back to you, be careful. Who knows what kind of game she is trying to play.

If she is still with the other guy but is now calling you and wanting to meet up....steer clear and find something else to keep you occupied. You obviously are very stressed out by this whole thing, and too much stress is not healthy.

I may be completely wrong here, but the way I am perceiving things from your posts, sounds like she is playing games with you. And what sucks is girls that do that give all us girls a bad name. I guess I am one of the few that doesn't believe in f***ing around with people's emotions. As for the few guys I dated before I met Alex, once it was over, it was over period. Most of the time I was the dumpee but I never made an effort to try to lure them back. There were 2 that wanted to restart things but I told them they made their choice the first time around. And the ones that I did let go, I never tried to make an effort to keep contact with them because by doing that, it only leaves the wounds open for more hurt. The ones I did let go, the breakup was on bad terms anyway, so I had no reason to keep in touch.


It does suck that 3 years was invested into the relationship only to turn out this way, but if it is not meant to be forever, it is better to find out now rather than get married and have an ugly divorce down the road. And yes, it will still hurt for a bit, but life is not over.

Like others have said, find stuff to do to keep occupied. Use your "free" time to do things you like, like work on your car for example. Hang with the guys. Do the things you enjoy but can't do when tied up in a relationship. Enjoy free time while it lasts.

Hope something I said in here helps a bit :)

:) :D :D Thankx everyone for you advice, ohh KatWoman she didnt break up with her current guy friend i guess. i stayed clear away from that topic, and he was calling her cell like mad the whole time i was over there as well, which only means they were still seeing each other or something. She never picked up though, i felt bad for him, so after 2 hours i left and let him talk to her again... BAH. :confused: :confused:

But she said it was hard haveing me on her mind err something whiles with him. Anyway's im gona keep my kewl, and not go bonkers:jump: over this, its not like she realy knows what she wants in life anyways. Ill save my money and stop spending it on her and BUY my new car this YEAR!!!!(i better) :D :D

It's strange when u want something back and u cant realy have it back, but if you do get it back it wont ever be the same. It's just hard to let go of someone when you have so much feelings for them, and especialy when you have expericed so much with them as well.:( :( :cry:

POWER TO YOU MY FRIEND!!!!:D :D :D the ball just might be in your court man, what happened to me once was that i had an ex girlfriend who wanted me back, but before she wouldn't give me the time of day and she literally used me....hell when she wanted it back i stuck it to her...when things like this happen to me i turn to music and use it as my therapy...there's a song by KoRn that totally fits this moment man..if you listen to it..it might just make you feel better it's called Devine...it's basically about the ex girlfriend wanting the guy back...but now the guy has all the power and he makes her realize that she lost him and that it could have been special, but she ruined it....everytime i listen to this song, i feel happier:) :) :) :) :) :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh :evillaugh

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
It's strange when u want something back and u cant realy have it back, but if you do get it back it wont ever be the same. It's just hard to let go of someone when you have so much feelings for them, and especialy when you have expericed so much with them as well.:( :( :cry:



ohh! finally someone to nail it on the head! i know EXACTLY how you feel,man, so much so that i almsot wanna cry.....'course listening to "Mama i'm comin' home" while thinking about her doesnt help...but damn. Now you know im going to come to bug you Wolf everytime some thing "bad" happens (or "even worse" i should say, looking at the history of my love life).

Originally posted by SE-R WolfPac
:)
But she said it was hard haveing me on her mind err something whiles with him.



*COUGH* MANIPULATE *COUGH* Red flag right there. Don't let statements like this keep you on the edge of your seat...more torture right there. Like you said, it's not like she knows what she wants, so steer clear and free yourself from this emotional game. Take some time for yourself to make YOU know what YOU want for yourself. It does take time for a broken heart to heal, but if you keep returning to the source of the pain or let the source keep rearing its head every so often, it will take longer.

Originally posted by Steel

ohh! finally someone to nail it on the head! i know EXACTLY how you feel,man, so much so that i almsot wanna cry.....'course listening to "Mama i'm comin' home" while thinking about her doesnt help...but damn. Now you know im going to come to bug you Wolf everytime some thing "bad" happens (or "even worse" i should say, looking at the history of my love life).

:D :D np bro, we can swap stories and punch each other for makeing stuped moves. This game of love real sux, but i think im over her. I actruly think im capable of just being good friends with her with out me wanting more than that. hummmm:rolleyes: ohh but i wana, i wana, iwana!!!:rolleyes: :D :D

Do your ex always look better when u guys break up for a while :bloated: :D :D

HEHE but ya KatWoman i can read her like a book... most of the time. The only problem is that can i keep my hands off... do i have to :confused: :confused:... :p even if i know its not gona go anywhere.:confused: :confused:

SE-R WolfPac , i know exactly what's going on with you. The same thing is happening with me and this one girl. The difference is that her friends broke us up and she totally hated me. Now, she's playing some mind games with me. :confused: It's annoying, but i really like her and i'm willing to deal with it. I never got her, but, I'm sure that every guy that has posted a response to you, knows how to heal from a relationship but will never know what girls think and how to deal with them. Be yourself, be cool, and see what happens. :sun:

:D :D AY thankx Damien,

ohh btw welcom aboard AF... this is a great place we have our little missunderstandings but were all human:bloated: :D :D

anyhoot... thankx for bringing my thread back to life:D but ya lifes a B.I.T.C.H. sometimes. Wish my ex talked to her friends about us. They love me, so does her family. I guess things just didnt work out. happy to say im bout over her now. and life's turning around slowly but steadly. ;) Meet old friends that i havent seen since high school, started going out again with friends and just chilling. i still get her phone calls, and get all gay about it:rolleyes: :D :D but im realizing how much she has to grow up before she understands anything. but we'll see.

So hit me up anytime if u gots any problems, love a good chat, weather through pm's or out side AF. And this goes for everyone on AF, u guys have been a great bunch, being here has helped me get through stress at work and at life:D :D

So thankx again for your words Damien... :D :D :D