Is it wrong.....

just a warning....yall are getting a lot of info here.. I need to vent & get some opinions....

ok... so...for xmas I got my bf a plane ticket to go to Puerto Rico. He had wanted to go to see his family for xmas & had planned on it then didn't have the $ when the time came. So... I surprised him & got him the ticket. Well... we have been broken up for almost a week now...last night I asked him if he could pay me back for the ticket. When I go there he was in the shower & was gettin ready to go out so I kinda made his stop everything & get all my stuff..... found out that he got fired as well. so i didn't make his day any better. It pissed him off that I asked for the gift back.

Heres the timeline..... got the ticket around the 10th of december. He would be flying out in 2 weeks on the 24th. So his friend took him to the airport cause he asked him & didn't assume I wanted to take him..... but I did pick him up on the 27th. The 29th I had to go to my 4day family reunion. I left early on the 31st so i could spend time with him & my best friend came up from srq. So we had New Years it was cool... then it seemed to go down hill from there...he was very distant. Didn't call...didn't come over when he said he would. Then last Friday I woke up from a dream that I had that his friends where talkin about me in the past tense. I called him at like 6:50 in the mornin cause it freaked me out.... and his phone actaully worked (it was disconected) and i told him that we needed to spend some time together. He's like ok sunday after I get off work. After our 5 min. talk I wrote a long as email to him so I could just vent everything I was feeling. He wouldn't get it till Sunday at work. Saturday he would be in Tampa with his car buddies. He called me & everything seemed ok. Sunday night he broke up with me. Now that I have gotten way off track.....

-Is it wrong that I asked him for the money back?
-Is it wrong that he's pissed that I asked?
-Does it seem shady that 2 weeks after the trip he has no feelings for me or just a coincidence?
-Does he have the right to be a dick to me now?

and another thing.... I didn't get shit from him for xmas.... i told him not to ... but not even a card?! I mean come on... its only like $3!

I don't think it's usually right to ask for something like that back - but in your case with the no present received and him being a cold mofo, feel free. Not an easy situation to be in by the sounds of it. Good luck getting some resolution.

You are definitely in the right. Don't let him use you like that...

what he did was really messed up... if all my other gf's were as thoughtful as you were, I wouldn't split up w/ ya.. but anyway, get that $$$$ back, and who cares if he's pissed? He didn't get you jack s*** for you, so why should that bastard get free stuff, not give anything to you, then dump you out of the blue... I say be a bitch to him....that's my :2cents:

The problem is is that I'm too damn nice...I can't be a bitch... not to people I care about. It kills me when people get mad at me.

you remind me of an old gf, I once had, just like you... she could never get mad, and always hated when ppl were pissed off at her... I would suggest getting the money, then cutting off all ties until all feelings on your end are gone.

I get mad...but I just don't want to say anything cause it will cause a problem.... I'm not very good at expressing how I feel. I don't like showing my feelings cause when I do I get all girly & I hate it....

I should be getting the money he said he would get it to me after he gets paid....

The good thing out of this is that my friend stationed in Hawaii is MAKING me go to visit him... all I have to pay is for my hotel & whatever activities we do....so the money I get back will be going to that.. which I won't be telling him about till after I get the money... so i guess thats the extent of my bitchyness

I get mad...but I just don't want to say anything cause it will cause a problem.... I'm not very good at expressing how I feel. I don't like showing my feelings cause when I do I get all girly & I hate it....

I should be getting the money he said he would get it to me after he gets paid....

The good thing out of this is that my friend stationed in Hawaii is MAKING me go to visit him... all I have to pay is for my hotel & whatever activities we do....so the money I get back will be going to that.. which I won't be telling him about till after I get the money... so i guess thats the extent of my bitchyness

I love happy endings. :)

The problem is is that I'm too damn nice...I can't be a bitch... not to people I care about. It kills me when people get mad at me.
You gotta start somewhere :smile: He treated you like crap, so you get to make him pay...literally and figuratively. He broke up with you after using you for a ticket, he owes you the money you gave him(for borrowing and being a fu*kstain) Be glad you two broke up, he sounds like a complete waste of time.

sounds like you are trying to hit him where it hurts for breaking up with you

money is money.. but it would be healthier to accept that *he* did something that was wrong and keep moving

you can take him to small claims court but you won't win unless you lie

I know he will give me the money... I also need it to pay off my hospital bill that i wasn't expecting to have... He says that he wouldn't use me for a ticket & if he was going to break up with me before then he wouldn't have even taken the ticket.

mmm take the money and run

oh hell yea.... now that i think about it... my parents will prolly pay the hospital bill for me ... so that money will be going to my HAWAII trip!!! WOOHOO!!

jack his ass up! hit and run.....