need girl advice

ok, so i've been single now for a year and a half, and no matter what approach i take, i always, ALWAYS ge shot down. in the past 4 months i have had no pussy, and no dates. i've gotten like 13 or 14 numbers, but no dates. At all.

I'm not ugly, so what is it?

are you sure you're chasing the right gender? Sometimes there's people that don't even realise it..... :icon16:

kicker that was kinda low. I personally just don't think it is the right time for ya.

It's probably your body language. Many guys really dont realize that body language is key to getting a date. Walk up to a girl, make small talk, ect. But when you talk, have an "open" body. like dont stand too close, or have your body turned away from her. Look at her but dont stare. Be polite. Don't necessairly use a cheesy pickup line. Just be yourself, but with a few adjustments. A lot of girls can get turned of by a guy who is too.....either shy or too forward, someone who wants to move too fast. A lot of girls don't mind going fast, but its gotta be right ya know. Does this make sense? If not, please correct me but these are just my views on things....

go read Candide...

Yeah, or maybe your too vague with them, confidence never hurts, ie, let them know you'd like to see them again, men and women are too quick to feel they're being rejected.

You're getting phone numbers, but are you calling them? :D

Don't worry about it man. Find something you enjoy doing and the money/women will happen.

I know a guy who is very good at getting girls into bed. It's a talent I wish I had but at the same time he has said "Yeah, the only reason I do it is because I feel so alone all the time." Go figure.

I haven't "gotten ass" in an even longer time than you but it's cool. For awhile it upset me but I got to thinking. There have been times when I could have had sex but I'm looking for intimacy, which can be sexual. I'll find someone when the time is right, until then I have a lot of other stuff to do.

Man I am in the same boat that you are. Every time I meet a girl, they give me this look, even before I say anything, that is like they are telepathically saying to me, "In your dreams you little fucker." I think the problem with guys like us is that we don't show girls that we have any shred of confidence in us. We need to be more out going, we need to be more spontaneous, and most of all, we need to figure out how to make a girl like us. Trust me, I know this won't be easy to do, considering I've been trying for about 9 months. Just don't let this get you down, be happy and cheerful around girls. I have already succumbed to the sadness that is associated with being without a girlfriend, or even just one date for that matter, and it makes the situation even worse because now I give off this signal to girls that is like some kind of natural feminine deterent.

Good luck with everything.

Are you aiming to high? Do you smell? :)

Thing I'm sick of with girls, is the way my car turns their heads, then they look at me, and smile, and wave, so uh, what now? What am i supposed to do, drive after them, hey, wanna go for a drink?

Thing I'm sick of with girls, is the way my car turns their heads, then they look at me, and smile, and wave, so uh, what now? What am i supposed to do, drive after them, hey, wanna go for a drink?

Are you talking about a 1990 Honda CRX turning heads? :icon16:

Thing I'm sick of with girls, is the way my car turns their heads, then they look at me, and smile, and wave, so uh, what now? What am i supposed to do, drive after them, hey, wanna go for a drink?
run them over, pick up their body, throw it in the pass. seat, you've got 'em



and yeah guy, just be yourself and let shit happen.

1. hang out in a different place.
2. Bring a friend, but drive seperately. Girls seem to travel in groups, and are more comfortable when both of them have someone to talk to.
3. Choose the above friend carefully. Nothing worse than finally getting into a conversation and having your buddy try a talk to the chick too. First one there is the winner unless the girl decides otherwise. In that case talk to her friend as long as she is tolerable. Often the first girl will come back to you.
4. Don't over do it. Dress nice enough, but leave the feather boas and gangster bling bling at home.
5. Buy the first drink.
6. Buy the second drink.
7. Lay off the third drink as a overly drunk girl will usually forget about you in the morning.
8. Ask for her number. If she say no, give her yours. (this works better if you have a decent business card. you don't even have to have a business, just the card. Much more professional**)
9. When she is ready to go, let her. Ask her if she would like you to walk her out, and if she says no, let her go, but tell her you appreciated her conversation.

**The business card thing is important in Japan, but I have been here so long I am not sure if it would work in the states. I think women are pretty universal, and they appreciate professionalism.

Pfft. Don't listen to these clowns. Just search online for a deaf mute nymphomaniac.

Sometimes, girls can be picky with the guy they want to be with. The best way is to be yourself and ask what she likes and talk about.

have you tried paying them?

Two things I have noticed. As an old fart in my late 30's , I have noticed women become more sensible, pleasant and down to earth as they mature. By the time they hit 30, they pretty much have stopped playing their finicky games. (okay, by that age, half of them have divorced the loser they chose over you but thats a different story)
But as you can't wait that long, try to look as if you are not looking. Girls can spot a guy on the make from 10 blocks away. Present yourself as friendly and confident enough to talk with them without appearing as if you are particularly interested. Trust me, it sparks their interest in you, (at least in enough of them to make it worthwhile)

think about what you're saying between the lines...

when it looks like someone is putting game on a girl, telling fibs and whatnot, she knows this but what she's hearing is "i like you and i'm willing to put myself in a vulnerable position to be close to you"

the first step is respecting the sexual power that all girls have, as soon as you say "you're nothing but an object," she's going to feel shitty and won't want to see you

what are you saying to girls.. what do you talk about on the phone?

All i can tell you man that its not that unless they dont even talk to you after getting the phone numbers. I mean if you talk and try to continue from that point to make things work... well thats your problem right there you're style to put things down aint right... trust me yo i went thru the same thing for like a couple of years before mastering them techniques TRUST ME this is the problem... time and experience will tell you i say. Even try working on and analyze if things dont work say to yourself "What did i do wrong there?" and compare with past experiences and match em up and you'll get it.

Good luck yo.

All i can tell you man that its not that unless they dont even talk to you after getting the phone numbers. I mean if you talk and try to continue from that point to make things work... well thats your problem right there you're style to put things down aint right... trust me yo i went thru the same thing for like a couple of years before mastering them techniques TRUST ME this is the problem... time and experience will tell you i say. Even try working on and analyze if things dont work say to yourself "What did i do wrong there?" and compare with past experiences and match em up and you'll get it.

Good luck yo.

That's very true. You have got to learn from past experiences, whether they are good or bad. You should just try different approaches to girls and figure out which one had the best affect, and then perfect it. Different girls, however, go for different approaches. This is when you need to study a girl that you want to get with. Like say if you see her in a club, and she is just sitting at a table with a drink, then you need to it at a table that is in her view and do the exact same thing. If the girl you have your eyes on is making a scene onthe dance floor, then you have to get in on that action and do some dancing. Girls look for a guy that share the same kind of interests or have a similar personality as them. So theoretically, if the quiet girl sees you and notices that you're quiet too, she may become interested in you, and then it opens up a door for you to go over and start a conversation with her. The same thing goes with the wild dancer chick. But I could be wrong....but it's worth a try isn't it?

If you walk up to a girl with the intention of banging her, 99% of the time you won't bang her. They see right through you. Don't push it because you aren't getting lucky right away. Walk up to them with the intention of getting to know them first.

Make eye contact when you're talking to her.

Speak to her well, not like shes a bag of meat.

tell her that you have a big one. :iceslolan