girlfriend problems

so kara and me have been dating for about a year and a half.
our relationship was awesome we were the best of friends did everything together had our problems here and there.
now we started getting pretty serious kissing wise a couple of weeks ago. we decided to slow down and now like this past week she has been acting like she doesnt know me or like im stupid. she tells me she doesnt love me as much as she use to. then tonite she came over and we where hanging out watching tv and she was getting ready to leave and we kiss and it didnt feel like there was any thing there and then she leaves abrubtly i tell her i love her and she justs walks out and shuts the door. im so freakn hurt why she wont tell me what i did or what has changed does ne one have ne ideas on what could be bothering her? :sadwavey:

Welcome to the rest of your life... What you have just been subjected to happens to all of us at some point, usually several times. If you don't think you did anything to make her change her attitude towards you, you proabably didn't. That means there is about a 99.9% chance that she is interested in some other dude and chooses to string you along blindly instead of telling you what's up. If you tell a girl you love her and she leaves without a word, it's time to let that one go because she obviously doesn't even care enough about you to tell you the truth.

What kublah said. I've been where you are. Talk to her, ask her what the problem is, and if it's something to do with you two.

Just brace yourself, it could not be pretty...

you're 18, have been dating her for a year and a half, and are just now kissing?

you're 18, have been dating her for a year and a half, and are just now kissing?

No kidding. This relationship doesn't seem to make a lot of sense chronologically... Start freshh somewhere else man. Smile & be cool when you see her, but let her be someone else's problem...

over a year... and you have trouble kissing her? :eek7: dude, sounds like you need to find a new chick... no offense or nothing...

I think I'll have to agree with much of what has been said thus far. Please dont take offense to this but it sounds to me as though she is a bit immature. It looks like she either A. Has a new man or B. Is bored with the relationship. I think you'd be better off with someone who doesnt treat like that, because unless there is something you have done that you neglected to mention, what reasons besides the ones I already gave would cause her to be mad. She's giving you the cold shoulder? Give her the cold shoulder, dont ask her to do anything, "pretend" not to see her every once in a while. I know that sounds a bit odd for advice, but that's just what I make of it. Good luck man.

At 18 I was crushing shit after like 2 hours sometimes. Fuck all that shit!!! Really, it sounds like she wants YOU to break up with HER. Why else would a broad tell you she doesn't love you like she used to? You're too young for that shit. Kepp your chest out and your head up and go get you some tail!!

"If you're havin' girl problems I feel bad for you son/
Got 99 problems but a bi**h ain't one/"

Ice-T "99 Problems"(Also Jay-Z, same title)

Yea, you should just dump her. A year and a half and you just started kissing? Come on. And you shouldnt have to put up with this kind of treatment. Just go your separate ways.

my bad on the kissing thing. weve been kissing since a month after we started going out. we just finally moving past kissing these past few weeks.
also i talkd to her and she does still love me. she has just been moody(something unusual for her) mainly bcause she feels she is to tired and thinks its her 28 days are about up you know what i mean. so she apoligized. phew i was worried all night last night.

As she gets older she will be better able to tell you when you should make other plans , which means she is too cranky to be pleasant company, and no matter what, you will be in the wrong. We all figure this out at some point, it is just whether we drag our significant others down with us, or know when to spend a night doing laundry!

Glad to hear that all is not lost for the two of you.

This lady's $0.02.

P.

Stay on your guard, bud. You sound a little sensitive, which is OK, but can be dangerous with immature girls. I went through a "moody" period with a girl when I was 18. She cheated on me the NIGHT OF [U]THE SENIOR PROM! :swear: (Still bitter...) Then I got a little moody....
Even if she says things are OK, now- Id be careful. If a girl is really into you she wont cop attitude for NO reason. She sounds a little flaky. Somethings up- dont be naive and get caught sleeping.

Fuck her senseless then ditch the bitch.

:D

Fuck her senseless then ditch the bitch.

:D

That's the way! :iceslolan Might be a bit hard to do though since they've just been kissing after so long...

But on the other hand, so I don't sound like a callous asshole (which is what I am but oh well), it does seem to me like she is losing interest in you or finding it somewhere else. Find out what's going on before you make any rash decisions.

Call her over and tell her she needs to kiss the ground you walk on, and she should be happy that she found somebody to put up wit her shit for a year and a half. Then you grab the back of her neck and tell her to "Get on her Knees and Show Gratitude!!!!!!"

No offense dude but the relationship is over. Either A) she is interested in someone else already
B) she has some mental issues (Like the inability to form social/sexuallly connected bonds, primarily due to abuse
C) She just doesn't feel anything for you.

I've gone through it before. Just take some time off. What really gets to women like that is when you dump them first. My advise is to break it off yourself, and never let her back into your life (Women love to break up with men first. It gives them a feeling of power).

im sorry but i dont agree with the last few posts. about make her kiss the ground and srewher and ditch her and what not. 1 it goes against what i believe to be moral and 2 i believe if i give all i have to the relationship and she feels it is not enough then she has the right to leave anytime she wants, i will be no worse off if thats the cae. but none the less i thank you all for your views on what i should, and i thank you all for taking the time to care.

and iam pretty sure she hasnt found anyone else, she just doesnt have the time in her life-because fo school,work and church- to get involved with someone else, she barely has enough time for me.

I'm kinda going...err....went through something like that... my bf broke up with me cause he said that one day he just didn't think of me ... so therefor he wasn't in love with me anymore....someone explain that to me

first off welcome to af:) what was going on between the two of you before you two broke up and how long where you two dating?

AS a old guy-some points to consider-
your 18,move on.
you will never understand women.
you have been being used for dates,etc.-be glad you did not have sex,you have no kids to support.
most women enjoy sex as much as the guy-she is getting it somewhere,another guy,masturbation,girlfriend,etc.
I hope I do not sound anti-female on this because I love women. But,they know they can control you with promises and your hope of getting in their pants. At age 18 your hormones are raging-been there-take a step back,think about the relationship and decide for for yourself. On the other hand,a relationship built on sex alone won't last. If you are being treated well,having fun,commen interests,etc. keep seeing her.If you are the doormat where she wipes her feet,you may want to move on.This is your life,and only you can make the decisions best for you.

and iam pretty sure she hasnt found anyone else, she just doesnt have the time in her life-because fo school,work and church- to get involved with someone else, she barely has enough time for me.
I wouldnt be so sure about that... Im not saying you're wrong, I just dont think it could be ruled out that she may have found someone.

be on your guard 24/7 dude
i was in that same situation
turned out she was cheating on me, i was depressed for 8 months...not fun...if i had a time machine i would have ditched the bitch and there were so many signs and shit...oh well...one lesson i learned and employ in my current relationship is don't let a relationship be your life just a part of it...you shouldn't get affected if you see it as just an extension of a learning experience...

first off welcome to af:) what was going on between the two of you before you two broke up and how long where you two dating?

ty.... well... it wasn't long...at all... just the fact that he had everything I've been lookin for in a guy from like age 12....We were fine then in like a week he was really distant ...like didn't call me....didn't come over when he said he would...crap like that... then I had a dream that his friends were talkin about me in the past tense so i called him .... blah blah blah.. 3 days later he dumped me cause he didnt feel the same as i did...he woke up & didn't think about me all the time.....whatever....i'm tryin to get over it.. but now he's all pissed at me for some reason when i got some stuff from his place tonight....ggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

and he banned me from his forum!

If your chick is going to be shady drop her....plus you're 18!! There are going to be soo many other girls (guys for the chicks) that are going to break your heart... so just learn early to move on quikly....

Yeah women are unpredictable i tell you. But like some dude said in the thread theirs a reason for it... and more then half the time its some dude messing with your girl.. no joke. Happens all the time. I could be wrong though. Hopefully so, but usually not the case, so just talk to her and find out and if she dosent say anything... well youre just gonna have to if you wanna keep her.

avpart3 and OZ have it right. Don't fuck yourself up over any broad. Keep your(dick)head up and eventually, you'll run into something. ;)

umm thanks

Yah, as much as i hate to say it, they're right. I learned the hard way too. 19, and let myself get attached. The sad truth of the situation is that you'll be hard pressed to find a girl between the ages of 18-25 that wants a long term relationship. They are in it for 1) sex 2) money 3) newness and excitement. If any of those three things runs out, they quickly move on. Yes even if they said the "Loved" you. And even if you sex em up good and buy everything they want, they will get bored with you. So.. just keep that in mind for the future. Have fun with em, but don't get attached. Don't make it obvious, for risk of an early end, but always keep in the back of your mind that it WILL end one day.. And that you should do it first, cause it sucks to be on the recieving end.

ah yes that's why 15 year old girls are perfect

jk jk 15'll get you 20 :o

shes 18

a lil update since the last post/for those who care. we broke up last night, it was totally unexpected.we started to get over our problems and then blam she tells me its over and she still loves me just not enough to stay with me and that things have changed to much and we fight to often. she even wrote me a list of all the things she loves about me. she feels she is going to bring me downbefore i go on my mission.(i am mormon and to go on a mormon mission you have to be 19, amember of the church, and a virgin). so her feelings are that we will get going at it like bunnies and wont be able to stop ourselves. so basically i cried myself to slleep last night and woke up and cried some more and came to class. i dont think it is really over between us but i do have more doubt about it evolving into a marriage than i did before. well anyway it is not quite over yet. i am going to wait a couple of weeks and make sure she is sure about her descion before i start looking again. :disappoin

aw man that totally sucks
i know what it feels like to cry yourself to sleep and to wake up only to cry again and again, sucks ass. I've gotten to the point where I couldn't eat because my ex dumped me like a trash bag saying we are too different and that she doesn't love me anymore. Be strong man, pray a lot, and just surround yourself with friends.
Don't think about her, the more you think the more it hurts...good luck.

sounds to me like your the good seed in a good seed/bad seed relationship. and its not that she doesn't know what she's got with you, she does know and probably took advantage of it, even mildly. she may love you (but she's not IN love with you) but it sounds like she loves herself (her agenda) more. you can't compete with that and I don't like hearing you say your going to tail along for a couple of weeks waiting for her. Your immature to relationships obviously, see... the thing is with relationships, rarely does both persons in the relationship love each other equally. the person in love usually gets hurt (you). its just up to you to decide how much longer you want to keep getting hurt. you sound like a very nice person, that should be everything you need to find yourself another good girlfriend. spend some time with other girls if you can, it will help more then you can imagine. Maybe even get a kiss from one if you can :D :D :D

whatever happens I wish you the best of luck man

:iagree:
yep totally agree with him

good advice blueboost

Dude,
I know it stings and I can promise you that ALL of the rest of us guys have been there before when we were younger. But check this out...
You need to pick yourself up brother! Stop the crying and push that chick off of what's left of your manhood! I'm not saying that this doesn't hurt (we all have feelings) but no chicks do NOT like criers and sissies. If that's the way you're going to be then be prepared for lots of women wanting to be your "friend" and being "the person that they can really talk to" and you will get nothing else.
You will become that "Nice Guy that's every woman's friend that never gets any" cliche' before you know it. Take it from me, I've been there.
I'm not saying to have to become a complete dick, but seriously, get in touch with your inner-A-Hole! You'll be happier.
I wish you the best of luck bud! Things will look up, promise.

Stay strong, stay focused, lie if you have to...Eventually you will hit that punany..........

That was wrong i know but i couldn't resist, i'm waiting on a bid for a car on ebay...It has 29 minutes left an were gonna try and get it at the last minute.

I've been there done that man, it isn't worth getting your heart broken twice. Cowboy up and move on.

i am going to wait a couple of weeks and make sure she is sure about her descion before i start looking again

That's a bad idea. Even if she takes you back, you're just setting yourself up to be hurt again. I'm sure you don't want to go through that twice. The best thing to do is move on and enjoy all the free time you have. If you don't feel like dating right away but that's OK.

man just listening to this makes me want to go gay

yeah dude its time to move on. i'll spare you the advice that you've already heard on here but its all true. it'll be hard but you just gotta find someone new or at least look for someone new and move on and make sure dont find yourself thinking about her for too long, eventually things will return to normal

just for the hell of it go to a strip club, stay there till the wee hours of the morning and i bet you WON'T think about her there...

maybe it's PMS:rolleyes: mood swings:p or not:sly:

man just listening to this makes me want to go gay
:rolleyes: thought u already went gay:sly: :p :sly: