Telephone connector

Where can I find the phone connector under the cupholder? Als I see is the antenna lead, a fixed silver box (perhaps from the ABS) and a white fixed plugged connection.

when you remove the cup holder you will see a wiring loom that runs along side the antenna lead. there is a white block connector taped to this loom, (towards the gear lever) this is the connector you need (it is the only spare connector there).
if you are fitting a phone kit you will need to remove the centre consol to attach the phone unit electrical box.