A new girl problem thread!?

ok.. well I too have my girl problems, and who else to turn to than automotive speicalists! Anyway, this one really is kinda a weird one, in which i have been forced to deal with for over a year, so any help from anyone would be helpful.

here we go!

So about this time last year, a girl whom I worked with, we will call her "Katie," started working with me. We became friends from the start. We flirted and got a few bites to eat after work if we closed together every once and a while. Later, she suggested we should go ice skating and christmas eve of last year, which we did, and we got close. I basically held each other, blah, blah blah, but i didn't kiss her.

So probably a week later at work, a friend or ours starts talking out loud at work, "omg, katie has been asking about you for like a week, do you like her?" She said this right in front of her, and I said the typical guy response... " Uhhh... I don't know." Later that day, she gave me a note which basically expained her feelings for me, and the liking, blah, blah, blah, and I asked her out over the phone.

Everything was good but... We went to different schools, and I didn't have my license at the time, so I really couldn't see her, except at work, or when she could fit me in, she had a lot of things, lacrosse, a school play, work, blah, blah, blah. Time was such a factor that I wasn't able to kiss her until 3 wks. into the relationship, although we talked over the phone everyday. She actually thought that i didn't want to kiss her, which wasn't true and i told her this, so she kissd me.. hahah. I always leave the ladies wanting more, that why i never kissed her when we ice skated.

Anyway, things were good for a while, then she started telling me about her sexual past.. The funny thing is though, she was still kinda attached to her bf of 2 yrs, that went away to college in new mexico, but the weire thing is though, she has never has sex, only oral. When she told me this I was like ok, that's cool, but she started to tell me about how many guys she had gone down on and vice versa, it totaled to about 5. Now a 17 yr. old girl that has had 5 guys go down on her, and she did the same make me kinda skeptical.. So i decided to wait and she where the realtionship went. The idea of sticking my tounge into a "used" pussy really wasn't too appealing, i like just regular sex.

So one night after her rehersal, I invited her over to my house to chill out and watch some tv, etc. When she came over, I kissed her, and (by the way she tutored me in math) did a little math homework. When I took a break, I sat down on my couch and talked to her. She laid ont top of me and put my hands on her breasts. (This was about 3 wks. into the relationship) I moved my hands down and told her that I needed to study. (What would you choose? Going down on a pussy and not getting much in return?--- I wasn't going to get any that night, not enough time, or study to get the grades to get my license and the new car that goes with it?) She was kinda pissed about that.

We chit chated over the net and the phone, but she never had time for me, so i never got to see her. About a week later, she broke up with me. (The relationship has lasted about a month.) She said the relationship wasn't what she had in mind, but we could be friends. I got pissed and didn't talk to her for another month.

When I calmed down, (it's now march) I told her i was sorry, and we started talking again. We became "friends." I still liked her, and she like me, but it was obvious that there wasn't going to be a realtionship. NOw she complains to me, about the new guys into her life, and I hold my feelings for her back and tell her the truth. There is currently one in which she has this guy whipped and wants got out out with him because he is "cute," but she won't until september, (that's when she will move to his school for college) She has been with him in person, and all they did was make out. I think she has made me into a "male girlfriend." Yuck.

My real question is, now that I no longer work with her or hewr stupid friend, what should I do about her. I still like her and she knows that, and she keeps flirting with me and gives me buying signals. I'm 80% sure she still likes me. I could cut her out of my life, I wouldn't have to see her- ever. But there is a part of me that still holds on, like i'm still kinda in a relationship with her, in this "male girlfriend" role. We still call her other hun, sweetie, blah, blah, blah, but there isn't a relationship. What should I do? Should I tell her I want to give it anothet shot, or turn my tail and run. thanks for reading all the crap above.

Holy Shit. I'm readin' it. Just gimme some time, mate. (lol @ Rev Head)

Holy Shit. I'm readin' it. Just gimme some time, mate. (lol @ Rev Head)

:eek: dont start you waffle.

thanks guys, take your time, lol

thanks guys, take your time, lol

no wait... you do realise tha thalf the shit in the thread is really crazy?
mate... you friggin said and im gonan quote!

she laid ont top of me and put my hands on her breasts. (This was about 3 wks. into the relationship) I moved my hands down and told her that I needed to study. (What would you choose? Going down on a pussy and not getting much in return?--- I wasn't going to get any that night, not enough time, or study to get the grades to get my license and the new car that goes with it?) She was kinda pissed about that.

????????????????????????????? okay. for one, y in the living hell did u refure the offer? and said u had to study?? because iyou had to please her??? WTF???? help me! realise!

dude, that test had everything on the line, my car, my license... If I failed it, I would had lost it all. Cmon ppl, the chick kinda looked like a ho, but I still kinda like her. I hate going down, esp. on a chick that wouldn't give me any!

Now a 17 yr. old girl that has had 5 guys go down on her, and she did the same make me kinda skeptical.. So i decided to wait and she where the realtionship went. The idea of sticking my tounge into a "used" pussy really wasn't too appealing, i like just regular sex.

?????????????????????????????????????????????????? ??????????????????
again!.
listen.. she was a virgin. and, you had the chance right then n there. a virgin 17 year old.
but, you had to study. i fogot abuot that


hoesntly, im sorry but you do have a big problem. yuore too picky and u make no sense because that is really crazy.

no she didn't want to have real sex, she just wanted me to go down

so???? you had to give hear pleaseure SOME day. and if u havent gone down on a girl yet (the way i see it) that would be your first chance. and if u give u take! mate, you cant "assume" that she wont give u any.. lol are you a phsychic? do you know what the future holds me too?

no i really. i really think you should look differently. VERY rarely is it that a girl will ask you to go down on her or evern ask you to do anything.

So, i dunno. that story threw me off the chair because that is nuts lol

ok... so what should I do? Like there is just something about her... I want her still. But i think it would be weird if i told her i wanted to go down after all these months

ok. I admit it, it was a stupid mistake, what can i do to fix it though?

ok... so what should I do? Like there is just something about her... I want her still. But i think it would be weird if i told her i wanted to go down after all these months

u just need to take it easy. ure nervouse about it. i dunno make up a story about your granmah or somethign that u ahd to do over those months and now u can be with her or something..
i dunno, but i think uve jsut lost her. beacuse i had to study and u threw irrelevant things in her way.
if iw as her id think u lost interest full stop. and no wander she dumped you a week later.
i think next time you sould really jsut have a go at things

fix it?
i think you should give her attention! show her you really like her. shell be impressed to see you a chenged person. hoenst.

.... this sucks

ok, i'll give it a go

Anyway, things were good for a while, then she started telling me about her sexual past.. The funny thing is though, she was still kinda attached to her bf of 2 yrs, that went away to college in new mexico, but the weire thing is though, she has never has sex, only oral. When she told me this I was like ok, that's cool, but she started to tell me about how many guys she had gone down on and vice versa, it totaled to about 5. Now a 17 yr. old girl that has had 5 guys go down on her, and she did the same make me kinda skeptical.. So i decided to wait and she where the realtionship went. The idea of sticking my tounge into a "used" pussy really wasn't too appealing, i like just regular sex.

This is the first thing that REALLY caught my eye, and it kinda ticks me off. Sexual past. Yeah. Listen, unless you start dating a 14 year old (maybe younger, and DON'T!) it's gonna be hard for you to find someone with NO sexual experience. If you draw the line at full intercourse, you can raise the bar a little. 17 y/o? I'd say five guys is a pretty good AVERAGE for the normal girl.

Next, USED pussy? She's NEVER HAD INTERCOURSE! My gosh, that's just not right. That's bloody well harsh! And wrong, to boot.
The only way I'd even consider using that term is in "well used pussy" and that would be referring to some loose whore. Also, do you just think that cum and spit remain in her vagina indefinitely? The idea of sticking your tongue in a "used" pussy wasn't appealing? How long ago was the last one? More than 24 hours? I'd say you're in the clear! 'Specially if she's had a bath or shower. So you like just "regular" plain, old-fashioned, missionary-style, white, bland, vanilla sex, huh? Which leads me to my next point.


So one night after her rehersal, I invited her over to my house to chill out and watch some tv, etc. When she came over, I kissed her, and (by the way she tutored me in math) did a little math homework. When I took a break, I sat down on my couch and talked to her. She laid ont top of me and put my hands on her breasts. (This was about 3 wks. into the relationship) I moved my hands down and told her that I needed to study. (What would you choose? Going down on a pussy and not getting much in return?--- I wasn't going to get any that night, not enough time, or study to get the grades to get my license and the new car that goes with it?) She was kinda pissed about that.

HOLY LOADS OF WATERY CRAP, BATMAN! WTF? She was "kinda" pissed? Man, oh man. Dude, you just said in the last paragraph that you like "regular sex". This is about as regular as you can get, with woman on top. What was stopping you?

Yeah, I saw your answer to Moter Rotor's post, but... Wow. I mean. Wow. I, and any guy I know, could not have been held BACK at that point. I know this test was important, but you had a REAL, LIVE VIRGIN WANTING YOUR BODY! Most guys would DIE for that chance. Well...maybe not. Unless you were desperate. But they'd give up something VALUABLE!

I understand that this test was important, it might cost you your license and a car, but what's a couple of hours with a VIRGIN worth? Is that translatable to any tangible value? I'd spend the hours in pleasurable bliss, and then lose a few hours sleep studying!

About a week later, she broke up with me. (The relationship has lasted about a month.) She said the relationship wasn't what she had in mind, but we could be friends. I got pissed and didn't talk to her for another month. .

It was wrong for you to get pissed, man. You should have thought about what HER goal in all this was. Yours was a stable relationship, but maybe she was just using you to maker her b/f jealous. (?) Having sex with you to say she could? THAT'S a reason to get mad, because she used you. But not for her saying "it wasn't what she had in mind." I'd say that's probably what most people who've broken up with someone WOULD say!

I think she has made me into a "male girlfriend." Yuck.

Dude. She either thinks your ghey, or that you totally are NOT into her body. Where else is she going to relegate you to? I'd say the next step is for you to be snubbed.[/QUOTE]

I'm 80% sure she still likes me. I could cut her out of my life, I wouldn't have to see her- ever. But there is a part of me that still holds on, like i'm still kinda in a relationship with her, in this "male girlfriend" role. We still call her other hun, sweetie, blah, blah, blah, but there isn't a relationship. What should I do? Should I tell her I want to give it anothet shot, or turn my tail and run. thanks for reading all the crap above.

I'd revise that 80%, I think, but besides that, in answer to you're final question: RUN! There's no room for another shot. In some relationships there is, but not here. You burned yourself, man. Everyone makes mistakes. The problem here is that the relationship would NEVER be the same again. You're still thinkin' of "what you had" like skating at Christmas and that kinda "new-relationship" stuff. You wouldn't have that here. It would all be awkwards, always watching where you put your feet. A relationship can't be like that. It's spontaneous.


I don't mean to be harsh on you, but I'm telling it as I see it... Correct me if I'm wrong on anything.

FUCKIN' A!

You guys were carryin' on a whole conversation while I was typing my long piece of BS....

Sezz, you omay rice lover, you coulda TOLD me there was a convo goin' on! It woulda been nice to be included...

See, Kriss....you just can't find a GOOD girl.

Sezz, you omay rice lover, you coulda TOLD me there was a convo goin' on! It woulda been nice to be included...

See, Kriss....you just can't find a GOOD girl.

listen. there waffle man. i DID tell you over aim didnt i? but no00o you HAD to be special! and write more!

omay, so get it iff ya head and drink some waffles with some milik.
because i just got back from the parental Pahty and its time to sleep.

so stop your crying!

AND!!! i quote
.... this sucks
dude, if the advice isnt "ged enuff", then stop cying about it. and dont waste your time on the INturNet looknig for answers, because you wont find them. THE END.

your additude is really nasty. its as if ure expecting things and not getting what you want.

are you 14?

i like waffles.

listen. there waffle man. i DID tell you over aim didnt i? but no00o you HAD to be special! and write more!

omay, so get it iff ya head and drink some waffles with some milik.
because i just got back from the parental Pahty and its time to sleep.

so stop your crying!

i like waffles.

:cwm27:

Man...you really must've been drunk. :disappoin

But it's omay. You're still pretty for a mechanic with a dog's head. You just hafta work on your kisses. They're a 'lil sloppy.


TO KRISS:

I didn't know she was just tryin' to get you to go down on her, but that doesn't change my feelings. Instead of spending a couple of hours having sex, you'd've only had to spend about 30 minutes...maybe more, if she reciprocated. :naughty:

I dunno. I study better after gettin' off :smokin: . Then I'm not so distracted .

jesus christ, you guys lay the truth down hard! But your right I did fuck up, I just wish I could had gone back in time to fix it, but I can't. Oh well, i'll just be surronded by Aim away messages like this:

OUT...i'd say call me, but you can't! Wow...

PS...Steven, I got the ring and letter...you made me cry like a baby. That was so sweet

Yuck... I feel like i'm gonna puke

jesus christ, you guys lay the truth down hard! But your right I did fuck up, I just wish I could had gone back in time to fix it, but I can't. Oh well, i'll just be surronded by Aim away messages like this:

OUT...i'd say call me, but you can't! Wow...

PS...Steven, I got the ring and letter...you made me cry like a baby. That was so sweet

Yuck... I feel like i'm gonna puke
lol tahts ok ;)

but ... i still cant believe u had to study

Yes, we're harsh. But you're the one who subjected your problem for public scrutiny. As long as you know it wasn't personal.

Cmon ppl, the chick kinda looked like a ho

If she kinda looked like a ho, WTF? Why are you so torn up about her. Leave it alone and find a girl with similar interests.

I also wanted to make fun of you one last time:

I always leave the ladies wanting more

Man, you sure did THAT night!

Solomon219, you're so smart. I wish I was as smart as you.

Thanks, M.E.! Don't get your hopes up, though. I'm always here to answer the questions that are "too hard" though. Omay?


She's SERIOUSLY gonna kill me.....

Yes, we're harsh. But you're the one who subjected your problem for public scrutiny. As long as you know it wasn't personal.



If she kinda looked like a ho, WTF? Why are you so torn up about her. Leave it alone and find a girl with similar interests.

I also wanted to make fun of you one last time:



Man, you sure did THAT night!



Thanks, M.E.! Don't get your hopes up, though. I'm always here to answer the questions that are "too hard" though. Omay?


She's SERIOUSLY gonna kill me.....

Im so sorry, i really did mess it up. im acutally a turd because i like poo poo, my name is waffle man and i like to slap the horsie

i feel sorry for you dave. maybe you should consider revising high school again :(

you special ed child.
UH!!!
fucker! :D

geez. oh well.. It's really hard to find an attractive girl that doens't wear abercrombie & fitch, and isn't preppy where I live... wait, "katie" was all of those things, yuck.

geez. oh well.. It's really hard to find an attractive girl that doens't wear abercrombie & fitch, and isn't preppy where I live... wait, "katie" was all of those things, yuck.

dang! you really have a lousy choice :D

i think you shouldnt shove urself into the girly business :D and do somethin uuuh. maybe dont try too har dot get them into bed? because it wont happen so quickly?

;/ i dunno, do u like pancakes?

Don't worry, dude. Seriously. There's other fish in the sea. You just hafta decide if you want to date a fish. I wouldn't. I'd find another girl around where you live.

This shit happens ALL the time, you're not alone. Just let things happen. Be yourself. You'll be glad, later on, that you DIDN'T stay with this girl. Unless she becomes rich and famous, and then you're screwed.

That help any?

you really scare me... and wtf is up with you fetish with waffles and pancakes... I'm not even going into your cat working at kfc smoking a joint

yea it did, I guess i'll just move on..... so on to pancake cake boy.....

I'm leavin' this to her.

Pancakes are crap. I dunno what that crazy girl's talkin' about. Waffles are where it's at.

Actually, I'll revise that. Pancakes are good. Waffles are better. But she doesn't have waffles, so she's not crazy. Well...she IS, but just not then.

you really scare me... and wtf is up with you fetish with waffles and pancakes... I'm not even going into your cat working at kfc smoking a joint

waffles n pancakes... not reffering to you kid.

im just an odd one, i like to be different. :D

my cat is excellent it can smoke a joint and it works at kfc.


i have nothing more to say.

hey at least i didnt say i had to study

Omay. Look. The cat is smoking a CIGARETTE! Not a joint. I've never even HEARD of someone putting weed in a cigarette. Blunts, yes. Cigarettes, no. There isn't even enough rolling paper there if you wanted to tear off the filter. That's my rant, and I'm stickin' to it.

What did I do to deserve a life debating whether a digitally altered pic of a cat is smoking a joint or a cigarette. Please put me out of my misery :banghead:

m.e. is a chick?

Omay. Look. The cat is smoking a CIGARETTE! Not a joint. I've never even HEARD of someone putting weed in a cigarette. Blunts, yes. Cigarettes, no. There isn't even enough rolling paper there if you wanted to tear off the filter. That's my rant, and I'm stickin' to it.

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

you just THINK you know everything!!!

HELL YEAH! That's why you should listen to some of the stuff she says. Ignore the rest of it. It's all made up BS.

I think I know everything? Mmmm...maybe. If I don't, I can make it up REAL quick...

this thread is really messed up, going from love to cats, to blunts to kfc....

Just like M.E.

THat's what happens when you throw the two of us in the mix. We've even taken this to two PAGES! Just the three of us! Aren't you proud? A thread started by you is at two pages.

-leaves-

So long children, you can stay here and cry all you want. specially you DAVEY!
ha!



:lol:

*gasp* My secret identity has been revealed! I must now leave the country. GOODBYE THREAD! It's been fun. It's not worth shit, though. Unless you want to print it off and wipe your ass with it. Use a lighter weight paper though, or it might hurt.

SEZZ, you're a mean one...

And don't think I'm gonna let you off so easily.

Motor Eyes secret identity is SARAH!! HAHAHAHA

Next time you see me I won't be me.

*gasp* My secret identity has been revealed! I must now leave the country. GOODBYE THREAD! It's been fun. It's not worth shit, though. Unless you want to print it off and wipe your ass with it. Use a lighter weight paper though, or it might hurt.

SEZZ, you're a mean one...

And don't think I'm gonna let you off so easily.

Motor Eyes secret identity is SARAH!! HAHAHAHA

Next time you see me I won't be me.

............. :rolleyes: HMMM!@!!!! i wander what the "user profile" means??? oooh it says my name is sara!! shit im not so secret now am i?
HMM!! :screwy:

lol this thread is going no where >.<

Can't even spell your name right, Sarah.

Why you gotta get all mean for? Hurt my feelin's and crap. After all the wonderful things I've done for you and your career.

Frankly, I'm stunned.

Brain cells are a terrible thing to waste.

Can't even spell your name right, Sarah.

Why you gotta get all mean for? Hurt my feelin's and crap. After all the wonderful things I've done for you and your career.

Frankly, I'm stunned.

lol career? since when???

no its not sarah. idiot.

Brain cells are a terrible thing to waste.

yea too bad you only had the last two posting that shit

I thought you left.

Kriss, I'm sorry this Rev Head here took over your thread. It was such a good one, too.

You have to forgive her though, she really doesn't know what she's doing.

Plus she's spoiled, and used to gettin' her way.

I still love her, though. Even if she does call me names.

I still love her, though. Even if she does call me names.

THERE IT IS!!

I still love her, though.

!!!

I still love her, though.

u admited it.

Ummmm... Figure of speech?

C'mon, did you REALLY hafta put it on there three more times.

Besides...aw, shit.

I DON'T! And this doesn't count!

gnite children, my point has been proved.

Whatever. No it hasn't. I'll deny it. And delete these posts. And we already KNOW we can put whatever we want to put in quotes....

I deny everything.

Besides, you're not goin' to bed, so don't say g'nite. It's not even night over there. It's 1 am here, so there it mus be 4 pm

Omay. Look. The cat is smoking a CIGARETTE! Not a joint. I've never even HEARD of someone putting weed in a cigarette. Blunts, yes. Cigarettes, no. There isn't even enough rolling paper there if you wanted to tear off the filter. That's my rant, and I'm stickin' to it.

Crazy man, of course there's such s thing as weed in cigarettes, aka "spliff". And it's easiest if you roll your own tobacco anyway.. you just replace some of the tobacco used with some cannabis. :iceslolan

I'll agree on the "roll your own", 'cause I know some guys that cut their shit like that. Kinda like a blunt, where you get the buzz from nicotine with a marijuana high.

But I've never heard or seen where they'd but weed down inside a filtered cig. That's what I was gettin' at. To roll the cig and get the tobacco out, then replace with weed?

I dunno. Stoners can do some weird shit if they really want a buzz.

seeing as to how this has gone from a guy being a borderline idiot, to waffles vs. pancakes, to smoking.....i'm kinda suprised that nobody ever mentioned The Kiss of Death throughout this whole post....kris you said that she "wanted to stay friends" with you? dude you're never EVER gonna be able to hit that now......stop trying to get back with her because if anything, it's a tease......just go and try to get someone else man...you're killin me here....that was like me when i was 13......:disappoin...NEVER MISS OUT ON AN OPPORTUNITY!, i bet that you would have been able to go further in the relationship if it weren't for that.....

seeing as to how this has gone from a guy being a borderline idiot, to waffles vs. pancakes, to smoking.....i'm kinda suprised that nobody ever mentioned The Kiss of Death throughout this whole post....kris you said that she "wanted to stay friends" with you? dude you're never EVER gonna be able to hit that now......stop trying to get back with her because if anything, it's a tease......just go and try to get someone else man...you're killin me here....that was like me when i was 13......:disappoin...NEVER MISS OUT ON AN OPPORTUNITY!, i bet that you would have been able to go further in the relationship if it weren't for that.....

yes!!! thats CRAZY!

BUT... dont forget he had to study??

im still having troubles understanding that :disappoin

WTF? Where'd THAT topic come from? Just playing, man.

In fact, I agree with everything you said.

Especially in light of the fact where Kriss says he's a "male girlfriend". You might as well be gay. You're never gonna get another chance.