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90gs
12-07-2003, 03:36 AM
I had this friend at work (nikki) who i talked to a lot. one night a couple nights ago she called me and said "my friend starts tomorrow, you should train her". i felt something inside me, like i knew there would be something... the next day at work im walking along to the drinking fountain and this voice inside me says "look up" and i see her friend.

turns out someone else is already scheduled to train her. through the day we talk every now and then. that night i'm off at 5pm, so i go to my friends house. we're just chillin then the girl calls me and says "steven my friend REALLY likes you, she said 'i know i barely know steven but i REALLY like him'". the next day at work nikki says "you should come hang out with us tonight". i go to nikki's house and nikki ends up leaving like an hour later to go to her boyfriends house, so its just me and her friend. i told nikki i was going to stay the night because i work the next morning and her house is a lot closer to work than my house is. her friend says "you wanna go lay down?"

we go lie down and she starts cuddling on me and i think "no biggie shes just cold". then she keeps getting closer and closer and nuzzles her face on mine, then i tip my face down a little and she kisses me, we start full on making out. hands start wandering... we just end up shirtless and go to sleep.

the next day nikki asked if i wanted to hang out again. i said sure. i was out with my buddies in line for tickets to The Last Samurai so it was a while before i went there (last samura = 149 minutes). when i got there nikki was in her room asleep cuz she felt sick. her friend and i talked for a while then went to bed. hands started wandering, fingers started poking, condom got put on and penis started poking... we cuddled for a while after then she went to the bathroom and i was like "wow i REALLY wish i hadn't done that...". my mom wanted me home that night so i drove home like half an hour later. got home at 3:30 AM, went to sleep till 6:00AM. woke up feeling so shitty about myself, wishing i hadnt done that.

today at work there was no awkwardness. it was like nothing happened, we talked just like we were friends. i went to this girls house from my highschool tonight and my cell battery died. i left at like midnight, got home, plugged my phone in and it said voicemail. so i checked it and it was nikki. she said "hey steven, its 11:52. i was just thinking.. my friend really likes you and she hasnt liked a guy for a long time and i was hoping you guys could be more than friends ya know? i dont want her to get hurt... i dont want her to just be a fuck buddy".

i was like OH SHIT. i dont know what to do. thanks for reading.

taranaki
12-07-2003, 03:48 AM
not sure exactly what the issue is here.Clearly the lady wants a relationship with you,are you saying that you don't want the full deal,or are you saying that you think you've failed to follow up in the way expected of you?Best to talk to her directly,once you have been that intimate with a lady,the need for a friend to mediate between you has passed.

Oz
12-07-2003, 03:54 AM
WHAT IS THE FUCKING PROBLEM
a. She's Ugly
b. She's taken
c. You're taken
d. Work ppl will find out

GO FOR IT j00 EEDIOT!

Oz
12-07-2003, 03:55 AM
Jesus H Fucking Christ. Just Reminded Me Of My Own Peronsnal Massive Fuckup Yesterday. Picked Up A Keeper And Didn't Get Her Number. Goddamnit. Don't Be That Guy.

mybenzbaby024
12-07-2003, 11:43 AM
Hey if you like her then go for it... dont rush into anything... dont just keep her around as just a fuck buddy either... it seems she really likes you so unless you really like her or you think that yours and hers relationship can go somewhere then tell your friend the truth that you really do not want a relationship with her right now but you want to be friends or something.... I would hate to be lied to thats y i am sayin

Graphik Styles
12-07-2003, 11:51 AM
its really hard to say and give you suggestions, as the girl may see it in a different perspective, and we dont know exactly what happened and stuff. But from the sound of it, she likes you, and if you like her, then go for it ;)

zebrathree
12-07-2003, 12:20 PM
we just end up shirtless and go to sleep.




WTF, over.

YogsVR4
12-07-2003, 12:50 PM
not sure exactly what the issue is here.Clearly the lady wants a relationship with you,are you saying that you don't want the full deal,or are you saying that you think you've failed to follow up in the way expected of you?Best to talk to her directly,once you have been that intimate with a lady,the need for a friend to mediate between you has passed.

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Suislide
12-07-2003, 01:09 PM
jesus christ. am i the only one who notices how many girl-problem threads that 90gs starts? :eek7:

Deakins
12-07-2003, 01:19 PM
So...
You're mature enough to have sex, but not mature enough to talk to eachother?
Dude!

chicago_guy
12-07-2003, 02:42 PM
Yea pal you def. have some serious problems. You found a girl that likes you? :eek: I feel your pain man...lol. I honestly dont see the problem. You fucked her, big deal. Just go up to her and tell her you want to have a serious relationship, if thats what she wants.

IMO, next time you want to post a problem that you have with a girl, make sure its a real serious problem, like you fucked your gf's best friend or something. Challenge us a little bit.

HogieGT-R
12-07-2003, 02:58 PM
man what the hell's the problem? go out with her!

IntegraBoy2003
12-07-2003, 03:54 PM
go out with her or if not stage the "Wham Bam Thank you mam"

Haibane
12-07-2003, 04:15 PM
WHAT IS THE FUCKING PROBLEM
a. She's Ugly

Hate when that happens... Oh wait, its every year and it is a different ugly chick each year.

Ace$nyper
12-07-2003, 04:34 PM
HIT IT and if you like her HIT IT again unless she like scary ugly then run.... RUN MY CHILD! no really go out with her if you want if you don't wanta just tap that and call it a day

Haibane
12-07-2003, 06:09 PM
HIT IT and if you like her HIT IT again unless she like scary ugly then run.... RUN MY CHILD! no really go out with her if you want if you don't wanta just tap that and call it a day
This is what the world has come to...

DigitalPhantom
12-07-2003, 06:47 PM
Either date her or complete step three of the 3 F's... 1) Find Her 2) Fuck Her 3) Forget Her

dayna240sx
12-07-2003, 07:00 PM
I'm glad theres still men out there like you...

chicago_guy
12-07-2003, 07:23 PM
Either date her or complete step three of the 3 F's... 1) Find Her 2) Fuck Her 3) Forget Her

and they say that the art of romance is dead.

90gs
12-07-2003, 07:38 PM
S13_Iketani.... pffffffft i do not start a lot of threads about girl problems.

back to the topic. i guess i was unclear. i felt bad about having sex with her, im not feelin her. i dont want a relationship. i meant to be asking how should i tell her i dont want a relationship without hurting her feelings? i sorta led her on.. JUST KINDA (it was her 2nd time ever having sex).

chicago_guy
12-07-2003, 07:48 PM
oooooooo shit...ok....well it wont turn out pretty but you just gotta be straight up with her. Its the most mature thing to do. Just make sure when you tell her that you wear a cup cuz that could be one pissed off bitch...depending on her personality.

90gs
12-07-2003, 09:01 PM
i dont think she'd kick me like that. her friend already told her that im "not ready for a relationship" because i "just got out of one 2 weeks ago that lasted 9 months". heh it was a month and a half ago and it only lasted 7 months.

IntegraBoy2003
12-07-2003, 09:40 PM
Damn son find another girl you nailed her right?>??? well if you dont want to be with her, find some other piece of snatch....

DigitalPhantom
12-07-2003, 10:43 PM
Dude, you should definatly just tell her what the deal is and just tell her that you didnt mean to come off as an ass or anything, and that you just wanna chill

integra818
12-07-2003, 11:32 PM
Making a mistake is easy, tryin to fix it is the hard part, make sure you know what you're doin.

Think it through, and make sure you won't regret anything. ;)

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