Girl help please

Ok theres this REALLY hot girl at work that i brought up enough courage to ask out. she said that she just started talking her ex boyfriend again (after a year apart) and isnt sure whats going to happen with that. she doesnt want to lead me on so she said that she wants to wait and see what happens with him first so she doesnt lead me on and end up going out with her ex boyfriend again. So the next day (today) i went up to her and said "hey, i know you're still talking to your ex, but if its ok with you i'll call you some time and we can get to know each other while you see what happens with your ex" and shes like "yea, ok!" then wrote her # down and gave it to me. she said "here ya go, call me when i get off work".

she gets off work in an hour and a half, im not worried about how thats going to go, im good at phone conversations. but what should i do as far as trying to convince her that im the better choice?

two words....

Be Yourself.

Ask her out.

Talk to her about what she is interested in.

Why do you have to convince her your better?

Don't think you have to convince her. Know you are better, and act it. Nothing works better then confidence. If she's not gonna take the chance with you, its her loss.

Ask her out.

i brought up enough courage to ask out

i already did, she doesnt wanna say yes yet because she says its unfair to lead someone on.

so i should just ask her about like hobbies and stuff?

Girls are evil. Stay away at all costs. You will be happier in the end. I am not kidding.

Man, just be yourself. Women aren't dumb. She'll see right through any front you try to put up. Again, just be yourself. Let her decide who's the "better choice".

YellowMaranello, thats not really what i meant. i wasnt going to argue with her over who is better, i was just seeing what i should say to make her want me, without even bringing up her ex

k just got off the phone with her.

Me: hey whats up
Jennifer: oh not much, just got off work, you?
Me: watching a movie at home for now..
Jennifer: oh, you arent going out tonight?
Me: nah, im kinda tired, plus i wanted to talk to u
Jennifer: aww, how nice
Me: So how was work?
Jennifer: it was alright, those long days really drag (she worked like 9 hours, usually she does 5 or so)
Me: yea, you get used to it eventually, it was horrible when i first started doing 8 or more hours each day
Jennifer: yea. we had some really dumb guy come in, he took a clearance sticker off something for $14 and put it on an XBOX and the cashier was like "um, thats not the right price" and the guy said "oh, then i dont want it"
Me: yea ive had people swap clearance tags and put them on dvd players, its funny because they actually expect you to put that as the price, then they're surprised when you dont give it to them for that price
Jennifer: thats so funny!
Me: yea
Jennifer: ugh, i have such a bad headache and i have a fat term paper due next week and i only have like 3 of the 10 pages done
Me: wow that sucks, im sorry
Jennifer: its alright, ill finish it in time, i always do
Me: well thats good, so how is school going aside from the long term paper?
Jennifer: its good, im not going quite full time so it isnt too bad actually
Me: oh thats cool
Jennifer: yea. well im sorry to cut this short but my head is killing me and i really have to work on that term paper, i'd love to stay and talk.. but...
Me: oh, no problem, ill see you at work tomorrow
Jennifer: ok, cool!
Me: k, talk to u later
Jennifer: bye bye

man up and ask her out

Just root the slapper.

Just root the slapper.

LOL!! Oz's solution for all problems women related ;)

LOL!! Oz's solution for all problems women related ;)
Follow my path to enlightenment. I can't see where you'll go wrong. :thumbsup:

I can't see where you'll go wrong. :thumbsup:


I can, you'll end up like you, and spend the rest of your life rooting everyone elses rejects!

:rolleyes:
Damn straight. I come in all shapes and sizes. I don't understand people's objection to 'easy' chicks. It's a win-win situation. Easier for the guys certainly. Had my share of glamours and absolute trolls too. I make no bones about it. Point is - I don't wanna be an old fart like Moppie and think 'what if' while reflecting on my virginity.
:thumbsup:

I don't wanna be an old fart like Moppie and think 'what if'

No "what ifs" here mate, I know what happens if you root an ugly slapper, but when you don't need to, why bother? :smokin:

But then if you have to take what you can get, you get my symbathies Oz. :icon16:

Don't have to take what I can get - I simply approach life with an open mind. Variety is the spice.

Next time you work together just ask if she ants to grab some lunch. Its an easy in. Plus keep in mind the bloke's an ex for a reason so you have the upper hand.

buy her one of those new AF thongs and she'll be all yours.

buy her one of those new AF thongs and she'll be all yours.

Or even on of those new "I love AF" Thongs

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man up and ask her out

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i did foo :D

Cavallino: im not sure who dumped who though, he might have dumped her, and she might want to get back together with him. i dont know. our phone conversation was just starting to break the ice, no real getting to know each other. but i did find out that the guy lives 3 hours away so... this might be easier than i thought.

Kill him with a spork and yell "I claim thee wench" next time you talk to her on the phone. Or not.

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hey seeing i am a girl i would say try to be her friend first, like u are, let her get to know you and trust you. she broke up with her boyfriend for a reason, but i know what is it like to go out with a guy for a while, and then break up and then be like no i need him, but i also found out that there are other guys out there that are better then him. So if i were you i would take it slow, maybe ask her to dinner or something one night and if she is like hmm i dont know be like only as friends if that makes you comfatable. I mean let her get to know you on a personal level and you should be fine she is talkin to you so you are half way there. Best of luck with her :)

thanks. i was at work today and she came up behind me when she came in and said "hey steven whats up?" and did a bigggg smile :Dx10

i got off at 5 (9-5) and she told me to call her at 7 (she worked 11:45-5:30). i called and she didnt pick up, waited 20 mins, called back, no answer. texted her saying "hey jennifer, call me when you get this
-Steve". its 9:18 now and she hasnt called me...

i dont want to keep calling her so when she finds her phone it says "missed 236246 calls"... how do you girls feel when a guy is planning on calling you and you dont hear it ring or something. would you feel like the guys obsessed/psycho or would you feel like he's sweet if it said "missed 3 calls" or something. ive only called twice, three seems like too much...

hmm well for me i wouldnt want a guy to call me like a million times i mean if i dont answer my phone it either means i am doing something really important if u called her twice and left a text sayin for you to call her then if i were you i would wait a lil while maybe call in a few hours or even the next day. When someone calls a bunch of times in a short period of time and it isnt really that important then sometimes you can give off a bad impression like you have nothing better to do. I dont know that what i feel like when a guy keeps calling me. I think you have done enough for right now if u want call her in a few hours or tomorrow and if u see her at work tomorrow be like i called you and no one picked up but in a nice way. Dont be accusing but be nice about it and see what she says then take it from there. Hope this helps :)

ask her out i think it's the better way....

Usually if you do the "friend first" crap than its harder to get a date with her later because now its "weird" and inbetween time some striking young fellow looking like Tom Cruise or something will come along and suprise her with a large wad of cash in exchange for marriage and your Screwed with a capital "S".

matters on the girl. before i start to go out with a guy i need to know him i just wont go out with him like that and i need to know that i can trust him so if she is like then then let her know she can trust you. To me and my boyfriend trust is the number one thing and if we didnt have that we wouldnt have anything. So before i decided to go out with him i made sure i would be able to trust him. But i dont know that is just me some girls are different. But i say let her get to know you on a personal level and let her trust you and then ask her out. But in between sure ask her to dinner and stuff even if you go as friends at least you are with her :wink:

just don't do the psycho calling thing. I was a little drunk one night while i was at air force training in texas. And my girlfriend of 1.5 yrs was pissing me off (she lives in Rochester, ny. I am there now) so I started calling her and she wouldn't pick up. Su I just kept doing it. I guess I called 82 times. I don't recomend that with someone you don't know. :)

Definitely call her. She asked you to, so DO IT! :D

Gotta keep your pimp hand strong.

Yes for sure call her but keep it in moderation. NO girl likes to be contantly buged and there has to be a reason she didnt pick up. Ask her in work tomorrow or something. Deff dont do wut that guy did and call her 82 time now that a lil too excessive. other then that you should be fine ;)