Frustating Girl!!!!

oK HERE IT IS. It might be a long read so sorry if it is. Long story as short as possible. I move to Missouri to try and get my life back on track. Moved to one town knowing in a few weeks I would be relocating again 180 miles south. Well not meaning to I meet this girl. She's one in a million to me anyway and im sure most if they met her might think the same. Well we start hanging out and talking and its a mutual agreement that we like each other the same. For the 3 weeks im there I have the most wonderful time with her. Knowing she felt the same. Time comes that I have to move. The guy I moved out here with had found a house in another town where he had to move to do his residency for med school. It comes in the form of he comes back from house hunting and says pack your shit were moving. This was early sunday afternoon. From what he had said initially it would be another week or so. Find out its the next day. Well she knew already I would be moving so it wasnt a problem. Just the fact it was so soon and on such short notice to her. That was over 2 1/2 months ago. Ive kept steady contact with her and saw her bout 2 weeks after we moved. This was going on 2 months ago. Havent been able to go see her since. Been planning on it then things would come up mostly on my end. Not to big of a deal though cuz she knows I will be able to come see her.

Now to the present. I finally have stabalized. Was gonna travel up to her town last weekend but it was mutually agreed that we should wait. The father of her baby was coming to town to see his child. She hates him with a passion and figures if I as there I probably would have killed him for being an assfuck. Since it wouldnt happen last weekend it was decided no if's an's or buts about it I was going up there tonight after I got off work until wednesday of this week when we were talking about it online and she had stated she was finally gonna be able to go out and go partying tonight. This threw me for a loop. I wasnt expecting to go up there and get all drunk with her tonight. I was expecting to go up there and spend good time with her and figure out some things we have been talking about. Been undecided wheather I would go up knowing she wont be there till at least sometime tomorrow afternoon.

I can understand she hasnt been able to do anything due to her pregnancy and working. Its just like wtf? We had decided on this a week ago and now she changes her mind. Yet she still wants me to come up there tomorrow. Im kinda one of those ppl who when I set plans and follow through or just forget it. I thought about going up anyway and just getting a hotel room for the night and then going to her house tomorrow before I kenw that she wouldnt be out all night. However that isnt what I wanted or her for that matter. Yet she wonders why im so frustrated because I finally dont have to work a weekend and can come see her for 2 full days. Now she wants to settle for 2 days and a night. Even when last weekend after her baby's father left on saturday and I was willing to go up and see her for the same amount of time. She said it would be dumb cuz we wouldnt have that much time together. WTF? Its the same thing now. All she says is well its your choice if you want to come up and see me? WTF WTF WTF? :banghead: Maybe you guys wont understand, but im angrier than fuck when she has the nerve to break these plans on a whim to go out get drunk and act stupid. Then has the nerve to say shes sorry. :banghead:Then when I say well have fun going out, meaning it too, and I will call you tomorrow . Asking when I reply when I get home from work. (I can work as much overtime as I want) She replys well fine then its your choice. :banghead: I had even gone so far as to ask when she would be home tonight. Hopefully saving me some anguish by still going up there tonight and she says I dont know. I ask a time frame giving her 5 hours. Same answer. I say are you staying out all night? she says no. Again I ask when shes gonna be home with the same answer. So its like WTF grrr Maybe I should bite my fucking pride or something. I dunno does anyone have any advice or someone other than the regular friends I talk to that I can talk to? This is really pissing me off to be honest. Ohh well fuck it. Maybe I will just go get smashed . Haha....right....me in a bad very bad mood.. and then getting drunk...Good one there Jonathan.. ohh well I will just wait and see what ppl have to say.

Well I read the whole thing, but I don't know what to tell you dude. If the chick is choosing to go get smashed over spending time with you I would say that she's not worth it. Just my personal opinion though....

dude this should have been posted in stress release but anyways man i wouldn't be with her if she already had a kid.....

I guess I didnt mention this either. 1) She just gave birth, I met her while she was pregant. 2) The child is no issue at all. I have one on the way myself and will do everything in the world for him. 3) She wasnt really choosing to do that over me....she had wanted me to come up tonight still after talkign to her earlier today. 4) I have the most empathy for her because I know how it feels to not be able to get out and do things for a long long time. All of those are consequences of my own actions though. Hers the same. Its just frustrating because of the whole fact that she stood up to me in the fact that was she was going out regardless of wheather or not I came up, and yeah this is the first weekend that she has been able to do anything in the longest time so I feel for her.

:gives: go up there and have some drinks with her, let her un wind she just had a child she could prolly use a few drinks for stress release, don't take shit all personal because she wants too go out and have some drinks. She still wants too see you so go up there do whatever and stop bitchin, it aint that serious man.

She has had ppl come over and shes had beers. I could care less bout that or the fact she wants to get drunk. At first I was offered the chance to go out with her like I said .....but with her friends who I dont know that well....I know she jus thad a child, Other than her mom and a few other ppl.....ive been the only one supporting her. I was the first person she called after she gave birth....lol i dunno why im continuing to pst about it....its still irking me to no end....but tis the way things of life are....I might go up tomorrow after I get off....but now thats completely up to her. By the way the point was clearly made last night that this was now a girls night out.

She has had ppl come over and shes had beers. I could care less bout that or the fact she wants to get drunk. At first I was offered the chance to go out with her like I said .....but with her friends who I dont know that well....I know she jus thad a child, Other than her mom and a few other ppl.....ive been the only one supporting her. I was the first person she called after she gave birth....lol i dunno why im continuing to pst about it....its still irking me to no end....but tis the way things of life are....I might go up tomorrow after I get off....but now thats completely up to her. By the way the point was clearly made last night that this was now a girls night out.

dude, go...you have been talking about seeing her, suck it up and go who cares if its 2 days or whatever atleast you guys will be togather!!

This is very true. Thanks for telling me what I knew all along. Haha im agreeing cuz im not exactly sober...but earlier I did email her. Stating that if she wants ill come up there tomorrow. I hope im making the right choice. Fucking life on its own terms. Ohh well there are some satanists walking by our house celebrating the burning of a church last night and ima go have something to say to them. Hmm.....I need more advice though...should I stick it out when I move home or not? Have fun yall. Night night says the halfway drunk man.

Have you read your own signature? The first sentence says it all... Though I'll add to it my own opinion... How much fun is life if you don't take chances? Go up there, see your girl & have fun! If things don't work out the way you want them to - oh well - at least you can look back on the good times. Not to mention you can experience something, and someone that you can learn something from... Good or bad.

UPDATE!.....I went to work today. No big deal. I drank a shit load of soco last night though. Although still no big deal. Well I called her at about 11 when i got home. Overtime means all I had to do was work for 4 hours. Stayed for 6 but anyway call her she is grumpy. Gee....wonder why.. 2 hours of sleep and a hangover from hell. Well we talk and she has to go. I dont mention to her that I might come up today. Well I left at about 12 and got there sometime around 3:30. Get there she looks at mike like wtf are you doing here. Then all she says is what are you doing? I said looking for this girl .... gets ehr to laugh. Go inside I see chloe for the first time shes absolutewly bueatiful. Well pretty much, I was there for an hour, never felt more out of place or unwelcome anywhere in all my life. She puts the baby down to sleep and she won t sleep YADA yada yada, pretty much, I left without saying a word goodbye when she fell asleep in her chair with the baby on her chest. I think she woke up when i peeled out in the parking lot makinhg my self look like an ass. Ohh well. I dont care anymore. Thanks for the advice about going up there though. I never would have found out how much she DIDNT care. Still hurts like unholy hell though... I will be drinking again tonight but not to calm anger.... to Combat depression. Have fun yall

I wish I would have read this yesterday. I could have told you she wasnt interested. If I was that girl and actually wanted you to come see me, you would have known. By her saying things like "I dont know" and "its your choice" to me, it was pretty obvious that she didnt want you to come see her.

She has bigger issues right now and I'm sure she doesnt want a long distance relationship to be one of them. This girl needs to grow up, she sounds extremly immature and selfish especially going out all night drinking right after having a kid.

It was probably a good idea that you did go and see her though, otherwise you would have not known exactly how she really felt about you.

oh and btw, drinking only makes depression worse.

This girl needs to grow up, she sounds extremly immature and selfish especially going out all night drinking right after having a kid. IT will be 3 weeks sunday since she has given birth. Immature isnt what best describes it. I think more like confused about what to do with some things in her life. Just like me. Its harder to understand than I thought it would be. it was pretty obvious that she didnt want you to come see her. I left her house at 5. I think when she realized that I wasnt coming back she called ... the message on the phone and the time on the caller Id indicated she actually called bout 20 minutes after I had left. oHh well no more fucking whining bout shit. Someone told me though that its no wonder shit in my life is always fucked up, I always look at the bad side of things. Yet you learn from experience. THings are easier looking at the bad side because looking at the good side and hoping it happens, if it doenst, hurts that much worse. Its getting hard to type coherently., PEace. ohh i edited this and i can baerley see waht i tiped for hte edit but im twszted as all munkey bals i love liz to death and drinking soco makes me beter

Dude, you just need to sober up, call her, and ask her straight up what her opinion on your relationship is.

dude, sounds like you need to lay off the alcohol for a bit, and sit back and re-evaluate yourself.

roflmao its beyond that. still dru nker thean fuck.... and goint to tdrink more its more like i need to fucking gfte bals up and ask her hy the fuck she is thes way. I dont have balpls. I hide from everyhint.g.... its the only thing that keeps me alive.

dude , you seriously need to get your life in order ...

Well im pretty sober now. We had a long talk on msn today. Shocked is about all there is to say. At least I will walk away now and be ok with this whole ordeal. Priorites have for the most part been put in order, and ive set some good goals and im pretty sure I know what is needed to be done. Hell im glad this happened when it did. Ida never changed how i thought. Thanks guys for listening to my petty shit and telling me what i needed to do. Just needed to hear it from some other ppl that I dont really know. Thanks again a million.

Jonathan

Tis all good. I didnt help, but my two cents is the fact that: "Girls respond to 4x2" ;)
WHACK!!!!!!! RESPECTOR!!!!!!!!!

lol. Now Emily is gonna spank me to death.