Concerned and worried!!!!! (long post)

I have never started a thread in here before, guess I never really felt the need for some stress relief but that is changing by the day.

Earlier this year myself and my Fiance (Niamh) finally got to move into our first home. The moment we saw the place we knew we wanted to live there. So everything is great we start to decorate get settled in and get used to commuting too Dublin every day, its about an 80 km round trip. We really start to get settled and happy living together and decide that we never want to move and make this our family home. I go back to work after taking a couple of weeks off to find out the company is up shits creek without a paddle. No real great surprise there I knew something big was going to happen but thought it was going to be a buy out. So the months passed on and I get more and more aggitated by the lack of any progress about news on my job. Finally 3 weeks ago I find out I am being made redundant. Thankfully a bit of relief, the weight had lifted of my shoulders knowing I wasnt going to have to come into this shit hole anymore and get a nice big cheque for it as well.

So the last few weeks have been really slow, took last week as holidays and it was great but now being back for my last week the realisation that I have to find a new job is starting to set in. I am starting to get very anxious about. I really didnt think this feeling would be so bad. Now to put even more pressure on we think Niamh might be pregnant. Now that in itself is no big deal. Actually to be honest I would be really chuffed if she was. My worry is that not having a job could force me into taking any old crap just to pay the bills. No offence to anyone but I dont want my kid (if im going to have one soon) think their dad is some burger flipping or pint pulling loser. I have spent the last eight years including college getting to where I am now in my career and trust me it isnt that far, I dont want to throw it away.

Sorry its such a long post (it could have been longer), if anyone has got this far without going to sleep thank you for listening too me whining. Im not looking for any replies in particular its just good to know that I have somewhere to vent my frustration, especially on one of my bad days.

Ciaran

Don't be ashamed of any job. My dad is a former lawyer but when we first came to NZ he was flipping burgers at McD's for about 18 months. You do what you have to do to get by. Good luck.

Thanks Toksin, like I said I dont mean any disrespect to anybody with what I said. You hit the nail on the head by what you said I look back at what my dad went through, having 3 kids and losing his job and he has done a lot of different jobs since and I still have a lot of respect for him, especially the way he pulled through with all his problems.

Ciaran

It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a great woman at your side. You’ll come out of this just fine. :smile: There is always going to be some anxiety setting in when you’re forced into a situation you have been in before.



btw - I do not understand what "I would be really chuffed if she was" means. Is chuffed a good thing or a bad thing? I take it that its a good thing (in which case - Congratulations)

btw - I do not understand what "I would be really chuffed if she was" means. Is chuffed a good thing or a bad thing? I take it that its a good thing (in which case - Congratulations)

chuffed is good :iceslolan

I am sure everything will work out for you Ciaran.

LOL sorry yes "Chuffed" means happy....to put it another way I would be a very proud dad and feel extremely lucky. We both have a sister each who either cant have kids or has to face up to the reality that they most likely wont. Niamh has another sister who is going in for an op tomorrow which could mean she wont be able to have anymore and we also have a friend that cant have any. So we know 4 people that cant and I would hate to think that in 5 years when we planned to have a family we found out something happened that we couldnt.

And Yogs I have to correct you I havent got a great woman by my side I have a bloody fantastic one and one that I feel very very very lucky to have. Thanks for the congrats and support but I hope the congrats isnt premature.

Ciaran

Sorry for the people who dont beleive in god...but

Honestly, in my opinion, everything happens for a reason. And most of the times, its for the better. I think that whatever happens, god does for a reason. Hell you might get a bigger and better job, and maybe thats just gods way of telling you to look out for a good job.

Anyways goodluck with your life, and i wish you the best :smile:

well thank you to everyone that replied and for the support and kind words.

A quick update, well I am not going to become a dad in the near future (so im not chuffed), to be honest we talked about it and are kinda glad it would be the wrong time for it.

Still no job, but a friend of mine just left, he started working for the main telecommunications company in ireland as a sales person on the road, he told me that they are still hiring that he would pass on my CV. Might come to something. Not great pay but loads of bebfit like a company car, lunch allowances, phone bill allowance and loads more.....might be interesting to try something new.

Anyway thats me for now, thank u again for all the kind words it means a lot. B talking to u all around the forums.

Ciaran