ANOTHER girls thread.

Ok, Amy, lovely girl, gorgeous, smart, fun, succesful, caring WHEN SHE WANTS TO BE. I dunno. I am supposed to be moving to live with her in about 2 + 1/2 years, but lately she's been, well, not so good. She takes "weeks off" from me, and wont tell me why. Its not due to any arguments etc, she just stops talking to me completely, and if I ask why she gets angry. Is it fair of me to feel I should move on despite everything else and how close we are? We've spoken about these "weeks off" and she doesnt care, she feels Im a prick for daring to want to know WHY she does it. I feel its too much of a breech of my faith in her.


Stupid thing is, I know Im only 23, but damn, I have two other equally wonderful girls after me, and to be honest, I'd like to sort this shit out. Either stick by Amy, and see if its better in 3 years, which in my mind would be kinda dumb, let Hayley come out on another holiday, and do as she said, see how we go, then if its cool, she'll move in in 6 months after that or so. My parents adore her, or, the other, is to get Katie down. Who my parents are cool with and her family adores me.

I dont even know if anybody will reply, but its nice to air some of my thoughts. BLEAH. Im just not a one night stand guy, and have spent a long time getting to know these girls as friends first.

Easy fix....Hate to say it but those weeks off...she's spending them with someone else. Dont worry its normal for women to cheat, its in there genetic make up. But you did say you have two women after you right? Go out with both of them then you three could all be happy, and just forget about your current one.

I guess I was cligning to the past too much with Amy. Bleah. You're right though, I really shouldn't be with her. I am tossing up between:

Hayley,(right) the blonde, who is sweet as, works hard, cares, isn't overly skilled work or sports wise but is a pretty decent girl and has the most realistic chance of being able to move.

And Katie,(left) my brunette soccer star, studying biology and who is very clingy in a good way, and basically makes me laugh for hours when we talk.

Sorry I can't offer more help Gav, but send the one you don't want my way :thumbsup:. I'd be more than happy to take care of business for you. :iceslolan

Sorry I can't offer more help Gav, but send the one you don't want my way :thumbsup:. I'd be more than happy to take care of business for you. :iceslolan

Man, you're a real pal! ;) He he!

You need to get a PI onto her. It could be something good for you, or intensly personal to her. Or get one of your mates to surveill her. Its not hard on an untrained target like her. Not hard to learn if you look at the right sites either ;)

You need to get a PI onto her. It could be something good for you, or intensly personal to her. Or get one of your mates to surveill her. Its not hard on an untrained target like her. Not hard to learn if you look at the right sites either ;)

Uh, no. Lets just say her family would OWN anybody who wanted to surveil them. They're the ones who are in control in that regard.

Ahhh, shes from one of thosefamilies.

That would make it a bit more difficult then.

First of all, let me suggest that you not live with ANY of these girls before you're sure it's the right thing for both of you. People get married without ever having lived together, and while that may be a little old fashioned in this day, moving in is still a pretty big step...

Second, this Amy girl doesn't take your relationship nearly as seriously as you do. Trying to find out for yourself what is happening on these weeks off might not be a bad idea, but I'd bet the bank that there's another guy, and she's either too scared to tell you or she's trying to string you along in case things don't work out with him. If she won't come clean, I'd let her go. Or at least immediately forget about any expectations you may have of her for a few years down the road.

I think you're too young to be worried about finding and keeping a really serious girlfriend. Which of the other two you might choose is completely up to you, but remember to keep it all in perspective. Not only in terms of what a relationship means in the context of your life, but in hers as well. If you have someone you love and are happy with, hold on tight. But if not, don't try to convince yourself or anyone else that something exists which really does not...

As we really don't know a lot about the situation, I'm making a lot of assumptions here. So interpret as you see fit...

She takes "vacations" you should take "vacations" too. If she asks what you've been doing on your "vacation" tell her to stop being such a vagina-hole and mind her own business.

Easy fix....Hate to say it but those weeks off...she's spending them with someone else. Dont worry its normal for women to cheat, its in there genetic make up. But you did say you have two women after you right? Go out with both of them then you three could all be happy, and just forget about your current one.
I mostly agree with this guy. Not the part about cheating being in a woman's genetic make-up, BUT, spending weeks apart from you, and her responding with hostility when you inquire about them, are both bad signs to me, both of which suggest that she is cheating on you, IMO. It would be a rare circumstance where I would suggest sticking it out in a relationship that is going downhill. Jump ship, and try to get something going with one of your other possibilities.

IMO, I'd go with the laughter. All the relationships I've seen that last the best are the ones where couples can laugh with and at each other. I've been married once, lived with her for a year before marriage. That time was just too much like acting, two people trying to please each other. I now have friends who I can laugh with and no one gets offended. Don't think I'll be taking that big step again though, too chicken, why spoil a good thing...

As far as going off on her own, why would she not want to tell you, if she truly loves you? :shakehead I used to go out with a really great woman, we had a really great time, but she broke it off about a year later, but at least she was honest about it.

Got a msg from her, apparently she's taken a turn for the worse, she is ill, and thats half the prob, dont wanna leave due to that, but also cant stay just because she is at the same time. Bleah.

Got a msg from her, apparently she's taken a turn for the worse, she is ill, and thats half the prob, dont wanna leave due to that, but also cant stay just because she is at the same time. Bleah.


Sounds like a opportune be it inappropriate time to ask, although you might be able to find out more just hanging around at this point in time. I'd brace myself if i where you for anything bad that might happen. Half expecting it makes it a little easier.

Sorry to hear Amy is playing those stupid games with you. As hard as its going to be, you're going to have to go your seperate ways. Don't do the friends thing right off either. Give that a few months and maybe you guys can still be friends at some level, but you're going to cause friction with whomever you go out with next if you keep a close relationship with a recent ex.

Know that nearly every guy has been there (or will be) and most of us come out better for it.

I mostly agree with this guy. Not the part about cheating being in a woman's genetic make-up, BUT, spending weeks apart from you, and her responding with hostility when you inquire about them, are both bad signs to me, both of which suggest that she is cheating on you, IMO. It would be a rare circumstance where I would suggest sticking it out in a relationship that is going downhill. Jump ship, and try to get something going with one of your other possibilities.

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Thanx Its not often I get something right. I still stick to what I said before.

Go for the brunette!! She's cute! :biggrin:

My vote is for the one you can talk to for hours and laugh with. Lets face reality for a second here. When you do get married (if you do) 50 years down the road you will probably not be very interested in the way your wife looks anymore (Saggy boobs and all) but you will probably still be happy because you guys can laugh at eachother and have a good time. Otherwise if you just choose the hot one then you will lose interest in why you married her in no more than 10-15 years.

Otherwise if you just choose the hot one then you will lose interest in why you married her in no more than 10-15 years.

That's why you marry somebody who's 10 years younger than you :icon16:

that sux man i've had the 'time off' bit before.. sometimes it's nothing but sometimes it's everything..
and at the risk of sounding rude, if your not gonna choose katie can i have her ??? :sly:

Ha ha, how does "Like fuck!" sound? Lol. ;)