stereo harness

HELP! ok with a few past experences ive decided that reguardless its allways better to just buy a new wiring harness whenever installing a new stereo so i did. ok i got my harness(female end) ok so harness in hand and stereo present i yank out my center console and take it inside to do the wiring. ok so stereo mounted and harness wired up to the stereo head wires heading back out to the car to wire it all up and discover the male end is not present. i never though to check it before now for some reason. and the problem is that none of the wires in the dash color match the wires on the harness/head wires. all help apreciated.

What car :confused:

its for my impreza. the 1997